Dec 16, 2019 01:40PM vidal1993 wrote:
I took a quick scan of this and found it very helpful.
My 43 year old wife was diagnosed with Stage 2 invasive breast cancer in June 2019. After further investigations, she was simultaneously diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer!
She underwent a lumpectomy in September, and thyroidectomy. 2/2 lymph nodes in her breast were removed, along with others in her neck. She is doing chemotherapy now, with 4 more infusions to go before more surgery (full axillary dissection), radiation, etc.
I could go on forever, but the best advice I could give to other husbands/partners/boyfriends is to just let your wife vent. She is going to be very upset and sensitive about the changes in her appearance, weight gain, loss of hair, and it is best to just try to listen rather than put on your "fix-it" hat. And of course, help as much as you can around the house. Don't ask--just do it, whether it is play with the kids, put them to bed.
Also, get out with your friends as much as reasonably possible. If you don't, you will wear your worry on your sleeve, and you don't want to do that especially if you have young children (as we do--daughters 5 and 7).