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Topic: Website for Spouses of BC Patients

Forum: Caring for Someone with Breast cancer —

A place to share your struggles and concerns about supporting and caring for a person you love diagnosed with breast cancer with others who understand.

Posted on: Dec 12, 2019 11:14AM

nem126 wrote:

Hi All!

I was treated for BC a few years ago at the ripe old age of 32. My husband and I were only married for 6 months when I was diagnosed. Suffice it to say, it was rough.

Just wanted to put this out there. My husband created a website with resources for spouses of breast cancer patients. It's all the stuff he wishes he had a heads up when we were going through treatment.. what to expect, coping, etc. The site is Please feel free to check it out or send it to someone you think might benefit.


Diagnosed at 32. Life is weird! Dx 12/6/2016, ILC/IDC, Left, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left, Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 3/1/2017 Whole-breast: Breast, Chest wall Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Dec 16, 2019 01:40PM vidal1993 wrote:

I took a quick scan of this and found it very helpful.

My 43 year old wife was diagnosed with Stage 2 invasive breast cancer in June 2019. After further investigations, she was simultaneously diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer!

She underwent a lumpectomy in September, and thyroidectomy. 2/2 lymph nodes in her breast were removed, along with others in her neck. She is doing chemotherapy now, with 4 more infusions to go before more surgery (full axillary dissection), radiation, etc.

I could go on forever, but the best advice I could give to other husbands/partners/boyfriends is to just let your wife vent. She is going to be very upset and sensitive about the changes in her appearance, weight gain, loss of hair, and it is best to just try to listen rather than put on your "fix-it" hat. And of course, help as much as you can around the house. Don't ask--just do it, whether it is play with the kids, put them to bed.

Also, get out with your friends as much as reasonably possible. If you don't, you will wear your worry on your sleeve, and you don't want to do that especially if you have young children (as we do--daughters 5 and 7).

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