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Posted on: Jul 6, 2017 01:38PM - edited Oct 28, 2019 05:42AM by Micmel

Micmel wrote:

As I go through this forced path I have been thrown down, I have come to realize the love I have always had for my husband was strong. He is amazing and I love him with my very soul and entire heart. Never would I ever imagine the thought of dying and him being alone. Then the worst part hit me!! I can't seem to shake the horrible sorrow of thinking of another woman taking my place in his life and his heart, and if I Am honest his bed. He is my best friend and the love of my life, I would never need another for any reason. He makes my life complete, and then this happens. How do I process that I most likely won't be the one growing old on the porch that we have talked about, how do I process, someone else sitting in that chair? I hate this trajectory path I've been spun onto, and everyday I feel grief and deep sorrow. How do I live everyday knowing in the back of my mind, I feel like a place holder, for another woman who will be stepping into my life when I die of this horrible disease, more sooner than later. Why would I even want to take any medicines or treatments, when the answer is pretty obviously in front of my face.? Why do we fight so hard for something we cannot control ? Why do we hurt so badly thinking about letting go, or giving up? It's a four letter word that holds so much power. That word is LOVE..... If you have ever felt this way. Share with me, because I understand, I feel this way everyday. I also don't know what to do with the sadness of loss or how to process the process of dying. However slow or fast it may be. Please share your love stories with me, how did you meet? How long together? I want to know your stories, everyone has their person. Everyone loves.....tell me about your family, your friends, your life too, as if this was your living room. ♥️

We are team FU cancer (Named by Parry, our sweet sister) and this is our Lol pub and living room. Welcome, put your feet up and just be you!

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jan 11, 2021 07:15PM runor wrote:

Moth! You can wear a dress that you got into 30 years ago?!?!  We can never be friends. 

Dx 3/23/2017, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 7/4/2017 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Jan 12, 2021 12:49AM KBL wrote:

Thank you, Tanya and SeeQ. I appreciate it.

Dx 5/1/2019, ILC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 6/24/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 6/24/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Jan 12, 2021 01:49AM booboo1 wrote:

Thanks SeeQ. I have an MO appointment today. She’ll pick the next drug. I’m hoping to get more info. on what’s happening in the liver.


Laurie (aka Booboo) Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
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Jan 12, 2021 01:52AM booboo1 wrote:

Tanya,

You amaze me with what you do for your grandkids. That is pure love. I know they will remember these things forever.

Hoping we can get together again sometime in 2021.


Laurie (aka Booboo) Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
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Jan 12, 2021 03:07AM candy-678 wrote:

Morning all. 8am here.

I posted yesterday (14 hours ago) but then shut down the computer, turned on the TV (Frazier-- show from the 90's), and then went to bed early. Of course, I had a toss/turn night with the pain, so not much rest.

moth- You go girl with the lab appointment time. Cancer should give us some "perks" sometime. The bread sounds awesome!!!! Would love to have some right now. My mom baked the best bread when I was growing up. I did not learn to cook.

Karen- Pocket duty as you find out about the swelling.

Boo- Pocket duty for you for your appt and what your MO has to say. Check in later. I will be looking for your post.

Not much here today. Frosty morning. Temp says 19 degrees. To warm to 40 today.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Also using Xgeva injections for bone mets Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Chemotherapy AC Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left
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Jan 12, 2021 04:47AM Micmel wrote:

Sitting at my Palliative care doc. These people are so nice and good at what they do. I’m so thankful to have this group that works with me. I had a talk about my stress and anxiety. And we tweaked my medicine. I’m hoping that helps. I’m armed with Valium now ladies. Look out. My spelling may suffer. Lol
Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jan 12, 2021 04:54AM moth wrote:

Mel, you're gonna be Mellow Mel with the valium! Good job. Glad they're helping you.

I'm getting ready to go to the private clinic for my immunotherapy.

Initial dx at 50. Seriously???? “Sometimes the future changes quickly and completely and we’re left with only the choice of what to do next." blog: nevertellmetheodds2017.tumblr.... Dx 12/2017, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/5 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 12/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Chemotherapy 2/14/2018 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 8/13/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Dx 2/2020, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/lungs, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 3/18/2020 Taxol (paclitaxel) Immunotherapy 3/19/2020 Tecentriq (atezolizumab) Chemotherapy 11/26/2020 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Dx 12/10/2020, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- (IHC) Radiation Therapy 12/10/2020 External Hormonal Therapy 12/16/2020 Femara (letrozole)
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Jan 12, 2021 05:22AM mara51506 wrote:

Hoping the Valium will help your sleeping for the most part as healing that part of your life is a huge portion of the way our minds deal with stress and anxiety. You've been dealing with insomnia so long, your poor body is burnt out. Best of luck.

Just going to walk for today, nothing any more exciting than that.

2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
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Jan 12, 2021 07:20AM candy-678 wrote:

Mel- I hope you find some relief.

I like my Palliative Care team too. I have only had 2 appointments with them so far, and both were virtual. But I am glad I have them in my corner. I am my own worst enemy. I told them pain was my QOL issue. They wanted me to try muscle relaxers (I got the script filled, but have not took a dose yet). Then they suggested Cymbalta for the pain issues. I am thinking NO. So I know that I have to be willing to do what they suggest. That is my problem. I think of the potential side effects, that I don't want to be a zombie. I think "another pill". So, I don't know.



Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Also using Xgeva injections for bone mets Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Chemotherapy AC Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left
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Jan 12, 2021 08:04AM cowgal wrote:

Micmel - I am hopeful that your medicine tweak will work for you.

Candy - Maybe you give the drugs a chance and see if the side effects are worth the trade off and perhaps if you do experience them that the side affects will lessen over time. I take a muscle relaxer but only when I feel I need it. I also have to take gabapentin. Both meds are for my back issues.

Mae - This is a little bit back on the thread now but I think you should tell your parents what you would like of theirs. It will make them feel better and honestly, we do not know when our time is up or when others time is up either. We lost a dear friend in a 4 wheeler accident last Memorial Day weekend. His widow was talking to my husband a few months ago and commented that in our little social group when they found out about my diagnosis in September 2019 that we all thought I was the one to who had the earliest expiration date and here we were a year later and her husband was gone and I was still here.

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Jan 12, 2021 08:19AM candy-678 wrote:

Cowgal- My PCP recommended gabapentin a while ago. I just do not know. Gabapentin, Cymbalta, so many side effects of everything. Seizures, suicide ideations, have to stop slowly, hallucinations. Is it worth it? I just want something I would take as needed at night to make the pain go away so I can sleep. Not drugged, seeing spiders all day. Some have said when they took Cymbalta they had no emotions-- could not cry. I do not want that. I want to feel, to be me. I just want the pain to be less. Sigh... I will continue Tylenol. It lessens the pain, some and sometimes.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Also using Xgeva injections for bone mets Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Chemotherapy AC Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left
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Jan 12, 2021 08:47AM moth wrote:

candy, fwiw, gabapentin for me has had no side effects. Tylenol meanwhile is really toxic to our livers - but we usually can't see it except on blood work after many months/years of use. I try to avoid Tylenol whenever possible now.

So it's hard to choose things. I think many of us can take many medicines without noticeable, life altering side effects. And other meds might be causing side effects that we can't see.

What muscle relaxant were you prescribed? The muscle relaxant methocarbamol is over the counter in Canada. I've been taking it for years whenever I strain my neck or lower back. Never had any issues with it at the dose I take. I took it (it comes combined with either advil or tylenol here) after the last round of chemo as I had a lot of musculoskeletal pain.

So anyway...I'd encourage you to be open to trying some of the things your doctors prescribed and see how you do. No personal exp with Cymbalta. It does sound more heavy duty so I personally think it makes sense to try the gabapentin and muscle relaxants first.


I'm home from treatment. The private clinic for my Tecentriq is small and my 30 min infusion takes 1.5 hours with the prep and set up and everything. I wish it wasn't so crowded - the treatment chairs are closer than I'd like.



Initial dx at 50. Seriously???? “Sometimes the future changes quickly and completely and we’re left with only the choice of what to do next." blog: nevertellmetheodds2017.tumblr.... Dx 12/2017, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/5 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 12/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Chemotherapy 2/14/2018 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 8/13/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Dx 2/2020, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/lungs, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 3/18/2020 Taxol (paclitaxel) Immunotherapy 3/19/2020 Tecentriq (atezolizumab) Chemotherapy 11/26/2020 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Dx 12/10/2020, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- (IHC) Radiation Therapy 12/10/2020 External Hormonal Therapy 12/16/2020 Femara (letrozole)
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Jan 12, 2021 08:53AM cowgal wrote:

Candy - I completely understand. I wish I did not have to take any meds. I absolutely hate opiods because of the horrible side effects. I think the gabapentin kind of tired me out when I first started on it. I still work full time and afternoons were pretty tough. Now, I think I am pretty much back to my normal tiredness from taking all these anti-cancer drugs. Baclofen is the muscle relaxer that I take only as needed and it is 5 mg. I also take Tylenol and put some lidocaine on my back at night if I am hurting pretty bad. The heating pad is my buddy in the evening when I can sit in the recliner. I hope you can find some relief that will work for you.

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Jan 12, 2021 09:12AM candy-678 wrote:

Moth and cowgal- The relaxer prescribed is Zanaflex (Tizanidine). Small dose--2mg--at night only. Due to the liver toxicity, I take the Tylenol sparingly. My liver blood tests are ok, but I have the liver mets. And, of course, side effects of so many things is constipation. Which I fight all the time anyway. I tried Lidocaine patches. No help whatsoever.

Moth- Glad you are home. Relax the rest of the day. I am so Covid fearful anymore I would be very uncomfortable with the chairs close together.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Also using Xgeva injections for bone mets Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Chemotherapy AC Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left
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Jan 12, 2021 10:36AM booboo1 wrote:

Mel,

So proud of you for making that appt. and getting there. I hope this is the ticket to a better everything.


Laurie (aka Booboo) Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
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Jan 12, 2021 10:43AM booboo1 wrote:

Talked to my MO. She is hard to read, so I couldn’t tell if what she read on the report was a big deal or not. She is putting me back on Abraxane, which I tolerated pretty well. There goes the hair again. Oh well. She isn’t even sure if what they saw in the liver was a liver met. She said the next scan will tell us. She doesn’t do biopsies unless there is a reason to. She said if it is a met, we’ll be treating it anyway. So back on Abraxane.

Laurie (aka Booboo) Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
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Jan 12, 2021 10:51AM illimae wrote:

Cowgal, I appreciate the suggestion and would agree except for one big problem in my relationship with my parents, which is that I don’t like them as people. Unfortunately, they are self centered, materialistic passive aggressive narcissists who seem to enjoy dominating and belittling others, family included. After my diagnosis years ago, I decided that I owe them nothing, especially as I essentially raised myself. Their feeling are irrelevant. They actually said “the wrong kid got cancer” (referring to my older brother, who hasn’t done much with his life), I mean, who says things like that?!

Anyway, enough of my rant. Hope is didn’t bring the room down, lol

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/20/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/17/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Jan 12, 2021 11:13AM cowgal wrote:

Mae - I am so sorry. Both of my parents are gone and I miss them both dearly. I can definitely see why you would feel the way you do in your situation.

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Jan 12, 2021 11:47AM candy-678 wrote:

Boo- Well the devil you know... right? Hoping this time around the med will be kind to you, and slow the cancer down. Wish they could do a biopsy though.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Also using Xgeva injections for bone mets Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Chemotherapy AC Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left
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Jan 12, 2021 12:11PM - edited Jan 12, 2021 12:12PM by KBL

Mae, I don't think I will ever understand parents like yours. I'm so sorry. My mother-in-law was an okay person (she passed from lung cancer), but she said that she should have stopped having children after my sister-in-law was born. She had two children after, one of them being my husband, who never once caused an ounce of trouble. What the hell? That's just wrong. Luckily, my husband has thick skin, to the point he doesn't care what anyone thinks.


Mel, I’m glad you saw palliative care. I hope the Valium helps. I so want you to have some peace. Hugs.

Dx 5/1/2019, ILC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 6/24/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 6/24/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Jan 12, 2021 12:28PM illimae wrote:

Thanks ladies. It’s really ok now though. As a child, it was sometimes sad, as a teen it was disappointing and as an adult before cancer, there was a feeling of being expected to be nice to protect their feelings but after cancer my outlook changed and my priority is myself and the family I picked. I am not responsible for anyone’s happiness, none of us are. We certainly don’t need the added pressure.

Speaking of happiness, I’m making French bread pizza tonight and I’m not even slightly concerned about the calories, that is pure joy, lol

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/20/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/17/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Jan 12, 2021 01:36PM Micmel wrote:

I had nine abraxane. You’re a tough woman BooBoo. May it kick cancer to the curb. And down into the sewer.

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jan 12, 2021 01:43PM Micmel wrote:

Mae~ you know my Step Monster and dad estrangement so I Understand very much. You just become hard and start to forget it. At least I did until four months before he died. Then I was needed. That's when i mattered to her. He and I resolved everything and I am happy that I got the time with him and being the one that most times was the sole person that took care of him. Although he was in a home for hospice. I picked him up myself and put him into the chair to go outside for his smoke. He wanted me to do it. No one else. I made his drinks . He said I should have been a nurse. We would laugh at that. That's the. Last thing I could do. I was doing those things because he was my father. Only. I wouldn't do that for anyone. I washed all his clothing and showed up when I had the best excuse out of everyone. My cancer. But I pushed myself and took care of hiM. I loved him and he loved me. Sometimes when you're gone from each other so long. It stops mattering as much each year that goes by

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jan 12, 2021 04:39PM mara51506 wrote:

That is an interesting perspective on being gone from family for so long. I have not seen my younger brother for two years and not really interacted except when I called him and his wife out here, long boring story not worth going through. I often wonder if he would have mellowed toward me but not really interested in taking the chance as the lack of toxicity in the family is good. I did notice we both posted on the same post in Facebook. We did not interact with each other nor are we friends on facebook. I unblocked him so I will be able to make sure he is alive, but that is it.


2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
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Jan 12, 2021 06:46PM SeeQ wrote:

Mel, I'm glad your palliative care team had some ideas for you. As Mara said, even if it can just help you sleep at night, that should make you feel so much better.

Booboo, I think that would drive me crazy if my MO was not transparent in his thought process. I hope the Abraxane solves the maybe-it's-a-liver-met issue.

Mae, It's good that you have your chosen family - sometimes we relate to them better than blood relatives. I'm on good terms with my family, but we're really spread out (both in years and miles), so having chosen family helps fill the gaps in personal connections.

Speaking of family, I get to see my boy sometime in the next several days. I haven't seen him since Christmas 2019, since was deployed most of last year. I got my dx a few weeks before he left, and couldn't see him because of COVID issues - which really stressed me out. He's going to swing by for a super quick visit while moving to a new duty station. I'm so excited!

Waving hi to everybody else!

De Novo Stage IV; numerous mets in liver; single small breast tumor identified 4 weeks later Dx 6/2/2020, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Hormonal Therapy 7/2/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Targeted Therapy 7/9/2020 Verzenio
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Jan 13, 2021 01:46AM booboo1 wrote:

SeeQ,

That is SO awesome that you get to see your DS. I hope you have a wonderful time, even if it’s a short visit.

Mae, when I grow up, I want to be you. I have always been drawn to woman who say what they mean, and do what they say. You know how to set boundaries, and that’s one skill many woman lack. We just weren’t taught to. Rock on!


Laurie (aka Booboo) Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
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Jan 13, 2021 05:17AM GoldensRBest wrote:

Mel - really hope the rx brings some relief. Being sleep deprived causes even more problems.

Mae - I, too, wish I could have your sharp wit and tongue. I always think of a good reply well after it was needed

Dx 6/1990, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, 1/20 nodes, ER+/PR+ Dx 7/1999, IDC, Right, <1cm Dx 7/26/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Hormonal Therapy 9/1/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 9/25/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Chemotherapy CMF Surgery Mastectomy Surgery Lumpectomy; Lymph node removal Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Jan 13, 2021 07:46AM illimae wrote:

thanks booboo and goldens.

But may we never really grow up and keep that kids sense of adventure and awe :)

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/20/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/17/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Jan 13, 2021 12:37PM Karenfizedbo15 wrote:

Too right Mae!
We can’t pick our relatives...I too have some issues there and also have some who are good people. We can choose our friends though and I’ve lost some and found some through this process. I think our lives are a bit more ‘concentrated’ than most and some find that hard to deal with. There’s also a bit of responsibility on my part, not to make my friends feel as if it’s a chore to deal with me, so I’m as normal as possible most of the time. But if they ask how I am, I tell them in basic terms and then we move on because I need their normality too!

Surgery 9/6/2007 Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Latissimus dorsi flap Dx 4/2018, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, 1/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 13, 2021 12:56PM - edited Jan 13, 2021 12:58PM by illimae

Karen, I totally agree.

BTW, Brain MRI tomorrow, results on Friday, I expect nothing crazy but will gladly take good vibes :)

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/20/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/17/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)

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