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Feb 3, 2019 04:17PM
50sgirl
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Mel, It is good that you moved your dad to a better facility. He will adjust to it with time. Now that he is being taken care of, you need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself so you don't become ill. It is not your responsibility to be all things to or be all things for your father. Do what you can do without a problem, and know that even the little things are a gift for him. You have received sage advice about what to do if your father says mean things. Remove yourself from the situation and don't take any of the toxic words to heart. I have found that people who are very ill and facing death sometimes say hurtful things. That doesn't mean that they truly feel nasty thoughts (although in some sort cases they do.) I think they are scared, tired, angry, sad, under the influence of medication, and feel helpless and/or hopeless at times. They lash out at people because they have no other outlet. Who are the people they lash out at? The people closest to them, the people who love them, the people they love most. Why? Who knows. Maybe it is because they feel that the people who love them will forgive them. The monster-in-law? Try to ignore her rants and shenanigans. She has a problem, and you owe her nothing. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I will try to post more later, but for now, as a change of pace, here are a couple of pictures from Disneyworld. My DH and I had breakfast with Mickey and his friends the other day. As a side note, I have seen lots of Patriots shirts here this week.)
Hugs and prayers from, Lynne.


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