Join Us

We are 225,830 members in 83 forums discussing 164,225 topics.

Help with Abbreviations

Topic: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer

Forum: Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer, Open to All To Contribute —

Topics here are started by members with a Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer diagnosis, but open to all members to contribute to discussions. Please note that there is a separate forum, Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer ONLY, where topics are open only to those members.

Posted on: Jul 6, 2017 08:38PM - edited Oct 28, 2019 12:42PM by Micmel

Micmel wrote:

As I go through this forced path I have been thrown down, I have come to realize the love I have always had for my husband was strong. He is amazing and I love him with my very soul and entire heart. Never would I ever imagine the thought of dying and him being alone. Then the worst part hit me!! I can't seem to shake the horrible sorrow of thinking of another woman taking my place in his life and his heart, and if I Am honest his bed. He is my best friend and the love of my life, I would never need another for any reason. He makes my life complete, and then this happens. How do I process that I most likely won't be the one growing old on the porch that we have talked about, how do I process, someone else sitting in that chair? I hate this trajectory path I've been spun onto, and everyday I feel grief and deep sorrow. How do I live everyday knowing in the back of my mind, I feel like a place holder, for another woman who will be stepping into my life when I die of this horrible disease, more sooner than later. Why would I even want to take any medicines or treatments, when the answer is pretty obviously in front of my face.? Why do we fight so hard for something we cannot control ? Why do we hurt so badly thinking about letting go, or giving up? It's a four letter word that holds so much power. That word is LOVE..... If you have ever felt this way. Share with me, because I understand, I feel this way everyday. I also don't know what to do with the sadness of loss or how to process the process of dying. However slow or fast it may be. Please share your love stories with me, how did you meet? How long together? I want to know your stories, everyone has their person. Everyone loves.....tell me about your family, your friends, your life too, as if this was your living room. ♥️

We are team FU cancer (Named by Parry, our sweet sister) and this is our Lol pub and living room. Welcome, put your feet up and just be you!

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
Log in to post a reply

Page 802 of 840 (25,186 results)

Posts 24031 - 24060 (25,186 total)

Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 06:49AM Tanya_Djamila wrote:

Congrats on your results SeeQ and Katy blu

Mae The donkeys are adorable. Baby animals always look so cute fluffy. Did you do all the cooking? You're amazing.

Moth I'm glad you could get treatment today. Sucks about the liver news.

Mel I guess you'll be getting a nice treat manicure.

Kittykat will you shave your head by yourself? I'm sorry you're losing your hair. Hopefully the medication is doing it's job without too many SE's other than the hair.

Booboo I hope you enjoyed Thanksgiving. Will you be able to see your sister in TX soon?

livingIVlife I hope you got full of turkey and stuffing. I do love eating it but could pass on the clean up.

Golden that was a beautiful picture you shared with your goldens!

Elderberry I hope you enjoyed the day.

Rosie it was nice to see you stop in.

We have a family dinner once every couple of weeks so since my daughter had to work yesterday and I just was on SE's from zometa infusion; we'll cook and eat today. I'm so glad it turned out that way I got in the bed at 5 yesterday, so nice to wake up and not feel all the added stuff.

Anyone going out for black Friday deals today?

Tanya



Tanya Dx 8/19/2003, ILC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, metastasized to bone/other, 28/28 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Dx 4/19/2017, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, 0/0 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Hormonal Therapy 6/20/2017 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 08:14AM booboo1 wrote:

Hi Tanya, I’m doing much better now that I’m not on any treatment. I was able to eat some turkey and the trimmings yesterday, so I feel good about that. Man, these drugs sure do take their time leaving my system. But I’m content knowing I am covered going forward with a great palliative care and hospice team. My sister from TX is coming to see me next Wed., Dec. 1st. She is really talented at decorating, and she is going to decorate our Christmas tree. I can’t wait.

Mel, I know exactly what you mean. Seems we are all fighting the urge to just give up and die. I have been asked by several of my sisters to please reject the feeling of sitting on my chair and wasting away—but instead to try to live life for as long as I have left. Some days I get caught up in chores and other things and actually forget I’m sick. I prefer those days. I am trying hard to live instead of waiting to die. I hope you will choose to do the same, my friend.

Kitty, who needs hair? I have been bald for most of the last 5 years, and I finally embraced it. I just wish I could figure out what to do with the curls when it grows back!

Mae, love seeing the different animals…SeeQ and Katyblu, I’m adding my congrats to you both

Love to all…

Laurie (aka Booboo) #metastaticbreastcancer Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/15/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 08:24AM GoldensRBest wrote:

Tanya - who needs to go out for deals??? Shopping online is the way to go! Many thanks to the wonderful delivery services.

Dx 6/1990, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, 1/20 nodes, ER+/PR+ Dx 7/1999, IDC, Right, <1cm Dx 7/26/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Hormonal Therapy 9/1/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 9/25/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Chemotherapy CMF Surgery Mastectomy Surgery Lumpectomy; Lymph node removal Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 08:59AM mara51506 wrote:

Laurie and Mel, thanks for the pep talks about the ongoing property manager saga. Obviously they knew the last guy went over like a lead balloon so the gave a person we would know from previous fire alarm inspections. Not sure how the neighbours feel about this latest tactic but will focus on myself. Nothing has changed for me. Leaving the worry about that in the background.

It has snowed a bit here, may throw some cleats on and take a shorter walk or two. There won't be any sand or salt so it will be extra slippery, supposed to get some snow throughout the weekend, might as well practice walking.

Kitty, I have had permanent male pattern baldness and thin spots since the whole brain radiation. Except when I get lazy and don't trim it, does not bother me, always in wigs outside or if expecting someone, quite a different between my uncle Fester look and a full head of hair, usually the light and medium blonde with brown rooted pixie. Just bought another yesterday for the black friday sale. Had a lot of survey money to use. I also had fettucine alfredo and caesar salad from a delivery site from a restaurant I had never ordered from yesterday. It was delicious though I have a fair bit of the pasta in the fridge. My digestive allowed me to have it without any digestive issues which plagued me before.

2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 09:39AM illimae wrote:

Tanya, DH and I split the cooking and we each have things we prefer to make our way, lol. Our friends did the clean up and brought some food/meals for the others days we’re all up here. It works well and no one has too much to do. We will enjoy the weekend and head back on Monday.

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Targeted Therapy 1/1/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/19/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/16/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 11:14AM Kittykat9876 wrote:

I'm actually not really that concerned about going bald, especially as it's coming up to summer down here. I love Mae and Golden's pics. I didn't really get into the Black Friday thing, something is only a bargain if you need it and I pretty much have everything I need. Apart from being fatigued so far I'm doing OK, I just hope it's working. Mel, I hope you're getting some relief from your sore mouth. Go enjoy having your nails done, I have mine done and get infills and a new sparkly colour every 3 weeks. I hope that you all have a great weekend up, I'm having Finn tomorrow so his mum can go to the movies.She's going to see the new Venom movie because she's a huge Tom Hardy fan. I'm just glad I feel well enough for him to come for a visit after being so sick and not able to have him over for so long. Here he is having cake and chocolate milk with Gracie after school. Take care everyone.

Surgery 5/23/2013 Lumpectomy Dx 10/31/2017, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs/other, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes Chemotherapy 1/28/2021 Navelbine (vinorelbine) Hormonal Therapy Targeted Therapy Afinitor (everolimus) Radiation Therapy External: Bone
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 12:02PM illimae wrote:

booboo, I’m happy you’re feeling good. It’s so weird, I remember last year when I had to stop treatment for a month due to a low EF on an echocardiogram, I felt amazing! I’m pretty high functioning on chemo but didn’t realize it’s full effects until I was off a while. Makes me wonder sometimes, if I really need to live on all these meds but I’m too chicken to go against MO’s maintenance plan.

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Targeted Therapy 1/1/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/19/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/16/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 12:13PM LivingIVlife wrote:

Kittykat- the picture is adorable. I forget you are heading into summer down under. My cousin lives in Perth and would come for a holiday to Canada in the winter. Their kids loved playing in the snow and snowmobiling.

Mel- yes yes go get your nails done!

Mara- the meal sounds delicious. I do hope your spirits are lifted a bit.

I do most of my shopping online. Trying to keep a tab on what I've got and what is still on its way. My DH just says another one!

Deb Dx 5/1/2019, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, 4/11 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Targeted Therapy 6/30/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 12:35PM Kittykat9876 wrote:

Living,, I live in Perth as well, in Rockingham, it really is a small world.

Surgery 5/23/2013 Lumpectomy Dx 10/31/2017, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs/other, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes Chemotherapy 1/28/2021 Navelbine (vinorelbine) Hormonal Therapy Targeted Therapy Afinitor (everolimus) Radiation Therapy External: Bone
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 02:04PM mara51506 wrote:

Kitty, I am not overly into black Friday either though I did score a really good deal on a wig between the sale itself and the honey extension on chrome. That took it down almost 40 dollars. I did have extra survey money in paypal so used that and then got some cash back on my survey site as well. Feels good. That will give me two on the go that are new and I can retire the one or just use it as a house wig.

I have darned several pairs of socks, walking so much, I really go through them but don't want to constantly replace them. I also use whatever colour of thread I feel like to use that all up as well. I also have a silicone hand brace that helps when the carpal tunnel is a bother but it started pulling apart in places. Sewed it up too even though I have newer ones. It's funny how I am super cheap in some ways and quite willing to spend in others. Oh well.

2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 02:30PM Elderberry wrote:

KittyKat: I guess you ditch some of those jolly "Jingle Bell" Christmas songs. No snow for your horses and sled to dash through. You're spared "White Christmas" too. Lucky you! I would find it so incredibly weird to have the Summer Solstice in December. Those kids are darling!

De Novo - this isn't a "brave battle" - it is a "furious struggle" Dx 3/6/2019, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, HER2+ Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy Taxol (paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 04:20PM - edited Nov 26, 2021 04:21PM by booboo1

Mae, yes, I have wondered the same. I know a woman (good friend of my sister) who was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. She had just watched her father pass from colon cancer even after given all of the latest drugs. She watched him suffer some of the same side effects we suffer from. She decided not to have any treatment…no chemo, no radiation, nothing. Guess what? I saw her the last time I was in PA. She is in her early 70s and is in good health. Makes you wonder…


Laurie (aka Booboo) #metastaticbreastcancer Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/15/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 05:30PM LivingIVlife wrote:

Kittykat- it is a small world. Looked up where they live. They are in Mundijong which sounds like the outback. When he calls at Christmas they are having a barbecue and swimming in the pool. He misses Canada but plays hockey in Australia which he loves to do.

Mara- when I had chemo way back I got a wig which my daughter helped to pick out. My Bil told me it looked better than my own hair. I hated that wig.! Now you can be whatever color you want. Blonde one day,red the next go for it!

Deb Dx 5/1/2019, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, 4/11 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Targeted Therapy 6/30/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 07:32PM Kittykat9876 wrote:

I'm not a big fan of being cold so I've never yearned for the whole white Xmas thing, but jingle jolly is still a big thing down here along with the xmas house displays, people spend thousands pretending they're having a northern Xmas. Living, Mundijong is about 20 mins fom where I live and 5 mins from my daughter, lots of small acreage properties in that area, it's like living in the bush but close to the big cities, one of my bingo ladies lives down there. I have a blonde wig and 2 more on the way. I'll probably get Beck to help me shave my head when she comes to pick Finn up, I am already fed up with hair all over everything.

Surgery 5/23/2013 Lumpectomy Dx 10/31/2017, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs/other, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes Chemotherapy 1/28/2021 Navelbine (vinorelbine) Hormonal Therapy Targeted Therapy Afinitor (everolimus) Radiation Therapy External: Bone
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 08:20PM LivingIVlife wrote:

Kittykat- wow it is a small world! My daughter shaved my head for me because I couldn't stand the chunks of hair coming out either. Alot of the time I wore wraps around my head which I was more comfortable in. At night I had to wear soft warm ones because I'd get cold and my head hurt. Enjoy your time with Finn!

Deb Dx 5/1/2019, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, 4/11 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Targeted Therapy 6/30/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 26, 2021 10:26PM mara51506 wrote:

It's funny, although I don't have the sensitive head of my systemic chemo days, I will say, I still put a couple of thin headscarves on my head at night. Just like the feeling of them. Have to wash every couple of days in a mesh bag to keep them fresh.

2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 12:08AM Micmel wrote:

I also preferred head caps for sleeping, my head got cold. My wig was too much. I hated it. Too hot and itchy. I just bobbled around in my little cotton caps. I was very insecure. I felt like mannish. I'm very vain. I know it. I realize my body has become like a domino , one thing feels better the next thing feels crappy. My mouth, my stomach has been bothering me, lung has been acting up. Coughing. People have colds all Around me though But I realize slowly but surely things will start to tinker out. I literally feel like someone cemented my feet to my chair. It truly. Feels like that when I get up. Like swimming through a vat of honey. I no longer have any vibrancy left. My candle is slowly burning out with a shortening wick. I know I feel it inside of myself. An exhaustive way that just gets worse. I pride myself on being strong. I dont feel too strong anymore. I feel tired of fighting. And then what if there is progression? More fighting. More medicine changes? I'm not sure I'm going to sign up for that. I have such little cancer as of last scan. But seeing how fast beautiful Philly went scares me. The whole thing is scary.

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 12:58AM mara51506 wrote:

Mel, I am sorry you are feeling like crap. I empathize about when one thing feels better, another starts causing a problem. I had a few weeks where I just felt awful, the going through honey feeling etc. I do hope some of your issues settle down for you and you can rest and everything as well.

I must also say with all the drama in my life currently, fighting the depression that comes over at times is tough, good and bad days. I have always felt from the start that I was only willing to do the first line of treatments, that has not changed for me. If Herceptin fails me, I am not willing to move on to more as I do not wish to put up with the side effects. Especially since family wants to leave the city for another place when possible. If I will be mostly alone, see no need to take on side effects and be so sick. I've known how I felt about treatments from the start. That's not the case now, but would be later, family already knows my wishes. Respect to all the others of us BC and other cancers who are willing to try different treatments for a long time. Everyone has to do what they need to do for themselves for sure.

2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 01:01AM Kikomoon wrote:

I hope everyone had a good week, nice Thanksgivings. SeeQ and Katyblu, good to hear about your scans! Mel, I too am scared but at the same time, really just trying to enjoy the hell out of every little thing. Why couldn’t I do that before the diagnosis? I don’t know.

Dx 10/16/2020, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain/bone/liver/lungs, Grade 2, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Chemotherapy Taxol (paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 01:14AM mara51506 wrote:

Kikomoon, I think for some of us, the dx points out how short life really is and forces us to enjoy certain things in life more. One thing that most of us have that is different than some years ago, even on this site, is a chance at a longer life with better meds and some better qol too. We all know this is not guaranteed and try to find joy in simple things. Regular life could be taken for granted.

2015 chemos AC plus T Herceptin august 12 2016 craniotomy for brain met Sept 23 whole brain radiation November 2016 Herceptin, Perjeta and Taxol. Dec 2016, Dropped the Taxol due to extreme side effects, continuing Herceptin and Perjeta. Dx 3/15/2015, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 4/22/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right Dx 5/15/2015, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/29/2016, IBC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2+
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 02:02AM SondraF wrote:

Karenfizedbo - how are you doing up there and are you in the Red Alert area? Its windy and rainy down here but nothing worse than your normal strong Atlantic winter storm.

"The closer we come to the negative, to death, the more we blossom" - Montgomery Clift Dx 9/27/2019, IDC, Right, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy 11/29/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 11/29/2019 Femara (letrozole) Surgery Prophylactic ovary removal
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 07:46AM booboo1 wrote:

Mel,

You have an amazing way with words…I can also relate to the honey analogy. I try to fight the urge to give up every day, and many days the disease wins. Anyway, I hope you’ll continue to write what you feel. Love you, girl.


Laurie (aka Booboo) #metastaticbreastcancer Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/15/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 09:26AM - edited Nov 27, 2021 09:27AM by illimae

Kikomoon, I tried to get the most out of every moment now too. I didn't before because I was always working, my regular hours plus 2-3 Saturday's each month to keep up, I worked for TXDOT and have lived in emergency mode since hurricane Ike. Cancer forced me to hit the breaks, which turned out to be a good thing (work wise). Now, I'm all about good times, adventure, low stress and delicious food, what a life!

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Targeted Therapy 1/1/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/19/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/16/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 12:33PM candy-678 wrote:

Mae- Your last post really made me think. I too used to work a full time, stressful job. Now I do not. I want to have "good times, adventure, low stress, and delicious food". I just cannot figure out how to do that. This Covid pandemic, along with the cancer, has really side lined me. Yes, I have been triple vaccinated and wear masks. I do what I can. And the rest is out of my control. But doing the things I want seems out of reach now. I was thinking about what I did in the past-- going on trips (day bus trips to the theater or sightseeing), or going to a friends house for a Christmas Party, or going shopping-- those seem not possible now. I am immunocompromised due to the meds (though not as low numbers as I had with Ibrance), and I am still undergoing treatment for cancer. I cannot see myself feeling comfortable in someones' house that may or may not be vaccinated, or going out shopping with the stores full of unmasked people. I talked to a friend on the phone today about her going in a local home store yesterday to shop and there was a sign on the stores' door to wear a mask, but no one had one on but her. Our area is mainly anti-vaccers and anti-maskers. I also have to take things slower than I used to and have rest periods. I don't have the stamina I used to.

I want to enjoy what life I have left, but I have trouble seeing that in this post Pandemic world we are in now. I try to enjoy my movies, books, and foods in my safe home, but it is not the same. I am mostly by myself.

I feel cheated out of the life I want.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Xgeva use for bone mets. Liver bx Apr 2021 shows ER- now. Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/11/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 8/1/2017 AC Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy 11/1/2017 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 11/1/2017 Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Dx 4/2021, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, ER-/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 9/4/2021 Zoladex (goserelin) Targeted Therapy 9/4/2021 Lynparza
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 01:01PM candy-678 wrote:

Thinking about all this too due to the Thanksgiving Holiday and being alone. Also, my texting buddy is off on another adventure for him. He and a couple friends went across State lines to Indiana to a tractor pull today. Not my kind of trip, but just wishing I could do things too. The drive, the adventure, the crowds, the friends, the foods. And he doesn't give it a second thought about Covid. Wants to go and just goes. He has the health, the stamina. I just miss that carefree attitude.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Xgeva use for bone mets. Liver bx Apr 2021 shows ER- now. Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/11/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 8/1/2017 AC Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy 11/1/2017 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 11/1/2017 Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Dx 4/2021, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, ER-/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 9/4/2021 Zoladex (goserelin) Targeted Therapy 9/4/2021 Lynparza
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 01:46PM Elderberry wrote:

To all: I was in the Book Lovers Thread and mentioned the "All I Really Need To I Know Learned in Kindergarten" but apart from the "list" was his own musings. I liked this one

"Every person passing through this life will unknowingly leave something and take something away. Most of this "something" cannot be seen or heard or numbered or scientifically detected or counted. It's what we leave in the minds of other people and what they leave in ours. Memory. The census doesn't count it. Nothing counts without it."
Robert Fulghum, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten

A new variant from S. Africa. Can we not catch a break and see this thing as endemic and not have Covid inflict such a crushing affect on us?

Our stores have "Masks Mandatory" and restaurants demand proof but I am still nervous. I want to go to a music concert. A movie. JUST OUT and unmasked. Our time is being stolen from us ---

De Novo - this isn't a "brave battle" - it is a "furious struggle" Dx 3/6/2019, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, HER2+ Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy Taxol (paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 02:02PM illimae wrote:

Candy, I wish you felt more secure going out and were able to enjoy things you once did. I have no secret to my ability to find balance but to achieve it, I do the following.

1. I stay updated on the positivity rate for where I live or travel. For example, Houston is currently at 4.6% and 40 new cases out of 100,000 or 10 out of 25k. 25k is a lot of people and I’m only likely to encounter 40 or so at the grocery, with my mask on and keeping my distance, the risk is extremely low.

2. DH and I travel in state by car or RV and choose places like beaches, state parks, our secluded cabin, locations we can enjoy without crowds.

3. We mostly ignore the media hype and fear tactics, opting instead to live our lives as normal as possible and as low risk as possible at the same time.

I realize it’s getting cold but perhaps some outdoor activities are possible for you to enjoy safety, maybe even treating yourself to a tasty lunch on the patio of a local cafe or a special take out/movie at home night as an occasional event?

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Targeted Therapy 1/1/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/19/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/16/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine)
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 03:06PM candy-678 wrote:

Mae- I too wish I could be calmer about the risks. I looked up the stats for my County. One site says we are at 4.6% positivity rate, another site said 5.4%. 18% ICU bed availability. 46.8% vaccinated. I am in a small town and we do not have outdoor/patio dining. Just drive-thru fast food or a couple of nice restaurants with indoor dining, or take-out offered. I could order take-out and watch a movie and eat a good meal in my home. But, yet again, alone. Not too much fun. It is what it is.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Xgeva use for bone mets. Liver bx Apr 2021 shows ER- now. Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/11/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 8/1/2017 AC Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy 11/1/2017 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 11/1/2017 Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Dx 4/2021, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, ER-/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 9/4/2021 Zoladex (goserelin) Targeted Therapy 9/4/2021 Lynparza
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 07:02PM ShetlandPony wrote:

Candy, I wonder if there is a way you could find just one other person who is single, vaccinated, and careful who could be your buddy. Just one person who also wants to do stuff in a safe way. Someone who would be up for going to visit a new park, or drive around looking at Christmas lights, or shop at an outdoor plant nursery. I know someone who found three friends to do stuff with through a meetup site when they moved to a new town. I have never investigated it myself. Or just make a list of everyone you know even slightly and see if any candidates emerge.

2011 Stage I ITCs sn, premenopausal, Oncotype 16. 2014 Stage IV mets breast,liver. TaxolNEAD. Ibrance+letrozole 2yrs. Fas+afinitor nope. XelodaNEAD 2yrs. Eribulin,Doxil nope. SUMMIT FaslodexHerceptinNeratinib for Her2mut NEAD 1 1/2yrs. GI/perit mets Dx 2011, ILC, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 2014, ILC, 2cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/other, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast Surgery Lumpectomy
Log in to post a reply

Nov 27, 2021 07:10PM candy-678 wrote:

ShetlandPony- I appreciate your advise. My texting buddy is single, but as you can see from my posts, he is not fearful/cautious about Covid and does what he wants. He also works full time so he only has his weekends free. I have 2 church lady friends that are widowed (and retired), but they too are not too cautious--- 1 told me her cousins came from Indiana to her house here in Illinois and then they all went to Southern Illinois to eat in a Lodge in a State Park (nice restaurant). All my other friends/family are married and have lives of their own. My social circle is pretty small anymore.

How are YOU doing? I read on other Threads you are having a time of it right now. Thank you for posting to me when you have so much going on yourself.

Found mets on CT for unrelated issue. I only had 2 treatments with IV chemo for the Stage II, then found Stage 4 and switched to hormone therapy/targeted therapy. I consider myself de novo. Xgeva use for bone mets. Liver bx Apr 2021 shows ER- now. Dx 6/2017, ILC/IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/11/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 8/1/2017 AC Dx 9/2017, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy 11/1/2017 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 11/1/2017 Femara (letrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Dx 4/2021, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, ER-/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 9/4/2021 Zoladex (goserelin) Targeted Therapy 9/4/2021 Lynparza

Page 802 of 840 (25,186 results)