Nov 30, 2021 09:06AM runor wrote:
Dutch Iris - do not feel guilty about anything. At a time when your own health situation is subject to change without notice, it does not allow you to be the person that everyone can rely upon to help them out of their tight spots. You have your own tight spot! Loving your Grandbaby does not change your situation and I know you must feel an incredible burden that you are not able to commit to more. You are doing a lot as it is!
Mae - it is difficult in life to learn that the people you love can really only help themselves. That often what people do for others in the guise of 'helping' or 'caring' actually is crippling and enabling and excusing and mollycoddling. It is possible to help someone who is making strides to help them-self. But when the loved one has stopped, no one else can be the engine that drives their life changes and choices. I had to be beaten over the head before I learned this lesson in my own life. Sounds like your family is embroiled in the gong show of drama that is the result of not separating who is responsible for whom. I am sorry for the misery.
I have been up since early this morning making, or attempting to make, pot gummies. I was given a recipe which involves a lot of gelatin and soft ball stage sugar and water. It makes a gummy that is basically like bullet proof jello, and I hate that texture. So I have been experimenting with coming up with my own special blend of ingredients to make a more pleasant to consume gummy. So far they have all failed. I have thrown more ingredients in the garbage than you can shake a stick at. I've been at this for days. My kitchen is a wall to wall gooey mess. By the time Hub gets home for dinner I am a weeping heap as I wail, "Why is this so hard to do?" Since I do NOT consume edibles, those are for much braver souls than I, I don't know why I'm going at this so intensely. Because it bugs me that I can't crack the code, that's why. I think I need to bone up on my science and chemistry.
Best day to everyone.