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Posted on: Aug 25, 2020 11:24AM

NicoleRod wrote:

So I am posting this here so my friends that are not stage 4 can post. And anyone else who wanders in 🙂

So...my only child...my son is getting married now Oct 3rd. I need some opinions about something.

So when my son was about 5 years old my mom came over one day and said you need to hear this song its your song to your son...one day you will dance at his wedding with him to this song. I heard it and loved it and I will dance with him soon at his wedding to it. But in the beginning of the song it says "dad"..... My son and some family told me it doesn't matter that no one will notice....we are gonna ask the dj to try and fade it out but if he cant...we may have to leave it i wondered if you all could listen to the song and let me know if its ok to leave it as is like my close family and few friends said.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SA4efJCI7t0

Dx 12/14 Stage 0, Grade 3, ER+/PR, HER2- (FISH),Dx 04/19, Stage IV mets to bone/liver, Hormonal Therapy 04/19 - 10/19 Ibrance/let/faslodex 10/19 **TNBC AUG 2021 Dec 2019-May 2020 Xeloda Failed May-July 2020 - Doxil Failed Dx 12/19/2014, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 2/5/2019, IDC, Right, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- Dx 3/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 4/29/2019 Surgery Chemotherapy Doxil (doxorubicin) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy Surgery Mastectomy: Left, Right
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Aug 25, 2020 11:38AM moth wrote:

I think leave it alone. A fade will be more obvious. I think it will be lovely just as it is.

I take weekends off

Initial dx at 50. Seriously?? “Sometimes the future changes quickly and completely and we’re left with only the choice of what to do next." blog: Never Tell Me the Odds

Dx 12/2017, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/5 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 12/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Chemotherapy 2/14/2018 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 8/13/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Dx 2/2020, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/lungs, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 3/18/2020 Taxol (paclitaxel) Immunotherapy 3/19/2020 Tecentriq (atezolizumab) Chemotherapy 11/26/2020 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Dx 12/9/2020, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- (IHC) Radiation Therapy 12/9/2020 External Hormonal Therapy 12/16/2020 Femara (letrozole) Dx 1/28/2021, IDC, Left, Stage IV, metastasized to bone Radiation Therapy 3/3/2021 External: Bone
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Aug 25, 2020 11:45AM - edited Aug 25, 2020 11:00PM by MountainMia

It's lovely and the word "Dad" does not matter here. It's the relationship between a parent and child and their faith. That is beautiful. The only thing that matters is that the two of you are comfortable with it.

My son and I danced 2 years ago to What A Wonderful World, by Louis Armstrong.

His bride and her dad danced to a Merle Haggard song that was weirdly inappropriate. (And I say that as a big Merle Haggard fan!)

The rain comes and the rain goes, but the mountain remains. I am the mountain.
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Aug 25, 2020 12:09PM MelissaDallas wrote:

I think it is fine as is and lovely.

I wanted this played at my wedding, but I’m Episcopalian and they didn’t allow secular music in church. (Guess the rules don’t apply if you’re Prince Harry:) Devoted to you by the Everly Brothers

https://youtu.be/LboNYB_oKTY


LCIS, extensive sclerosing adenosis, TAH/BSO & partial omentectomy for mucinous borderline ovarian tumor. Dx 5/20/2012, LCIS, Stage 0, 0/0 nodes
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Aug 25, 2020 01:22PM HopeandGratitude wrote:

it’s a beautiful song. Don’t change it

Dx 3/1/2002, ILC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, 0/14 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy 3/27/2002 CEF Chemotherapy 6/4/2002 AT Surgery 8/28/2002 Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Free TRAM flap, Nipple reconstruction, Nipple tattoo Radiation Therapy 10/15/2002 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Hormonal Therapy 1/4/2003 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Dx 1/12/2018, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 2/14/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left Chemotherapy 4/3/2018 CMF Chemotherapy 8/5/2018 Taxol (paclitaxel) Radiation Therapy 10/9/2018 External: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Dx 3/13/2019, IDC, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 3/13/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 3/24/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Targeted Therapy 10/24/2019 Verzenio Dx 3/18/2020, IDC, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 3/20/2020 Aromasin (exemestane) Hormonal Therapy 4/6/2020 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
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Aug 25, 2020 02:42PM RhosgobelRabbit wrote:

You can't go wrong with Frank Sinatra, I think its wonderful as is, I think everyone will automatically substitute "mom" for "dad" in their minds. I did listening to it. :)

Mets @ Rads planning. Mets to Pelvis, Femurs, Shoulders, Ribs, T. Spine, L. Spine, Sternum, Sacrum/SI Joints. MyRisk neg. KEAP1 "Courage of the heart is very rare, there's a power when its there" 37yrs old @ IV DX. lifeandirises.home.blog/ Dx 7/30/2018, IDC, Right, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 9/26/2018 AC + T (Taxol) Hormonal Therapy 9/26/2018 Zoladex (goserelin) Dx 4/19/2019, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 5/16 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 4/19/2019 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right Hormonal Therapy 5/13/2019 Zoladex (goserelin) Dx 5/17/2019, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 10/1/2019 Prophylactic ovary removal Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy Aromasin (exemestane)
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Aug 25, 2020 03:47PM NicoleRod wrote:

thank you so much ladies 😘

Dx 12/14 Stage 0, Grade 3, ER+/PR, HER2- (FISH),Dx 04/19, Stage IV mets to bone/liver, Hormonal Therapy 04/19 - 10/19 Ibrance/let/faslodex 10/19 **TNBC AUG 2021 Dec 2019-May 2020 Xeloda Failed May-July 2020 - Doxil Failed Dx 12/19/2014, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 2/5/2019, IDC, Right, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- Dx 3/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 4/29/2019 Surgery Chemotherapy Doxil (doxorubicin) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy Surgery Mastectomy: Left, Right
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Aug 25, 2020 05:01PM Grannax2 wrote:

There won't be a dry eye in the room. It's beautiful. All the guests will be thinking of you and your son. 💒💞

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Aug 25, 2020 05:52PM Beesie wrote:

Nicole, what a perfect song for the occasion! I'm with the others... don't worry about the one word. People will either not notice, or since they will be seeing you dancing with your son, in their minds they will think "Mom".


Congratulations on your son's wedding! 🍾

Dx 9/15/2005 Right, 7cm+, DCIS-Mi, Stage IA, Gr 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR- ** Dx 01/16/2019 Left, 8mm, IDC, Stage IA, Gr 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) ** Surgery 11/30/2005 MX Right, 03/06/2019 MX Left ** Hormonal Therapy 05/2019 Letrozole
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Aug 25, 2020 07:15PM NicoleRod wrote:

thanks Grannax!

Thanks Beesie miss you !!!!!

Dx 12/14 Stage 0, Grade 3, ER+/PR, HER2- (FISH),Dx 04/19, Stage IV mets to bone/liver, Hormonal Therapy 04/19 - 10/19 Ibrance/let/faslodex 10/19 **TNBC AUG 2021 Dec 2019-May 2020 Xeloda Failed May-July 2020 - Doxil Failed Dx 12/19/2014, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 2/5/2019, IDC, Right, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- Dx 3/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 3, ER+/PR-, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 4/29/2019 Surgery Chemotherapy Doxil (doxorubicin) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy Surgery Mastectomy: Left, Right
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Aug 25, 2020 10:14PM exbrnxgrl wrote:

I was fairly close to initial dx and tx when my younger dd got married. It felt like the most special miracle to be there. The song is lovely and the wedding will be too. Wishing the families lots of mazel.

Bilateral mx 9/7/11 with one step ns reconstruction. As of 11/21/11, 2cm met to upper left femur Dx 7/8/2011, IDC, Left, 4cm, Grade 1, 1/15 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 9/7/2011 Lymph node removal: Left; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 11/2011, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, Grade 1, 1/15 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 11/21/2011 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 11/21/2011 Bone Hormonal Therapy 6/19/2014 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy Aromasin (exemestane)
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Aug 26, 2020 10:01AM booboo1 wrote:

Dear exbrnxgrl,

Hello. I was on the “Alternative treatment” thread, and Trish suggested that you might be able to help me with where to get CBD oil. I get so many email solicitations to buy it, but I am reluctant to buy on the internet. May I ask where you get yours from? I would greatly appreciate your knowledge in this area. I have no idea what to buy either....seems there are many CBD options. I want to stop chemo treatments for bone mets andtry to find an alternative way to treat my metastatic breast cancer.

Thank you for any input you can provide.

Laurie

Laurie (aka Booboo) #metastaticbreastcancer Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast
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Aug 26, 2020 10:08AM booboo1 wrote:

Nicole,

Please forgive me for posting here. I was trying to find Exbrnxgrl.

Anyway congrats on the marriage of your son. Hoping you post some pictures!


Laurie (aka Booboo) #metastaticbreastcancer Dx 3/1/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 5/14/2013 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 1/2017, DCIS, Left, 1cm, Stage 0, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3DCRT: Breast

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