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Aug 28, 2021 03:18AM
Aug 28, 2021 03:24AM
It's tough that we have to think so hard about things we used to take for granted. Every time there is an invitation or event or desire to go somewhere, I try to evaluate the level of risk. I do not look at this as living my life in fear, but living smart. For me it goes something like this: Safer=Outdoors rather than indoors, Other people masked or known to be vaccinated rather than unvaccinated or unknown, Spaced rather than crowded.
I have felt comfortable visiting botanic gardens where there are masked and unmasked people, because it is outdoors, not super-crowded, and I am vaccinated and masked, even if everyone there is not. I have felt comfortable visiting and eating in homes with a small circle of vaccinated family and friends. I have plans to go camping with another family that is vaccinated. I will even go to a dance class when it starts up because everyone will mask and it is only for an hour, and it will feed my soul. I shop for groceries in the morning before so many covid aerosols have had a chance to collect in the space.
On the other hand, I don't shop for fun because it seems an unnecessary risk, being indoors with so many people. I can't go back to yoga class because half the people there do not want to mask or state their vaccination status. I am not comfortable eating at restaurants, even outdoors, because I would need to be unmasked to eat, and too close to unmasked people who may not be vaccinated, who are eating, laughing, maybe talking loudly -- which is riskier than talking quietly because more likely to spew greater distances.
I take into account my own situation. I am not greatly immune-compromised, but I can't afford to get sick and have to pause my treatment. I figure the vaccine would probably keep me out of the hospital, but on the other hand, my body is sort of worn out from treatment. My current dilemma is whether I can attend an outdoor concert. Outdoors with a breeze forecast is good, but crowded is not. I would double mask. (So far I have not found an N95 that fits.) It would be really special to go with the person who invited me, but I am nervous. Thoughts, anyone?
Kikomoon, is there another way to socialize that would feel more comfortable? Like eating outdoors with these folks at home instead of at a restaurant, or visiting with them but not for a meal, so everyone could wear their mask?
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