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Mar 26, 2012 05:32PM
I'm so sorry for my long silence, life has just been a bit busy and I hadn't realised how quickly time had passed. I had my 20 week scan recently (I'm now 22 weeks) and everything is absolutely fine. We're expecting a little boy and I can feel him moving. It's just wonderful. I feel so lucky! Apparently that feeling doesn't go away....ever! I really hope that all of you are trying to conceive have the same luck.
Rachel, thanks so much for the advice on tamoxifen and sorry not to respond for ages. I went for my annual check up with my oncologist and saw a really lovely lady Doctor. She was just so pleased for me about the pregnancy that it was lovely. I spoke to her about going back on the tamoxifen and she felt that I could leave it a few weeks or months so I feel quite happy about it now. I'll have the experience of breast feeding but satisfy my desire to reduce my risk. Menopause and a young baby strikes me as a pretty nasty combination!
Sunshinegal, how are you getting on, is all going well?
Hi Vicky, sorry that you've gone through the IVF/cancer mill, but congratulations on coming out the other side and on your two little ones. Good luck with your decision on tamoxifen, it's such a personal thing.
NitNat, I didn't have side effects like the ones you describe, but one thing that IVF and breast cancer has taught me is that everyone responds differently to medicines and coming off them! I hope it gets better soon. Personally I felt that three months was too soon to start trying to conceive, I'd only had one period when I started trying IVF and I'm sure my body was still adjusting. If you feel you need to wait, then do. It's probably the right thing for you. I can't help on the trying naturally front as we knew we had to have IVF from the start. Zita West is an authority in the UK on things to try to conceive.
Hi Reeney, everyone has a different desire to take risks. The truth is there is so little data on women in our situation that you just have to go with your heart. I spent ages weighing up the options, reviewing the evidence and agonising. I made my decision. So far it's going well, but I do still worry from time to time. I stopped after a year and a half. I wouldn't have done if I was in my early 30s, but I was 39 and if I wanted NHS funding for fertility treatment 39 is the cut off point. Good luck with your decision, you will make it when you are ready.
Hi Claire, My heart really goes out to you. What a terrible decision to have had to make. I cannot imagine the heart ache of going through an abortion whilst dealing with cancer. I was treated at Addenbrookes and they were really great. They have only just started allowing women to have tamoxifen holidays to try and conceive, so they are not massively experienced (who is?!), but I found them to be responsive and sensitive. My oncologist has repeatedly assured me that women who have had breast cancer and go on to have children do not have a higher rate of recurrence. It is difficult, though, when your family is being protective. My husband was getting to the point where he felt we should stop the IVF on my second try. I was keen to try again. Luckily we didn't have to have that particular fight!
You're right, the data is not certain. I was on Zoladex for a year to be on the safe side, it was awful and it turns out now that the evidence that it reduces recurrence risk is now considered weak. Marvellous, a year of permanent PMT and no libido, just what I needed! Best of luck with your decision. I hope your chat with your oncologist went well and that you find your way to a solution that works for you.
Extra long post to catch up - sorry about that Ladies.
Lots of love to you all
3/9/2009, IDC, 6cm+, Stage II, Grade 2, 1/14 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+