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Jul 27, 2019 04:50PM
I told my husband the day I found out, then waited until the day my daughter flew home from college overseas (having to tell is the only thing about all this that still brings me to tears).
I waited well over a month to tell my family and my husband's family. I wanted all my ducks in a row as far as chemo, schedule, surgery options, etc. We told our parents and then let the news flow (although I did tell my brother before my mom with, "I have cancer and I'm going to be telling mom, so I need your help.")
This was all followed promptly by "here's our CaringBridge site". Do not call, do not visit, here's a list of the things we need. Yes, asshole move, but this was about me, and I didn't want to have to take care of other people badgering me on my time. Selfish, yup. Regret, nope. I countered this with a completely updated CaringBridge postings. Every scan, chemo, oncology visit, radiation treatment. Everything in writing so no one could barrage my husband or me with questions. I didn't want to be falling asleep after 7 hours of chemo only to hear the phone ring and my husband say, again and again, "yes, she did okay. Little nauseous" and the like. I wrote that thing on the way home from chemo. I had to do my part of they were to do their part.
Then again, that is my personality. Love the Don Johnson quote. Ironically, just yesterday my husband read that off to me. I'm thinking it needs to be made into a T-shirt.
12/8/2017, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+
1/23/2018 Herceptin (trastuzumab)
1/23/2018 Perjeta (pertuzumab)
1/23/2018 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel)
5/23/2018 Lumpectomy: Left
6/12/2018 Lumpectomy: Left
7/18/2018 Whole-breast: Breast
10/10/2018 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)