Still in disbelief

I understand, that's how I felt too. I want you to know that it WILL get better. It may take awhile, but there is much that can be done these days. I

I'm sorry you've had to join us, but welcome! I found it helpful (for the space between my ears🤪) to schedule fun things between appointments and tests and surgeries. Nothing elaborate, mostly visits to parks, watching silly movies, whatever appeals to you. Think of it as putting good memories in the bank for later.

Gailgirl you are receiving some wonderful advice here. You will be experiencing a tremendous amount of emotion for a bit. It is kind of like a whirlwind of doctors appointments, information, education all that. Please continue to reach out to this site. There is a stellar group of knowledgeable women (and men) who understand the emotions of what you are going through and are willing to share their experiences to help you. Wishing you all the very best.

Gailgirl, it sucks. I'm sorry you're here, but you've got a bunch of people here who know exactly what you're feeling and understand even your darkest fears. I stopped thinking about it night and day, the way you're thinking now, when I woke up from surgery. I still think about it, but it isn't the nightmare it was before. Believe it or not, I wake up every day feeling like I got Willie Wonka's Golden Ticket in this situation. HUGGGZZZZ!!!!

Im right there with you. Just diagnosed on Tuesday. Keep reading these boards. These women have given me both strength and hope.

Hello Gailgirl,

I just read your post and it’s my first time here. Sorry to hear about your news. It feels like a journey is starting for you and I both TODAY. I just received the histology report 3 hours ago from the biopsy done 1.5 weeks ago. My Dr called me and told me the news: invasive mammary carcinoma. Referred me straight away to a surgeon and cancer care. Expecting their calls tomorrow.

This was following a routine mammogram. Called back and sent for diagnostic mammogram and US a week later with report of breast density and a mass, had core biopsies on the same day.

I was completely blown away. No history in the family and there is so much swimming around my head. I feel for you and send you lots of good vibes. I guess our journeys just begun today to what appears to be far from boring! Best wishes to you. My biggest worries are how to tell my two adult children. With Christmas approaching, need I say more?

Take good care and I am so pleased and grateful to have found this group of fantastic supportive new friends!

Big hugs

Hi Gailgirl, Omega1, Kate:

I am so so sorry that you have to join us and deal with this at this time of the year (not that anytime is easier). No doubt it is a roller coaster ride, filled with anxiety for the last several week leading to official diagnosis. I still remembered how struggled both me and my husband last year between Thanksgiving to New year , waiting for biopsy and diagnosis. It’s weird that we had kinda sense of relief (from all the guessing and wandering to worst scenario) when my doctor called me on Dec 31st morning, telling me that I had BC (DCIS).

Anyhow, we managed to keep that news to ourselves until we were able to see our doctor team and learn about what would be the treatment plan for the next couple months/years. And it is true that I think the hardest thing of this journey for me is the time I told my kids, and the rest of family about it, but it is absolutely helpful to have the treatment plan and explain that to them. And then telling my boss too….

Looking back almost a year later, we feel blessed that we have found this group, and have a strong support system at home. I am forever graceful for many advices, listening ears on this group to calm our worry, to reassure us that it will getting easier at some point. And it is true.

I hope that you all have the strength, support you need to get through this as well. My heart, my prayers are with you all .

hi everyone,

I am joining you all as newly diagnosed and also a bit overwhelmed. I have my own thread going but wanted to join in and say hi. Diagnosed on 12/8 (was it only 2 days ago?) with IDC, 1cm Grade 2. ER+, HER2-. I met with my surgeon yesterday and she guesstimated that I'm a stage 1a, but kind of don't even want to say it out loud without knocking on wood. I'm so scared of hidden disease and/or lymph node involvement.

I agree 100% about the trauma aspect of all of this. It's been rough.

I know this is do-able. Some things I've been telling myself are: The only way out is through. And I don't have to be ok with this AT ALL. I just have to show up and follow the experts directions. So, deep breaths and love to all of you newly diagnosed. I'm with you.

xoemily

I took another route. I didn't tell any family or friends until I had a plan. That way I could answer their questions and hopefully assuage their fears.

Hi all! I'm another one diagnosed at the beginning of holiday season, 3 years ago. Told only my husband and went through Thanksgiving with extended family pretending I didn't just find out I had cancer. Ugh. But from all accounts, it was one of the best gatherings the rest of them had so I guess I nailed it! Had surgery on December 10, 2018, and on December 10, 2021, I didn't have one thought about that! Maybe that had something to do with me being in Las Vegas or maybe it's just big ole fat denial. Either way, it's great not to be thinking about it all the time anymore. Today is my 55th birthday, and I'm so grateful just to be here.

yes I remember LIke yesterday I believe we all can i was so happy planning our 2nd marriages when it found the lump while in shower. But once plan in place for treatment things do ease up some did for me anyway. I was think I g we have a plan lets get going. We are here for you sweetie. Inspiring others as I am now a 27 Yr.God Survivor Hope and Positivity faith family friends get me thru and my wonderful now husband been married 27yrs also. msphil idc stage2 0/3 nodes 3 mo chemo before and after Lmast got married then 7wks rads 5 yrs on tamoxifen. Hold on.