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Topic: Remembering Kandy 1/18/2018

Forum: May Their Memory Live On — Honor those who have passed.

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Posted on: Jan 18, 2018 03:29PM - edited Jan 20, 2018 03:09PM by tarheelmichelle

Posted on: Jan 18, 2018 03:29PM - edited Jan 20, 2018 03:09PM by tarheelmichelle

tarheelmichelle wrote:

LINK TO OBITUARY AND FUNERAL ARRANGEMENTS FOR OUR FRIEND

http://m.legacy.com/dignity-memorial/obituary-preview.aspx?n=Kandie-Hatfield&lc=7294&pid=187906517&mid=7732027

There is also an online guest book. Don’t feel shy about signing it - I’m sure it will comfort her husband and children to hear from us. I am planning to attend the visitation. I have to go alone and it’s a 45 minute drive, so I may not attend the graveside service the next day; just depends on how I feel.

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This post is to remember Kandy, a longtime member here, almost 8 years!

She passed away today (1/18/2018.

A year ago, she created a post titled “Unfortunately things are going downhill." She detailed her final treatments, but more than that, she gave out so much compassion and understanding to others with breast cancer.

I connected with Kandy because we were both Stage IV, and we discovered we lived near each other in NC. We were able to get together a couple of times, the last time was at her home in Greensboro over the summer. We lounged on floats in her pool and had some carefree hours. I met her adult daughter, who has Down Syndrome, and her husband, Hal. She has two other adult children, and enjoyed time with her baby grandson.

We last texted her a little over a week ago. She wasn't feeling well and was frustrated that there were no treatment options left. Her husband messaged me last night that she had been admitted to the hospital, with liver problems and in great pain. A snowstorm hit yesterday and because travel was unadvised, I planned to drive the 45 minutes to the hospital today to be with her. Her husband messaged me that Kandy passed at 12:27 today.

And that's so like Kandy, putting as little burden on others as possible,leaving us suddenly, after a snowstorm, requiring no effort from any of her friends to help her transition.

Please consider this YOUR space to share joys and sorrows associated with Kandy.

I will miss you, sweet, sunny Kandy. You never wanted sympathy for yourself, but gave so much to so many of us.


Ronda - Extensive mets to lungs & bones. My life is Stage IV precious. Celebrating 11 years with Stage IV 12/2022 Dx 2/14/2008, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/11/2008 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 1/31/2012 Aromasin (exemestane) Local Metastases 11/21/2014 Radiation therapy: Bone Targeted Therapy 5/20/2016 Hormonal Therapy 6/1/2016 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 3/12/2021 Radiation Therapy 3/9/2023 Other part Radiation Therapy Whole breast: Left breast Radiation Therapy Other part Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Jan 29, 2018 09:22PM momallthetime wrote:

Kandy sweet sweet lady. You've been a friend to so many. I was on another thread and saw references to Kandy leaving us - i could not believe it. Her soul will be hovering and we could still feel her presence. Go with peace dear Kandy.

Tarheel/Michelle thank you so much for taking the time and sharing with all. You are a good friend.

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Jan 30, 2018 12:25AM nancy2581 wrote:

I followed Kandy's posts since I joined back in 2014. I never posted in the stage IV threads because I didn't feel it was my place, but I followed Kandy because she struck me as such a lovely person. I will miss seeing her posts as she truly cared for everyone even when she was struggling. Kandy may you forever Rest In Peace. Hugs to your sweet family. You will be forever missed!

Nancy

2.8 cm tumor with LVI Dx 6/11/2014, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 6/24/2014 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Right); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Sentinel Chemotherapy 7/22/2014 AC + T (Taxol) Hormonal Therapy 1/28/2015 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Radiation Therapy 1/29/2015 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 12/17/2017 Femara (letrozole)
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Jan 30, 2018 12:26AM AmyJM wrote:

My heart sank when I saw this. Kandy was so dear and gave and shared so much here. I remember when Harper was born, and sharing her joy of becoming a grandma. I can't believe she's gone. We will miss her so, but now she is free of the pain - soar with the angels, Kandy. Sending prayers and condolences to her family.

Dx 9/4/2003, IDC, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 2/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 10/22/2003 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right) Chemotherapy 11/20/2003 AC + T (Taxol) Hormonal Therapy 5/1/2004 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Dx 5/2/2013, Stage IV, ER+/PR-, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 5/3/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole) Targeted Therapy 8/19/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 8/19/2016 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
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Feb 6, 2018 09:03PM workingmom10 wrote:

I just heard the news about Kandy and I was so heartbroken! She helped me so much when I had questions about my scans and helped calm my fears. Sending prayers to her family!

Dx 4/26/2011, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+ Surgery 7/18/2011 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left); Mastectomy (Right); Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap Dx 11/1/2016, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 11/23/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 12/5/2016 External Local Metastases 12/5/2016 Radiation therapy: Bone Hormonal Therapy 5/5/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy 3/15/2018 Verzenio
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Feb 7, 2018 07:05AM georgiaredskin wrote:

I am so very sorry to learn about Kandy. Her bright light will be missed here and everywhere. Thank you for all you gave, sweet lady. RIH

Dx 12/3/2015, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 12/17/2015 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy 12/17/2015 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 5/5/2016 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right); Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left); Mastectomy (Right); Reconstruction (Left): Tissue Expander; Reconstruction (Right): Tissue Expander
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Feb 7, 2018 08:00AM micmel wrote:

think of you everyday Kandy..... everyday! May you be soaring above free from pain and worry. Watching and protecting your sweet family! You are missed every day always. ~M~

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Chemotherapy 7/20/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/7/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Feb 11, 2018 06:19AM PHOTOGIRL-62 wrote:

My heart goes out to your family and friends. We will miss her, she was always so helpful and kind. RIP sweet Kandy. Now you are free from the pain and agony of this dreadful disease.

From one of your BC sisters.

Anita

Dx 10/30/2008, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 8/24/2016, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Feb 11, 2018 06:21AM PHOTOGIRL-62 wrote:

My heart goes out to your family and friends. We will miss her, she was always so helpful and kind. RIP sweet Kandy. Now you are free from the pain and agony of this dreadful disease.

From one of your BC sisters.

Anita

Dx 10/30/2008, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 8/24/2016, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy Faslodex (fulvestrant) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib)

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