Sep 13, 2017 09:34PM - edited Sep 13, 2017 09:35PM by mebmarj

Sent in message to moderators:

"one of you started a thread inviting members to visit the new "campaign" page. It was started on 9/5 and no one has replied to any of the comments or suggestions.

Either you have no response because you misjudged how it would be received or you have been absent and really need to give some thoughtful feedback to members, including myself, who are clearly disappointed in the "campaign" which doesn't seem grassroots given the big name sponsorships listed.

Many await your response."

Sep 13, 2017 10:42PM Outfield wrote:

Well, I've begun my own personal online backlash.

Sep 14, 2017 11:17AM lilacblue wrote:

We can post on this thread all we wish. The fact is, this campaign has legs and is up and running. Parties are being formed, tickets sold, it's a done deal regardless of what is posted on BCO by the members of the Community.

Sep 14, 2017 12:01PM - edited Sep 14, 2017 12:11PM by Outfield

LilacBlue, it may be a done deal but that doesn't mean we don't have a voice. We don't have a voice if we choose not to use it. In my lifetime, I've been a major whistleblower (in NY Times, on national TV) and seen my huge organization - much, much bigger than BCO - flip up its ugly underbelly for the country to see. That was different in that they had no good motivations at all for what they were doing - just greed - but the idea of personal agency is the same. People are sometimes truly powerless, but that's different than giving away the power you do have.

In a twisted way, I am much less offended by this event advertisement than by what the moderators posted, which was directed to us, the BCO community, not potential donors. This is ignorant but probably well-meaning stuff from a golf and tennis club, with a long-retired NFL player's name on it. I don't expect the club, the retired player, or any particular individual in the group photos on the "Jaws Girls Care" website to understand, much less have foreseen, the reaction of the BCO community to this post. Maybe some of them have had breast cancer, but I would be very, very surprised if it were all of them and it's very easy to misstep when attempting to do something good for somebody else if you don't truly understand their situation and how they may feel about it. I do expect BCO to have had a clue this would be offensive, so the moderators' post insults me to a much greater degree than another drop in the bucket of pinkwash.

If a person chooses to approach their cancer by wearing pink, I can't and don't judge that. If a person chooses to approach their cancer by refusing to allow themselves to acknowledge any fear, I can't and don't judge that. If a tennis club runs a benefit that offends a percentage of the people it hopes to benefit, I do judge that, but I don't feel scorn and any "education" would be very gentle. But if BCO chooses to feed us, as a group, a huge line of condescending, innacurate, insulting BS, I don't feel very gentle and I'm not one to put up and shut up.

Sep 14, 2017 01:35PM meow13 wrote:

The one scheduled in Boston sounds even worse Miss Pink Boobie or something like that.

Moderator has taken to stage 4 thread.