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Oct 31, 2019 08:51AM
prepmom
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Calendargirl- I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. But that said, you will be OK! Know this, keep it at the forefront of your thoughts, make it your mantra. Remember, that every situation is very different, but in my case the healing process went well. My incisions under my breast (I was able to have nipple sparing BMX) and from the SNB healed with no issue, no pain - I was off Rx pain meds within 3 days of coming home. Because of the BS's fear of skin involvement, she had to do quite a bit of work close to the skin. Great news- clean margins! However, this also left me with a half-dollar area of skin wound. I followed my PS's instructions to a T - showered daily with anti-bacterial soap and used triple- antibiotic cream. It took all of the past 11 weeks to get it to completely close, but thank goodness it has. Again, no pain, just a bit of worrying, but I knew I was in good hands.
I will not sugar-coat the tissue expanders. I am a very petite person and for me they have been extremely uncomfortable, but nothing I couldn't handle. No pain meds needed but I do take 2.5mg of diazapam (valium) to relax and sleep at night. I have no personal fear of becoming addicted, after my surgery on Monday, I'm done with that.
I have a wonderful physical therapist that is right in my PS's office. I was fairly fit prior to my surgery and have surprisingly had a bit of trouble regaining full mobility in my left shoulder. It is hard to wrap my head around not being able to workout like I used to at this time (I've lost a lot of strength as well) but my PT says I will get there. It does not keep me from doing most things and I just remind myself that this is a marathon not a sprint. There are many other women who do not have this issue. Again, everyone heals differently. In the end, I remind myself that 'I will be OK' and just keep doing everything I can to help myself.
As for timing, I had a great support group. My husband has been amazing. He did much of the housework and cooking for the first 3 weeks (I had a freezer-full to help him) and still does more than he ever did. However, within 5 weeks I was at a family wedding- dancing with my family, exhausted the next day. I took 8 weeks to return to my part-time job (from home)- it requires a lot of concentration and computer work. I didn't want to return until I knew I could do so at 100%. At 9 weeks, I went to the Penn State-Michigan game. It was a long day- all afternoon spent tailgating and then a 3.5 hour game. I walked almost 6 miles that day. Had a wonderful time! My husband and I have been going out to dinner once a week since about a month out. As I tell people who ask - I can do almost anything, just not in one day. Finally, at 11 weeks out, I am feeling back to normal except for these damn expanders. That's why I'm so excited for surgery on Monday. I'm in the homestretch. The finish line is in sight.
Finally, for me I have not mourned the loss of my breasts. Again, this is a very personal thing, but for me it was a trade I was willing to make. While intimate with my husband, I do miss the 'real ones' but I have no regrets. I played the hand I was dealt and I am confident in my future.
I will hold you in my prayers. Stay strong. You will be OK!
Dx
5/24/2019, LCIS/DCIS, Left, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes, ER+/PR+
Surgery
8/14/2019 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement
Surgery
11/4/2019 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant