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Posted on: Feb 1, 2011 06:28PM
I thought it might be fun to start a thread on what we are having, making or had for dinner. Sometimes it is the best tuna steak you ever had, sometimes it's a can of soup. But we all do it every night in some form or another. Maybe we can give each other ideas on what to make, or bitch about what we had, or the fact that we did enjoy that grilled cheese with tomato soup.
Every night my husband comes home and says "whats for dinner?" no matter what I say he always says "sounds good!" even if I say it's a 'fend for yourself night'. :)
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Mar 17, 2017 04:27PM auntienance wrote:
Corned beef and cabbage of course and shepherds pie for dh, Irish soda bread and Bailey's Irish cream cheesecake for dessert. Friends coming for dinner - an annual St. Pat's day meal.
Tomorrow the kids and grand dog arrive for an overnight. It's the grand dog's first birthday. She gets frosty paws, we get lemon meringue pie.
Mar 17, 2017 10:22PM susan_02143 wrote:
Well, Miss Olivia was fussy today. This is the first time. She is pissed that her walking isn't more advanced. She has begun screaming and crying when there is something she wants and can't get to. Needless to say, her grandparents didn't take to this well. We followed her parents' choices... and ignored her or put her to bed when it became intolerable. I couldn't decide if she didn't feel well or if she is in a developmental moment. I am happy to say, that she was her happiest when we fed her. Today she ate a chicken tender which was sautéed with some angel hair pasta with parmesan cheese melted on top. This made the pasta stick together so that she could feed herself. She then consumed 1/3 a banana, cut into bite sized pieces. Her third meal was 1/2 cup of lima beans simmered in chicken stock, potatoes that had been cubed and crisped, and two slices of cheddar cheese. She ate those limas in succession.... ten seconds between beans. She preferred them to the potatoes.
Us? I was not up to cooking. I made all three of Olivia's meals plus a banana bread today, so we went to our Portuguese fish market and had their fish and chips, cole slaw, and Mr. SMT had a side of fried shrimp which he just loves. We ate early so that he was home to watch Duke at 7:15. I am a b-ball widow for the next few weeks.
I really do dislike St. Patricks Day. Even at that early hour, there were tons of people driving who had clearly been drinking. Ugh.
My port is healing though I still don't have full lateral motion. I was allowed a shower today, and I took full advantage. How wonderful it was to get three days of being human washed away. It is the small things, isn't it?
Mar 17, 2017 11:39PM ChiSandy wrote:
That first shower after any surgery is such a treat!
Walked to Cellars, only to find they’d run out of the corned beef & cabbage by 7:30. (They’ll have more tomorrow). Bob was working too late to get there even for drinks. So I walked back home, and stopped in at the “Den of Iniquity,” as he calls Whole Foods. Lo & behold, they had it on their hot bar. Instead of potatoes, I got “paleo sweet potato salad.” In the fridge back home I found a bottle of Clausthaler Amber (probably the best non-alcoholic beer available), which while not Irish went perfectly with the meal.
Mar 18, 2017 06:27PM - edited Mar 18, 2017 06:33PM by eric95us
Sharon and I attended a camp style Dutch oven cooking class...It was lots of fun, but both of us are exhausted.
It's the kind of ovens with legs and charcoal, wood or a fire is used as the heat source
Mar 18, 2017 06:38PM auntienance wrote:
Eric from lifting all thise heavy pots no doubt!
Mar 18, 2017 07:39PM eric95us wrote:
While we are feeling better from the flu, we still don't have all our energy back. I'm alternating between the couch, the bed and the recliner chair. Sharon is tired enough that she's not moving from the bed. Had this not been the last class of the year, we would have changed to another class.
We were split up into groups of two--with Sharon and I in different groups so we would be exposed to more than just one set of recipes.
My partner and I made a cake, chili rellenos, and the fixings for fish tacos. Sharon and her partner made pulled pork, chili cornbread and "monkey brains" (an apple desert dish).
I had picked up a couple of camp dutch ovens awhile back and this was a good chance to learn how to use them.
Mar 19, 2017 02:19PM Valstim52 wrote:
Went to a bridal shower yesterday. Very yummy finger food. Different types of hummus, lovely pita chips, salsas. Also a wonderful eggplant dip. Along with fruit, cheese and champagne.
Today is a potluck with 6 other families. First time in while I've been up to back to back events. I'm making an old fashioned 7-up pound cake. It's almost done.
Mar 19, 2017 03:47PM susan_02143 wrote:
Last night we went to Pasha, the Turkish restaurant, with the kids, Olivia and the two of us. Olivia ate rice, hummus and celery with gusto. Spears of cucumber turn out to be too slippery and flew out of her hands. The eggplant dip was not accepted with grace and the yogurt dip was not a hit. She sat for a tremendously long time without fussing. We were even able to have some Turkish tea! Half my tea, Mr. SMT took her outside to get a change of scenery. We then got to help her take her bath. She LOVES bath time and plays with delight in the water. I collapsed when we got home.
Tonight we are grilling up some lamb chops with a few extra so we have at least one meal already made for tomorrow. We have Olivia all day and I will be anxious. Not sure what I will serve with the chops, but I will figure that out soon enough.
Today I had my cleaning people over for coffee. They are assembling some numbers for me in case I need their help preparing the AirBNB rooms for a guest. I hope not to need them often, but I will sleep better knowing that I have a backup plan.
Mar 19, 2017 07:05PM PontiacPeggy wrote:
Made a large turkey pot pie last night from a recipe I found online. Had DS and DIL up for dinner and we all pronounced it good. Had an inexpensive white wine and watched the NCAA tournaments. It had already been a good day - Gonzaga won as did University of Michigan. Glad I'm not working and can devote time to watching the games.
Sunshine but chilly. Better than another half inch of rain like yesterday.
Mar 19, 2017 07:15PM - edited Mar 19, 2017 07:16PM by ChiSandy
Probably, unless Bob comes home in time to go out to dinner, will roast a couple of duck confit legs I defrosted and serve them with sweet potatoes and Brussels sprouts (might cook the sprouts in the duck fat). Made a nice 3-egg (2 sm., 1 lg.) omelet this morning with red, orange and poblano peppers, scallions and Emmenthaler cheese. Just had a tomato stuffed with tuna salad.
Mar 20, 2017 01:24PM HappyHammer wrote:
Sunny but a bit chilly here so am making chicken soup/stew for supper. LOTS of veggies. It's simmering away in the crock pot and will be ready whenever I am tonight.
Mar 20, 2017 03:05PM SpecialK wrote:
Am going to a military wives' reception tonight at the Dep. Commander's home with light refreshments so am making some Bolognese sauce now for DH since he will come home from work before I get back. We might make it home at the same time as he will go to the gym between work and dinner, but it will be nice to have the sauce already made. If I only have to cook the pasta that will be quick and I have salad stuff all done too. Not sure if I will eat at the reception, or wait until I get home at this point. I made breakfast burrito filling (sage sausage, roasted red potatoes and cheddar) yesterday so I have on-the-go breakfast for him for the next few days.
Mar 20, 2017 03:33PM auntienance wrote:
Eric, I'm sorry you and Sharon are still suffering from flu aftereffects. I'm so ready for this disease session to be over!
In honor of the first day of spring, dinner is pasta primavera. I may make the pasta noodles if I'm not too tired. We went to the gym for the first time in many moons and then worked in the yard. The flurry of activity is catching up with me I fear.
Mar 20, 2017 05:14PM ChiSandy wrote:
Everyone in the house has some infection or another—Gordy caught his cold at a wedding, passed it on to Bob and even our housekeeper has it now. What I was afraid was an abscess or ONJ has turned out to be a sinus infection—the aching eased up after the storms passed and the barometer rose again. Not sure about dinner tonight—last night made broccolini & a sweet potato with duck leg confit; saved the fat for Brussels sprouts tonight. Might do something with frozen crawfish tails—stir-fry, perhaps? Or just go with the flow and nuke some chicken wings. This morning was my second double-yolk egg in a row., from a Vital Farms carton. (Pricy, but the flavor is amazing. And the hens are treated humanely—they get pasture all day whenever the weather permits and sleep in a cage-free barn overnight).
Mar 20, 2017 06:36PM eric95us wrote:
I've spent from 8am until 3:30pm doing bank stuff and after a break, I'm heading back into "it". The trust stuff is working perfectly, it's just *that many signatures*.
I want my mom and dad back, but like they were 25 years ago.
Mar 21, 2017 01:42PM eric95us wrote:
Wow. It's been quiet. The banks are open until 7pm here and I got *most* of the stuff done. I've got a couple more hours and then all the signature stuff is done.
Last night I made stuffed peppers. This is another one that my mom and grandmother used to do and also goes back to my college days.
Steam the cleaned out bell peppers until "slightly tender" so they don't need to cook as much in the oven and for the stuffing...an equal volume of cooked rice and hamburger, a sauteed chopped onion and a sauteed minced clove of garlic, a chopped tomato, a big squirt of ketchup, a splash of Worcestershire sauce, salt and pepper, all mixed together.
After I stuffed the peppers, I put a squirt of ketchup on the top of each stuffed pepper and cooked it in the oven until the stuffing was done--about 40 minutes at 350F for my peppers. Also, I used Jasmine rice for my rice and cooked it in turkey broth.
It is pretty close to the way I like it. My "next time try" note would be to add fresh oregano and maybe a serrano pepper.
Mar 21, 2017 01:48PM - edited Mar 22, 2017 10:30AM by SpecialK
eric - I sympathize, now that my FIL has passed the kids (DH and his 4 sibs) are trying to keep my MIL afloat - I don't think any of us realized how much my FIL handled. The closest anyone lives is a five hour drive away, so the logistics are a bit unnerving. Last night after I got home from the event on base my DH told me that the gentlemen he had arranged to mow the lawn at his mom's had quit. He was charging $130 for mowing per month (a steal in that area), and my MIL walked him around the yard indicating some other things she wanted done. He said he would charge her an additional $100 for those extra things - reasonable for what she wanted done - these are extra things that would occur maybe quarterly. She said no, I already paid you $300 and was insistent she wouldn't pay him any extra. He said I will mow your yard today, but I am not coming back, and you have only paid me the $130 so far. She argued, he left, she went into the house to look at her checkbook. The $300 she paid was hurricane clean-up paid to a different person last fall. Eeesh! So, now my DH has to call this poor man and explain her confusion and hope he will come back and continue to do the good job he had been doing.
Edited to add that when DH spoke to his bro last night he said "well, I guess the lawn guy fired mom..."
Mar 22, 2017 12:06PM PontiacPeggy wrote:
Eric, trust stuff is challenging. When DH had to go into a nursing home, we needed to get him on Medicaid. I went to an elder law attorney and he handled everything - the Medicaid application, disposing of assets, setting up a trust. Painful but I was glad someone else was doing it.
SpecialK, that's rough about your MIL. No suggestions from me :(
Mar 22, 2017 01:34PM - edited Mar 22, 2017 06:08PM by SpecialK
Pontiac - all things considered, she is actually doing fairly well. She cooks, cleans, takes herself to appointments, etc. She has short term memory issues, and gets a bit boggled in dealing with the paperwork generated by the estate and the death of my FIL, so she is a bit unreliable as far as info goes. Also, FIL assured all of the kids that he had everything in place - turns out there have been surprise insurance policies, surprise Certs of Deposit - all good problems to have, but these have needed some coordination. This has been complicated by spotty communication between the sibs, and a case of too many chiefs. All of this is coming from a place of love and concern, but having handled three estates now, DH and I have more practical experience. Things have calmed down a bit and he and his brother seem to be handling the lion's share and all is now going fairly smoothly - aside from the occasional complication of lawn mowing (a first world problem, for sure!), and the sudden realization that since the cancellation of FIL's Medicare supplement health insurance and prescription drug coverage, MIL's was also cancelled since it was tied to his, so we had to get some asap!
Mar 22, 2017 03:53PM ChiSandy wrote:
Dinner tonight—since it’s at a hospital awards banquet in the clubhouse of a S. Side country club known mostly for its golf & booze rather than its food—will probably be crummy iceberg-based salad and either overcooked steak filet or botched broiled fish (veggie option is almost always pasta). Will have to leave over the potato (and maybe the carrots if sugary) and pass up the rolls & dessert. I will console myself in the knowledge there are great cheeses & berries in my fridge.
Mar 22, 2017 11:33PM eric95us wrote:
Dinner tonight was blackened rockfish. Onion powder, some salt, paprika, white pepper, black pepper, red pepper, oregano, basil. I went with a couple of teaspoons of onion powder and 1/2 teaspoon of everything else. Drag the fish through the spices and cook, in a very hot cast iron pan with melted butter.
A big sigh.
Mickey in 1981. Mom had the picture stashed away.
Mar 23, 2017 12:32AM ChiSandy wrote:
I was pleasantly surprised tonight—evidently the country club got a new caterer. Salad was spinach (albeit drenched in a too-sweet dressing); entree was a nicely medium-rare filet mignon paired with a large “airline chicken” breast (not quite “airline” because the wing bone had been removed) that was fairly moist, three large asparagus spears, and a potato gratin. Took home most of the chicken, a bit of the steak, and all of the potato. Dessert was cookies and creme brulee topped with three fresh raspberries. Ate the raspberries, went under the sugar crust to try the custard, which was way too sweet so I left it over. Brought home a cookie, though. When I got home, I was still hungry (skipped lunch) and wanted to keep it low-carb, so I ate the remaining steak, a slice of the chicken, and half a fresh tomato with basil. Dessert was a small (1”) square of dark chocolate and a decaf breve cappuccino.
Mar 23, 2017 08:44AM carolehalston wrote:
After two weeks in the hospital, my mother is back in the nursing home and very happy to be there. Without going into a lot of detail, she has signed up for Hospice care. She will get extra care and the nursing home isn't required to send her to the ER with any episode that occurs.
My mother is not ready to die and is hopeful about getting stronger and back to wheelchair life. If she opts to go to the hospital at any point, she can revoke the Hospice contract with a signature. I had not known that Hospice is now a commercial operation rather than a charity service.
My life has centered on caregiver duties. No golf and some skipped trips to the gym. I have managed to cook dinner with thinking ahead to menus. The stuffed peppers in the freezer have come in handy.
Last night was stuffed pepper half and a chopped salad with added perfect avocado. Dh had a bowl of warmed up chicken and dumplings made yesterday morning for my mother's lunch.
Tonight's dinner is an unsolved mystery at this hour.
I have not been successful at WW and have missed two meetings
Mar 23, 2017 09:36AM auntienance wrote:
Carole, many patients improve tremendously on hospice. She may very well meet that goal. Wishing her and you the very best. I know you must be very stressed. I'm glad you have siblings to share the emotional load with.