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Topic: Thin Slices of Joy

Forum: Life After Breast Cancer —

Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.

Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by SerenitySTAT

SerenitySTAT wrote:

I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).

I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.

http://qz.com/818998/googles-former-happiness-guru...

Google's former happiness guru developed a three-second brain exercise for finding joy

Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."

Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.

Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a reward—the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.

A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.

Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 26, 2021 05:33PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Lovely!

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Nov 27, 2021 06:59PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Bosque del Apache, our winter bird refuge


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Nov 27, 2021 07:05PM MinusTwo wrote:

Egg Nog for desert - my holiday slice of joy - with Wild Turkey 101. Unfortunately it's only commercial egg nog, but still...

Years ago (before 1992) I used to have holiday gatherings with tons of 'nibbles'. I made a punch bowl of homemade eggnog. That had both bourbon & rum. Most everyone lived in the neighborhood so they could walk home - or they spent the night.

2/15/11 BMX-DCIS 2SNB clear-TEs; 9/15/11-410gummies; 3/20/13 recurrance-5.5cm,mets to lymphs, Stage IIIB IDC ER/PRneg,HER2+; TCH/Perjeta/Neulasta x6; ALND 9/24/13 1/18 nodes 4.5cm; AC chemo 10/30/13 x3; herceptin again; Rads Feb2014
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Nov 28, 2021 12:09AM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Jazzy - Nice!

Minus - That sounds fun.

We don’t have extended family nearby so we’re used to not spending the holidays with them. Truthfully, my little family unit is all I need. My kids make dessert, I make bread, and my husband makes everything else. Love having leftover pie for breakfast.

We watched the movie Pig. It was surprisingly good. ThumbsUp

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 28, 2021 04:56PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Plant update: I brought the French tarragon inside before the snow hit. After flushing it with water, the leaves dried out. I cut them off and wondered if I should just give up and put the pot back outside. Today the pot is almost full of new growth. Hope I can keep it alive over the winter.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 29, 2021 08:39AM oldladyblue wrote:

The birds are so lovely JAZZY! I loved my time in New Mexico, lived in Reserve and Carrizzozzo in 2002 or so for a few years

My daughter and I watched Pig too, SERENITY, we both liked it.

I saw the most gorgeous sunrise yesterday while standing outside with a cup of tea, on my front steps, so I was high enough to see ovr the neighbor's fence. Perfect spot to see a perfect sunrise. I'll have to figure out how to get the photo off of my phone and put it up here.

64 years old, Oncotype 28 Dx 6/25/2021, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/27/2021 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary Chemotherapy 10/8/2021 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 1/10/2022 Hormonal Therapy
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Nov 30, 2021 12:32PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

oldladyblue - You can upload directly from your phone to BCO. Open a browser to this site. Once logged in, you can post a reply and use the icon that looks like a mountain range to select a photo.

I'm at the hospital for a dermatology follow up appointment. I'm way early, but they have a professional playing at the grand piano in the large waiting area for radiation oncology (down the hall from the tiny waiting area for dermatology). It's so soothing. Better set an alarm.

Medicating

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 30, 2021 12:34PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 30, 2021 12:35PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

I'm a loud clapper. ThumbsUp

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 30, 2021 01:11PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

His first name is Thelonious! Born to be a pianist.

Apparently they started Tuesday concerts a couple months ago. Will try to schedule my future appointments so I can see it again.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 30, 2021 02:02PM MinusTwo wrote:

Serenity - great perc. One of our major hospitals has a pianist or a trio playing every lunch hour in their "lobby" - which looks more like a hotel lobby than a hospital. I often try to schedule appointments at 11 so I can enjoy the music & the trickling fountain.

2/15/11 BMX-DCIS 2SNB clear-TEs; 9/15/11-410gummies; 3/20/13 recurrance-5.5cm,mets to lymphs, Stage IIIB IDC ER/PRneg,HER2+; TCH/Perjeta/Neulasta x6; ALND 9/24/13 1/18 nodes 4.5cm; AC chemo 10/30/13 x3; herceptin again; Rads Feb2014
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Nov 30, 2021 02:19PM - edited Nov 30, 2021 02:21PM by SerenitySTAT

That sounds fantastic! It was very calming. We need more things like that these days.

Done with dermatology for now. Apparently everything left is due to aging! No more follow ups unless something else comes up.



"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 30, 2021 08:29PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Serenity- I played a concert with a group for a hospital I did contract work for about 20 years ago. Many healthcare orgs have music therapy programs to help patients. I remember the patients coming down from their rooms in wheel chairs to listen and the smiles on there face. We played a few holiday tunes for them (I played the soprano sax). So glad you had someone nice playing for you today!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Nov 30, 2021 09:28PM MinusTwo wrote:

Jazzy - even more years ago - I sang with double quartets sponsored by First Methodist Church, AQ. We sang in malls & nursing homes & hospitals & everywhere - In period English costumes no less. Good memories.

2/15/11 BMX-DCIS 2SNB clear-TEs; 9/15/11-410gummies; 3/20/13 recurrance-5.5cm,mets to lymphs, Stage IIIB IDC ER/PRneg,HER2+; TCH/Perjeta/Neulasta x6; ALND 9/24/13 1/18 nodes 4.5cm; AC chemo 10/30/13 x3; herceptin again; Rads Feb2014
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Dec 1, 2021 10:08AM oldladyblue wrote:

Oh you all brought tears to my eyes, bringing back good memories of small music concerts. They are the stuff that fills my soul. I miss them. I used to sing in a choir in LA as 2nd alto, we also dressed up at Christmas in old time costumes. What fun that was, almost 30 years ago now. Gee, I almost forgot about those pleasure filled days and nights. Where has my memory gone? But the smiles remain.

64 years old, Oncotype 28 Dx 6/25/2021, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/27/2021 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary Chemotherapy 10/8/2021 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 1/10/2022 Hormonal Therapy
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Dec 1, 2021 07:08PM Jazzygirl wrote:

We have a snowman made out of tumbleweeds


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Dec 2, 2021 05:31AM oldladyblue wrote:

LOL, I love that snowman!!!!

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Dec 2, 2021 07:53AM JustG22 wrote:

in San Antonio Texas this morning I am spending the day with one of my friends. We are in a writing group together and even though I do not live in San Antonio anymore I’m still a member of that group. Really looking forward to seeing her after a year and catching up. Having a special buddy is so important😊

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Dec 2, 2021 02:02PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

I wish I had a tiny bit of musical talent. Thank you for sharing yours.
Jazzy - not a snowman…Loopy

JustG22 - Welcome! Hope you’re able to meet up with your bud.

Love the symmetry!



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Dec 3, 2021 12:25AM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Think I was traumatized seeing Harry bald on Annie. Prefer him this way.


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Dec 3, 2021 07:33PM Jazzygirl wrote:

I have not had an adult beverage in over a month. Tonight we imbibe


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Dec 3, 2021 07:37PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Love that bottle!

Family and I are enjoying the documentary series on the making of Star Trek. Had no idea how Lucille Ball was so important to its start.

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Dec 3, 2021 09:04PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

It’s cold. My younger daughter makes excellent hot chocolate. ThumbsUp

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Dec 4, 2021 05:12AM oldladyblue wrote:

Woke up too early. I love my warm robe. Hmmm, perfect alone moment: wine and that Harry Connick Jr. song. Virtual reality is great.

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Dec 4, 2021 11:33AM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Ha!Sounds perfect! ThumbsUp

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Dec 4, 2021 04:08PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Getting dark already. The Traveling Wilburys help.



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Dec 4, 2021 11:20PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

Family caught me getting a near midnight snack. My husband put some candy in the cabinet above the fridge. Being incredibly short, I got some tongs to bring it down. But the lid wasn't on tight. Somehow I dodged the loose lid and caught the container without spilling any candy.

Candy acquired.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Dec 5, 2021 04:59PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

My older daughter brought back Lindt’s hazelnut chocolate. Think they’re competing to see who can bring the best chocolate. Game on!

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Dec 5, 2021 05:06PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Yum 😋

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Dec 5, 2021 05:59PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

There's a hazelnut chocolate coffee. It made me swoon. ❤️


"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva

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