May 22, 2020 12:12AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Letting the days go by
Same as it ever was 🎶
Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.
Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by SerenitySTAT
I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).
I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.
Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."
Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.
Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a reward—the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.
A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.
Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!
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May 22, 2020 12:12AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Letting the days go by
Same as it ever was 🎶
May 22, 2020 12:37AM santabarbarian wrote:
Remain in Light = best Talking Heads
May 22, 2020 06:25PM CeliaC wrote:
Prior to COVID, David Byrne's Broadway Show American Utopia was supposed to return in the fall. He & his cast did a spirited performance of Once in a Lifetime Once on the Feb 29th Saturday Night Live. Yep, same as it ever was.
May 22, 2020 10:17PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Both of you have excellent taste!
I loved that SNL episode with David Byrne hosted by John Mulaney. They will probably play it again this summer. Byrne even participated in a skit.
May 23, 2020 03:43PM ScotBird wrote:
Ahh happy memories: David Byrne at Brixton Academy in South London (1997 I think it was). There was a power cut in the middle of his set. There was a long silence. My husband yelled “Hello David are you alright”. The lights came back on. That was a long time ago
May 24, 2020 11:19AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Great memory! My last indoor concert was in 1995 to see R.E.M. I remember because I was pregnant with my first child. They were also my first concert in 1986 before they got huge. The band actually hung out back with fans after the concert. My roommate was in a group with a long-haired Michael Stipe. I was in a group with Mike Mills and his grandparents. That was the same year I saw the Red Hot Chili Peppers for $5. Good times!
My rash is finally gone! I've been making sourdough crackers with the discard. Got a fresh batch cooling now. They taste like herby cheez-its. Next up: sourdough focaccia with garlic flowers and Italian seasoning.
May 24, 2020 01:29PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
May 24, 2020 01:38PM ScotBird wrote:
OMG it looks amazing. I really will get around to making sourdough one of these days...
May 24, 2020 01:55PM santabarbarian wrote:
Took a beautiful hike this morning with my dear friend (we go weekly, both masked and 10' or so apart.) She is an incredible friend-- also an exercise friend - we play tennis or hike when we meet up. All during my treatment she'd show up to hike... we'd go VERY slowly, with 1000 rest stops. And we'd hike.
That's a thin slice of joy when someone loves you enough to show up and take a dorky non-exercise ultra slow hike every week while you have chemo and recover from chemo. I had two friends who did this for me and I will never forget it.
May 24, 2020 03:15PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
santabarbarian - Those are good friends!
Playing live now!
May 24, 2020 05:59PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Yo Yo Ma played for 2.5 hours live on YT. Unfortunately, the video is now private.
Here's a beautiful quarantine cover by Norah Jones. From the background in the video, you wouldn't know she's a Grammy-winning artist. I love it!
May 24, 2020 06:18PM santabarbarian wrote:
Next I am trying a bread recipe my French friend Guy gave me. I had some of his bread and it is excellent. It's 3 c white flour, 1/4 tsp yeast, 1 1/4 tsp salt, 1/3 C water... mix and give an 18 hour first rise (at room temp out of sunlight, under saran wrap), then a brief flour dusting and fold, and another two hour rise folded in a floured cloth. Cook at 475 in hot cast iron Dutch oven-- bake w/ lid on 30 mins, lid off 15 more at till brown.
It was wonderfully chewy and sour so I am going to give it a go.
May 24, 2020 08:56PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I love simple recipes like that!
I'm trying to find the simplest sourdough recipes. Think I need to continue minimizing gluten. I no longer have a cast iron Dutch oven. We donated it years ago. Instead I use a pizza stone and a broiler pan with water for steam.
The focaccia recipe I used called for a 9 x 13 metal pan. I have a glass pan in that size, but I used a 12" square metal pan to avoid sticking. It worked.
May 27, 2020 01:36PM Yogatyme wrote:
Serenity, thanks for the Norah Jones!! Love her & Hank Williams, Sr!
May 27, 2020 11:58PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Same here! Plus I love that song. Cowboy Junkies has a great version.
Today we had the hottest day ever in May. We had snow 3 weeks ago! Very glad to have central air.
May 28, 2020 12:01AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
May 28, 2020 07:51PM ScotBird wrote:
My tomato plants have their first flowers opentoday. I’m ridiculously excited.
May 28, 2020 08:50PM santabarbarian wrote:
so I made my friends bread -- baking now-- and it seems great but I think the recipe shorted the water. I added more than it said to as the dough did not look right. 300g water... he'd put 1/3 C but I think it's actually 1+ 1/3 C. Anyway now a great bread-smell is filling the house and taunting the neighbors....
May 29, 2020 07:58PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
ScotBird - It is exciting! My husband bought a tomato plant that already had a few flowers (short summer requires a head start). I was excited when I saw a cluster of 5 little tomatoes growing. I'm not a big gardener. Just have a tomato plant and a few herbs in containers.
santabarbarian - I love the smell of bread baking. Hope it turned out great! I prefer measuring by weight. I find it easier plus it keeps me from losing count.
It's raining gently. Love the sound. And it ends the heat wave.
May 30, 2020 06:47PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Guess the whale thought with few tourists around, now would be a perfect time to visit the Old Port. Hope he gets to open water soon. But thanks for coming!
May 31, 2020 05:45PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
South Pacific was one of the first musicals I saw on TV when young and learning to love them. This song resonated with me as I first noticed racism. Same as it ever was.
Jun 1, 2020 03:01PM santabarbarian wrote:
I was Bloody Mary in my High School Production!
Jun 2, 2020 08:29AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Nice! I did costumes and set design in high school. Worked on Alice in Wonderland and Up the Down Staircase.
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Jun 9, 2020 07:17PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
My older daughter officially graduated with her Master’s today. There’s a virtual ceremony next week, but she prefers to wait for an in-person ceremony with her friends. Not sure when that will happen.
Jun 9, 2020 07:53PM santabarbarian wrote:
Congratulations to your daughter!! Way to go!
Jun 9, 2020 11:29PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
We are so proud of her! The bright spot of being locked down is that she's still at home. I already missed her because she spent a lot of time downtown. We hardly saw her. Then the lockdown came. Many of her friends suddenly moved out of Montreal to be with their parents. It helps that the 4 of us get along. Both my husband and I would never have stayed with our parents.
Jun 12, 2020 02:16PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Gorgeous day out. It was extremely windy yesterday. There were some power outages, but all we lost was a branch off the main stem of my sole tomato plant (indigo kumquat). I saved the almost-ripe cluster on it. While trying to stake the plant as it was being blown over, I decided that I could never be a farmer. My family would starve.
Still I'm determined to fight against my black thumb and rescue my neglected plants. I have killed hard-to-kill plants, so it's a big challenge. It's a nice distraction from everything.