Jan 3, 2021 12:14PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Octopuses are badasses.
Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.
Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by SerenitySTAT
I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).
I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.
Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."
Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.
Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a reward—the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.
A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.
Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!
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Jan 3, 2021 12:14PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Octopuses are badasses.
Jan 3, 2021 04:40PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I've done the accidental corpse pose several times: From walking, ungracefully slip and land perfectly flat on your back. Injury is less likely if you let go of remaining upright. Catch your breath and struggle to stand on the icy sidewalk.
Jan 4, 2021 12:40PM YesIamaDragon wrote:
As your south-of-Sutton neighbor, I LOVE this! Thank you for making my day!
Jan 4, 2021 09:15PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
YeslamaDragon - I'm so glad! Sometimes when there's been no response I wonder if what I post is only entertaining to me. 👍
I can relate to the elephant. 🎶
Jan 4, 2021 09:32PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Jan 7, 2021 02:16AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Time for Yo-Yo Ma.
Jan 7, 2021 11:03AM BevJen wrote:
I LOVE Yo-Yo Ma. His beautiful cello music is truly inspiring. Thanks for posting.
Jan 7, 2021 01:40PM ScotBird wrote:
Serenity your posts are always entertaining to me, I’ve been super busy and am trying to move forward from cancer and not come to these boards every day - when I do, I always come to your thread first and catch up and I always smile. Your thin slices of joy have literally changed my life and made it happier. Thank you, thank you thank you. And a very happy new year and lots of love and light to everyone reading this.
Jan 8, 2021 12:03AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
BevJen - He soothes my soul! Here's another:
Jan 8, 2021 12:17AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
ScotBird - Wow! I hadn't thought I'd make an impact on someone else. That's more than I expected when I started this thread. I was in so much pain and so tired of everything. I'm so glad we're both in a happier place.
We're both 5 years from initial diagnosis. I understand you wanting to move on from cancer. Please do! I'll be here for a while longer. I really appreciate what you wrote. Thank you. ❤️
Jan 8, 2021 12:24AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I enjoyed the latest season of Star Trek Discovery. Can't wait to see more. The finale closed with this quote:
Jan 9, 2021 01:00AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Jan 9, 2021 09:33PM - edited Jan 9, 2021 09:35PM by CeliaC
Serenity - I am also not popping into the topic every day, but sincerely enjoy all of your posts. In re: Star Trek quote - well, you have indeed communicated with me on a personal level! Your many posts always lift me up and the musical posts are so wonderful. They always remind of forgotten musical pieces I love, & such a wonderful variety.
ScotBird - Wishing you strong, healing thoughts as you move on.
Jan 9, 2021 10:20PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Celia - Thank you so much! I've been listening to more music lately, so I pick a few to post. I do like a variety of music that I've forgotten many. It's fun to watch a movie that plays music I listened to when younger.
Jan 9, 2021 10:31PM - edited Jan 9, 2021 10:33PM by CeliaC
Serenity - Rolling Stones are in my top 5 favorite bands of all time! I majored in Accounting in college and we had a tradition of gathering after our last finals and playing "Sympathy for the Devil" as we celebrated. A group of friends from college days still gather for one of the concerts every time the Stones tours. I listen to different things daily on YouTube. Some recent favorites: "Stand by Me", "Teach Your Children", "Long May You Run", the long version of "Hotel California", "Losing My Religion". Too many classical music faves to mention, but the Adagio for Strings (love YoYoMa's version you included here) definitely rises to the top.
Jan 10, 2021 10:54AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Celia - Playing for Change covered a couple of those songs. R.E.M. is 1st on my list of bands. They were my first concert when Michael Stipe had hair. 👍
Musicals were an early love. My older daughter listens to even more than me. 😁 I love how Hamilton celebrates A Chorus Line.
Jan 10, 2021 05:50PM santabarbarian wrote:
I agree w scotbird!!
Jan 10, 2021 08:36PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Thanks, santabarbarian! I'm not crying. It's the smoke!
Jan 10, 2021 08:57PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Hey, I can't get kicked out of my own thread!
I declare this thread is not by invitation only.
Jan 10, 2021 09:17PM MinusTwo wrote:
Oh goodness Serenity. Didn't realize that you had your own post. I'm writing here, but still listening to the piano with the elephant. Is there really a pianist in the bush with an elephant? Now I'll have to go back & listen to YoYoMa and the Rolling Stones.
Jan 10, 2021 09:21PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Welcome, Minus! Yes, there's a man who brings out his upright piano and plays for the animals. Very cool, but does he know about electric keyboards? 😋
Jan 10, 2021 09:23PM MinusTwo wrote:
So glad NOT to be invited - snark, snark. LOVE the Platters. OMG - what old great memories. HS dances with the mirror ball in the ceiling of the gym & crepe paper streamers. OK guys, I'm older so don't laugh too hard. LOVE musicals. Sang in many back in the day. Know many by heart.
No way can I go back & catch up, but I will definitely add this to my favorites.
Jan 10, 2021 09:31PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Don't laugh at me! I cannot sing, but I will if no one is around. With the lockdown, I'm never alone. 😖
Jan 11, 2021 12:03AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
This one has no vocals, so no chance of singing. It is difficult to keep still.
Jan 11, 2021 02:26PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Probably posted this before, but no one's stopping me. Carole King reacting to Aretha performance:
Jan 11, 2021 07:32PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
This woman has an amazing voice.
Jan 11, 2021 11:45PM MinusTwo wrote:
Oh Serenity - I should have known to get a kleenex before I played Aretha. Thank you, Thank you. Such an amazing woman. That has to be my good night song for the day.
Jan 12, 2021 12:09PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Minus - It was powerful!
Today I broke my fast with scrambled eggs and fresh chives. I triple checked that I turned the gas off. A few days ago I made eggs, and fortunately, my older daughter came down for her lunch and noticed the gas was still on. Whoops! 😧 Now I would worry that it might mean progression or some other medical issue, but this isn't the first time. About 10 years ago I did the same thing, but I was home alone. It ran for hours. Good thing I used a cast iron pan. There was no damage, and the house was comfortably warm.
It's a wonder I haven't done more damage. I've started 2 small fires and overcooked numerous dishes. I love that our oven has a timer that automatically turns the heat off. It's truly a lifesaver and mealsaver. 👍
Jan 12, 2021 01:45PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Me: Aubrey Plaza's Twitter handle is "evilhag". 😎
My husband: "She took yours!"
Jan 12, 2021 06:00PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
The overhead garage lights have been out for a few weeks. The garage door opener and extra fridge haven't had problems. Tried resetting the breaker with no effect. It's mostly my husband who's affected once a week when he goes out. Tonight we came back from my Xgeva shot. I noticed a light switch near the garage door. "What does that do?", I wondered.
It's another switch for the overhead garage lights. 😁
There were gas people here a few weeks ago, but it didn't click that that's when the lights stopped working. 😒
I just saved a few hundred dollars for an electrician. 👍