Jan 20, 2021 11:10AM BevJen wrote:
Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.
Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by SerenitySTAT
I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).
I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.
Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."
Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.
Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a reward—the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.
A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.
Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!
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Jan 20, 2021 11:10AM BevJen wrote:
Jan 20, 2021 12:33PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
BevJen - 🎉
Hope the sun is shining where you are as it is here. 🌞
Jan 20, 2021 09:41PM MinusTwo wrote:
The sun is shining everywhere in the US today... even if the skies are cloudy.
Loved West Side Story. But so glad to hear all the variety.
Jan 20, 2021 10:34PM santabarbarian wrote:
Here's my thin slice: I got a vaccination appointment for my 86 yr old Mom on Friday!
Jan 20, 2021 10:36PM MinusTwo wrote:
WooHoo. I'm assuming you're in SoCal so that's a major coup. I'm scheduled for 1/29.
Jan 21, 2021 12:42AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Great news on getting vaccination appointments! In my area they're still working on seniors in LTC or residences and some HCWs. They've been the ones who have suffered most. We can wait. Staying home or wearing a mask is not hard for us.
Jan 21, 2021 01:00AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
We wanted to go whale watching before the pandemic hit. Maybe later this year?
Jan 21, 2021 02:19PM BevJen wrote:
Didn't know if you knew how on top of things you were on this thread, with the music you shared -- last evening in the US, there was a two hour celebration of President Biden's inauguration. One of the featured songs (sung by Demi Lovato) was "Lovely Day." Still love the Bill Withers version, but she did a good job. Great song.
Jan 21, 2021 05:44PM - edited Jan 21, 2021 05:45PM by SerenitySTAT
BevJen - It's as if they picked songs off my playlist! 🤪
They played many songs I love.
Here they did a mashup of Seasons of Love and Let the Sunshine In. ❤️
Jan 21, 2021 06:28PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I love this Andra Day song that played yesterday. The original video was one of the first songs I posted on this thread.
Jan 21, 2021 09:56PM MinusTwo wrote:
I decided on paying attention to your tag line, I should renew my acquaintance with Hesse. The only book on my shelves is Demian, so I started with WIKI to refresh my acquaintence.
In 1914 he wrote: That love is greater than hate, understanding greater than ire, peace nobler than war
In 1917: Hesse wrote to Rolland, "The attempt...to apply love to matters political has failed."
Jan 22, 2021 02:37PM BevJen wrote:
Great stuff from the inauguration. Very uplifting, as usual. Keep it up! Love to hear this stuff.
Jan 22, 2021 03:07PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Minus - I read many of Hesse's books when young. One of my brothers "borrowed" some of my books for his classes and never returned them. 😒 I would like to read his essays (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/739964.My_Belief) that is the source of the quote in my signature. Any writer who was banned by Nazis would be good reading right now. 👍
BevJen - They picked good ones! I'll post more, but some of them I posted fairly recently. Still think k.d. lang is my favorite version of Hallelujah.
Jan 22, 2021 03:09PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
I love John Legend, but I prefer Nina Simone's version of Feeling Good.
Jan 22, 2021 06:26PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Still art. 👍
Jan 22, 2021 07:52PM MinusTwo wrote:
I don't think you can beat Nina Simone. I have several of her albums (yup - vinyl) but also CDs. Going to pull out my recording of Dianne Schuur & BB King. I recently treated myself to another copy of the Jackson Browne CD I'm Alive since mine walked away like your Hesse books.
Interesting I tried to organize my book shelves 5 or 8 years ago. I found the Hesse book surrounded by books from my past: Camus' The Stranger and The Plague, Anne Frank, A Separate Peace, Cry the Beloved Country, Wright's Native Son, several Hardy books, The Bridge over the River Kwai, All Quiet on the Western Front, The Jungle. Must be a message to go back in time and do some re-reading. Sorry, I know this isn't the book thread, but....books bring me joy, along with music.
Jan 23, 2021 02:32PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
No apologies please! Anything that brings a bit of joy, a smile, or even a smirk works here.
Been playing music while watering all the plants and working on some sourdough. Nobody asked me to turn down the music. 👍 Dancing is better when the music is loud! 🎶🎶🎶
Jan 23, 2021 03:32PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Kitchen smelling bready!
Did Bernie cross the border? We're gonna need a taller snow wall!
Jan 23, 2021 04:05PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
After 24 hours we have sourdough focaccia rounds cooling. Instead of a single rectangular pan, I use 2 cake pans. My husband will use both rounds to make big sandwiches for dinner.
Jan 24, 2021 11:26AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Sunlight streaming in while I finish my Sunday coffee. 🌞
George sings George better than Bon Jovi.
Jan 24, 2021 04:09PM santabarbarian wrote:
The sun & coffee made me think of "Chelsea Morning"
Jan 26, 2021 03:27PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Having a rough day. This helped.
Jan 26, 2021 04:26PM BevJen wrote:
A little melancholy, but beautiful. Thanks for posting. And hope your day gets better.
Jan 26, 2021 04:41PM Astrid wrote:
My friend BlackBird has come for a morning dip in the raised bowl outside my window.
Sometimes if I'm lucky, there will be an impromptu concert after the cleaning ritual.
Clean feathers and chirping!
Jan 27, 2021 11:55PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
BevJen - Thank you. Today was much better. 👍
Astrid - That sounds wonderful. Too cold here for birdbaths. 🥶
Any Phantom of the Opera fans?
Jan 28, 2021 12:22AM MinusTwo wrote:
Oh Serenity.... Yes and thank yoiu. A sad ending to an obnoxious day, but lovely at the same time.
Jan 29, 2021 05:35PM CeliaC wrote:
Serenity - Yes, a fan of Phantom. Many good songs. Thanks for the reminder!
Jan 30, 2021 12:48AM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Not Broadway unless they've created a musical based on their music. Depeche Mode was trending today. They usually appear when I listen to the "Adult Alternative" stations. (I cried a little when I first saw that category 😓)
Jan 30, 2021 03:21PM SerenitySTAT wrote:
Always the Right Time for this:
Jan 31, 2021 07:04PM Astrid wrote:
Here ya go gals. Enjoy!!