Topic: Thin Slices of Joy

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Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by serenitystat

Posted on: Nov 16, 2016 01:20PM - edited Sep 12, 2017 10:09PM by serenitystat

serenitystat wrote:

I finished active treatment less than a month ago, and wow, you just don't bounce right back up. Before all this started I have had sciatica for a couple of years, and it worsened during treatment. In trying to recover from both, I've been feeling frustrated. Now, I'm tired of the pain, fatigue, and frustration. Oh, and all these pills! I've been told I'm not happy unless I'm complaining about something (yes, my darling husband, though he hasn't said it since diagnosis).

I recently read this article below and pulled out some sections. It reminded me of when I was younger and said "It's the little things...". I'm going to try it and will post my thin slices of joy as I experience them. Please join me so I can experience your thin slices of joy.

http://qz.com/818998/googles-former-happiness-guru...

Google's former happiness guru developed a three-second brain exercise for finding joy

Successfully reshaping your mindset, he argues, has less to do with hours of therapy and more to do with mental exercises, including one that helps you recognize "thin slices of joy."

Although they last two or three seconds, the moments add up, and the more you notice joy, the more you will experience joy, Tan argues. "Thin slices of joy occur in life everywhere… and once you start noticing it, something happens, you find it's always there. Joy becomes something you can count on." That's because you're familiarizing the mind with joy, he explains.

Tan's "thin slice" exercise contains a trigger, a routine, and a rewardβ€”the three parts necessary to build a habit. The trigger, he says, is the pleasant moment, the routine is the noticing of it, and the reward is the feeling of joy itself.

A small study by psychologists from Loyola University published last month in the journal Aging, for instance, showed that among adults over age 55, those who reported a better ability to savor life were more likely to report higher life satisfaction, regardless of ill health. For those less able to relish small events, poor health made all of life seem drearier.

Sep 12, 2017 Edited to add update on sciatica: Using postural alignment exercises and nerve flossing, my sciatic pain is gone. I have most of my mobility back, and I am no longer taking any pain medications! I have significantly less mental fatigue after I dropped my Lyrica dosage. Big joy! I need to continue the nerve flossing or else I feel the tightness returning, but that takes less than a minute of my time. It took months of slow progress with some setbacks, but I finally succeeded!

πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva
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Aug 8, 2017 09:53PM serenitystat wrote:

Great news, Coach!

I taught my kids to bake. It took great willpower, but I managed to resist eating any of the brownies made recently. I was happy to see the empty container. Whew!

πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva
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Aug 8, 2017 10:05PM serenitystat wrote:

So cute!



πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva
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Aug 8, 2017 11:37PM reflect wrote:

Happy one year PFC Serenity! Me too, right around now. My new hair is very curly and everyone loves it. It took me awhile to get used to it--it wasn't "me"--but I'm OK with it now, just need to find a cut I like.

Just got back from Jamaica with my daughter. We swam with dolphins :)


Hormonal Therapy 9/20/2015 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 10/1/2015 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 2/3/2016, DCIS/IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 7/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/25/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 9/13/2016 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary
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Aug 9, 2017 12:07AM faith-840 wrote:

Congratulations Serenity on your one yearPFC. My hair grew back very curly also but after several haircuts it was the same texture it had been so I'm sure you'll probably have straight hair again one of these days.

Faith Dx 1/1991, Left, Stage IIIB, 8/26 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/5/1991 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Surgery 2/4/1991 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Chemotherapy 8/19/1991 CAF Dx 1/2016, ILC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 1/23/2016 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 1/23/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Reconstruction (Left): Nipple reconstruction, Nipple tattoo, Silicone implant, Tissue Expander Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Aug 9, 2017 06:04PM serenitystat wrote:

reflect - Congratulations on your anniversary! Were you in a pool with the dolphins? They are so graceful. We went on a wild dolphin tour a few years ago where a boat took us to where they think dolphins will be. We were snorkeling, and spinner dolphins swam all around us. They were spinner dolphins, so every so often they would spin in the air.

Faith - Yes, I think my hair will go back to being straight. I think the strands are getting as thick as they used to be. I have a haircut tomorrow.

Got cooking root beer today. Never had it before, but it's yummy. Actually has 5.9% alc./vol. Think my husband has created a monster. I don't drink beer, but this is good. Cheers!

πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva
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Aug 10, 2017 04:43PM ScotBird wrote:

That just made me realise, I really like my short curly hair (it was longer and straight before chemo). I also really like my post surgery breasts, which are scarred, but smaller, nicely lifted and not at all saggy. Also I'm really pleased that I've lost 20lbs in the last few months, by dieting and exercising. Am I starting to sound a tiny bit vain? I've bought quite a bit of new make up recently too, which I never used to wear much. I find it makes quite a difference to my mood when I wear it. Everyone is used to seeing me with no make up, so I get lots of compliments, which is always nice!

Serenity you are not at all boring your thread is my absolute favourite. Also you helped so much with my hip pain, which is so much better, too. I hope yours is also much improved. Thank you!!! X

ScotBird Dx 1/18/2016, IDC, Right, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 1/28/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 6/8/2016 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right Radiation Therapy 7/25/2016 Breast
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Aug 10, 2017 06:41PM - edited Aug 10, 2017 06:42PM by serenitystat

ScotBird - Not vain at all! You're appreciating what you have! I still haven't had reconstruction, so I'm not thrilled with what I have, but I don't dwell on it. My sciatica is so much better. I haven't taken a muscle relaxant in over 2 weeks. I'm tapering off Lyrica very slowly. When I exercise, I might have some sciatic pain, but it doesn't last long. I'm glad yours is better as well. Great job on weight loss!

I finally got my hair cut, and I feel better about it. It's growing in straight, and the wavy ends just made it hard to control. The ends kept wanting to curl out. I fixed that by cutting them off! Now the hair at the top needs to catch up. It isn't as thick or healthy as the back.


πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva
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Aug 10, 2017 09:21PM faith-840 wrote:

Looks like a great haircut Serenity, nothing like a new haircut and in my case, color, some makeup and some weight loss to make you feel good. I call my haircut and color. "Clip and dip"! Makes me feel like a new person

Faith Dx 1/1991, Left, Stage IIIB, 8/26 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/5/1991 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Surgery 2/4/1991 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Chemotherapy 8/19/1991 CAF Dx 1/2016, ILC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 1/23/2016 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 1/23/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Reconstruction (Left): Nipple reconstruction, Nipple tattoo, Silicone implant, Tissue Expander Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Aug 10, 2017 09:46PM serenitystat wrote:

Faith - "Clip and dip" sounds good! You lost weight, too? Good job!

This dog is unbelievably cute!




πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva
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Aug 12, 2017 02:09AM serenitystat wrote:

Talk about a life well lived.



πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ . . . . . "Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) πŸΆβ˜•οΈπŸ›€πŸ–ΌπŸ₯πŸŒ²πŸŽ­ Dx-11/2015-IDC.L.IIIC.10/11-nodes.++- 12/2015-L.Mast 2/2016-4AC+12Taxol fasted 9/2016-Rads.Nodes.Chest-wall.15+4boosts 10/2016-Tamox(2.5y) 4/2019-Exemestane 12/2019-Ibrance/Xgeva

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