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Topic: New Normal

Forum: Life After Breast Cancer —

Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.

Posted on: May 20, 2020 09:03AM

e32 wrote:

Pretty new and fresh into this. Will there ever be a day I forget about this? I think probably not. But will things eventually feel more normal? 5 months in. I know this is my "new normal" blah blah blah. But just, will I not be so focused on this at some point?

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May 20, 2020 10:57AM Peregrinelady wrote:

Yes, cancer will no longer be in the forefront of your mind as time passes. I thought I would never stop waking up and saying to myself, you have cancer. But after the first year, my mind went to other places first. Work issues, family issues, daily living all take precedence. Staying busy helps and also self talk if I start to dwell on cancer too much. Being here helps at times and then other times I stay away to really forget about cancer. It also helps to realize that many people have some kind of health problem and that is part of life that we just have to deal with. Exercise and being in nature help me, as well. You will get there but each person has to figure out what works for themselves.
Dx 4/24/2015, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/18/2015 Mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 6/1/2015 Liquid tamoxifen (Soltamox) Surgery 4/19/2016 Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic ovary removal; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Hormonal Therapy 8/1/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 7/20/2020 Femara (letrozole)
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May 20, 2020 01:33PM e32 wrote:

Thanks for the feedback! Good to hear. I have a young family and feeling guilty fir having to focus on me so much. I hope I am paying good/enough attention to my kids and their health. The littles keep me on my toes 24/7, just taking care of their daily needs. But still this is somewhere in my mind right now bc I am still healing from mastectomy and still havingvlots of appts for cancer and other health issues I had before this, that require monitoring as well.

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May 20, 2020 01:36PM e32 wrote:

Thanks for the feedback! Good to hear. I have a young family and feeling guilty fir having to focus on me so much. I hope I am paying good/enough attention to my kids and their health. The littles keep me on my toes 24/7, just taking care of their daily needs. But still this is somewhere in my mind right now bc I am still healing from mastectomy and still havingvlots of appts for cancer and other health issues I had before this, that require monitoring as well.

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Jun 8, 2020 01:03PM - edited Jun 8, 2020 01:04PM by Seilien

This concept of "new normal " is crazy to me. I had weeks where I was obsessed with it. I never thought about it when I had chemo, radiation but after the surgeries, life is very different. I can adjust but not when I was in a debilitated state.

You are very right, having small children helps because they are so energetic! But I am always worried about spending enough time with my toddler when I've been a couch potato for weeks now.

It took me about 5 weeks after surgery to accept my "new normal". I'm not the same but I decided to move on. It feels refreshing. I was really annoyed by any sources telling me recovery takes time. I didnt realize how long it would take though and I beat myself up about it a lot during the rougher times.

Dx 7/30/2018, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, ER+/PR-, HER2+ Radiation Therapy 6/1/2019 Whole-breast: Breast, Brain Surgery 11/22/2019 Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 7/28/2020 Xeloda (capecitabine) Surgery 8/28/2020 Reconstruction (left)
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Jun 10, 2020 11:05PM havefaithtoday wrote:

I'm newly finished with treatments as well and working on finding my mew normal too. Some days are harder than others and these crazy times we are living in has not helped at all. But I'm working very hard on practicing acceptance of the way things are, rather than resisting it so much. Also writing daily in my gratitude journal.

Have Faith Today! Dx 10/29/2019, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/19/2019 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Chemotherapy 12/23/2019 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 3/23/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes

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