Apr 16, 2008 08:08AM nash wrote:
Sounds like your mom will be on Adriamycin, probably with Cytoxan. The shorthand for that is AC. Do you know how many rounds she's getting? AC is usually x4 if not combined with another chemo. With a taxane or with 5-fu, it's usually x6.
Everyone reacts differently to the chemo, so it's hard to say how your mom will be. The vomiting should be controlled with meds. With AC, the hardest days are usually days 3 and 4 of the cycle (infusion day is day 1), and for me, I basically just curled up in a ball those days and didn't move. Didn't have pain so much as just really felt like crap, and any exertion made it worse.
I'd suggest reading through the chemo board, too--you'll get all sorts of perspectives there.
My recently deceased Stage IV bc mom was on a variety of chemos for 5 1/2 years. My kids are 6 and 9, and my mom lived with us for the last 3 1/2 years. Between my treatment and my mom's, they have been exposed to all sorts of things. They have been through the deaths of three grandparents in seven years, all cancer, plus of course Mommy's got cancer. Some of this you just can't shield them from. But I understand your concern, and I won't lie--my kids were scared to see me feeling sick from chemo, especially my older one. She really hated it when "chemo weekend" rolled around. But we all got through it, and they're fine. In some ways it's better for them to see the reality of things rather to imagine in their minds what's going on. But you have to decide what works for your family.
You're a good daughter. I know how hard this is, especially having been both the caregiver and the patient. I actually found it much more difficult emotionally being the caregiver. Hugs to both of you.