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Mar 19, 2009 04:22PM
Well, I'll chime in here...
I'm 48 (49 next month), dx in September 08, lumpectomy 9/08, started chemo in November 08. I had 3X FEC, then 3X Taxotere--finished Feb 18. I started 35 rads this week.
I started this journey with a partner, but we broke up a few weeks ago. The cancer didn't cause the breakup, but I do think it was a catalyst. My ex-partner is a bc survivor herself (lumpectomy and radiation, before we were together), and I think my dx came a little too close to home for her. Plus we hadn't been together very long (6 months) when I was dx, so we didn't have a very firm foundation to our relationship. So I'm trying to come to terms with that--I wasn't ready to end the relationship, although I knew it would be ending within a few months anyway. Both of our lives are/were in a placve of change, and those changes would make it very difficult if not impossible, to stay together anyway. We were in a monogamous relationship, not a committed one. We still care about each other and remain friends, but it's difficult for me to get used to the change--for her too, although not as much since she was emotionally detaching already.
Wow, sorry, didn't mean to hijack this--now you know more about me than you may want to!
Other stuff to know--I have two cats (mother and daughter), a twenty-year-old son from a heterosexual marriage, and identify as bi. My hair is just starting to grow back in--white/grey peach fuzz--and I'm debating going commando (or maybe baseball cap) to the women's potluck on Saturday...
Can I also say that I cannot WAIT for treatment to be over? I'm tired of dr's appointments and having to think about this every day--not that I won't think about it all the time after treatment is over, but you know what I mean. All the SEs that are still hanging in there from chemo, the SE prevention for rads, the nagging thought in the back of my head--"did we get it all?"--the ongoing need for folow-up and wondering if I'll be able to get it...
Enough of me... Good to meet you all!