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Apr 3, 2011 12:36AM
Hugs to u and your friend. I am also stage 4 with bone mets to my spine. My original diagnosis was stage 2B ILC with 2 micromets in my nodes. I took AC chemo x 6 dose dense and 33 radiation treatments. Mine still came back. Its hard to say if having had chemo wouldve made a difference but my thoughts are that she shouldve had it. We are all different but its pretty common protocol that when someone has positive nodes, that they take chemo. I hated chemo but I'm glad I took it. My onc said that in her opinion, had I not taken chemo, it could've come back more widespread etc. Of course no one knows for sure. I had other precancerous lesions the previous year and I wanted the chemo to not only treat BC but to hopefully kill any other cancer cells looming in my body. I think your friend had a crap oncologist. As the other ladies told you, there is no cure for stage 4. I have had stage 4 for 4 yrs and 4 months. Total time having BC is 7 yrs. I'm getting routine scans this month but theres nothing bad expected etc. I'm on disability from the mets, so I cant work but I've gradually adapted to do the things I can do and enjoy life. I may be considered terminal by some but to me its like having a chronic illness..something like diabetes is treated with insulin..I'm treated with Aromasin and Zometa to keep my cancer under control. I'm thankful I've had this many years and hope to have many more. Its possible that I could live like this for a long time. I dont have false hope and wont give it either, but I refuse to let BC ruin my life. As long as I can care for myself, do the everyday things I need to, babysit my grandsons, read, crochet, sew and type LOL..I'm fine with how I am. Not being able to work was my biggest hurdle but I knew I had to get over it and I did. I hope your friend can get her BC under control too and be able to live a life that she can accept also. Hugs and luvs, Mazy
Bone marrow mets in 90% of bone marrow.
3/6/2003, ILC, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 2/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
12/19/2006, ILC, 4cm, Stage IV, Grade 2, 0/0 nodes, mets, ER+/PR-, HER2-
4/25/2012, ILC, Stage IV, Grade 2, 0/0 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2-
8/4/2012, ILC, Stage IV, Grade 2, 0/0 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2-