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Posted on: Aug 31, 2007 04:03PM
agn2010 wrote:My mother in law is not feeling any good these days. She is very weak and can hardly walk or talk much. Last week they drained more than five litter of fluid from her stomac or abdomenal. She is on Navelbine and this drug has really taken her toll. My MIL keeps telling us that she is really tried of fighting. It is almost like she is about to give up. My father in law, my wife, and her brother keep telling her that she needs to fight by eating a lot, exercising a lot, continue with the chemo treatment, and to be positive. My father in law tells her that he is spending all this money to make her good again and he will do anything to get there.
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Aug 31, 2007 07:53PM LuAnnH wrote:I agree, contact hospice. Honestly you and your family need to tell her that you will support what she wants. The person going through this battle knows when they have had enough. Chemo is very hard and exhausting. We continue to fight not necessarily for ourselves but our loved ones. We don't want to let them down or make them sad by leaving. When she has decided to stop treatment she will need everyone on board to back her up and support that decision. It seems a person will hang on until they are given permission to quit. Sounds strange but we need to know our family will be ok without us. Hospice can really aid alot and you don't have to wait until the very end of life to call them. They offer pallative services that really can help alot. Bottom line, you need to support her decision. Good Luck.
Sep 1, 2007 01:21PM joanne1428 wrote:I think she wants to hear that her decision will be respected and supported. And if her decision is to cease treatment, she wants to hear that it is OK.
Sep 1, 2007 01:29PM CalGal wrote:Great suggestions and points so far ... I completely agree. The only thing I'd like to add is for her loved ones to (maybe) go to the self-help section of their local bookstore or library and choose some books on death and dying ... or even see a counselor/therapist ...
Sep 1, 2007 01:30PM katie11 wrote:I can't add anything more to the excellent advice you had already had here, but I did want you to know that I am thinking of you, your mother in law and your family as you go through this difficult time.
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