Sep 19, 2012 11:37AM blainejennifer wrote:
You are in shock right now. I think we all were when we first got the news that we were Stage 4. As your treatment progresses and you get into the groove, you'll get your mojo back.
Here's what I've seen the ladies here recommend for a Stage 4 diagnosis: 1. A second opinion. Just to make double damn sure you are on the right track. Full disclosure - I didn't do that. I really trust my Onc. Plus, I'm in a small town; his practice is the only Oncology practice here. My second opinion would be one of the other Docs in the practice, and the tumor baord at the hospital makes sure my information is seen by many eyes.
2. Get support. You are on the right track by coming here. Sometimes you need the company of cancer veterans, when the cancerless just don't get it. Make sure your family knows what you are feeling and thinking. Remember, they are frightened too.
3. Make use of pharmaceuticals. Personally, I am on Concerta to address chemo fatigue (weekly Taxol, me), and I have Ativan handy for when I can't sleep, or my brain keeps sending me dark thoughts. Shut that down, darling. Also, pain meds are a good thing if you need them. It's amazing how pain can suck the fun out of your day.
4. If your veins are crappy, get a port. I never thought I'd say this, but I love my port. It makes chemo so much easier.
This is no fun, but we manage to have full, good lives while on treatment, and you can to.
Have fun (!) at chemo tomorrow. You've already gone through a few cycles, so you aren't a newbie.