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Aug 4, 2017 01:47PM
Aug 4, 2017 01:49PM
I don't always succeed but I try to look at intentions and odds of repetition and take it from there. Granted right now it's mostly based on Lymphedema sleeves since Xeloda kept my hair but looks like I'll probably need to deal with this a lot more starting in the next few weeks (done with Xeloda, moving to Gemzar and Taxol).
For someone I won't likely see again or at least not often who tells me I'll beat this or tells me how they (or anyone they've ever heard of) beat "this" I try to take is as sort of generalized warm wishes and say thank you or I hope so. Inwardly I may laugh at how someone should explain it to them but not me cause I'm stage iv and don't have the time, but I know they mean well.
For some of the crackpot things my mom says (what is it with our moms?) I'll be more blunt about the facts because my real life is going to happen around her whether she wants it to or not.
I've never had to deal with someone like the KFC guy, so I don't know how I'd handle that--I hope I'd respond with compassion and focus on how much that person seems to be hurting that they're looking for opening to let it out from *bald women in cars ordering chicken* (sheesh!)--but some days I know it would be an effort to remind myself to think that way and other days when I've just had enough I know that's even less likely to happen.
At least we have each other to "get it" with us, thank goodness!
(age 42 at dx, lived to see 47 and counting!) my blog: mepluscancer.blogspot.com, Xgeva 2/27/14, Lupron 4/10/14
4/2012, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 7/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
6/15/2012 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
7/17/2012 AC + T (Taxol)
11/26/2012 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
1/9/2013 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
2/27/2014, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2-
3/23/2014 External: Bone
3/25/2014 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
4/1/2015, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2-
4/1/2015 Femara (letrozole)
4/27/2015 Ibrance (palbociclib)
10/16/2015 Afinitor (everolimus)
10/26/2015 Aromasin (exemestane)
12/4/2015 Xeloda (capecitabine)
8/3/2017, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver/lungs
8/7/2017 Gemzar (gemcitabine), Taxol (paclitaxel)