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Posted on: Apr 7, 2021 10:11PM

DivineMrsM wrote:

My oncologist of 10 years, and her nurse, will both retire this year. I plan to get each one a small personalized gift. While I’ve always called the nurse by her first name, I’ve only ever called my onc “Dr. Jones.” Should I personalize her gift, a small keepsake she could put on a shelf or desk, “Dr. Mary Jones”? Or should it just be “Mary Jones”? I’m sort of leaning towards Dr. Mary Jones.

I get a bit emotional thinking of how they’ve really been there for me the past 10 years. In many ways, I’ve been spoiled, altho I know they do for their other patients what they do for me, so it’s not that I got special treatment. They’re just such a good team, like a well oiled machine, and I’ve been able to count on them since the beginning. It’s hard to put into words.


found lump 12/22/10~er+/pr+/her2- stage iv bone mets------------- Chemo~lumpectomy~radiation~arimidex------------- March2019/Ibrance-Aromasin---------- Sept2019/Verzenio-Aromasin
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Apr 7, 2021 11:02PM aprilgirl1 wrote:

Divine, I like "Dr. Mary Jones. so thoughtful of you! It's an important relationship and when we (patients ) have a great and caring team it makes such a difference !

recurrence in lymph nodes (superclavicle/mediastinal)"You can do it like it's a great weight on you, or you can do it like it's part of the dance." Ram Dass Dx 11/7/2008, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 11/13/2019, IDC, Left, Stage IV, metastasized to other, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Apr 8, 2021 12:13AM Sadiesservant wrote:

Divine, I also like Dr. Mary Jones and can understand completely why you would want to do this. It’s a funny thing, the relationship between your oncology team and oneself. I often think about gifts but have held back for the typical occasions but this one is pretty significant. I think it’s lovely and will be much appreciated.

Dx 4/2001, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 1/10 nodes, ER+ Surgery 5/11/2001 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary Chemotherapy 6/7/2001 CEF Radiation Therapy 12/17/2001 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 12/20/2001 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/2/2007 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy 10/22/2007 Arimidex (anastrozole) Dx 1/3/2017, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 1/27/2017 Taxol (paclitaxel) Hormonal Therapy 3/29/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole) Targeted Therapy 4/20/2017 Ibrance (palbociclib) Dx 10/12/2017, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to other Chemotherapy 10/21/2017 Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy 11/15/2017 External: Bone Hormonal Therapy 1/19/2018 Faslodex (fulvestrant) Radiation Therapy 8/2/2018 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 11/5/2018 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 10/10/2019 Verzenio Radiation Therapy 11/3/2020 External: Bone Dx 1/22/2021, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/4/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Apr 8, 2021 09:42AM jobur wrote:

Mrs M, I am also in favor of Dr. Mary Jones. I am so sorry you are losing your beloved mo to retirement. I truly love my mo, she has been so good to me and I can't imagine not having her as my partner as we go through the "journey" of living with mbc. I got a little choked up just reading your post. Congrats to your mo on her retirement, and hope your new doc will treat you just as well for another 10 years.

The unaimed arrow never misses. (From a Maui rules T shirt) What do you know, and what do you just believe?" Linda Hogan "Power" Surgery 7/1/2014 Lumpectomy: Left Dx 8/1/2014, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 4/7 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 8/4/2014 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 4/30/2015 Faslodex (fulvestrant) Targeted Therapy 8/17/2015 Ibrance (palbociclib) Dx 11/20/2018, IDC, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 12/4/2018 Aromasin (exemestane) Targeted Therapy 1/1/2019 Afinitor (everolimus) Hormonal Therapy 7/15/2019 Faslodex (fulvestrant) Targeted Therapy 7/17/2019 Piqray (alpelisib) Targeted Therapy 1/12/2021 Nerlynx Chemotherapy 3/14/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Apr 9, 2021 12:14PM terri-c wrote:

I agree with adding the Dr. My oncologist had a baby a couple of years ago. I got her a baby gift, and I addressed the card to Dr. I haven't called her by her first name ever.

Dx 7/7/2011, IDC, <1cm, Stage I, Grade 1, 0/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 4/7/2014, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver/lungs/other, Grade 2, 0/9 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+

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