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TWO Zoom Virtual Meet-ups for those with a metastatic breast cancer diagnosis.
Every Monday, 2-3 pm, ET
Register in advance for this meeting.
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Every Wednesday, 4-5 pm, ET
Register in advance for this meeting
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Hope to see you at one of the meetups.
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fredntan, we're so sorry to hear this! We hope he is safe and that you hear from him soon, so you at least know he is ok (or that you hear from his docs who can confirm!). We hope your daughter is feeling well, as well!
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Mar 7, 2022 08:59PM
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thank you.
MBC bone mets, afinitor,aromasin,xgeva
Dx
8/3/2011, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 13/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
9/9/2011 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Right)
Radiation Therapy
3/29/2012 Breast, Lymph nodes
Surgery
10/8/2012 Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap
Surgery
4/3/2013 Reconstruction (Left): Nipple reconstruction; Reconstruction (Right): Nipple reconstruction
Dx
10/2013, Stage IV, mets, HER2-
Chemotherapy
11/20/2013 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil)
Hormonal Therapy
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Mar 8, 2022 06:39AM
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fredntan, I’m so sorry. I hope you hear from him soon and that your daughter gets over Covid quickly
De Novo ILC - No primary found. Mets to full spine, femurs, skull, and stomach.
Dx
5/1/2019, ILC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Hormonal Therapy
9/20/2021 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
Chemotherapy
9/27/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine)
Hormonal Therapy
Femara (letrozole)
Targeted Therapy
Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Mar 8, 2022 12:31PM
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my husband came home last night about 10. I assumed he was drunk...so I didn't try to talk to him. It usually doesn't help. He came downstairs about a hr ago....about 1030 am here. Got his coffee..
Went back upstairs. He says the pain in gone? Thinks he passed the stone? I reminded him about the urology appt I had made for him at 3:30 for today. He said he maybe should go???
I know he is upset I have told my sister and the one daughter how he is acting
I have frankly been thinking of divorce for many years...I think it is time now. We live together. But not really?
MBC bone mets, afinitor,aromasin,xgeva
Dx
8/3/2011, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 13/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
9/9/2011 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Right)
Radiation Therapy
3/29/2012 Breast, Lymph nodes
Surgery
10/8/2012 Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap
Surgery
4/3/2013 Reconstruction (Left): Nipple reconstruction; Reconstruction (Right): Nipple reconstruction
Dx
10/2013, Stage IV, mets, HER2-
Chemotherapy
11/20/2013 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil)
Hormonal Therapy
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Mar 8, 2022 01:48PM
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Fredntan,
My heart hurts for you. I am not big on giving advice since we are all in different circumstances but I will tell you my personal experience. I was married for 23 years to a man who was a narcissist and an alcoholic but was quite functional so outwardly everything looked great. However 23 years of this plus the accompanying lying and verbal abuse finally took it’s toll. Shortly after my 50th birthday I decided I couldn’t live the rest of my lifelike this and divorced him. My only regret? I wish I had done it sooner. This was before my bc dx but I know he would have made it more difficult. He also would have made it all about himself. Again, no advice just a personal anecdote to illustrate that it is possible to thrive even after ending a long term marriage. Take good care
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IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, Grade 1, 1/15 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Mar 8, 2022 06:37PM
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thank you
I sent you a pm exbrnxgrl.
When this current crisis passes.....I need to move on. I have stayed with my husband mainly because of the health insurance. I thought I needed someone with me? But he won't even take out trash. He just isn't there for me?
I went to lunch today with a friend. Made me feel much better. I have reached out to try and find a therapist for myself again.
I know I'm not the only one with a verbally abusive alcoholic spouse? I am keeping the 17 cursing texts he sent me.
MBC bone mets, afinitor,aromasin,xgeva
Dx
8/3/2011, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 13/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
9/9/2011 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Right)
Radiation Therapy
3/29/2012 Breast, Lymph nodes
Surgery
10/8/2012 Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap
Surgery
4/3/2013 Reconstruction (Left): Nipple reconstruction; Reconstruction (Right): Nipple reconstruction
Dx
10/2013, Stage IV, mets, HER2-
Chemotherapy
11/20/2013 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil)
Hormonal Therapy
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fredntan,
I didn’t get a pm. This may be due to the site problems. Will send you a test pm
Dx
IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, Grade 1, 1/15 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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As mentioned in zoom today, here’s my Instagram info below. I have two accounts, the top is a place for all my mountain life/cooking photos and the bottom is my real life posts and updates on cancer, travel, hobbies. They’re public, feel free to check out any, all or none 🙂 (I’m not very active on Facebook, it’s not a happy place in general)

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo
Dx
11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+
Chemotherapy
1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel)
Targeted Therapy
1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab)
Targeted Therapy
1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab)
Surgery
6/26/2017 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal
Radiation Therapy
8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes
Dx
10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+
Radiation Therapy
10/20/2017 External
Local Metastases
10/20/2017 Brain
Radiation Therapy
4/18/2018 External
Local Metastases
4/18/2018 Brain
Radiation Therapy
5/23/2019 External
Local Metastases
5/23/2019 Brain
Surgery
1/22/2020
Radiation Therapy
2/17/2020 External
Local Metastases
2/17/2020 Brain
Radiation Therapy
7/20/2020 External
Local Metastases
7/20/2020 Radiation therapy: Bone
Radiation Therapy
12/4/2020 External
Local Metastases
12/4/2020 Brain
Targeted Therapy
Tukysa (tucatinib)
Chemotherapy
Xeloda (capecitabine)
Hormonal Therapy
Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Mar 14, 2022 03:59PM
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Thank you, Mae
De Novo ILC - No primary found. Mets to full spine, femurs, skull, and stomach.
Dx
5/1/2019, ILC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Hormonal Therapy
9/20/2021 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
Chemotherapy
9/27/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine)
Hormonal Therapy
Femara (letrozole)
Targeted Therapy
Ibrance (palbociclib)
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I’ll be missing today’s zoom since were on the road but I’ll see you all next Monday. It’s a nice drive though and the Texas Bluebonnets are beautiful.

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo
Dx
11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+
Chemotherapy
1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel)
Targeted Therapy
1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab)
Targeted Therapy
1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab)
Surgery
6/26/2017 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal
Radiation Therapy
8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes
Dx
10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+
Radiation Therapy
10/20/2017 External
Local Metastases
10/20/2017 Brain
Radiation Therapy
4/18/2018 External
Local Metastases
4/18/2018 Brain
Radiation Therapy
5/23/2019 External
Local Metastases
5/23/2019 Brain
Surgery
1/22/2020
Radiation Therapy
2/17/2020 External
Local Metastases
2/17/2020 Brain
Radiation Therapy
7/20/2020 External
Local Metastases
7/20/2020 Radiation therapy: Bone
Radiation Therapy
12/4/2020 External
Local Metastases
12/4/2020 Brain
Targeted Therapy
Tukysa (tucatinib)
Chemotherapy
Xeloda (capecitabine)
Hormonal Therapy
Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)