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Feb 6, 2010 08:31PM
No, AnneMarie, it was not too much to ask.
It really, really p*sses me off when our doctors decide they know better than we do, what we will want.... especially when those decisions concern our personal appearance, and when those doctors are male. REALLY p*sses me off. If I were you, I'd go back to your surgeon, remind him that you'd made your preferences precise and unequivocal prior to the surgery, and insist on a referral to a plastic surgeon to make things right.
I'd read about that sort of thing happening, so I tried to make it crystal-clear to my breast surgeon (surgical onco) that I was not planning to have recon. I said I was fine with being flat-chested and wearing a prosthesis. She kept assuring me that was fine; I could always change my mind later and have delayed recon.
Right up to the day of my surgery I sensed that she had treated women who'd regretted making a hasty decision; and I worried that she might leave me with some "unwanted options." So, as she and I had our last-minute discussion in the pre-op cubicle, I said I'd like her to leave me with a flat, smooth scar -- no extra tissue left behind, "just in case." She smiled and said, "Okay, so, no 'dog ears'." I nodded. When the bandage was removed the morning after my surgery, I was happy to see a perfectly flat, smooth scar, just as I had requested. I think maybe if I hadn't made that last request, I'd have had flaps, too.
As spar said, you can have that extra skin removed. I don't know if you need to wait 6 months. Are you having chemo? That would delay any subsequent surgery. Otherwise, I think you should insist on a consult with a PS to find out what's involved with a deconstruction of your surgeon's handiwork.
What an insulting, patronizing, paternalistic thing for a doctor to do!
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