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Feb 5, 2007 07:17PM
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. I think most of us can really relate to what you're going through. I haven't noticed my husband looking but also don't make a conscious effort to see whether he's looking or not. I know I do feel a bit sad and jealous when I see some great cleavage on another woman but I probably had those feelings to a certain extent before the mastectomy any way. As I get older (I'm 43), there are also more and more women out there younger and prettier so it's not just the breast thing. Overall, I am very comfortable with myself but to a large extent society values women for their looks and we can't help but be influenced by that.
I believe that recognizing our weaknesses such as vanity is important and can ultimately make us stronger. The fact that you are facing these anxieties head on and reaching out for help is highly laudable.
I find that working out and doing yoga daily go a long way to giving me a positive attitude about my body. I may have a scar across my chest instead of a breast but by staying fit and limber, I feel and look the best I can.
Have you tried yoga and/or meditation? Both can really help with anxiety.
Mets to brain, lung, eye, femur bone. Currently on Sacituzumab Govitecan TROPICS-02 trial.
2000, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
8/31/2000 Lumpectomy: Left, Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel; Reconstruction (right)
2008, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
3/2/2008 Mastectomy: Right
3/29/2014, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain/bone/lungs/other, Grade 2, mets, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH)
3/31/2014 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
4/28/2014 External: Brain
10/30/2014 Xeloda (capecitabine)
1/8/2015 External: Bone
11/16/2016 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
12/21/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib)
11/27/2017 External: Brain
8/21/2018 Femara (letrozole)
8/21/2018 Piqray (alpelisib)
4/23/2019 Taxol (paclitaxel)
6/19/2019 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel)
10/23/2019 External: Brain
2/18/2020 Trodelvy (sacituzumab govitecan-hziy)