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Topic: Gender Identity?

Forum: Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy — Discuss prostheses, swimsuits, bras, and other options for women not having reconstruction or waiting for reconstruction.

Posted on: Dec 23, 2011 03:42AM - edited Dec 23, 2011 03:43AM by MT1

MT1 wrote:

So I no longer have breasts. And I go flat.

Do any of you who are in similar places feel a sense of wonder at the construct of gender in our culture, the way in which we each internalize it, and how it comes out?

I keep waiting for someone to mistake me for a man.

My husband's best friend is a gay man. We went to a party he held this weekend and I swear some of Tim's friends think my husband is a closeted gay man. It is hard for me to be flat chested while thinking this through.

I have never felt truely feminine, never worn make-up, don't wear heels. I always felt my breasts were too big for my body type. Now, without breasts, I often feel more feminine than ever before. It could help that I lost 12-15 pounds this year and feel diminutive. 

I don't even really understand what gender identity means for me. I wonder what it means for you. 

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Dec 23, 2011 04:03AM - edited Dec 23, 2011 04:05AM by Momine

Interesting ideas. I have to say that what surprised me the most about this post-surgery period is how completely feminine I feel and how irrelevant the boobs are in the end to my conception of my femininity. That said, I do wear foobs when out and about, so I have not yet been confronted by the attitudes of other people en masse.

On the other hand, I am getting more and more confident in the face of this blasted disease, so even if others decide to see me as less feminine (whatever that means) I hope it won't have any impact on how I see myself, if that makes sense. Although if one could score some hot gay guys ... [just kidding]. 

I was never steretypically feminine, in the sense that I do not usually wera make-up, I like clothes and shoes, but dress like a sob half the time, never dyed my hair and rarely had it cut. But my body language and my body itself have always been very feminine, I think.

Dx 6/1/2011, ILC, 5cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, 7/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/19/2011 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 9/12/2011 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/8/2012 Surgery 3/7/2012 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 3/31/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 23, 2011 05:29AM snorfia wrote:

It helps  me to remember that gender identity is different from sexual orientation.  There are heterosexuals who fit neatly into the media-hyped sex roles, and then there are others (like myself) who have no use for such limitations.  If I want to wear a flowered dress, I will, but I refuse to wear high heeled torture devices on my feet.  I wear a foob because I think it draws less attention to my body, which is desirable to me.  I prefer for people to notice my scinitillating personality and original ideas, as well as my wild exaggeration.

Dx 5/20/2011, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes, ER+/PR+
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Dec 23, 2011 05:54AM nagem wrote:

Interesting topic! I don't feel my internal gender identity has been affected by my unreconstructed mastectomy. But I do feel my public image is more androgenous, so I compensate by providing gender cues like earrings and a little bit of makeup. I think I mentioned in another thread that my daughter, who was 16 when I was diagnosed, stumbled on some before and after photos and said, "Mom, you looked weird with breasts!" And I'm beginning to feel the same way.

nagem (underthestinkwoodtree.blogspot...) Dx 9/23/2005, ILC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 1/13 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+
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Dec 23, 2011 06:03AM fairweather9 wrote:

I still have my boobs, for a few months anyway..  I know I am going to have the right one removed and have been thinking about the left, tho healthy, just getting it done so I don't have to deal with it at a later date.

I'm what I guess people would call a soft butch lesbian, a tomboy of sorts, I would probably go flat if I decide to have both removed.  I in no way "want' to be a guy.  It has frustrated me when someone would come up from behind me and mistaked me for a guy, my dress and short hair I guess, because once I turn around they go all "oh sorry mam..." Its an ignorance I have learned to live with.  People have a view of what it is to be a woman, its a very narrow view for some.  Those people can just %^*$ off, I know I'm a girl, I like being a girl, just a different kind of girl.

Dx 10/29/2011, 2cm, Stage IV, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 23, 2011 01:26PM crystalphm wrote:

Wow, interesting!!! I think I feel more feminine because I have treated myself to silk camis, something I never would have considered before the mastectomy.

I think breasts are only noticed if they are extraordinary, over the top. Other wise, they are just sort of expected and not really noticed. I do understand how suddenly wearing foobs could look "wrong"...I get that and hope to get to that point myself.

It is all so much to wrap your head around, isn't it???

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Dec 23, 2011 01:39PM kmccraw423 wrote:

This is an interesting topic ... I tried immediate reconstruction which failed miserably and have put it off for 3 years.  I am not looking forward to any more surgery.  I have walked around flat chested for 3 years and no one has mistaken me for the other gender.  In fact, my doctor's nurse was about to do an EKG when i advised her I had mastectomies so she wouldn't be completely surprised when I removed my top.  She said she never would have guessed I had bilateral mastectomy.  I thought that was sweet but I was thinking "the flat chest didn't give me away!"  I will say my stomach didn't look so big when I had Ds on my chest.

Kathleen Dx 10/3/2008, DCIS, 4cm, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 23, 2011 09:22PM - edited Dec 23, 2011 09:25PM by cinnamonsmiles

Personally, I love being breastless. I love not having to wear a bra to hold up those D cup heavy things. I don't miss the bra straps digging in. Don't have to worry about the dreaded yeast infections every summer from sweating underneathe. I recently had my ovaries, tubes, uterus, and cervix removed as well. I don't have any problems with feeling less of a woman. I do miss my breasts occasionally for sexual reasons, as does my hubby, but it doesn't diminish our sex life.

Kathleen, I definitely can related to the big stomach and the D's on the chest. I am much more self-concious about the big belly than I am about anything else! 

I know that Brian's support and love for me has helped me accept things the way they are more than I could do alone. It started right from the beginning when he was the first to see my chest after surgery and was not grossed out about it at all...stitches, ugly looking things, drains, the whole shebang...Helped me immensely when I had to look at my chest for the first time by knowing he said it wasn't that bad.

I have sooo much crap going on in my own head that I don't think about what the world thinks. If I did, I think my head would explode!

P.S. I remember thinking my first time out last spring in a tee shirt that oh my gosh, the whole world will know I don't have breasts... what I learned is, I am one little piece in a whole big world and most people don't even look at me, let alone my boobs or the fact that I don't have them.

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Dec 23, 2011 11:17PM Tenmom wrote:

As a woman who has her breast I cannot help to think that those without are the most feminine of all. You fight this disease with courage and grace. That my sisters is the essence of a woman. These little boogers are just tissue. What makes you a woman is your mind and your heart. God bless you all.

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Dec 24, 2011 12:58AM Momine wrote:

Tenmom, as one of the boobless ladies, thanks!

I was thinking about this thread, and in a way I think that now that I don't have the boobs to "announce" my femininity I am perhaps more aware of the other aspects and therefore project them better.

Dx 6/1/2011, ILC, 5cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, 7/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/19/2011 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 9/12/2011 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/8/2012 Surgery 3/7/2012 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 3/31/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 24, 2011 01:12AM Lunakin wrote:

Melly, I think about this a lot!  Cultures are so variable.  Just thinking of art history and what the "ideal woman" looked like (from point of view of usually male painter)-- it all depended on the particular trendy fashion. Rembrandt with portraits of plump small-breasted women. Other periods with very different body types.

I've never understood why a female or male would be anything other than what they were just because of clothing or style. Why are women supposed to wear shoes they can't run in, and clothes that don't let them run or move comfortably? Why shave certain body parts and not others?

I had probably average-sized breasts, but dislike them because they got in the way. I always wanted to be smaller. Bras were so uncomfortable. Now, with a uni mx, skin with neuropathic pain, some trunkal lymphedema, and the bra & breast form problem, getting dressed is even worse. At home or when hiking I usually go one-sided. Scr@w 'em if they get upset; I should just wear a "breast CA awareness" button on the mx side. 

I'd long thought that if I got breast cancer and needed a mastectomy on one side, I'd just have the other side done too, and enjoy the freedom of never having to wear a bra again! Never worry about nipples showing, or straps slipping, or itching from rough fabrics. Never feel I was getting visually stabbed by snoolish men eyeing my chest. But when it really did happen, I didn't like the idea of going through yet another surgery. I'm still going back and forth on the idea of a prophy or not. If I did have "reconstruction" I want something very tiny, just a slight curve and fix the other side to match.

Yeah, the construct of femaleness, gender, gender roles, femininity is weird. But then I never liked pink.  And the idea that women with breast cancer should get given teddy bears for comfort makes me puke. Breasts are highly overrated I think.

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Dec 24, 2011 01:53AM debbie6122 wrote:

Melly- When i first had my Mx i felt very unfeminine not only did i have one breast my vagina was closed for the season, I did not know about scream cream at the time LOL! Anyway, I always am adjusting my foobie making sure it is aligned with my breast, I think about having recon but since i had lung cancer and they took part of my ribs in my back im not a candidate for that so im seriously thinking about having my other breast removed, what good is it doing anyway? I think i would feel more beautiful and embrace my self more with both gone, my answer to you would be enbrace your beauty with or without makeup and heels and just be yourself and have a wonderful happy life. It really dosnt matter what other people think if they think you are gay its ok, keep them guessing,you will have both genders hot on your trail. LOL!

Hugs and merry christmas

Debbie

masectomy, chemo, node positive Dx 12/20/2009, IDC, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 02:04AM Lunakin wrote:

Scream cream?   Do tell.

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Dec 24, 2011 02:06AM Kimberly1961 wrote:

I am the same person I always was, maybe always will be, but know for sure boobs or no boobs didn't and do not make a diffrence who I am.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=1WbQLN... Dx 7/2011, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 02:22AM debbie6122 wrote:

Lunakin- oh yeah, go to the search engine here and type in " the solution to painful intercourse" it will tell you all about it. All i can say is great stuff!!! LOL

masectomy, chemo, node positive Dx 12/20/2009, IDC, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 05:09AM kmccraw423 wrote:

I always thought a man's fascination with breasts was odd to begin with ... afterall, it is merely a mass of fat tissue meant to feed babies.  I am actually embarrassed when women wear low-cut dresses that have half their breasts out!  Then it really does look like a cow with udders waiting to give milk!

Boy can I ever relate to slipping straps, straps digging into your shoulders and underwires threatening to cut off your oxygen!  What drives me crazy is the incredible itching that cannot be scratched as the nerves were cut and I am numb there!

Kathleen Dx 10/3/2008, DCIS, 4cm, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 05:58AM - edited Dec 25, 2011 11:52PM by debbie6122

Bump

masectomy, chemo, node positive Dx 12/20/2009, IDC, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 06:09AM - edited Dec 25, 2011 11:51PM by debbie6122

Deleted after too many typos after drinking lol

masectomy, chemo, node positive Dx 12/20/2009, IDC, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 06:17AM - edited Dec 24, 2011 04:00PM by debbie6122

one thing i wanted to say earlier is i wished i would of had a double mx would of been better

debbie

masectomy, chemo, node positive Dx 12/20/2009, IDC, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Dec 24, 2011 08:39AM wallycat wrote:

There are days I really miss my breasts because of the sexual experience they provided me (as many women will attest the orgasm factor) but carrying around D cups on a small frame was not fun.  I hated bras, I hated the sagging and thankfully, I married a man who is not a boob-guy!

I remember when DH and I motorcycled from WI to Maine and off to Newfoundland and I wore the cycle jacket for protection, have short hair and I had more people think I was walking into the wrong bathroom then (of course the jacket did not show my boob size). 

Since my surgery, I have continued to have short hair but no one has mistaken me for a man; even when I go without makeup or jewlery. 

My boobs did make me feel feminine and they certainly attracted a LOT of male attention, but I swear the first time I walked past a group of guys at the coffee machine at th office, and no one lifted their heads to stare, what a freeing experience!!  I ran home elated to tell DH I could finally walk by without leers Cool

I don't think being boobless has made me any less of a woman, but I do think cancer has made me less of a person...the worry, the side effects, the anxiety, the carefree times.  Cancer robbed me, with or without boobs.

Dx 4/07 1 month before turning 50; ILC 1.8cm, ER+/PR+, HER2 neg., Stage 1, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes. Onco score 20, Bilateral Mast., tamoxifen 3-1/2 years, arimidex-completed 4/20/2012
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Dec 24, 2011 12:01PM Blessings2011 wrote:

When I was younger and single, I felt "feminine" because I looked like society told me to. I felt cute and sassy and had rather fetching boobs and cleavage that I worked to my advantage.But eventually, that got very tiring, and very unsatisfying.

I didn't marry until six years ago, at the age of 55. By then, "looking good" had more to do with feeling good in elastic waistbands and flat shoes than it did with a hoochie mama top. And soon "the girls" were swelling out of their 38DD confinement and pointing due south, ending up just north of my waist.

Somewhere around that time, I had a monumental change in how I perceived "feminine" and "womanly".  After hitting menopause, I realized that among my friends, body image was fleeting, and finally we were putting more emphasis on things like character, personality, intelligence, caring, and humor.

It also helped that I'd had a mom who'd undergone a radical mastectomy (with no recon) when I was just a young woman. It never changed who my mom was, except that I would always see her as a warrior.

After my cancer diagnosis, my DH and I discussed my options. I asked him how much he liked my breasts. He said "They're really nice, but I'd rather have you." And now this same husband has stood beside me every step of the way since my surgery. He loves my body for what it is, scars and all. I do too.

I wanted to have the BMX because I thought it was the best course of action for me. I wanted to have the TEs and implants, not because I thought it would make me more feminine, but because I wanted to be reminded that I still have a healthy body that needs more attention than I've been giving it. If for any reason this doesn't work, then I have no problems at all going au naturel.

I am who I am.

Dx 9/15/2011, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/4/2011 Lymph node removal: Left; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 8/21/2012 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Hormonal Therapy 9/4/2012 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 10/21/2013 Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 28, 2011 04:13AM MT1 wrote:

Even when I was young I shirked what was expected of me as a female person. I have never quite liked the mainstream view of what being female means, it is just that in light of the changes to my body, I now think about this topic in a new way. I by no means feel less than or compromised by having had cancer or deciding to go bilat without reconstruction. Not in the least. 

It is the ambiguity of not having breasts and how that is perceived by others and then by myself that interests me.  

I have always felt feminine in my own way, with my own, personal constructs. But before no one else could see, experience or question my thoughts because they were 'hidden' behind a 'normal' facade. I know that generally, people don't look at or see my (new) body. And for as much as I question what gender means to me, no one has mistaken me for a man. Not yet, and they may never.

But gender has come to the forefront of my mind and  so I am thinking about it.

When I was growing up I wanted to be able to be androgynous.  But, from a very early age I had large breasts, 34D, and there is hardly a way to be androgynous with large breasts. In a way, I am living in a perfect world for myself. Now I can have it all. I am a woman, I can go androgynous, I no longer have large breasts that nail down a specific gender statement.

I know there is room for whatever this new version of me is. 

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Dec 28, 2011 08:42AM Starak wrote:

MellyT:  Funny, I can relate to many of the same thought processes.  The objectifying that comes with having enormous breasts was just at best downright annoying, at worst with that seemingly being my only worth. I too liked and admired a certain level of an androgynous look, whether to push back to the world's opinion and reaction to large breasts, I don't know.  I do know that the conversation in my head, in relationships, from clear back in my 20's, often asked the question "what if I had cancer and had to remove them - are the breasts all they care about?"  I pushed back hard against that concept and made a life decision that I would never let the breasts define me or determine my worth.  Perhaps it was that life decision and those decades of running it through my mind that made this transition easier for me to embrace. It was okay for a man to love my long legs or something else, but never was comfortable with and never appreciated them paying too much attention to the breasts.  I too feel I am now living in a perfect world though I am actually more likely now to always have the gender clues even with a little more androgynous look.  The internal conversation has on occasion asked if I might be perceived as a transgender in transition.   I would think that if someone asked themselves that question, would they then ask if that was the case, why the earrings, the makeup, and nothing in the behavior or look that is clearly masculine. Like you I have never been mistaken for a man and seriously doubt I ever will be.  Did ask a couple of men I know if the flat chest ever made them think I looked like a man.  They said No Way!! and burst out laughing.  While I sometimes like androgynous looks, I am underneath it all 100% girl, and have never wanted to be anything else. As women we are given so much more latitude than men.  If you think about it, sometimes that pushing the boundary is actually incredibly feminine. Think about the little girl who prances out in her Daddy's t-shirt or a young woman wearing her underwear and her boyfriend's shirt.  They just look incredibly feminine. 

Interesting topic.

Barbara

Freed 'em when they tried to kill me. BMX, no recon, center dog ears removed, currently living flat but still tending an extensive foob and mx bra experimental farm in the back of the closet.
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Dec 28, 2011 10:27AM - edited Dec 28, 2011 10:29AM by brazos58

Thank you for sharing all of your thoughts. I can relate to alot.

I have always been a tom boy running away from pink and not liking getting dressy. My Feminine side has always been more of my Spirit and knowing there is no one out there as unique as I am.... that is what is alluring and without a doubt feminine.

My worst thoughts were please don't think I am Chaz Bono and that I am a Plank. But I moved past that. I walk with Ethereal Boobies. I feel I have a lot of Guts putting myself out there Flat and being an example on loving myself...

Breast Cancer has changed me on every level. I always know I am a Roaring Woman.

I am just glad to be here... had a Stage iv scare this year/ and wear 6 pieces of compression gear....my sleeve is midnight lace. I have never worn lace before... go figure!

Blessings and Love to you all

Brazos

NO RECON Amazon LymphaDiva Dx 4/29/2010, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 5/16/2010 Lumpectomy: Right Surgery 6/20/2010 Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left
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Dec 28, 2011 10:44AM AlaskaAngel wrote:

I had perfect breasts at dx and was within proper BMI, and chose lumpectomy, CAFx6, IMRT rads, and tamoxifen. At 10 years out, still married x almost 40 years to the same guy, despite having both breasts I have no sense of gender but it goes beyond that. My sense of it is that treatment diminished not just sexuality but sensuality on all levels. My lumpectomy breast was fried by IMRT rads (radiation necrosis) and is pulling tighter and tighter, and is disabling my left arm and shoulder. I am considering possibly a left MX.

AlaskaAngel

Dx 12/3/2001, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (IHC) Surgery 1/3/2002 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Chemotherapy 3/12/2002 Adriamycin (doxorubicin), Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil) Radiation Therapy 9/10/2002 Breast Hormonal Therapy 11/15/2002 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Dec 28, 2011 10:48AM - edited Dec 28, 2011 10:49AM by LtotheK

I am a feminist, and all of my scholarship is on this topic.  Judith Butler's Gender Trouble is a classic on this issue, it will change your concepts of the socially-controlling gender continuum we all participate in!

I am very lucky to be in academe, and at a super-progressive faculty.  We are a group of gays, lesbians, hets, fems, non-fems, and just about everything in between.  What a relief to be a person first.  Women are so trained to be their bodies first, and it's not an easy task to remember that what makes us individuals is the nuance, not the norms.

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Dec 28, 2011 11:12AM CLC wrote:

This is certainly a thought provoking thread.

I feel very womanly.  No less so because I have one breast left.  I feel incredibly heightened.  My appreciation for my own physical beauty, my appreciation for the muscular lines I have developed through intensive exercise, my appreciation for my remaining breast, my increased awareness of my nurturing of my children, my patience for those I love, my impatience for all that I think is a waste of time, my appreciation of my husband's touch. 

I marvel at how little anyone notices the missing breast (though I am certainly lopsided when I go out flat...I have a D cup on the other side) and how quickly I forget that I went out flat. 

I am not sure if this addresses the question of gender identity...I have never felt particularly feminine...though certainly I am.  I have never felt particularly at conflict with being feminine...though I certainly have struggled with the confines that it creates.  For me, the mastectomy has not changed that at all.

The loss of the breast is just one more journey in the life of this woman.

Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. ~Maori Proverb Surgery 10/29/2010 Lumpectomy: Left Dx 9/15/2011, DCIS, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+ Surgery 10/7/2011 Mastectomy: Left
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Dec 28, 2011 11:33AM Janeybw wrote:

What a wonderful thread!  Thanks for starting it MellyT and thanks everyone for sharing.  I had reconstruction, but even right after the BMX with nothing more than bumps, I still felt very feminine.  These gender identity thoughts are definitely in my mind.  I have a good friend in transition from male to female.  He has lived as female for many years and the estrogen he takes gives him nice little boobs.  His mother died of BC and he is very nervous about the whole thing.  We had lunch the other day and when we were standing around still chatting after, I thought to myself--he still has a penis but he is no longer a he--he is definitely a she.  Gender identity is more than skin deep and definitely more than boobs or other external sexual cues!

Jane. BMX with TEs on 5/24/11. Tamoxifen started 6/27/11. No chemo. Exchange 12/16/11. Dx 4/23/2011, IDC, 2cm, Stage I, Grade 1, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 28, 2011 11:51AM nora_az wrote:

I had a BMX with immediate construction but had issues not with that but during the chemo phase. I normally have thick long hair. It all went away with the chemo. I remember one time my husband asked me to go to a business dinner with him. I found a dress, put it on (I didn't have my wig on) I couldn't find one that didn't show my port. I then really took a good look at myself and there I was with no hair and this stupid port sticking up out of my chest. I just started crying, there was no way anyone could tell me I looked feminine at that moment and I felt so damn ugly.

DIEP with nipple sparing mastectomy on 10/13/10 TCH started 11/26/10 Anastrozole started 4/7/11 Hysterectomy/ooph and VATS (lung) surgery 5/22/12 diagnosis Coccidioidomycosis, not metastasis to the lungs as they thought. Yeahhh Dx 9/3/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 2/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+
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Dec 28, 2011 11:56AM minxie wrote:

I had recon but I have trouble thinking of them as "real" breasts. Like if one were to be exposed, I wouldn't be embarrased, because in my mind it's fake. I should try that logic going topless at the beach, bet it wouldn't get me far...

IDC, lumpectomy, SNB, axillary ND 12/08. DD AC, Taxol. Then DCIS found 7/09, BMX w/lat flap reconstruction. Local recurrence 5/12, TN, 1 cm, node negative. Implant removed. Dx 12/4/2008, IDC, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs, Grade 3, 2/8 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 1/31/2009 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 7/26/2009 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right; Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap, Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Latissimus dorsi flap, Tissue expander placement Surgery 5/23/2012 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 6/12/2012 Breast, Lymph nodes
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Dec 28, 2011 12:09PM nora_az wrote:

Im the same way minxie. I don't view them as "my own" so I don't really care who sees them. Then again, a year before I found out I had BC I had a breast reduction and went from a 38H to a 36/38D. I loved my 36/38 D's.. but my 38 H's?   Heck those were just too cumbersome and obnoxious.

DIEP with nipple sparing mastectomy on 10/13/10 TCH started 11/26/10 Anastrozole started 4/7/11 Hysterectomy/ooph and VATS (lung) surgery 5/22/12 diagnosis Coccidioidomycosis, not metastasis to the lungs as they thought. Yeahhh Dx 9/3/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 2/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+

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