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Topic: Tired of Wearing Pocket Bras & Prosthesis

Forum: Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy — Discuss prostheses, swimsuits, bras, and other options for women not having reconstruction or waiting for reconstruction.

Posted on: Sep 15, 2017 05:34PM

SeeSwee6 wrote:

So I have a collection of various pocket bras & prosthesis, and am getting tired of wearing them.They annoy me. But, my flat chest & big belly looks weird. I try to wear print tops, different fabrics & styles. I'm 65, single & want to date.

Don't know what to do.


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Sep 15, 2017 07:59PM Moderators wrote:

Hi SeeSwee-

Have you checked out this thread on going flat? It's pretty active, and a lot of members trade advice and what has worked for them, you might find something helpful there: https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/82/topics.... We certainly understand your dilemma, hopefully you can find something that works better for you!

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Sep 18, 2017 08:30PM ravzari wrote:

Stop wearing them if you don't like them and focus on working to accept and enjoy your body without the forms.

If the belly is a showstopper for you that you just can't accept as-is, then it's time to work at reducing its size via diet and exercise to change it.

My gut was pretty emphasized after losing a pair of DDs (still is, though I'm working on losing it) but, whatever, my body is what it is.

If you're looking to date eventually your partner is going to figure out that you don't have breasts anyway; if they're going to reject you because of how your body looks, they're not the right person for you and it's honestly best to figure that out early on (or even right away) rather than waste your time only to find out later that they don't find you attractive.

The right person is the person who finds you attractive because of who you are, not because of your breasts (or lack thereof).

Prophylactic BMX no recon, June 2016, due to strong family history of BC. NF1 positive.
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Nov 8, 2017 10:07AM ksusan wrote:

My skin is still too sensitive to consider wearing an undergarment and prostheses, so I don't. Nobody seems to notice.

Mutant uprising quashed. Dx 1/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IIA, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/2015, DCIS, Left, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy Whole-breast Chemotherapy Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel)
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Nov 8, 2017 05:24PM Meow13 wrote:

you can always look into reconstruction there is no time limit. I am happy with my DIEP.

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Nov 8, 2017 05:44PM gardengypsy wrote:

I feel ya. I can't even go out to the mailbox without putting on the bra and prosthesis. It's one thing if both breasts are gone, another if you are lopsided. I am uncomfortable a lot and getting dressed is a pain in the ass.. I've spoken to women who've done Diep after several years of this.



Dx 10/29/2015, ILC/IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 1/9/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 5/23/2016 Hormonal Therapy 5/28/2016 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Radiation Therapy 6/6/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Nov 10, 2017 08:35AM herdaughter90 wrote:

My 90 yo mother just had her prostheses removed for comfort reasons. Looking for padded camisole/bralette options. Doesn’t want use silicone or other prosthetics. Actually looking for good padded camisole or bralette recommendation. Like what pre-teen girls wear.... Thx ladies!

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Nov 10, 2017 08:59AM xxyzed wrote:

I wear the amoena valetta camisoles. They are expensive but I like the light compression and padding they give you.
Dx 5/17/2016, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Grade 3, HER2+ (IHC) Surgery 5/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 6/9/2016, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, 20/20 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ (DUAL) Chemotherapy 7/7/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 11/20/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery 9/26/2017 Targeted Therapy Nerlynx Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Nov 10, 2017 09:18AM - edited Nov 10, 2017 09:19AM by wallycat

I'm with Ravzari....

Having a traditional silhouette is everyone's desire, but life and reality smack us in the face and we try to deal with what is in front of us. I'm of the opinion that as we age, comfort should be more important than how people will judge us by how we look. That's just me. Is it hard? Sure, sometimes I feel like people are looking at my flat chest but I am comfortable. Life is too short to worry about how we look and what people think. Focus on feeling well, staying healthy and doing activities you enjoy where you can meet like-minded people. A good man (or woman) won't judge. As we age, we all bring more baggage and health crap along with us.

Dx 4/07 1 month before turning 50; ILC 1.8cm, ER+/PR+, HER2 neg., Stage 1, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes. Onco score 20, Bilateral Mast., tamoxifen 3-1/2 years, arimidex-completed 4/20/2012
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Nov 12, 2017 01:51AM gardengypsy wrote:

xxyzed-

Thanks for the camisole tip. They look great. I just have to figure out my size.

Dx 10/29/2015, ILC/IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 1/9/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 5/23/2016 Hormonal Therapy 5/28/2016 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Radiation Therapy 6/6/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Nov 12, 2017 07:04AM xxyzed wrote:

The amoena.com website has a size guide and I have found the measurements to be true to fit but I’m sure you could call them for help.
Dx 5/17/2016, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Grade 3, HER2+ (IHC) Surgery 5/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 6/9/2016, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, 20/20 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ (DUAL) Chemotherapy 7/7/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 11/20/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery 9/26/2017 Targeted Therapy Nerlynx Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Nov 13, 2017 11:31PM gardengypsy wrote:

Thanks again,xxyzed. Nothing I ever buy on line fits but I will give it a try..

Dx 10/29/2015, ILC/IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 1/9/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 5/23/2016 Hormonal Therapy 5/28/2016 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Radiation Therapy 6/6/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall

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