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Forum: Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy — Discuss prostheses, swimsuits, bras, and other options for women not having reconstruction or waiting for reconstruction.

Posted on: Dec 13, 2017 11:40PM

Jeremiah29-11 wrote:

HI! You ladies inspire me. 2 months ago I was diagnosed, stage 3. I'm 42 and it's been insane. Before my surgery, I ran across that Oprah magazine October issue on going flat and then finding the Flat and Fabulous ladies. I knew going this route was right for me so I cancelled with the plastic surgeon, got the bmx, and was home the next day and healed up at lightning speed. This was the right choice for me, no doubt about it. So, my hair started coming out in clumps yesterday after my first chemo round, and I was like, oh no you don't cancer, I DECIDE when my hair goes. So I grabbed the clippers and shaved my head with God as my comforter. Colton Dixon mix in the background. I then put on a pair of tight black pants, sexy top, makeup, heels, and with fresh bald head, took myself to the grocery store. You know what? I didn't fall apart or feel like a goat. I thrived. I strutted down that cereal aisle. And I felt like a million bucks. No hair, no boobs - SO WHAT. This is me. Thank you, ladies, for inspiring me to be me. A virtual HIGHFIVE to you all.

Dx 10/17/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 4/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/7/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 11/29/2017 TAC Radiation Therapy 4/9/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery 6/19/2018 Prophylactic ovary removal Surgery 12/10/2019 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap, Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 10/28/2020 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap, Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Targeted Therapy Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 14, 2017 12:19AM Momine wrote:

Gloria, welcome to the flat side :D Glad to hear that you are taking control and strutting your stuff. I am also a stage 3'er, diagnosed while still in my 40s. My doc asked me to delay recon, and in hindsight it was a good thing that he did. It gave me time to think, to research and also just to get used to not having any boobs, and realizing that it wasn't really such a big deal. I do miss them at times, and cancer generally sucks, not trying to say that it is all unicorns and rainbow farts, but life is good.

Dx 6/1/2011, ILC, 5cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, 7/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/19/2011 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 9/12/2011 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/8/2012 Surgery 3/7/2012 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 3/31/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 14, 2017 04:25AM Icietla wrote:

Welcome!

My latest (Stage IVB) diagnosis is almost certainly of another distant primary type. To the best of my information and belief, I am still apparently what we call NED as to breast cancer, doubtless thanks to Letrozole. Dx 2/12/2016, ILC, Right, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/13 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/19/2016 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 4/1/2016 Femara (letrozole) Surgery 4/25/2016 Prophylactic ovary removal Dx 8/2018, Stage IV
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Dec 14, 2017 07:20PM Jeremiah29-11 wrote:

Thank you!!!

Dx 10/17/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 4/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/7/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 11/29/2017 TAC Radiation Therapy 4/9/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery 6/19/2018 Prophylactic ovary removal Surgery 12/10/2019 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap, Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 10/28/2020 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap, Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Targeted Therapy Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 14, 2017 07:33PM - edited Dec 14, 2017 07:35PM by Icietla

Yes! We define our womanhood. We define our personhood. We are good enough. We are complete.

You look fabulous. I hope you keep feeling fabulous. You are fabulous.

My latest (Stage IVB) diagnosis is almost certainly of another distant primary type. To the best of my information and belief, I am still apparently what we call NED as to breast cancer, doubtless thanks to Letrozole. Dx 2/12/2016, ILC, Right, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/13 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/19/2016 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 4/1/2016 Femara (letrozole) Surgery 4/25/2016 Prophylactic ovary removal Dx 8/2018, Stage IV
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Dec 15, 2017 08:47AM ravzari wrote:

When I decided to do a prophylactic BMX due to family history, I also (after about a years' worth of research) decided against reconstruction as having breasts just wasn't important enough to me to go through extra surgery. My worth and who I am has never been tied up, for me, in my breasts.


Decided that anyone who wanted to judge me because of a flat chest wouldn't be worth my time and when my husband asked if I was sure I didn't want to reconstruct essentially told him the same thing and told him if he had a problem with it I'd get some breast forms and a bra for him to wear any time he decided he wanted breasts around (he thought that was funny at least.).


So far, nobody has really noticed or, if they have, they've been smart enough not to say anything as, let's be honest, making any commentary on a stranger's body is pretty rude; two women who have said anything to me said it in the context of being at the gym and wanting to know what kind of sports bra I had that 'gave such good compression for cardio'. They were also both pretty embarrassed when I told them I'd had a mastectomy, but, really, I wasn't mad at all (and they just thought I had small breasts to begin with and was in a really good sports bra) so it was all fine.

Prophylactic BMX no recon, June 2016, due to strong family history of BC. NF1 positive.
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Dec 16, 2017 02:49PM Snickersmom wrote:

Welcome to our world of flat! I so admire you for what you did! I was Stage 1A and had a BMX because I didn't want to have just one. I don't regret it for one minute, but I still am having issues with clothes that don't fit right, and also my shape. I have all of my weight in my stomach, butt, and thighs since I've been on Arimidex. Trying to exercise and eat right but I seem to be in a slump at the moment.

But now you have motivated me!!

Dx 3/24/2017, ILC, Left, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 5/2/2017 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Hormonal Therapy 6/11/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Dec 17, 2017 06:53PM glennie19 wrote:

You go, Gloria!!!

Fibromyalgia and Truncal Lymphedema,,, some of the fun things I live with. Total hysterecomy 9/29/14 Prophy MX Righty 11/30/17 Dx 6/27/2013, Paget's, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/6 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 8/8/2013 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Dx DCIS
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Dec 27, 2017 09:48PM Susaine wrote:

Great Madam!

I pray for your recovery.

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Dec 28, 2017 09:49PM ToughCookie101 wrote:

ravzari, that comment to your husband, good for you!

Gloria, your bone structure and eyes! You’re gorgeous!

The positivity of all of the women I have met on this board amazes me. The fact that I was diagnosed at 33 (tested negatve on the genetics), is a sh*t show. The fact that my tumor is in the axillary tail (apparently rare), even stranger. But the strength and positive thinking of the women I have met along the way, priceless.

Diagnosed at 33 after finding my lump myself. Dx 11/15/2017, IDC, Left, 2cm, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/1/2018 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 4/4/2018 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 12/6/2018 Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/17/2018 Reconstruction (right) Surgery 4/1/2019 Reconstruction (right) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone), Zoladex (goserelin)
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Dec 28, 2017 11:28PM Momine wrote:

Toughcookie, well said!

Dx 6/1/2011, ILC, 5cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, 7/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/19/2011 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 9/12/2011 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/8/2012 Surgery 3/7/2012 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 3/31/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 31, 2017 05:18AM MamaOz wrote:

gloria, welcome and you look fabulous!

Its a tough road and we are all finding strenghth in each other!

Snickersmom, hows the arimidex going for you??

Im achy but determined..

Wishing all A Healthy New Year

Live love laugh

Mamaoz

Mamaoz : chemo 1/.17-4/17 AC/.paxitacil : 3/29 nodes Dx 12/5/2016, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 3/29 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/20/2017 Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left Radiation Therapy 8/8/2017 Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Dec 31, 2017 06:29PM - edited Mar 16, 2018 04:58PM by rljes

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Finished Chemo March 2018, No reconstruction "Going Flat" Dx 6/26/2017, IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, ER+/PR+ Surgery 8/21/2017 Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 8/22/2017, 1/7 nodes, HER2+ Chemotherapy Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Hormonal Therapy
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Sep 5, 2021 12:49PM Kelhab wrote:

hi can someone please give me advice as to what im facing here. Newly diagnosed cant eat sleep or think. Crying all day since i found out 2 weeks ago. Idc in axillary tail through core biopsy. Had a double propholactic mastectomy 9 yaers ago. Did me no good apparently. Devestated and cant cope. Thx

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Sep 5, 2021 02:22PM SondraF wrote:

Kelhab - you may want to start your own new thread as these threads are quite old and people may not scroll down to your specific question.

"The closer we come to the negative, to death, the more we blossom" - Montgomery Clift Dx 9/27/2019, IDC, Right, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 11/28/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 11/28/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Prophylactic ovary removal

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