Jan 14, 2022 03:40PM mountainmia wrote:
My last comment on the subject (again with apologies the anxioushusband for overrunning his post) is that again, my husband was fantastic during my treatment. He went to most appointments with me including chemo infusions. He took extra duty in keeping things running at home. He commiserated and supported and loved me. He was great.
He went through something different than I did, though. I'm sure in many ways it was as traumatic, but it was different. anxioushusband, if your wife's diagnosis is cancer, you will go through something very difficult, for sure. But it will be different than what your wife experiences.
I would never try to own what my husband went through, or presume that I know how it affected him. WE did not go through being the spouse of a cancer patient, HE did. It's bad, too. But it isn't the same and we aren't the same person.
I actually think this is a good topic to discuss and am sorry if it has the affect of making anyone feel unwelcome. That is not my intention.