Topic: Anxious hubby looking for some advice/reassurance

Forum: Not Diagnosed But Worried — For those who are experiencing symptoms or received concerning test results, but haven't been diagnosed with breast cancer.

Posted on: Jan 13, 2022 04:10AM

Posted on: Jan 13, 2022 04:10AM

Anxioushubby123 wrote:

hello all, hope you are doing well.


so about 2 weeks back, my wife who is 28 and has no family history of cancer began to show changes in her right breast only. Her breast were tender and a long dent started to form. From the top of the breast towards her nipple. We immediately made an appt for her GP, and after visiting, the doctor told her she had some lumps under her breast. He gave her an appt to do an ultrasound.

Fast forward to today, we did the ultrasound, and the doctor was perplexed. He could feel the lumps and see the dent but nothing showed up on the ultrasound. No cysts, no masses, nothing.

Afterwards, we went to go see the breast specialist, he reviewed the ultrasound and said he was a bit concerned about the “fat placement” in the breast. After visibly inspecting and feeling the area, he decided that we should do an MRI. He did rule out, in his medical opinion, IBC which is a relief. Moreover he mentioned there was no swelling in the lymph nodes. He did also say that breast cancer is rare for someone in their late 20s, but without the MRI, if there was cancer, he couldn’t tell if it could be stage 1-3.

honestly, my wife is so strong and positive. But I’m such a negative anxious pessimistic person and I’m weighing her down, I’m panicking and I’m trying my best to not talk about it, google it, or show any negative emotions around her. So I found this forum! Thankfully. I’m just here to vent and see if I can get some opinions or just positive words on our situation.


thank you for taking the time to read this! Our MRI is in a week, so I’ll update when the time comes

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Jan 17, 2022 06:50PM bcincolorado wrote:

Anxiousbubby hang in there. Keeping good thoughts for both of you tomorrow no matter what it brings. It is great you are there supporting her and learning as well and it does affect the family as well as the person with the cancer. Keep us posted and remember you can always send messages to anyone you want and ask questions as well and most of us will respond with kindness and give you honest answers.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/1/2010 Mastectomy (Left): Nipple Sparing; Reconstruction (Left): Tissue Expander Surgery 1/1/2010 Mastectomy (Left): Nipple Sparing Surgery 1/7/2010 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left) Hormonal Therapy 1/15/2010 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole), Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Jan 17, 2022 06:57PM Anxioushubby123 wrote:

thank you so much bcincolorado!

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Jan 17, 2022 07:29PM tb90 wrote:

You will be there for each other and get through this together, no matter the outcome. Still hoping for the best.

Dx 11/28/2013, DCIS, Grade 2 Surgery 12/17/2013 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Radiation Therapy 2/19/2014 Breast
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Jan 17, 2022 08:07PM kbl wrote:

I’m here as well, Anxioushubby. Keep up the great work trying to stay calm for your wife

De Novo ILC - No primary found. Mets to full spine, femurs, skull, and stomach. Dx 5/1/2019, ILC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 9/20/2021 Faslodex (fulvestrant) Chemotherapy 9/27/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Jan 17, 2022 08:24PM dres123 wrote:

best wishes for tomorrow. We’re all thinking about you!


Remember, you are strong and you have each other. You will get through this, and you are not alone.

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Jan 17, 2022 08:32PM - edited Jan 17, 2022 08:32PM by serendipity09

Anxioushubby - you and your wife are in my thoughts. Praying it turns out to be nothing!

"You can't wait until life isn't hard anymore, before you decide to be happy" - Nightbirde
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Jan 17, 2022 08:54PM threetree wrote:

Really hoping for all the best for your wife and you tomorrow!

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Jan 19, 2022 02:27AM Anxioushubby123 wrote:

hi everyone,


just wanted to give you all an update. Everything came out clear in the MRI. She actually had a cyst in her other breast but the one of concern, the doctor said was just fibrocystic changes. He wants her to come in a bit more just for check ups, but as of now she’s clear!


I want to thank you all for the warm comments and the support, you got me through a hard time! I appreciate all of you, and I wish ALL of you nothing but the best. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

I have my notifications on, so if anyone wants to message me about specifics, I will answer


thank you and have a great day!!

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Jan 19, 2022 04:33AM jelson wrote:

Thanks for sharing the wonderful news. Now take care of yourself and your wife. You have both been on an emotional roller coaster. Even with good news, you can feel exhausted and deflated.

Dx 4/17/2009, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes, ER+/PR+
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Jan 19, 2022 05:00AM kbl wrote:

Anxioushubby, I’m so glad for you both. You can now take a deep breath. Thank you for letting us know.

De Novo ILC - No primary found. Mets to full spine, femurs, skull, and stomach. Dx 5/1/2019, ILC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 9/20/2021 Faslodex (fulvestrant) Chemotherapy 9/27/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine) Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy Ibrance (palbociclib)

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