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Jul 25, 2020 10:49AM
So sorry about your diagnosis, and no it's not the news you wanted to hear. That said, most of us go through at least one event which changes their life. I am now 11 years out from diagnosis, and have a wonderful life, even with COVID. About to go out and cycle 60 miles. I couldn't feel sorry for myself, having one sister who was born with Down Syndrome and who died at 14, and another sister who is bipolar. This was just as ElaineTherese says, a life detour. Not a fun one to be sure.
I did lose my dreams for a bit, as I was spending my energy going through treatment. They came back a year later. Then, I needed to dig out of the trifecta of a divorce, breast cancer, and the economic downturn which had affected my income. I got there a couple of years ago. Now, much to my surprise, I am having a career renaissance.
Since, I am supposed to be "retired", I never would have imagined this would happen.
One thing that helped me was taking the attitude that I was "cured until proven otherwise". This meant that I focused on living my life, not on being in the unlucky 10%. I was lucky that I was able to cycle throughout treatment, astonishing my oncologist (who had most likely said "yes" to cycling while not really believing I could pull it off). I don't expect you to cycle, but exercise is the single most important thing you can do for yourself throughout treatment and beyond, both for your mental health and for the survival benefit.
My bicycle beckons. Good luck, and get outdoors if you can. Read up on the benefits of exercise, and walking is fine here. My guess is that the path ahead is a bit different than you imagined, but there is no reason at all that it should be less than fabulous. - Claire
Completed all treatment (AC +T, lumpectomy, radiation and 5 years of AIs - anastrazole). Now celebrating every single day for the wonderful life I have been granted.
8/2009, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 1/21 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH)