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Jan 20, 2008 06:56PM
I did all my chemos alone. Back in 2001and 02 and this time around.
Sometimes there just isn't a neighbor around to help out. Sometimes family lives in another state. And most of the time, everyone you know is working during the time you have your chemo appointments.
I am very practical and like to plan ahead.
So I would do all the shopping that needed to be done in case I was down and out for a few days. I always had a supply of ginger ale and immodium and bland foods- everything I could think of- stocked the night before the infusions, enough to last for four days at least.
Driving there and being there alone wasn't bad for me. It made me feel more in control of the situation and I don't like to have to rely on anyone. I find you get a lot less disappointed if you don't rely on people!
The ONLY time I had someone here was after my bilateral and that was only because he insisted. My dad stayed that first night I was out of the hospital and I appreciated that. I did, however, break out of said hospital less than 12 hours after my 8 hour surgery and was home in my living room before my PS even got to my hospital room to check on me!
I am very independent and when you go alone to chemo it can be a good thing because you don't have to entertain the person who took you while you sit there for hours and hours. I got to know all the other patients and all the fantastic chemo nurses and it was fine.
I had my dad drive me to one where they said I would need a ride home because they would have to load me up with benadryl in order to get the taxol... turned out I was allergic to the benadryl and was switched to abraxane so I didn't have to bother my dad again for those appointments.
People always ask me- "isn't there some kid who can....." and the rest of the sentence is filled in with "shovel the snow", "rake the leaves", "mow the lawn", etc... well, I don't know about where everyone else lives but around here there IS NO KID that does chores anymore for people. Eddie Haskell is all grown up and running a Hedge Fund. So we single women have to do what we have to do.
Personally, I felt less like a "sick person" because I was doing all my own things like normal.
If you plan well, you can definitely do chemo alone with no problem.
BUT and this is a big BUT- I don't have kids. I have a 26 pound Maine Coon.
If you are a single mom I think you might have a lot more trouble than someone like me.
But just remember that you get through it. Somehow the things get done, the food is shopped for, the bed gets made, and the chemo finally ends and you are back to yourself again.
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