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Topic: Single life after a mastectomy

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Singles with breast cancer who want to connect.

Posted on: Apr 29, 2011 11:32PM

txkari wrote:

Hello --

I'm a 47 year old single, who was diagnosed with DCIS grade 3 in early March. The affected area is quite large ... 15 cm in one direction. I have had two partial mastectomies and they still don't have clear margins, so I will be getting a full mastectomy on the left side in a few weeks.

I guess I took the Dr's assurances that I would be OK, a little too much to heart. I was ready for a little surgery and radiation. I wasn't ready to be told I needed a full mastectomy. The reality of it hit me a couple of nights ago.

I haven't met with the plastic surgeon yet, so I'm not sure what my reconstruction plan is yet. My questions are ... how did you prepare yourself to see your body after the surgery? I'm rather large breasted (DD) so the difference is going to be pretty dramatic. Have you found that men can look past the changes in your body? Do they understand? I just want to know if I need to resign myself to being alone. Is there love after a mastectomy/reconstruction?

Thanks

Dx 3/4/2011, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes
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Jan 6, 2018 09:47AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Surprised there was not something about plastic bags with the warning not to put on your head as it could cause suffocation. I bought a pair of shoes and inside there was that packet to absorb any moisture. The packet said "Do not eat". Oh wow, glad I read that cause I was gonna eat it.

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Jan 6, 2018 12:03PM ToughCookie101 wrote:

Hah!! The funny warnings on products are hilarious. My flat iron says “do not use while sleeping.” That would certainly save time before work in the mornjngs

Dx 11/15/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH)
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Jan 6, 2018 01:00PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Ha!!! Good one TCookie. My curling iron says "Caution, can burn eyes" and my dryer says "Do not put persons in dryer".

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Jan 6, 2018 01:32PM Enerva wrote:

lol

Hi friends. Well so far so good

Second day taking MMS. Loopy

Trying to study for my exam next week. Keeping contact with my family to know what happens with my sister. So far very little improvement but we have hope.

The funny warning are awesome lol

Thanks for sharing lol

Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 6, 2018 02:11PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

E, hope is a good thing.

Ugh... bone chilling weather here. How are you faring E and June? I like the winter and the snow but this is cold!

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Jan 6, 2018 02:37PM Enerva wrote:

not Boken is brutal cold here -20 and windshield -43 SickTired

I don't go out I am indoor and in my PJ all day lol

Can't go out. Yesterday it was -19 I could not even breath. My hands froze no thanks I don't want to go out there.

Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 6, 2018 03:10PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Oh wow E, you r way worse than us. I just passed the bank and we were at 8 degrees without the wind-chill. We were -2 without earlier. It is sunny and dry so it sneaks up but dang, that wind blows in my back windows and I am under an electric throw just now. I will need get up soon to think about dinner. Stay cozy and warm.

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Jan 6, 2018 05:57PM Jazzygirl wrote:

I won't tell anyone what the temps are here in the southwest. You won't like me anymore! We are going to have other problems soon with too warm weather and no moisture though.


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 6, 2018 06:01PM - edited Jan 6, 2018 06:03PM by juneping

hi all,

didn't go out neither since it's just way too cold to go out at all....stayed home all day. and studied a little....boy this is tough. felt sleepy whenever i read the materials....Bawling

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 6, 2018 06:27PM ToughCookie101 wrote:

It is -24 here today without the windchill. Bring on summer

Dx 11/15/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH)
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Jan 7, 2018 10:47AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

I see they are calling for 50 degree weather here next week. This is crazy weather indeed. Being so cold the snow has stayed pretty and white instead of turning all mushy but our roads and sidewalks are still icy. I am getting restless.

E, how are you doing?

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Jan 9, 2018 11:23PM juneping wrote:

i wonder the same thing...E, how are you doing??

and Hello everyone!! how are you doing?? i am glad its warmer now....

cookie - sorry if i don't remember....how are you now? did you have your surgery yet? and how's your tx plan?

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 10, 2018 01:22PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

June, so how is the job going? Any better now that you have had time to adjust?

Well it's like spring time here. Jeez, talk about extremes! Anyway it seemed like a good idea to pack up the Christmas stuff but kinda sorry I didn't leave the greens, garlands and some things around. I gotta admit the place did look nice and cozy for the holidays.

Oh, and another moronic warning was on the large Tupperware bin that I packed up my Xmas stuff....." Suffocation Risk" (with a picture of a baby inside with the lid on). Now I know if I ever have grandkids not to pack them up in a storage bin til next Christmas.

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Jan 10, 2018 07:20PM - edited Jan 11, 2018 08:57AM by Enerva

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Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 10, 2018 10:30PM Jazzygirl wrote:

E- that retreat sounds like something you need. Might be worth asking the bc support group if something exists like that for you?

Good luck Saturday, we are cheering you on......

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 11, 2018 09:01AM Enerva wrote:

jazz lol I don't think I only need this I feel there should be something like that for all of us to go and meet lol

It seems such nice retreat though the lady said it was wonderful she said around 90 woman wee there 2 from Canada.

Anyway for sure I am thinking on planing a get away this year even if it is for a week to s nutrition camp where I cam eat healthy and enjoy some outdoor activities

I will post Saturday after my exam

Love you all

Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 11, 2018 09:13AM juneping wrote:

E - good luck with the exam!! and glad you met some ppl and receiving useful info...

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 11, 2018 07:16PM Jazzygirl wrote:

E- I found some resources on line about cancer retreats and camps.

https://www.cancerhorizons.com/free-stuff/camps-re...

http://www.foundationforwomenscancer.org/wp-conten...


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 12, 2018 05:10AM Enerva wrote:

jazz this is great links

Thanks fir sharing


Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 12, 2018 03:58PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Yes, excellent links Jazz. E, you sound good and glad you are thinking about fun things just for YOU. GL with your test.

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Jan 12, 2018 11:13PM Enerva wrote:

hi ladies well I am studyubg late tonight

My sister was hospitalized this morning.

And we'll let's say I am so sad knowing my family is dealing with so much but I have hope for her my brother was able to find 3 antibiotics which are been administrated through a catéter in her neck SickTired she is as if she is in a coma now . I just hope she pulls through but I am not sure she will be having any quality of life .I am behond sadness

Tomorrow this exam I really will give it my best but I must tell you I am so tired and stressed

Yes for sure I ll look into finding a get away this year just no sure whe or where


Sending you all hugs

Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 12, 2018 11:25PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Oh E, it just keeps coming. :( With all going on I hope you are able to focus as I know how important this test is to you. Check in after it is over and know we are thinking about you. GL.

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Jan 13, 2018 12:21AM juneping wrote:

E, i am sorry about your sister....GL with your exam tomorrow....

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 13, 2018 05:06PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

How did you do E? You done yet?

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Jan 14, 2018 08:38AM Enerva wrote:

hi friends

Exam was brutal

I honestly think I ll pass but not with high grade it was very difficult cuz many things I did not review were present . But is ok I just want ro pass this time. I don't want to fail cuz of the cost but no looking for great mark this time it is what it is.

My sister night was horrible they had to tide her to the bed cuz she wants to take all iv out SickTired

My brother is having a melt down cuz he feels he should not have brought her to the hospital al le die at home . My poor family is passing another storm

I will keep you all posted here is an old foto of us.


Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/18/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/21/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/31/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Jan 14, 2018 10:10AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

E, can't the hospital at least keep her comfortable? Your poor brother, but had he not taken her to the hospital he would be feeling guilty that he didn't. He did the right thing. As I recall you are the baby of the family. How much older is your sister? FYI...I have always liked you as a blondie.

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Jan 14, 2018 10:11AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

E, how long til you get the test results?

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Jan 14, 2018 11:15PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Hi ladies- back from my yoga retreat this weekend. I really needed it after a week of fixing many broken things from a furnace problem, to a car issue, and more. Another trip to the hot springs in this particular area and know E will especially like the photos.

E- we were asked if we wanted to dedicate the fruits of our practice to anyone, and I chose you. I hope the love and energy from the group this weekend helps you to persevere. Please keep us posted on how you are doing, things with your sister, and how you did on the test. I took some accounting classes in an MBA program I started and those tests were always wicked.

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 15, 2018 10:44AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Just lovely Jazz. I just want to crawl into the computer screen. It is all just so peaceful and serene.

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Jan 15, 2018 10:52PM juneping wrote:

nice jazzy!!

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

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