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Topic: Single life after a mastectomy

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Singles with breast cancer who want to connect.

Posted on: Apr 29, 2011 11:32PM

txkari wrote:

Hello --

I'm a 47 year old single, who was diagnosed with DCIS grade 3 in early March. The affected area is quite large ... 15 cm in one direction. I have had two partial mastectomies and they still don't have clear margins, so I will be getting a full mastectomy on the left side in a few weeks.

I guess I took the Dr's assurances that I would be OK, a little too much to heart. I was ready for a little surgery and radiation. I wasn't ready to be told I needed a full mastectomy. The reality of it hit me a couple of nights ago.

I haven't met with the plastic surgeon yet, so I'm not sure what my reconstruction plan is yet. My questions are ... how did you prepare yourself to see your body after the surgery? I'm rather large breasted (DD) so the difference is going to be pretty dramatic. Have you found that men can look past the changes in your body? Do they understand? I just want to know if I need to resign myself to being alone. Is there love after a mastectomy/reconstruction?

Thanks

Dx 3/4/2011, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes
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Jan 31, 2018 09:47PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 1, 2018 05:11AM Enerva wrote:

nice jazz

Thanks for sharing, is 5am I will prepare my juice and a toast with almond butter

I ll go to see my friend at the hospital and then I will go to my hospital to my blood test which is for noon.

I woke up with pain in my upper back and I think I know what cuz it. I wonder if you have the same issue. So I have a few brass which are crossed on the back ? I realized when ever I wear 1 it gives me pain in the upper back.

No sure why but I thought it was in my mind but now I wore it yesterday and today upper back is killing me. I will try to get a muscle relaxer or stop for a massage some where today SickTired


Hope you all have a great day

Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/17/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/20/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/24/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/30/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/23/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/26/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Feb 1, 2018 07:21AM Jazzygirl wrote:

E- your aches may be related to the hormone suppression drugs. My first six plus months brought a lot of pain to my body on those meds. It does ease with time. A lot of women take Claritin to help mange the aches and pains on the drugs we take. Ask your doctors too if there is something you can take to mitigate the pain as your body adjusts to the lowering of your estrogen.

I hope the visit to see your friend goes well and that the blood work suggests things are moving in the right direction as well. Let's hope February is a better month all the way around.


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 2, 2018 03:09PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Hey guys. E...another thought about your back. Mayb when u wear the bra you stand up straighter? I have bad posture since my low back injury. Whenever i am conscious of my posture n try to stand up straight the upper back muscles get a bit sore.

Well my computer broke n i am lost without it. Life has completely stopped. I have a shit phone n dont use it for email or anything personal or financial so without my computer i cant take care of business. This sucks.

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Feb 2, 2018 05:08PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Sorry Bent, hope you are up and running again soon!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 2, 2018 10:25PM juneping wrote:

jazzy - the moon looked red...??

Notbroken - ah, sorry about your computer....hope it'll be fixed without any issues....

E - i also think it has to do with the hormone med....my onco told me it would cause achyness in the body

Happy Friday.....can't get up lately....so cold just want to stay in bed.....zzzzz

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 3, 2018 07:36AM Jazzygirl wrote:

June- yes, the moon turned red with the eclipse that happened the morning of the 31st. They called this one the blue blood full moon because it was the second moon of the month (blue moon) and also the eclipse made it red. First time all these conditions were together in something like 150 years. We are fortunate to have big open skies here to see it perfectly this week!

Bent- hope to see you back here soon!

Wishing everyone a good weekend. Yoga this morning for me, followed by a trip to my spa this afternoon for a massage. I got a nice gift cert to the place for Xmas and will use that today!

Enjoy the Superbowl if you are in to such things!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 3, 2018 08:44AM - edited Feb 3, 2018 08:45AM by NotBrokenJustBent

E, no word on your exam results?

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Feb 13, 2018 10:22AM - edited Feb 13, 2018 10:22AM by Jazzygirl

Wishing everyone a positive Valentines Day week. Go do something good for yourself tomorrow!

This meme sums it up for me perfectly!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 13, 2018 01:05PM Enerva wrote:

hi friends I am back

I got home around 2am this morning so much happened

So every day it was a struggle with my poor sister changing her position in bed was a huge challenge also feeding her but 2 days before my trip ended she was able to feed herself

She is slowly getting better yet no feeling on the feet but yesterday the day I left she moved one foot small move but my brother recorded it so I can see with my eyes.

I will tell you more details later about every day.

I am so tire tmw is my big day I ll see the surgeon. Let's see what she suggest

Then I have blood work on the 15th


Love you all

I am glad to be back yet sad to leave my siblings in such a mess

Dx 8/27/2012, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/17/2012 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide) Chemotherapy 12/20/2012 Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 3/24/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 5/30/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 12/23/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/26/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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Feb 13, 2018 03:49PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

E!!!! I just logged on to welcome you home because I knew you would be coming home any day! I thought of you so often and hope it was a good trip. E, sister's recovery is truly a miracle. Sounds like more improvements should be expected. So happy. Yes, write more when you can. I am sure you are exhausted after your trip and you have some doctoring to attend to so write more when you are able. WELCOME HOME! I missed you!

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Feb 13, 2018 04:16PM Jazzygirl wrote:

E- welcome back and glad the visit was a good one. So good to hear your sister is doing better every day. You needed this time together!

Get some rest and focus on your upcoming apts and we will look forward to hearing some good news there too!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 14, 2018 11:29AM juneping wrote:

HELLO everyone!!! happy vday!!

i bought myself some flowers at the wholefoods....bright up my apt...hahaha...

Jazzy - totally agreed!! and use the $$ to travel......

E - welcome back!! please let us know how the appt go.....

notbroken - how are you?? did you get the phone fixed?? may be you can get one on ebay??

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 14, 2018 11:54AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

hey June. Happy Valentine's Day! Ha! I have been dreading this day and I forgot all about it today. Guess it is not such a big deal after all. :)

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Feb 14, 2018 03:22PM - edited Feb 16, 2018 12:28PM by Jazzygirl

Hi friends- heading to an art exhibit here for a gift to myself this afternoon.

June- good job on the flowers. My move in February is always to go a day or two after and score on half price flowers at the store. Having them on the day is super nice too.

E- hope your apt went well and let us know what the next steps are for treatment.

We are here for you sister! Heart

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 16, 2018 12:30PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Good morning and TGIF. Some pictures from a balloon that came straight over the patio this am (happens a lot here actually, but not always quick enough to get a good shot by the time I realize it is there).

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 16, 2018 03:36PM Jazzygirl wrote:

I scored on some discount flowers at the local Sprouts market today. They had these beautiful bouquets marked down to $1.99 so I got two. This is the combination and it has so many things I love from the day lillies, to sunflowers, a rose, some eucalyptus and more. The house sounds great!

Please and love this long holiday weekend and enjoy the three days if you have monday here in the US for President's Day.


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 19, 2018 10:37AM - edited Feb 19, 2018 10:38AM by juneping

jazzy - the flowers are lovely!! oh i love the balloon shot....like a postcard to me.

at work...no long weekend.....Snooze

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 19, 2018 10:54AM Jazzygirl wrote:

June- working over here too, trying to get a contract that has been taking way too long with a client this week. I used to love working in places that gave the extra holidays off like MLK, Presidents Day, etc. I worked at a university back east once that gave us a 3 day weekend every month but August. That was nice!

The flowers still look beautiful and so happy with when I look at them! That was probably the best deal I ever got on a bunch of flowers that size.

I know many here have much going on and wish everyone an easy week.

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 19, 2018 12:14PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

hey girls, Yes Jazz, the flowers are lovely. I had meant to see if I could track some down as a nice treat to me and to brighten the gloomy February. My men always brought me flowers and I never appreciated them, they seemed like such a frivolous thing but that is exactly why I love them now. Since I missed the flower sale I will look for a nice scented candle instead.

I was civil service way back when. I had a 35 hour work week, every holiday off, and our offices closed during all coastal rain storms and snow. Nice work if you can find it.

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Feb 19, 2018 12:42PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Broken- I learned to look for discount flowers or holiday plants the day or two after every holiday if I happened to be in a grocery store. I do it for things like Easter, Thanksgiving, Xmas and more. Seems like the stores are a non stop marketing opportunity to sell for each holiday. I noticed the V-day stuff was on the shelves a day or so after Xmas last year, no doubt the Easter stuff is lining the shelves now. I bought my flowers from a health food store that does not market all the candy & other junk. Just had the pretty flowers.

A lot of stores also have those past sale date flowers too (I have another store that always has a basket of clearance flowers). It is a nice way to treat yourself. I love fresh flowers in my home, especially in the winter months.


Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 19, 2018 01:49PM juneping wrote:

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 19, 2018 04:17PM Jazzygirl wrote:

That is funny June!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Feb 19, 2018 04:54PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

I like that June. My creepy ex was into my email. I was horrified but I had many make suitors at the time so if he got his cheap thrills from being a pervert voyeur then whatever. How pathetic was he?

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Feb 19, 2018 07:22PM - edited 19 hours ago by juneping

not broken- that's crazy. But glad that he found out you are being pursued

juneping.wordpress.com/ Dx 11/15/2013, DCIS Dx 11/15/2013, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/35 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

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