Topic: Single life after a mastectomy

Forum: Singles With Breast Cancer — Singles with breast cancer who want to connect.

Posted on: Apr 29, 2011 11:32PM

Posted on: Apr 29, 2011 11:32PM

txkari wrote:

Hello --

I'm a 47 year old single, who was diagnosed with DCIS grade 3 in early March. The affected area is quite large ... 15 cm in one direction. I have had two partial mastectomies and they still don't have clear margins, so I will be getting a full mastectomy on the left side in a few weeks.

I guess I took the Dr's assurances that I would be OK, a little too much to heart. I was ready for a little surgery and radiation. I wasn't ready to be told I needed a full mastectomy. The reality of it hit me a couple of nights ago.

I haven't met with the plastic surgeon yet, so I'm not sure what my reconstruction plan is yet. My questions are ... how did you prepare yourself to see your body after the surgery? I'm rather large breasted (DD) so the difference is going to be pretty dramatic. Have you found that men can look past the changes in your body? Do they understand? I just want to know if I need to resign myself to being alone. Is there love after a mastectomy/reconstruction?

Thanks

Dx 3/4/2011, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes
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Oct 18, 2014 01:38PM Enerva wrote:

ok I was watching a stand up to cancer program and learned there is a new treatment which is very effective, called inmunotherapy?  Hummm I wish I knew about this before even for myself. 

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We invite you to find out more about our individualized intensive cancer protocols , use of proven alternative cancer treatments, and our extensive history in helping cancer patients
achieve complete long-term remission over years, and even decades.

We encourage you to watch Video Testimonials or watch videos from patients and cancer survivors at YouTube .

Thousands of patients * just like you have received treatment and many of them have achieved long-term remission of the following cancers:

AdenocarcinomaBone CancerBreast CancerCervical CancerColon CancerEmbryonal TeratomaKidney CancerLiver CancerLung CancerLymphomaMediastinal CancerMelanomaOptic Nerve CancerOvarian CancerOsteosarcomaPancreatic CancerProstate CancerRhabdomyosarcomaSarcomaSquamous Cell CancerStomach CancerTeratomaTesticular CancerThyroid CancerUterine Cancer , and many other early and late stage cancers.

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Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)
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Oct 18, 2014 02:18PM jazzygirl wrote:

Piper- sorry about the stressful week at work, I can relate after my experiences at my client site this week. Glad you had your management back you up. 

And what a nice date you had. Sounds like a good friday night all the way around. You deserve some nice male companionship.

Enerva- I have not heard about that therap,y but think it sounds very good. The oncologists I have talked to say it is something in our environment that "flips the switch" for cancer treatment. Whether it is stress, environmental factors, etc., I think it an integrative approach is a great evolution.

Keep us posted on your sister too. Hoping the meds they are giving her will help.

Packing for my trip/conference that begins on Monday, and then will be going out later today for errands and exercise.

Hope is having a good start to the weekend.

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lumpectomy (Right) Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 18, 2014 02:21PM jazzygirl wrote:

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lumpectomy (Right) Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 18, 2014 02:27PM Enerva wrote:

ok I was watching a stand up to cancer program and learned there is a new treatment which is very effective, called inmunotherapy?  Hummm I wish I knew about this before even for myself. 

Government Authorities and Eminent Scientists
on Issels®
 
» 

Issels® Integrative Oncology, or Immuno-Oncology, is a very comprehensive, holistic, approach. Our highly personalized treatment programs focus with equal importance on both the cancer tumor and the cancer patient's internal environment which promotes the tumor growth.

Issels® experienced cancer specialists integrate advanced immunotherapy protocols with cancer vaccines, cytokines and cell therapies, which activate the cellular immunity, into our comprehensive immunobiologic core treatment in order to enhance all of the body's very complex defense mechanisms and optimize the results. This comprehensive strategy distinguishes the Issels® immunotherapy decisively from the mere administration of a vaccine.

Over 40 video testimonials

Our personalized treatment protocols also integrate novel research-based gene-targeted cancer therapies into the immunobiologic core program based on individual requirements. We offer specialized and personalized treatment protocols of standard cancer therapies if needed and still possible.

The Issels Difference is Our Innovation,
Long-Term Experience and Results in Treating Cancer

Issels Integrative Oncology, with individualized immunotherapy as its main pillar, was developed at the world's first specialized hospital with 120 beds solely dedicated to holistic cancer treatment including effective alternative therapies. This unique facility researched and employed immunotherapy, which is now considered the most advanced cancer treatment.

Cancer treatment specialists.

Issels Doctors Provide Extensive Follow-Up Even After Tumor Remission

We invite you to find out more about our individualized intensive cancer protocols , use of proven alternative cancer treatments, and our extensive history in helping cancer patients
achieve complete long-term remission over years, and even decades.

We encourage you to watch Video Testimonials or watch videos from patients and cancer survivors at YouTube .

Thousands of patients * just like you have received treatment and many of them have achieved long-term remission of the following cancers:

AdenocarcinomaBone CancerBreast CancerCervical CancerColon CancerEmbryonal TeratomaKidney CancerLiver CancerLung CancerLymphomaMediastinal CancerMelanomaOptic Nerve CancerOvarian CancerOsteosarcomaPancreatic CancerProstate CancerRhabdomyosarcomaSarcomaSquamous Cell CancerStomach CancerTeratomaTesticular CancerThyroid CancerUterine Cancer , and many other early and late stage cancers.

- See mor

Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)
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Oct 18, 2014 06:35PM LiLi-RI wrote:

Piper:

After all the battles and wars in a personal basis that we have endured, work is work. I do not mean to imply that our work is not meaningful, and many people depend on us, but sometimes it just sucks!

On a positive note, your evening and connection with your friend sounds wonderful!

Enjoy and simmer in the thoughts of new possibilities.

Lisa

Dx 5/31/2013, IDC, <1cm, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 6/13/2013 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 7/9/2013 Lumpectomy: Right Radiation Therapy 8/29/2013 Whole breast: Breast Dx 4/30/2014, ILC, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 6/17/2014 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Surgery 8/24/2014 Reconstruction (right) Surgery 10/2/2017 Reconstruction (left): Body lift perforator flap , Fat grafting; Reconstruction (right): Body lift perforator flap , Fat grafting
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Oct 18, 2014 09:55PM jazzygirl wrote:

Lili-RI- boy I can relate to that. When I deal with the difficult ones at this one client site I do a lot of work for, I often think to myself how much self created drama and misery people make over nothing. Work is work, and most of the time, I just see it as an income stream, nothing more.

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lumpectomy (Right) Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 19, 2014 10:48PM Enerva wrote:

ok so, I did another open house today and it was seven slower only one couple showed up. Well it's OK I guess it's now cold so people are not going to open houses. Any way I just took a sleeping pill hoping to rest I don't get good sleep the night before my bad job. The reason I feel bandits cuz I have no direction no training no guidance and it feels so terrible to sit at a desk all day teaching myself all kind of task I used to work at before are not longer what I am supposed to do now I am in a new team of coap estydents and I am lost. Well I have been there before so k am trying to get by for now.

I get there and pray the hours to go by fast and the day goes so slow. 

My sister is starting her new pills this week, unreal they still did not start. :( 

I am worry but keep thinking it will be OK :(

My lady from Miami never received the package :( I hope it returns to me. One day 

Hoping everybody is well.

The guy and I had a chat and it's clear he does wants kids and it is a deal breaker he said he want to see me this weekend N I said no. I told him I honestly don't want to invest time with someone whom I won't see long term. To forgive me but I have been there done that and that he should go and meet the young lady whom maybe be able to give him a family. So be it that's that.

I am to honest now.and the bs where they wanted spend time but u are nonetheless one, sorry I can't do it.

Good night ladies 

Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)
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Oct 20, 2014 07:13AM jazzygirl wrote:

Enerva- I am glad you told the guy who wants kids you won't see him again. I agree if that is a deal breaker for him, everyone should be free to move on. This is something I really cannot stand about men- trying to keeping you on the hook while they look for something else. It took me years to figure out that game, but once I know we are not on the same page, I like to wrap it up and move on myself. 

Glad you got another open house under your belt, but sorry the new work/old company is so stressful. Just remember you are rebuilding your life now and that is not easy. Your org sound as bad as the place I am working again (I just deal with nasty women at mine). 

Let us know how your sister does on the new meds. I hope they will help her to beat this second tumor.

I am up early and leaving in another 90 min for the airport. I did not sleep well myself, very typical the night before I fly and with a morning flight. I will have some time to relax at the hotel this afternoon though before the reception tonight.

Have a good week everyone.

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lumpectomy (Right) Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 20, 2014 07:20AM jazzygirl wrote:

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Right): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Surgery 11/15/2012 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lumpectomy (Right) Radiation Therapy 1/7/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/25/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 20, 2014 08:18AM Enerva wrote:

jazz good luck on your presentation, thanks for the picture I bet milky loves it lol 

I am on the go train now thinking about what will i say on this morning meeting its so stupid they have a big meeting every Monday morning in which everybody must say what have the accomplished the past week and what is their plan for the next. I feel like telling them I have accomplished nothing and k will no accomplish anything this week if I have no clue as per what I am supposed to be doing. But I can't I have to stand up there look nice and say I have been reviewing all documents related to the issues and also going over the learning presentation documents hoping that all my access and set up will be up and running today so I can start integrating some issues solutions. Black black bla I am stressed even by talking in front of all those a s h o l e s. Honestly I am in hell there useless place for any new crew member. Plus I am not doing my old desk so now I am learning by myself looking through papers I can't stand it :(

My sister is still waiting she did not start her pills yet. Apparently her cardiology must figure out what can she take for blood pressure will on those chemotherapy pills

Any how my other sis arrives to Cancun tmw. I am worry and exciting for her. 

Have a great week, I did not get a seat a the train so I feel so sick now ;( 

Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)

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