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Forum: Singles With Breast Cancer —

Singles with breast cancer who want to connect.

Posted on: Apr 29, 2011 10:32PM

txkari wrote:

Hello --

I'm a 47 year old single, who was diagnosed with DCIS grade 3 in early March. The affected area is quite large ... 15 cm in one direction. I have had two partial mastectomies and they still don't have clear margins, so I will be getting a full mastectomy on the left side in a few weeks.

I guess I took the Dr's assurances that I would be OK, a little too much to heart. I was ready for a little surgery and radiation. I wasn't ready to be told I needed a full mastectomy. The reality of it hit me a couple of nights ago.

I haven't met with the plastic surgeon yet, so I'm not sure what my reconstruction plan is yet. My questions are ... how did you prepare yourself to see your body after the surgery? I'm rather large breasted (DD) so the difference is going to be pretty dramatic. Have you found that men can look past the changes in your body? Do they understand? I just want to know if I need to resign myself to being alone. Is there love after a mastectomy/reconstruction?

Thanks

Dx 3/4/2011, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes
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Nov 19, 2018 05:02PM Enerva wrote:

ah it was thanks giving for all of you .

I forgot, hope you all had a good Turkey dinner?

Canada thanks giving was in October a d I did not celebrate in the sense I did not go to anybody's place where there could be Turkey ThumbsDown

I think I only did the thanks giving celebration once at Julie's place years ago when her and her man first got the house together .

Yes I agree I am ok alone. Last thing i need is drama. If I feel like any I just reach my siblings and they can share some drama. My poor country Vzla is ech day worse.

I just can't believe December is almost here SickTired I cant help it feeling down this coming month I just hope I ll get busy with my craft so the days go by fast.

Have a great week ladies

Keep positive 2019 will be a better year


Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)
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Nov 25, 2018 05:04AM grayeyes wrote:

Hope all of you enjoyed your Thanksgivings, whether you visited friends or simply enjoyed a restful day off.

Enerva - Sorry to hear that your family is still having drama in Venezuela.   It's a beautiful country.  I hope the troubles there are resolved one day soon.

This time of year always makes me feel sad, too.  The days are too short and the nights long, but I'm trying to stay positive here, too, about 2019.

Have a good week!


2011: Left MX w/TE (Ki67: 60%) AC x 4, Taxol x 12, Radiation, Tamoxifen, BRCA2+ Dec. 2012: Right prophylactic MX w/TE, ooph; June 2013: Final exchange; Nov. 2013: Fat grafting; 2014: Arimidex; 2015: Femara REST IN PEACE, MELANIE Dx 11/23/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Nov 25, 2018 11:42AM Jazzygirl wrote:

Hope you had a good holiday greyeyes. I am working thru a tough head cold but did make it to dinner with my friends on Thursday

I am behind on everything right now 😖

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Nov 26, 2018 04:56AM grayeyes wrote:

Sorry to hear about the head cold, Jazzy.  Hope you feel better soon!  

2011: Left MX w/TE (Ki67: 60%) AC x 4, Taxol x 12, Radiation, Tamoxifen, BRCA2+ Dec. 2012: Right prophylactic MX w/TE, ooph; June 2013: Final exchange; Nov. 2013: Fat grafting; 2014: Arimidex; 2015: Femara REST IN PEACE, MELANIE Dx 11/23/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 12, 2018 09:21PM ToughCookie101 wrote:

I haven't been on here in too long! How is everyone doing? I am more than a year out of DX (at the age of 33) and just had my second mastectomy with expander placement a week ago. Got the last drain out today. Yessss! I can't wait to have my final implants in and have this crap over. But life is good. :)

Diagnosed at 33 after finding my lump myself. Dx 11/15/2017, IDC, Left, 2cm, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/31/2018 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 4/3/2018 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 12/5/2018 Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/16/2018 Reconstruction (right) Surgery 3/31/2019 Reconstruction (right) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone), Zoladex (goserelin)
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Dec 15, 2018 12:14PM Enerva wrote:

hi sorry I haven't been here in a while

Hope all doing well and ready for another year near by.

TCookie hope you are feeling well now a d that the healing part is over for your expander to do its job. Also hope you get the implant soon.

Greyeyes thanks for the words yes Vzla is going through hard times specially now at Christmas but keeping positive that the country will see a light at the end of the tunnel.


Jazz I love all the pictures you share at the garden tread, thanks for sharing

Sending you all a big hug

Surgery 3/25/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 12/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 8/27/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)
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Dec 22, 2018 05:21PM grayeyes wrote:

Enerva - Hugs to you, too.  Thanks for checking in.  Hoping for a healthy new year for you, your family, and everyone here.

TCookie - Good luck with everything.  Yes, it's a relief after the final surgery.

Hoping all of you here enjoy the holidays.

2011: Left MX w/TE (Ki67: 60%) AC x 4, Taxol x 12, Radiation, Tamoxifen, BRCA2+ Dec. 2012: Right prophylactic MX w/TE, ooph; June 2013: Final exchange; Nov. 2013: Fat grafting; 2014: Arimidex; 2015: Femara REST IN PEACE, MELANIE Dx 11/23/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Dec 22, 2018 06:52PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Blessings to everyone here this holiday season. Best wishes in the new year!

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Dec 27, 2018 12:06AM grayeyes wrote:

Same to you, Jazzy.  :-)

2011: Left MX w/TE (Ki67: 60%) AC x 4, Taxol x 12, Radiation, Tamoxifen, BRCA2+ Dec. 2012: Right prophylactic MX w/TE, ooph; June 2013: Final exchange; Nov. 2013: Fat grafting; 2014: Arimidex; 2015: Femara REST IN PEACE, MELANIE Dx 11/23/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 2/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jul 8, 2019 02:37PM palmetto wrote:

Bump... I'm single, 41, 2 older sons (15 & 20), and am curious about dating with my dx. I was diagnosed in April and have started treatment. Prior to that, I had been pretty active on internet dating sites, and now, I'm not sure how to proceed. I'm very upfront with my diagnosis... it's a helpful tool to use when I want to let a guy down: "Sorry, I'm not dating now, I have cancer!" On the other side, there are some men who don't at all seem phased by my dx. And honestly, these are the guys I have to wonder about. If you are hounding a girl (that you haven't even met yet!) with cancer to go out with you, what does that say about you? Or the dating pool of the town I'm in? Have any of y'all been on the dating scene while undergoing treatment?

Dx 3/27/2019, IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 4/16 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 5/16/2019 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 10/28/2019 Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Aug 13, 2019 06:11PM - edited Aug 13, 2019 06:12PM by Anotherone

yes I dated a little bit. I did not play the cancer card at all - after all why you are on a dating site if you can not date. Mostly I used it as a chatroom though - there were no local people I would be interested in so I was talking to guys who lived miles away. Had an encounter with one of them - with a bald head under a wig and no boob. Was not the most exciting sexual experience of my life, was a bit of a disaster so I thought I better stop dating until I look more normal.

Mind , a disaster was not because I had cancer- I had quite a few of them after as well when I looked and felt normal. It was part of a learning experience about sex and dating. But that first disaster upset me at the time.

If one just dates normally I do not see how dating with cancer is much different from dating while having a young child or dating while changing jobs or whatever other particular circumstances of one are.


Primary in 2006, metastasis 2019. Sorry can lot log in diagnosis and treatment info properly - it gets jumbled. On Kadcyla now as had progression on H&P Dx 10/10/2006, IDC, Left, Stage IIIC, metastasized to lungs, Grade 3, 4/9 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Dx 7/1/2019, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs Chemotherapy 9/17/2019 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Surgery Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy External: Chest wall Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Sep 21, 2019 11:55AM Jazzygirl wrote:

Hi there - been away for awhile but wanted to share that Enerva lost her battle last week on 9/11.

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Sep 21, 2019 12:13PM Artista928 wrote:

Oh no, sad to hear. Rip :(

Dx'd at 50. Doing it all, all by myself. Stopped Letrozole after 5 weeks. Debilitating se's. Back on Tamox now. Dx 6/2/2015, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (DUAL) Surgery 8/6/2015 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 11/3/2015 AC + T (Taxotere) Radiation Therapy 5/2/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Hormonal Therapy 6/28/2016 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 12/9/2016 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy 2/14/2017 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy 3/26/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 9/1/2017 Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting, Silicone implant
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Oct 4, 2019 01:42PM TammyKh wrote:

Hi pink sisters.

I'm just curious that how you guys deal with sex while dating or in a relationship?

Dx 10/24/2018, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/10/2019 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 3/31/2019 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 4, 2019 02:22PM Askmissa wrote:

I would see if a Nipple Sparing Mastectomy with Prepectoral Implants is an option for you. I just look like I got a breast augmentation. Very nice outcome. Try going to a university hospital in your state as they have the latest and greatest treatments with the best aesthetic outcomes

Dx 6/17/2019, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 8/19/2019 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Oct 8, 2019 11:27AM palmetto wrote:

Tammykh, that is what I want to know, too. I've been on dating sites throughout my treatment, but basically just use it as chat space, as I've either been too tired or too uninterested in going out with anyone. Part of that, I know, stems from the fact that I'm scared about how I'll look/ feel after my double mastectomy. I'll be smaller, with even more scars (I already had a keloid beauty down my side from a bus wreck). I've always been comfortable in my skin, so this self-conscious thing is new to me, and I don't like it. I feel like that is going to interfere with my sex life more than anything.

Dx 3/27/2019, IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 4/16 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 5/16/2019 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 10/28/2019 Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Nov 10, 2019 09:25PM Jazzygirl wrote:

Hi ladies- this thread sort of waned awhile ago but I pop in from time to time. With respect to dating, I want to just say the whole thing is bit scary after any kind of breast cancer surgery. I ended up with double lumpectomies, and so I just have a bit of scarring and some changes from that. But I really did not feel too comfortable sharing my body with anyone for a long time. It was a good five years after my surgery before that even happened, although I had dabbled with some dating prior to that.

I am not sure how old you are, but I am in my late 50s, and was 52 when I was diagnosed. One thing most of us middle aged types have at this point in life (men and women) is some kind of health issue and often many of us have scars and changes to our bodies as a result of medical care. The person I was with had had a major abdominal surgery and some changes to his body too, so we sort of came together on equal footing. I was nervous to tell him my story, and waited until I was sure I felt enough trust to share what had gone on. He was very kind about everything and although there was not enough commonality for us to be able to stay together for the longer term, I was glad I was with someone kind for that first time jumping back into the pool.

Some women on this thread in the past have been very honest with potential partners and let them know up front about their cancer. There was even a gal here for awhile that started dating someone while she was in the midst of treatment. So the way women handle this with dating runs the gamut. I just encourage you to do what feels right for you. Share early or wait to share, whatever feels best as part of your own healing process.

Good luck. Cancer or not, everyone deserves to have love in their lives.......

Dx 9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Surgery 11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/6/2013 Breast Radiation Therapy 2/24/2013 Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Dec 7, 2019 10:19PM milkyway2 wrote:

hi

I am looking for anybody from Toronto or GTA to meet for tea or coffee.

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Jan 29, 2020 06:05AM Simplicity wrote:

OMG! So nice to see familiar names! I cannot believe all of you are still here! Hey everyone! Been a hot minute. I had to log in to get some information because I am awful at remembering dates.

I hope all are as well as can be. I wish I had time to catch up on every ones life.

Things for me have been upsy downsy, too much life going on since C. One thing after another it seems. And I am in the middle of something HUGE-hence the gathering of dates.

I think of all of you often <3

Dx 3/31/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 4/20/2015 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 9/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 10/12/2015 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 12/28/2015 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 5/19/2016 Reconstruction (left): Free TRAM flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Feb 1, 2020 05:05AM Simplicity wrote:

Ha This thread is as unpredictable as it was back then huh?

Dx 3/31/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 4/20/2015 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 9/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 10/12/2015 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 12/28/2015 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 5/19/2016 Reconstruction (left): Free TRAM flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Feb 16, 2021 07:41PM - edited Feb 16, 2021 08:00PM by Gilliber

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Dx 8/2017, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/6 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Chemotherapy 9/5/2017 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 7/23/2019 Mastectomy Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast Surgery
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Feb 16, 2021 08:01PM Gilliber wrote:

Hi everyone. I recently started to date someone for the first time after my mastectomy in July 2019. He was someone I met by chance in a store who approached me - i.e. I wasn't looking for it, but it happened. Three weeks later on the third date, I told him about the breast cancer and mastectomy and his attitude completely changed - from being so into me to being the opposite. He said his feelings might grow and so we continued to get together but his feelings never grew beyond platonic ones despite having some sexually intimate experiences and despite my giving him the best of myself. Finally after months of this unrequited situation and feeling a constant sense of rejection on a romantic level, he made it clear he sees me as just a friend and it looks that that would never change. This whole experience has been devastating to say the least.

I have recently done online speed dating - and have been talking to several guys who showed interest in me. But I'm so nervous about how they will react when and if they know about my breast cancer/mastectomy. I didn't worry before I had the experience with the guy I met in the store and couldn't imagine that it would be a deal breaker for him because I know how much I have to offer in a relationship (everything). But it was and now I realize I was naive. Now I need to tread more carefully, guard my heart, and as someone here said, be more thick-skinned so I don't get crushed emotionally again if I am rejected. I do believe there is someone out there for me and am encouraged by some of the stories on here so we shall see. It is a guessing game at the moment.

Dx 8/2017, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/6 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Chemotherapy 9/5/2017 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 7/23/2019 Mastectomy Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast Surgery
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Mar 6, 2021 07:52PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Gilliber, don't assume that the cancer/mx had anything to do with his feeling for you. Most if not all women (without C), or men for that matter, have gone through the "just wanna be friends" thing. I have not dated in years, decided I wanted to stay single, but after my BC I did some dating and that was not my experience in fact I was the one doing the rejection.

It is unfortunate this site is not more active so others could chime in and share their experiences.

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Mar 7, 2021 04:45AM Simplicity wrote:

Idk. It does kind of sound like this particular guy felt some kind of way about it. I dated a guy for 3 years right after my double mastectomy. He was not bothered a single bit by my cancer or the appearance of my body (DIEP/TRAM reconstruction). His adult son was *hmpf*

Right now, I am just not interested in anything romantic for various reasons. And the men that have approached me, well, they seem to want to jump ahead 10 steps and just boom, relationship. *But* they don't know about my cancer or how bad it was.

NotBrokenJustBent, yea, kind of miss the old days when the site was more active. Really helped me through a lot

Dx 3/31/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 4/20/2015 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 9/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 10/12/2015 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 12/28/2015 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 5/19/2016 Reconstruction (left): Free TRAM flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Mar 20, 2021 12:10PM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Simplicity, I was sorry to hear that your relationship with that fella fell apart. As I recall you were having issues with his children accepting you and sharing their father's time and affection. I had thought that would resolve in time. Well for what it is worth he got you through some very tough times. Mine broke up with me via text as I lie in hospital after having my breast lopped off. Ugh...what a guy.

Yes, this forum got me through some dark days. I still email Jazz and don't know if you heard but Enerva passed away. I still think of that sweet girl daily and she remains an inspiration to me.

My last date was over 4 years ago. I had been dating around and was fine as long as I was not interested in a relationship but this one man I really liked. I enjoyed his company immensely, he was sooooo funny and just my type but the closer we got the more scared I became. Apparently i wasn't ready plus there was a lot going on in my life. We left the relationship open ended and when I was ready I would let him know. We texted now and then, I liked to know he was still out there and interested, and I told him once I moved and got all settled in I wanted to have him over for a nice dinner. Guess I waited too long because 6 months later he no longer texted me back. 🤷 Since, I have had absolutely no interest in dating though I do miss male companionship, meaning friendship, but that never works.

So I am going on 8 years since dx and surgery. I am grateful but not the same person I was and not in a good way. I look and feel 1000 years old but blessed to be alive and well. I have become The Crazy Cat Lady. I have adopted one and fostered many. It gives me purpose. 😹


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Mar 22, 2021 03:41AM Simplicity wrote:

Good morning all....not that it's a good one here haha but hey, it's a new day, so it has potential already.

NotBrokenJustBent yea it got pretty bad. The last straw was his 26yr old son saying something so bad dad wouldn't even repeat it or correct the behavior let alone say something about it.

I remember :( What an asshat!

6 yrs here 3/31 and still have plenty of issues. I had heard about Enerva. Sweetest lady. Still hard, even as an adult, to grasp loss sometimes.

I began Dragonboating 4 years ago, hence my absence between that and working and dealing with workplace discrimination against my BC. Awful awful awful.

As far as dating. Bleh. About all I got lol

I have a grand daughter!!!!! My 27 yr old son finally met a nice lady and her daughter just turned 4. They have moved in and I have very few minor complaints. I feel like I hit the soon to be daughter in law lottery, so I am just trying to focus on these 2 new relationships.


Dx 3/31/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 4/20/2015 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 9/3/2015 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 10/12/2015 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 12/28/2015 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 5/19/2016 Reconstruction (left): Free TRAM flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Mar 30, 2021 11:10AM NotBrokenJustBent wrote:

Hello Simplicity. Dragonboating, hah, I joined a BC team. It was suppose to be fun and chill but it wasn't and they would get yelling at me. ☹️ I was paddling as fast as I could but apparently not good enough.Talk about competitive, yikes. Yeah, that little hobby and bonding time with my "sisters" did not play out.

Well for what it is worth, your ex is destined to be alone so no need to log onto FB to periodically check his status.

As for me I am alone but never was lonely until very recently. I guess winter and Covid has taken it's toll and being a recluse shut in has gotten very old. I have never been so anxious for Spring. I just got my first vaccine on Sunday. Yay! but what an ordeal getting an appointment and thereafter was. Not sure I will go back, it was a 4 hour ordeal and hundreds of us were herded like cattle through multiple mile long lines by National Guard personnel. It was all very strange and so much for social distancing. It was seriously bizarre.

Congrats on a grand child and how nice they are staying with you. Ahhhhh...I would love that! My son was dating a nice girl with a young baby. I became very attached to the girl but especially the child. It broke my heart when the relationship fell apart and my poor son was broken. Double whammy. He not only lost the girl but it was the child that was especially hard for him to say good bye to. Well I never wanted to be a Gma but I must admit I fell into the role nicely. I think I would be a good one. Maybe someday.




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