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Feb 25, 2013 02:27AM
Hmm, I don't know why I didn't spot this forum for singles before! I've been single for 10 years.. oh a few brief relationships, but generally single. During surgeries and treatments, my family and the community around me truly kept me going. Now that the most difficult treatments are over, I find myself floundering a bit... finances are not ideal, rebuilding my crashed business makes me think there's something different I ought to be doing, etc, plus still continuing treatment (herceptin and tamoxifen). Only now, for the first time in 10 years, am I thinking how lovely it would be to have someone in my life... I haven't taken any serious steps to go looking. Definately a couple guys who seemed interested before turned themselves into definate 'just friends' during this.
So on the surface, losing my hair, my business, a breast, etc doesn't make for the best 'catch' in the world. But I still think I'd be one heckuva a catch for someone... a zest for life, adventure, creativity, and genuine compassion for people.
During chemo, while bald, I did create a profile on plenty of fish.. for two weeks. I did it more as a lark than anything. I posted the bald picture, and was honest, but I think, with some classy humor. (should have saved the writeup for your giggling entertainment) I thought it would be rather amazing if someone connected, but certainly didn't expect it. No one did... those silly Shallow boys. ~smile~
ON a sincere note, remember, we are more than we were before. We are wiser. We've had a learning curve that has increased our awareness on many levels. We've had an experience that has us seeing what truly is important, and dismissing a lot that isn't. We have an appreciation for life that those who have not had difficult journeys often do not... and I suspect that for many of us, we have more compassion and are less judgmental of others, making us good people to be around.
Truly, a guy would be fortunate to have one of us in their lives.
And how is the internet dating going, those of you doing that?
Hugs to all of you
DCIS and Pure mucinous and Her2+ WTF? (oops did I say that?)
3/2/2012, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH)
4/4/2012 Lumpectomy: Left
5/2/2012 Mastectomy: Left
6/25/2012 Herceptin (trastuzumab)
6/25/2012 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel)
3/5/2013 Reconstruction (left)