Illinois ladies facing bc
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Ginger....good for you. You have a winner's attitude. You can have some down times though. None of this is truly easy --- but being able to look at it as an adventure is great -- even if it is not an adventure you'd ordinarily choose.
Wendy.....it will be nice to get home and get back into 'vacation over' mode. You can only leave your daily life for so long before you feel like your cheating somehow. Glad you got all those sunsets though --- and all the water therapy.
I'm off and running for the day. Nice to see you Donna.....you have been quiet for some time.
Hugs, Jackie
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Forgot to add, that yesterday myhusband had a pup stop him in the road (literally) and looked likea malamute shepard mix guy. He had a huge raw, infection around his neck . Looked like it was froma tight collar or a collar that he outgrew and escpaped from!!!We have him at the vet being takened care of as we could not keep him becausue of our senior goldens. BUT this is the catcher, he was outside of a driveway (rural area), that just 4 years ago i called on for a wellness check on some horses. This was a nightmare!! Two horses were found dead and one more eating the barn post as he had no food. This dog may of come from there and told Will county to check it out as they are not allowed to have any animals. This was not a mistake to have this baby be found by us again! He was so scared, wanted help and kissed us each as if he was a human!!!
Police is all over our neighborhood today as there is a rash of day robberies..kicking the front door in if you are not home. will county police is up to 7 cars here this am and told my husband they have suspects and waitng.. scary stuff and scary times!!!!BE SAFE and know times are desperate everywhere!!!
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Wendy, I am like you in that I do not care for motel rooms aftre the second night. They are so dark. Donna, hope you feel better. Ginger, I agree you have a great attitude viewing this as just an adventure ( I know you would never choose it but, viewing it as a necessary adventure at this time is a better plan than any other.
I have a funny story about our biking trip in Burlington yesterday. We were in this super rural area and we got lost. Amidst all the corn and soybean fields, we came across (surprisingly) a bikers' bar. We were really lost so I made Paul go into the bar for some diet pop and to get some directions on how to get back to the town. There must have been forty Harvey Davidson bikes in the lot. Paul is wearing his silly and dated suburban shirt with the Izod logo, shorts and his dock shoes and clearly did not fit in. Finally he comes out (no diet anything to drink, just full-loaded beer) and tells me he thought he was on the set for the movie Deliverance. Actually they were very nice and we did get into town. Put in 17 miles in the heat and I won't need a vitamin D pill for weeks. It very definitely got my mind off my troubles.
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Oh my gosh Donna. It was a miracle you found that poor little baby. Hoory for you taking a stand and calling animal control. So now I know where all of our police are today. What in the world is going on in this crazy world. Please be careful. Scary times we live in.
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Happy Monday to all.....Donna how scary to have day break robberies around your neighborhood. We had this a while back when kids would blow up brick mailboxes. We now have video cams at the entrance and the crime rate is down now. Video cam signs are posted everywhere...so it makes you feel a little safer. Hope you are feeling well soon.
Wendy...leaving the beach for home. Hope you enjoy your last day as we missed you. Hope that new condo is waiting for you to return to it soon. I think lunch is calling you. Hope dh had a wonderful time. Ahhh school right around the corner, sniff sniff.
Laura....sorry I missed your call. Had a chill weekend resting. Improving thou.
Ginger...welcome and sounds like you are dealing with all that is thrown at you in a positive way. Sending you big healing hugs your way.
Zap...how was Wisc. bike ride. I know it was pretty warm up there. Did you find any treasures on the road?. I hope to be at the lake this week if all goes well with my md appts. You gotta love those appts. lol
Jackie...how you doing girl? I hope you have all those fleas under control now. Sending a boat ride to chill you out. Enjoy the water as we know it renews the soul. Please get some rest.
Buddy.. are is your arm feeling. Is your lymphedema better.
Well I am feeling better as I took a 3 mile walk yesterday. Needed to get the jello out of my legs. lol I hope to get some answers this week....so keep your fingers crossed that all goes well.
I hope you all have a wonderful day...enjoy the sunshine. To those I missed thinking of you.
Remember to be healthy....be happy.... Enjoy life!!!!
BJ
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Zap... I know that biker bar as we used to passed it snowmobiling. You think their were lots of motorcycle's there.... we should have seen all the snowmobile's lined up. lol Hot chocolate for everyone w/ an added Baileys of course.. lol
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I am here.... ^^ Thanks for all the kind words and it means so much too me...
Well, things a little bit better now than last time I posted.. What happened was, dh wanted to go back to the west so, we can get close to the family and his work has been very stressful since last year and this year he is complaining about work and I never seen him like this before, he is hard working person and hardly ever complains.. He even called me one night from work with shaky voice and telling me he can't take this anymore and he wants to drop everything and walk out the door and he didn't want to have heart attack from the stress... Every other shifts has two people but dh works by himself 12 hours and more.. sometimes he didn't even have time to eat during 12 hours shift.. So, I told him to applied for other locations.. So, he applied few opening positions in WA and CA and he interviewed with two different locations in CA but he didn't get it.. They told him, he was a second candidate but someone in CA got it because he is in IL.. Company won't transfer him because too far away from CA so, local person got the position, both of them.. He was very disappointed on second interviewed and so did his parents... Then, few days later, he got letters from the one of the creditor saying they are suing him for unpaid balance... shocking.. I don't think I mention that our house in Plainfield went foreclosure because we couldn't pay the mortgage with my medical bills.. so, we had to let go the house.. that broke my heart.. it was lovely home with forest preserve back yard and was our first home... We knew we had to file the bankruptcy somehow another due to mortgage.. Then, when we went to see the bankruptcy lawyer she told us we can file it as soon as I am done with my recon surgery.. I already had appt. with ps for pre-op.. When we came back from the lawyer dh asked me why I wait so long to get the last stage of recon done and I should had that surgery already.. so I told him I've been trying to have it done but every time I made an appt. I had to change because of his work and then he told me my surgery should be a priority.. So, I asked him, are you telling me this is my fault? and he said no.. and I told him you sounds like it is my fault and I tried to make an any appts around your work schedule and it is not easy... then he said, he hates this mess and I told me I did too then he said, 'at least you don't have to go to s**** job everyday' and he turned around..
I walked out of the room and realized if, if I didn't have bc none of this would happened.. That was the whole story.... I used to be a happy and very optimistic person and I like to keep it that way.. I know not every day is happy day or perfect day... but that is not the end of the world, right?? Last week dh had another interview with CA position and we are waiting... well, people said, third time is a charm... One of the interviewer was from hr department and she interviewed dh three times and this time she asked him 'are you trying to get back to CA' and he told her 'yes' and told her we wants to be close to the family~!!! So, we will see, I hope they won't wait 3weeks to let us know like last time...
Oh well... now you know what happened and what is going on.... This is the only place I can let it out like it is and you ladies been great support and comfort, Thanks...
Navymom and Buddy- I just read your pm and thank you so much for caring...
I don't know what I can do with out you ladies~!~!
Notsure and Ginger- nice to meet you and these ladies are wonderful..
BJ- welcome back~!!!
Have a great evening~!!!
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Elf, you have been through the mill and I am so hoping that things are turning around for you now. No one should lose a home because of bad health luck. None of this is your fault and I am sure you are wise enough to know that people say things when they are so anxious and it sounds like you and DH are high there on the anxiety scale. He sounds so frustrated and he is smart to get you all closer to his family. I will just keep everything crossed that this goes well for you and that he hears SOON that he has the job. You actually did mention the foreclosure in an earlieer post and it sickens me that you lost that home. Take care and come back often!
Susan
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Oh Elfsong.........so sorry for all of your troubles. I am so glad that you posted. Always know that we are praying for good news for you and your family. You all deserve a good break to come your way. Hugs to you.
Navy
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ELF... You are never alone and we are all here for you. It is hard when all of this comes as we are fighting for our lives and I just cannot beleive that this will go any further as this is just a time where compassion is needed and DO NOT change.. your heart is everything and admire all that you represent!!! Something will break.. and praying for this.
HUGS..Donna
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One thing you can give and still keep is your word.
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Neat quote, Jackie! Thanks!
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Morning, home safe and sound. I so miss the ocean! And here I was, blathering about my nice vacay and ....
Elf.....I am so sorry that you have been going thru this mess. I wish you had told us. Sometimes it is nice to tell a bunch of people what is going on and see if we have any advice/suggestions.......especially when we are just names on a forum, not people you have to face every day. It is hard to keep up a good front with those closest to you but here is the place where we can feel safe and let it all out. I do remember you mentioning foreclosure but I thought it had happened in the past not due to your medical bills. I wish for you and DH good news soon...it is certainly your turn! Hugs to you and your DH and your 2 boys...
And let this be a lesson to us....we are here to help each other, and it doesn't have to have anything to do with BC. If you need help....speak up....please! Someone here might know someone who knows someone with an answer.
Off to the gym, then groceries, then maybe the lawn/weeds. Ahhhhhh.....life is back!
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Wendy -- you are so right on where Elf is concerned --- "might know someone who knows someone etc". It is a very sad thing to lose your home -- we thank God it wasn't our life, but then along come all the other connected problems that are a part of the whole thing. You have been valiant and stoic -- not so much for yourself as for all the others in your life Elf. That I think is true love at its shining finest. I can't do much, but pray to the universe that it is your time now for life to take good turns and fall into place -- all without the constant struggle of adversities. I will be praying as hard as I know how.
Wendy -- what fun --- back to the weeds. Well fun spelled backward does kinda say it about weeds, doesn't it??? Just noticed that.
Big hugs to all my friends with such great answers and love,
Jackie
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"The willingness to do creates the ability to do."Peter McWilliams
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Okay, Jackie, your last quote literally got me to do something I was terrified to do.
"The willingness to do creates the ability to do."
I have been putting off a consultation about my book for so long because sharing my book with an accomplished and published author is like walking around the neighborhood naked. You leave yourself open to shame and you pay them on top of it all, Anyway, I have my appointment (anything is easy via email). We are meeting in a coffee shop. It feels like computer dating......maybe worse. So thanks for the quote. I was willing and so I was able. Susan
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Hi there.. Sitting on pins and needles after my scan this morning. Doctor is on vacation but promised to check and call today... Did get a bit of bad news.. .my port has a clot on top of it.. small one so apparently not dangerous to me if it dislodges.. but needs to be REPLACED!! so I have scheduled the removal and replacement of my port for next Friday the 6th.. UGH.. but if that's the worst news.. I'll be OK.. will let you all know... So hot out.. hanging at my parents' house waiting.. as it was closer to the hospital and it's where I was in April after my first scan...
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UPDATE!!! All leisons are gone..except for the ONE and it's down to .7cm so decision time to stay on Chemo or just HErceptin.. I get to decide next Wed... but good news...
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Oh Marina,
I am sitting here on pins and needles waiting with you. I can only imagine the mood in the house today. I am crossing everything that you get good news! Susan
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OMG, we are at the same time. VERY GOOD NEWS> All that hard work paid off. Susan
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Morning...we didn't get any rain but the heat/humidity is gone...beautiful morning out there...
Marina....wow! I am so happy for you! That is a hard decision. This isn't any advice for you by any means but one thing we have learned with this beast is to throw everything at your disposal the first time as this is your best chance. And a chance it is as cancer is so not a fair disease! Chemo worked so well for you tho.....and I am happy for you! What are they going to do about the port? Replace I assume as you will be on Herceptin for the rest of the year....
Have to boogie right now....need to scrub out 2 bathtubs and then it is lawn day. Was just too hot to do it yesterday. Have a great Thursday everyone!
PS: HI GINNY !!!!!!!
PSS: Anyone hear anything about Nicki? She shut down her caringbridge blog weeks ago and I just don't know what happened to her. If you are reading this Nicki....hope you are OK and have found some peace.
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Good morning gals!
Welcome back, Wendy! There always seems to be lots of work awaiting us when we get home, doesn't there? I hope you took lots of pictures while you were gone so you can sneak peeks of your ocean and get good energy vibes. I always hate to leave, too when we go to Florida in the winter. The sun and the water do energize me and bring me peace.
Marina, GREAT NEWS! I'm so glad that the lesions are gone and that the one is smaller. Now for the decisions again. That's a tough one but I'm sure you will make the best one for you!
Oh Susan! I understand your hesitancy to share your book with "a professional!" I always felt the same way about my questions when the State committee reviewed them "with a fine tooth comb." It's like your work is your "baby" and it's hard to hear criticism, even if it is constructive. Over the years I acquired a little tougher skin and it didn't bother me so much. I'm betting that you'll hear very few negative things about your book because it was written from your heart! I can hardly wait to hear how your conference goes!
Well, I have an "at-home" day today and have lots to do around here. I do need to make a library run but that's always a fun trip for me. I guess I should get busy and start in on my list of things to do.
I hope everyone is having a good day.
Rita
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It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~e.e. cummings
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Good morning everyone,
How great to read all the good news this morning. Marina.....that is all so positive and though a real bother about the port --- seems much smaller now I bet than it would have. Hooray, hooray.
Susan --- good for you. It is painful like Rita said to be down-graded or have someone be critical, but I sometimes think --- better it should come from someone who is pretty much un-biased than someone who knows you well. That way you can feel that it is only constructive and palliative. No varnish....so you will know what you need to do to fix things. Good for you -- we all can do, can't we???
Things are well here....just still holding on to the nasty heat and humidity. This is going to be the year that was --- we are most definitely having summer and it so far has been all summer. What happened to going gently into the changing of the seasons. Sigh.
Well, some work to do here as well as breakfast. I'll be back. I have the office to myself this a.m. Maybe till noon --- I could play but better to the work. I'll be checking back later.
Hugs
P.S. Wendy, I too noticed that Nicki was no longer using the bridge. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
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marina.... YEAH!!!!! Good news like this is so aweosme!!!The last one is ok and that is ALL that matters!! Hugs being sent!!!!
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Hi Girls!
Marina - GREAT NEWS! Do the happy dance, girl! Good luck with the port.
elf - Hugs to you...hang in there!
Donna - Hope you're feeling better soon. Good luck with the Dr. appt. Let us know how it goes.
Deb & ginger - HANG IN THERE...hugs to both of you.
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Nicki - according to her FB page has an infection that she's trying to beat. But she is tough...she's training a new assistant at work.
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For those taking Femara: I have an unopened bottle of 30, 2.5 letrozole tablets...free to good home. Just PM me. First come - first serve!
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I'm back! I just went to pick up my Arimidex and was given the new generic version. I went ahead and took it for now and guess I'll ask my onc when I see him a few weeks if he prefers the real thing or the generic. Anyone else been given the generic or had any feedback from your oncologists on the choice?
Rita
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Hi Rita, I will be starting Arimidex at the end of August, once I am done with radiation. The oncologist already gave me a prescription that says I can substitue with generic. Spoke with a friend who is a pharmacist about generics and she said she would go with reputable manufacturers and only if the generic is AB (I think this is what she called it) approved. She looked it up and said yes, generic Arimidex meets this criteria.
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Hello all,
I've been lurking a bit and decided to say hello. I start chemo next month and hope to find empathy and advice. Also, hopefully, someone else who will be doing TAC. Cheers.
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