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  • nativemainer
    nativemainer Posts: 8,104
    edited July 2011

    Good afternoon, Loungettes! Sadie says "Woof Woof" (translation: Thank You) for the sympathy and acceptance. There's a small lake near where I live, I'm going to check out the town access and see if dogs are allowed. If not there, I'll find somewhere to take her swimming. She had so much fun, and I enjoy swimming, too! I am still miff at my mother for treating me like a child in front of everyone. This episode is going to create a family problem at some point since I'm not going to cave in and bee the good little girl who will leave Sadi at home and go visit mama all the time. Ah, well, it would have happened sooner or later.

    Hmm, Astorm with a tail. What a mental picture that brings to mind!

    Astorm--I agree with you, it is important to be devastated by our losses, to truly care for the people and animals in our lives. If we base our attitude on TV stuff, then no life would have any real meaning or value. Sadie took the special pillow directly to her crate--a sure sign she understands that it is HERS and I am supposed to leave it alone!

    Goldie--I saw pics of the dust storm in Phoenix on the news, how scary that has to be! Not to mention dangerous. That must have had tornado force winds to knock over a semi. The Sandstorms drink sounds goooooddd!!!!

    Wahine--I tried the "Living Social" thing, but the closest city is Boston, so it wasn't much use to me. Just not worth dealing with a daily e-mail when I might find one or 2 things a year, if that. Still, it's a great idea, and if it ever gets more local I will jump back on that bandwagon.

    Astorm--even bad coffee is a good thing (not that my mother would agree).

    Beanie--I've never been able to really please my mother, so I hear what you are saying about getting buttons pushed and always being wrong. At this point in my life I'm ready to give up on ever pleasing her. Gonna call the insurance company and find out how to access the counseling benefit. I don't want to go back to the counselor I was seeing, want to find a different one. Between this episode with my mom and the PTSD symptoms that are getting worse I need some kind of help. So, let us throw our respective families under the bus and then go jump in a lake with our barky dogs! Why should my mother be able to live her life the way she wants but not me? Phooey on her!

     

    Claire--I like butter and brown sugar in my oatmeal. Don't make it very often for the same reason you don't! And hooray for you for finding a way to get what you need without it taking over your life! Simple is often best.

    Astorm--As far as training for forgiveness, ok, but respecting your sister's superiority? NO WAY! Older does NOT guarantee wiser. And I love the Biblical policy cartoon! Hee hee heee! I haven't read The Art of Racing in the Rain. There, just bought it for my Kindle. Yeah, Sadie is a dog, and a young dog. She hasn't had many opportunities to learn how to behave in a crowd and around other dogs. She'll also never learn if she's never allowed to be in those situations I was working with her (Mom didn't see or hear that from where she was sitting, so therefore I wasn't doing anything about it) and I was beginning to make progress. Thanks for the book recommendation. I'll start reading it tonight!

    Karen--sounds like you are having a great time, learning and getting to see some new things and tasting new foods. So kind of the Lord to send an example of what is possible. She sounds like a remarkable woman.

  • AStorm
    AStorm Posts: 1,393
    edited July 2011

    NM - I have a favorite quote from that book (which you won't get to for awhile)... "get busy ....... mm...." Oh I just can't ruin it for you! but it is something you can recall every time a non dog lover makes you mad. DH just got back from having lunch with a friend who has always been single and told him stories about all the bad dates he has been on in the past year. They are usually beautiful women who are not the least bit interested in him but somehow seem to appear to be until they date him for awhile. He is "well-heeled" and lives in a huge house near the beach and doesn't really work or anything. I think he would be so much happier if he fell in love with a big, happy, yellow lab, but, alas, he does not love dogs. Some people just never get it. I've even shared my theory with him about men who don't have pets (which is that anyone who doesn't have room in his life for a pet doesn't have room for a relationship with a human either).

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Posts: 5,005
    edited July 2011

    THIS IS AN AUTO REPLY ON BEHALF OF MY CLIENT, DOROTHY JAYE K.  She axed me to write you gals and tail you that she has reading all da ritten posts and is overwhelmed. I will let her sum tings up since I am her asst but a lousy asst and no comprehending her orders. She is fine, jest working like the wild woman. She is feeling bedder but still kramped a bitsy. She has appt wif her doctor Fried-day am. She loves your girls so much and promises dat she reads everyday and twies to refry to all. She gots ADD and starts then stops den again and again. tank ewe fur u times. She be back soonly or soonliest as pozzible. Sincerly, Stella, DorkJayeK's personal assistant. PS I am available to azzist you girlies, I work for beer and 1.50 per day. I tank ewe for your time. Loves from your DorK.

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    Mucho tanks, DorK's asst....so vewwy nice of ya to let us know she is A-OK! I have a lot of work that needs to be done....here  is your $1.75 (added a tip) and a six pack of Dog Beers for ya.....let me give ya da list!

    DH was a lifesaver for me tonight...class was soooo hard and I am soooo far behind I was ready to leave...but after 3 hrs of it, I called DH as I was near home and asked him to have a dwinkie ready for me. Now on my 2nd one, I don't feel like crying like I did on the way home....amazing what some dwinks will do for your mood!!!! Just not sure I want to go back next week.....lol.

    ChEARS!!!! Bottomz Up!!!!!!

    risque wisque glass cutter

  • Beanius
    Beanius Posts: 1,494
    edited July 2011

    Quick pop in for a nite cap! Anyone joinin me? Love all da posts, see ya for morning coffee & kahluah!

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    Hiya Beans, I am still here....joining you in a Strong nite cap!!!! You doing ok???

  • nativemainer
    nativemainer Posts: 8,104
    edited July 2011

    Astorm-- I started the book yesterday evening and read it right through! I laughed and cried and cussed when the thunderstorm took the power out for a couple of minutes. Enzo was such a character. I can just picture everything that went on, too. Thank you so much for telling me about this book!

    DorK---LOL! I can related to being overwhelmed by pages of postings! Hmm, beer plus $1.50 a day? I could afford that kind salary for an assistant. I wonder if Sadie would be interested in that kind of work? Stella, please tell DorK that we are pulling for her (and you) and understand, post when yousies can.

    Risque Wisque--You've probably already said, but what class are you taking? Do you have to take it or are you taking it for ‘personal enrichment' (what a goofy term)? And a drink makes a HUGE difference in attitude and emotional balance, doesn't it?

    Beanie--if it's a night cap, what is a morning drink called? Is that the eye opener? I could use both! Coffee and kahlua on the porch watching the thunderstorm come rolling in. Power out all over the area, tree limb down, one poor woman was driving in her car and got impailed between the eyes by a tree branch, is currently in critical condition. I like watching storms, but last nights was kinda scary!

    How about this for a DOTD:

     Thunderstorm Cocktail
    1/2 peach schnapps (archers)
    1/2 vodka
    1/2 malibu
    1/2 Blue Curacao
    splash pineapple juice

    Instructions

    drink can be served as shooter or over ice

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Posts: 11,437
    edited July 2011

    Hi all!   As usual, miss a day and it becomes overwhelming to try to catch up!!

    NM love all your pics when you post, I always get a laugh.

    Karen, It sounds like you are having a lovely time doing your classes and I'm amazed at the amount of walking you are getting to do as well!

    Dotty, your Assistant is lovely but we miss you!  Hoping you are beginning to wind  down so you can return to the HTL.

    Beans, Kathy, Lori, Stanzie, Gail and Claire hope you are all doing okay and staying safe whereever you are.

    Got a true but sort of funny story for you.   I'm at my DD house in the city and my GS's have a cat named Boris.  He is a tabby and a beautiful beast but he is such a mischief it's unbelievable.  Last night I decided to lay in bed and watch a movie on my laptop and when I was done, I turned the computer off and put my glasses on top.  I can see diddly squat without them so if I loose them I am in real trouble.  So......I wake up this morning late after DD is at work and GS's are at school and put my hand out looking for my glasses.....not there!   I sit up and look some more thinking that maybe I have knocked them off the computer through the night so I check the floor.......not there!!!   Then I think about BORIS!!!    Yup, the little darling has sniched my glasses and they could be anywhere and I can't see to find them!!!!   I ended up ringing the school and asking if my GS2 could be sent home as there was a family situation and he was needed at home.........poor darling came in the door with the most worried look on his face but when I told him that his cat had stolen my glasses and I couldn't see enough to find them and I needed them to drive as I had a doc appointment this afternoon, the poor relieved lad just burt out laughting!!!!!    He set to and after a fifteen minute hunt, found my glasses and I am once again able to see!!!!!!

    Love n hugs.  Chrissy

  • goldie0827
    goldie0827 Posts: 6,826
    edited July 2011

    Kathy, the stained glass class should be fun. My brother dabbled in it for a bit and I have a hummingbird and a fuchsia flower hanging in one of my living room windows. Funny thing about it though, the hummers always fly up to it! Sorry you missed your dance classes.

    Beans, I'm sorry that your family can't see how happy you are. Maybe you should pretend to be unhappy and both of you just constantly yell at one another. Why did you make me move here, you know I hate it..........blah blah blah. Really give them an earful of what it is they see it to be! Then just laugh your butts off!

    Beans, I think I remember you saying about the friend and his cancer diag. and your DH's arm. That being said, how are both of them doing?

    Astorm, don't you just wish that everyone could be like all of us here? Would sure make life so much easier!

    Karen, so amazing about the friend you met there being a 30 yr survivor. Please tell her we are all raising our glass to her and praying that we too can have a 30 yr celebration. Oh, please try and get your picture by the pomegranate tree. You might be sorry if you don't.

    NM, big hugs for you and Sadie....but I'm still laughing at one of your friend's comments about your mom. Horrible story about the woman being impaled. I too like watching storms, which we don't get too many of. Watch some heat lightening last night, but it does get scary, cuz lightening here causes fire. So always on the look out when it is lightening! Cute joke about the mommy sleeping with sissy daddy! Love the DOTD and so will Kathy, as it has Peach Schnapps in it!

    Ahhhhh Stella, welcome to The HTL. I hope DorK told you what a crazy loving group we are. Can I have Pants or Jocks get you a drink......or 6? Thank you for letting us know DorK is ok, but pa-leeze tell her not to work too hard.

    Kathy, you were crying from your stained glass class?

    I guess the doctors are quite busy in the Phx area due to repertory problems people are having from that dust storm, which was 100 miles wide and 5000' high!

    Speaking of families.......get this. My step daughter emails me yesterday and asks if we will fill out forms for her, saying she works for us and makes X amount of money so she can stay at her current apt. which is subsidized. At her new job, she is making too much Then proceeds to say that if we can't do that, she will have to move and she's not even sure she can keep her new job as she has a hard time working full time. I told my husband how I felt about that, like it's our fault if she has to move! So he called her out, and she said she didn't mean for it to sound like that. We have done SO much for that girl, I won't even get started on that one. Ok, I better scoot before I get myself all worked up! Love and huggles to all of you!
  • goldie0827
    goldie0827 Posts: 6,826
    edited July 2011

    Oh Chrissy, I can certainly relate! Sorry for bumping in to you.........but I know you didn't see it coming...............LMAO! j/k!

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    NM, I laffed so hard at your post!!! Till I read about the woman that got impaled....omg that is so horrible. Hoping and praying she will survive this, and be okay. Just awful. Thanks for the DOTD, as Lori mentioned, it has peach schnapps, so it is a winner for me!

    CHrissy, OMG I think I would have extra pairs of glasses around! So funny how you had to get your g'son to come home from school, though, and how he burst out laughing! I use glasses for reading, but have bifocals for distance/driving.etc. I hate those, so mostly wear the cheap reading glasses when I need to read, be on computer, etc. Since they are inexpensive, I have them ALL over!!! Would pr of reading glasses help you find your regular glasses? If so, it would be worth it to have extras and take them traveling, too. SO nice to hear from you!!!!

    Lori, Yeah, it was the stained glass class. I was looking forward to it, and got there b4 anyone else. Unfortunately I picked the wrong table, as there are only 8 in the class. But 5 are at the table with the instructor, and 3 of us are with the "assistant"....notice the first 3 letters. Well, he was no help at all. Plus it took me most of the class to pick all my glass out.....everyone was already working on their project so I was waaaaay behind. Consequently I missed the instruction and felt so behind and trying to "wing it", and got so darn frustrated I was ready to leave! IT just ended up a miserable evening, then driving home late was hard as I am sooooo blind driving at night. Not sure if I will even go back...will see how I feel about it next week. (3 more classes). My mom is not doing well either, and wants to come back here asap, so I have been trying to find flghts, which go up by 300-500 every day! It is unbelievable. So forgetful now, I wonder if she can even travel alone.It really breaks my heart, I feel like I have lost her already. Even writing this made me tear up. We may need to be with her every minute when she is here....will have to play it by ear. My dad is very frustrated with it all. So I guess I have been pretty down about that too.

    Happy Thirst-day to all you fantastic gals!!!!

    Kathy

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Posts: 11,437
    edited July 2011

    Kathy I wear tri-focals and can see nothing clearly without them.  Needless to say I wear them from the minute I wake until I turn the light off at night!  I do have an extra pair at home but at a cost of $500 a pair thtat is all I can afford!  Many years ago I used to wear those cheap reading glasses but of course they really make no difference to me now.  I do have a mini pair that I put on with my glasses when I am doing some fine needle work as it helps me to see each individual thread.    Gosh it's hard getting old....lol.....I used to wonder at my mother when she asked us kids to thread a needle for her......now, I can totally relate!!!!

    Love n hugs girls.   Chrissy

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    Awwwww, that sucks, Chrissy! You are right....it IS hard getting old. But as my Dad always says. "It's better than the alternative"! Too bad those cheap glasses won't help, and I agree that presc glasses are sooooooo expensive! Laughed at your recollection of your mom asking you to thread a needle when you were young. I used to always help my mom see pricetags, thread needles, etc., and now I ask HER to see things for me! After her cataract surgeries she can see perfectly close-up. Yesterday I was sewing, and it was hard to even thread the sew mach needle with the reading glasses....lol...!

  • Beanius
    Beanius Posts: 1,494
    edited July 2011

    Wahine - What an awful time at that class with the a$$istant...that just sounds so disappointing and that it was poorly organized. Is there any way to talk with the instructor to let them know how un-fun the class was? From what you described I would not want to go back but would be frustrated because it would be fun to learn if it was taught right. I don't like night driving either, I just don't do so well with it any more. As for being the youngest, I think I got bullied so much and even now I feel like I'm supposed to do what they tell me...then I shake it off and do what makes me happy, like Joseph Campbell said, "follow your bliss." But there is a lot of sadness that I realize they will always think I've done my life wrong. I once landed one of those lifetime careers with a huge corporation that will always be around and give you a pension and all that, well I just absolutely hated it and decided to leave...I know fam thought that was a big mistake to leave but I was truly miserable there...I like my 40 acres better even at -30 deg F! I like your oatmeal recipe too, that's way better than just plain like I've had it in the past. And thanks for meeting me for a strong nite cap last night! Dat was fun!

    Claire - Oh boy anudda oatmeal recipe! Maple syrup and cream sounds great on it...I knew there must be some secret to eating oatmeal on a regular basis, now I'm all set! Love your communion wine confession! Ha ha ha ha! I think when you are going thru chemo you are certainly entitled to big gulps of communion wine! Great thoughts on setting boundaries too, something I am still learning.

    AStorm - Such great words on other people, I often think "I'm alone, but I'm not lonely" when I'm in the peace of nature...is that wrong? Then when I have to get dragged into society where there are zillions of cars zooming by and the sky is brown and it's really noisy, I think, is this were I'm posta be to make fam happy? LOL at them having to visit me in such a wretched place!! You make me laugh at your sister's hints to visit...boy, I'm glad she doesn't visit you if she is that toxic to try to tell you she thinks you do so much wrong...my goodness, eating healthy and having clean air and going to college, you are doing all the right things IMHO. I like The Dalai Lama's ideas but I'm not advanced enough to be able to put that into practice with fam. Seems I go into panic mode and just wanna have a bigger glass of wine to get through it. Just love all the pics you posted, the hound and tabby with wiggly noses is so cute!

    Karen - Wow, I can't believe you've been there two weeks already, the time does fly! Congratulations on 5 years ago getting your last chemo, what a milestone, so glad you are doing so well. Yesterday was the one year anniv of my starting chemo - so glad that's in the past. I toast to your continued great health! And thanks for the great 30 year survivor story, that is just beautiful.

    NM - Love the AStorm with a tail pic! So funny, and the hateful mother cartoon...yes, I am so used to being wrong in their eyes, I just think back to my childhood and the older kids made so much fun of me and just put me down so much, so it's hard not to be with them and not get into old patterns that put me back to getting bullied, somehow I lose my strength around them and just start feeling awful. That's cool if you get some counseling benefits, the fam sh*t and PTSD can be a wicked combo....I would love to throw all fam cr@p under the bus and jump into a lake with barky dogs!!! That dog pic is perfect, "love me, love my dog." I feel the same way about my DH, "Love me, love my DH!" I'm so sick of all the hints about how he's made my life wrong. He has stood by me through thick and thin and is such a good man. Phooey to anyone who tries to bully us! HoLee MoLee what a story about the storms, sure hope that lady who got the tree between the eyes is okay, that just sounds awful! Love the Thunderstorm Cocktail, it's not stormy here but very foggy so schnapps sounds great!

    DorK - What a fun and creative post from Stella! So glad you are okay and that she popped in to tell us so...I really think along with no saying sawwy here dat we can't feel guilty for getting behiny sometimes, I hope dat you will just come back and tell us wassup and not feel you have to weed all the past pages if you don't have time.  We just wuvs ya DorK and we wuvs to hear from ya.

    Chrissy - I just stepped on my glasses yesterday and they went crunch. Fortunately I have a cr@ppy back-up pair till I get some better new ones. I just use the readers from the drug store, but there are some really awful quality ones, which is what I have on now. Great story about you GS and how worried he was and then was able to laff at the silly cat stealing your glasses.

    Goldie - I feel like when I tell what I think is a fun story, that what they are hearing is how awful my life is. You live rural too so you know that there are adventures in it...well I think that is fun, not always easy, but I'm never bored...I do believe if I pretended to be unhappy they would have a divorce lawyer at my door in two seconds...I think I gotta throw it under the bus and laff my butt off about how ridiculous it all is...I think I will always be the dumb little sister and on my headstone they will write something about how sad it was that my life was lived all wrong! I will be sitting there laffing my effin butt off, cuz I think I have had a good time...but what do I know? About our friend, he has kinda been out of touch and has his fam looking after him, so I don't know a whole lot yet, we are giving him space to deal with it all...DH's arm is better but swells if he uses it too much, tanks for asking.

    Well off to Seattle today, for once not for dr apts, but just for fun...going to Pike's Place Mkt and then to hunt down some wine! Hope everyone has a good day and kicks all f*cking bullies to the curb! Cheers!

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    Beans, that is just so awful how your sibs were to you growing up, and still are that way to you. I have horrible sis-from-h3ll stories but just am better if I never see her. IT has gotten way beyond being able to tolerate all that $hit. But my mom and I have been soooo close ever since I left home to get married. I gave her h3ll during my teen years, then it all came together. And we think alike and like to do the same things, it is really nice being with her. Thats why I feel so sad, as if she has already left me......sometimes I get a glimpse of the real person, but then it disappears. I just wonder what it will be like this time when she returns here. Its like she and I have a connection that we don't have with anyone else. Glad to have it, but I so hate to lose her. Hope you have a fantabulous day in Seattle!!!! Love Pike's Place market, and of course the fish throwing. There is an asian store in Seattle, near the edge of the city...I forget the name, but it is so popular that they direct traffic into the parking lot. Have groceries, cooked food, gift items, etc. If you like that sort of thing, it would be worth a visit. HAVE A GREAT TIME!!!!!

    Kathy

  • claire_in_seattle
    claire_in_seattle Posts: 2,793
    edited July 2011

    The fish throwing is a show to attract tourists.  I still resent being shown that video, and then being told I could "choose my attitude" when things were gettting tough.  That said, I did learn from the video that I have one opportunity to "make someone's day" through a fun interaction.

    I buy fish from the other vendors there.  Beans......one of them now does crab cocktails for $9.  A deal as a generous amount of Dungeness crab and delish cocktail sauce.

    In case you feel really badly about running over your glasses, the convo I had with the guys who transport their bicycles on roof racks was enlightening.  All three had forgotton that their bicycles were on top at one point in their lives.  Now, three bicycles at $1500 each, and I would really be crying.

    Asian store is Uwajimaya Village.  Have been there a couple of times, but do most food shopping on foot.  Except for veggie markets which I hit on the way back from an event.  There are great little shops in Pike's Place too.

    Beans......Le Panier is the real deal in French pastry, and I think I am enough of an expert on this one, having lived in Paris for a year.  I would buy bread from them too more often, but not a good idea for me to walk home and attack a loaf of bread with a stick of butter.

    I know better.  (Why the crab cocktail recommendation.)

    Next Thursday is July 14, and there will be a Bastille Day celebration in Post Alley sponsored by Le Campagne.  Baguettes with all sorts of good stuff, cheap good wine, Can Can dancers and a real fun street fair.  The Can Can dancers are burlesque artists, and only when I saw them in action did I understand how scandalous the Can Can was at that time.

    Regular ballet dancers are interested in footwork and getting the technique perfect.  The burlesque dancers do all that, plus know how to work the crowd.  Much more fun. - Claire

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Posts: 1,611
    edited July 2011

    Oh Kathy!!!!! I'm so so sorry to hear about your Mom! Don't even know what to say as I know exactly what you mean as my Mom was the closest person in the world to me and it was horrible to lose her. Can your Dad not fly back with her? If not can you get some assistance for her to make sure she is alright? I know how awful the worry is also. Well, still I'm glad she will be with you soon and you just have to take what ever glimpses you have of your real Mom and enjoy them fully. These will be a very difficult and sad times ahead so take extra joy and pleasure in the times that are good. Just always remember how lucky you both are to have such an amazing relationship and it always helped me to know my Mom always knew how much I loved her and how much she loved me. Anyway, just get her home to you so you can take care of her.

    As for the class - well I think Lori is right. We are adults, most of the time, and you paid for that course and should be given proper instruction. Also they should know if the class is unsuccessful not only in teaching but gosh at our age who wants to pay for an awful frustrating time. That isn't right at all!

    Love, love AStorm's tail, I think I saw it wag! 

    Chrissy- Oh my! Were you scared when you couldn't find your glasses? I would be! And it was a cat that stole them? Where on earth did your GS find them. You know I borrowed a bow tie for my son's costume and it was sitting on the island then disappeared - someone said maybe the cat took it but I didn't believe it was possible now.... well! 

    OK - so I'm youngest - the stupid one - the one who can not possibly remember anything that happened in my family or my own life. My sisters still are mean and bully me. When my Mom was really sick with the brain tumor and my oldest sister was off traveling the world and I was home with three small children, had MS and shingles and asked if my other sister who was planing to come up to "play and have fun with the oldest got home" if she could come a few days earlier to help me. She wrote back saying " Some of us have a real life, no" . Isn't she sweet? Neither sister has children(thank goodness). So I understand about them.... so how many of us are the youngest? 

     Oh Goldie and Beanie - I think it is so fabulous to hear about how you all are living. I think about it when something breaks or like a couple of summers ago when we had such scary water problems - I mean drinking water... I thought gosh I so wish I had the skills and knowledge on how to live way more simple and self-suffient. It would make me feel secure to have that kind of ability so I admire you both greatly and your family should be totally grateful and be kissing up to you in case they need advice sometime or a place to be.! My Mom didin't like my sister's husband to begin with, he was 20 years older with grown children her age, didn't have a good job, wanted to quit and just sail around, and well he wasn't all that bright where my sister is amazingly smart and ambitious and she was so young. Well, they had been married a while and it was obviously how she totally lived for him and thought he was the best and seeing how happy she was my Mom had to admit she found her perfect match. It wasn't a life she would want but was grateful how happy he made her. This is my BIl who has had the cancer reappear. He is able to have the surgery( fabulous news) but still waiting on when... 

    Stella - so nice to know DorK has someone to watch over her and help her - might need to put a lock on the liquor cabinet though.... just saying.... 

    My friend has gone home! It was such a wonderful visit! The only other friend who has visited was the one we got into a "fight" on last visit. Well, now I see more clearly. She used to come about 5 times a year and stay with me- but she always scheduled dr apts ( cosmetic surgeries) and shopping, and seeing other friends and would spend one evening with me and then leave. Well, no wonder I always felt like something was wrong. This time my friend actually came to see me! And we relaxed in the pool, we cooked, we shopped, we played with the kids, and we laughed a whole lot! Now I really see what I was missing on having someone visit. I guess I'm a bit slow on being used as I seem to have that happen a lot but I'm finally learning so that is a good thing!!

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    Stanzie, What sweet, perfect words. Thank you so much. And yes, I will treasure every moment. Just made her res, and she will be here Tues am. My 94 yr old dad will probably go to the gate with her to make sure she gets to the right one. I asked him to just have her take checked luggage, so she won't forget a carry-on. Then the wheelchair meets her in Atlanta, and a quick flight here. Hoping and praying she will be okay. I can only imagine how much you miss your mom, and I am dreading when I have to face that some day. Yeah,, I wonder how many of us are the youngest...*holding my hand up high*. Should take a poll. So glad you had a wonderful visit with your friend, and you are right...that is how it SHOULD be. I know you are a great hostess!!!

    Claire, yup that is the asian market! Since we like to cook asian food and I like the dried (preserved) seeds that you eat, etc., I am in heaven in stores like that! Yeah, the fish throwing is for tourists, but I still enjoyed seeing it whenever we were there. Met a couple of tourists in the elevator there, and had a good conversation, that is until they asked where we were from and we said "Alabama". Then it got silent. Now I quickly say I am from Hawaii, but live in Alabama now! Funny what misconception a lot of people have about the south. ANyway, got off topic there.

    Beans, So sweet....yeah I should call the owner,but he was THERE. When he came over to me at the end and was showing me some stuff acting like I should have been told how to do it, I told him that was the first time it was shown to me.And the a$$istant was nearby so then he wasn't very friendly to me. The owner knew I was frustrated, as I also mentioned maybe I should just go home!!! I also wish I had chosen a n easy straight-cut pattern, but no, mine is all curves! Arrrgghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! I will see how I feel next week and if I want to be there, since my mom will be here.

    Oh dear, now I forget what else I meant to comment on. SO HOT today...I worked outside for a bit and the "glistening moisture" was even dripping from my face, onto my shoulders.... Did I mention it is HOT??? lol.   Ok now to get cleaned up and do some other stuff.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Posts: 4,678
    edited July 2011

    The end of week 1 of the 3 week learning program.  Today was a trip to the Jordan Valley (includes Jehrico, Dead Sea)....talk about HOT!!!  Steaming hot out...good thing the tour bus was A/C...it was over 100 out.....I drank 3 liters of water on the trip!!!   Did some wondering around one of the older neighborhoods this evening.....11.5K steps today.....been good about not eating junk or snacking too much....Found a good deal of a petit shiraz/merlot and enjoyed a couple glasses with a salad and pita bread with this great seasoning and cheese for dinner.....Needless to say, now I'm tired.

    Goldie...I did take my picture with the pomengranate tree (I took it instead of asking someone)...got some nice pictures today as well.....

    Chrissy...Whenever I thread a needle, I understand why my grandmother used to ask me to thread it for her...even with my glasses its getting mighty hard to do

    Going to go see if I can upload some of the pictures....will put some of fb first and then see if I can manage to do it here...hope I don't have to download them all....and oh well if I do.....Wishing everyone a good Thursday!!!  Going to go to bed soon....Hey Chrissy....whats the time difference between you and Israel....Israel is 7 hours later than east coast and 10 hours later than west coast USA.  Hugs, Karen

  • nativemainer
    nativemainer Posts: 8,104
    edited July 2011

    Wahine--I was going to mention calling the airline and having someone  watch out for your Mom, but if you've arranged a wheelchair, that's already taken care of!  Good idea about carry on luggage, too.  I assume she carries a purse? Make sure your Dad puts your name, address and phone numbers in it, clearly marked ICE (in case of emergency). 

    Speaking of ICE--a while back there was a lot of noise going around about programming ICE in your cell phone as a universal way to identify emergency contacts.  When you get your Mom home, Wahine, if she has a cell phone you might want to program two ICE's--ICE Hawaii (that's where she lives, right?) and ICE AL for when she's with you.  

    And I'm with Stanzie on the class-- if you decide not to go back be sure to request your money back.  You may or may not get it depending on the instructor's policy, but asking for it back should generate a questions as to why and you can say your piece.  That info needs to get to the powers that be somehow. 

    Rural living does have a lot going for it, and the occasional irritation as well.  Like 5 power outages of several minutes each throughout the morning.  No sooner get everything reprogramed and reset and the power would go out again!  Yeesh.  

  • AStorm
    AStorm Posts: 1,393
    edited July 2011

    NM - so glad you liked the book... knew you would! It has been on my shelf for quite awhile... wasn't sure I'd enjoy it cuz the concept of a dog writing a story is little unusual but once I got into it I loved it.

    Lori - well to be honest, sometimes I pretend that the other people don't exist and it is just us chickens. That dust storm sounds so terrible. That step daughter got noiv! One of my clients told me that his wife's friend called his office all freaked out one day because she had just been in an accident and had no auto insurance which is illegal here. She wanted him to "put her on payroll" and say she was running an errand so his insurance would pay for the damages! He wasn't in the office and the office manager just laughed at her. The thing is, he had done a lot for this friend and she probably didn't think twice about asking him for one more favor.

    Stanzie - friends are the family we choose. My DH gives me grief about not being close with my family but he doesn't understand that people can be toxic. I'm the middle child but I was sickly, smaller, and stayed at home longer so I'm treated like I'm the youngest... meaning I get picked on and my sisters think I'm the favorite. Both my sisters have more kids (6 + 4) than they can handle. It has been heart-breaking to watch those kids stumble through life and I've reached out to them. I'm relieved to see that they are all working out their problems in such healthy ways considering where they came from. Now there I go again, sounding superior!

    Beanie - I cannot live in a city... that is something I know about myself. I've always wanted my kids to appreciate where they live but they don't feel the same as I do about it... I was a parent chaperone one time for a camping trip with DD's class (2nd grade?) and we went on a hike. The teacher said he wanted the kids to experience being alone in nature so he had one parent walk ahead and then we sent one kid at a time so they could have a short walk by themselves. I thought that was such a thoughtful thing to do! I started back toward camp early because I was in charge of dinner. When I left the group I reminded the teacher that my DD was using the "potty" and please make sure she gets back to the group. When I got back to camp I started feeling some anxiety, like something bad had happened. It was getting dark and they had been out for a long time... I was really worried (I have anxiety attacks when something isn't right) and by the time I heard them coming toward the camp I took off running toward them. The teacher was really nervous and the first thing he said was "she's okay"... apparently she didn't understand that there isn't a restroom in the woods and got lost looking for the "potty". She was scared and crying and had wet her pants so she didn't want to be found - she thought she could find her way back to camp without anyone noticing but was going the wrong direction. She never wants to be alone in nature again! And now she is going to college in San Francisco because she wants to see what it is like to live in a city with too much noise and too many cars. Jealous you get to go to Seattle though - I love Pike's Place!

    Karen - glad your classes are going so well and it sounds like you are enjoying the walking... I'm a walker myself. I think you notice more when you walk and I also like having that time to think cuz when I'm in my car I'm always listening to audiobooks ... and thinking about my driving of course.

    Kathy - sorry about your class. You were so looking forward to it... maybe it will get better. So sorry about your mom Hope you find a flight for her... I think you'll feel better when she is closer.

    Chrissy - laughing with you! Glad your GS was able to help you find your glasses. My cats like pens and pencils but they will also pull flowers out of a vase and bat them around. Why can't they just play with the toys that are scattered everywhere? Oh, one of them likes the fuzzy floor duster sleeve off the hardwood floor mop. I find it on my bed almost every day.

    DorK -good to hear from you. We all get a bit overwhelmed from time to time. Wish I had an asst. but not like Kathy's asst.

    We got up early and started the tile project... finished setting the tile by 2:00 and I love it! DH actually stuck around and did the cuts for me while I set the tile. Tomorrow I will grout. OMG my big orange tabby is licking WD's face while he sleeps!  

    Pants! Can you bring me some nachos? I'm famished!

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Posts: 1,611
    edited July 2011

    Astorm- did you ever read " The Ugly Dachsund"? It was the book the old Disney movie was based on. It is all from the dog's perspective - but now not sure which, it's been along time since I read it.

    Oh, I'm so impressed you tiled! I so want to learn how to do things myself but I'm so intimidated.... 

    Aww your poor little girl - I heard other stories about kids out in the woods not understanding that there are no potties out there - I'm sure you were about to have a panic attack. I have always lived in the city but I think I'd like to try living somewhere quieter and less crowded. I have often thought that my son with DS might be happier in a small community but for now will have to just keep trying to keep my heard above water but someday... Glad she was alright! 

    I think your nieces and nephews are very luck to have both you and your husband. I had hoped my sisters would take more of an interest in my kids but so far no... My one sister who has the step grandchildren my kids age - she seems to be close to them and do things with them but then I'm not the Mom which is probably basically the problem. So, trying to learn just not to care or worry about all that. I've tried not to color my children's impressions of my sisters but they got it all on their own. My sister once was going to watch them for about an hour at her house and she said something like, Ok, your Mom is gone so no rules you all do whatever you want and laughed. To this day my oldest son said she scares him and when I got home he asked me not to ever leave them with her again. 

    Well, I've already taken one nap today and am ready for bed once I can get my son interested in going to bed, daughter off on a sleep over. I adored having my friend stay with me but it just totally wore me out! 

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    YAY so glad the tile is looking fantabulous, Gail!!! Can you post a pic? The tile in the bathrooms at the condo needs work....tile is fine, but grout is stained/breaking off. These are the old 4" tiles, and i can just fit a putty knife between them, they are that close. SO, trying to get the grout out and re-grout. DH wants to hire someone....he doesn't realize all the LABOR involved. I told him if we hire someone to do that, we might as well get new tile too, since labor would be the most expense. Oh well, I will try and see what I can do, if I can't fix it, then we can get someone to do it. Been empty for over 2 mo now, we just can't get fired up about finishing. And now that my mom is coming, there is a lot I want to do, so I can spend tons of time with her. Such a cute, but sad story about your DD looking for a real potty in the woods. Poor dear! BUT so glad she was found....how scary. Something like that, you can never forget.

    NM, Thanks for the reminder about "ICE".....I always forget that. One thing I did do, is put my name and phone number in her car in case she had a wreck. I am thinking of calling the owner of the stained glass place (even though he was there last night) and explaining why I was upset, and see if he might be able to put me in next months class instead...also, since my mom will be here I hate to go to something that might be stressful. If he won't do that, I may just tell him I won't be back.

    Karen, hard to believe you have been in Israel for a week already...wow! So nice how you are immersing yourself in the culture, and getting around on your own. Too bad for all that heat though! Sounds like a nice sightseeing tour!

    Pau Hana time, albeit a bit late. Got a lot of wood cut at Lowe's, so hoping to do a project soon, on the deck. OK, now has anyone made dinner yet? Can I join you???? Don't like to cook when we get home late, and tired. Well, after a couple of dwinks, I know I will feel more mellow!!!

    Bottomz Up! Titz Up!

    Kathy

  • wahine
    wahine Posts: 7,590
    edited July 2011

    YAY so glad the tile is looking fantabulous, Gail!!! Can you post a pic? The tile in the bathrooms at the condo needs work....tile is fine, but grout is stained/breaking off. These are the old 4" tiles, and i can just fit a putty knife between them, they are that close. SO, trying to get the grout out and re-grout. DH wants to hire someone....he doesn't realize all the LABOR involved. I told him if we hire someone to do that, we might as well get new tile too, since labor would be the most expense. Oh well, I will try and see what I can do, if I can't fix it, then we can get someone to do it. Been empty for over 2 mo now, we just can't get fired up about finishing. And now that my mom is coming, there is a lot I want to do, so I can spend tons of time with her. Such a cute, but sad story about your DD looking for a real potty in the woods. Poor dear! BUT so glad she was found....how scary. Something like that, you can never forget.

    NM, Thanks for the reminder about "ICE".....I always forget that. One thing I did do, is put my name and phone number in her car in case she had a wreck. I am thinking of calling the owner of the stained glass place (even though he was there last night) and explaining why I was upset, and see if he might be able to put me in next months class instead...also, since my mom will be here I hate to go to something that might be stressful. If he won't do that, I may just tell him I won't be back.

    Karen, hard to believe you have been in Israel for a week already...wow! So nice how you are immersing yourself in the culture, and getting around on your own. Too bad for all that heat though! Sounds like a nice sightseeing tour!

    Pau Hana time, albeit a bit late. Got a lot of wood cut at Lowe's, so hoping to do a project soon, on the deck. OK, now has anyone made dinner yet? Can I join you???? Don't like to cook when we get home late, and tired. Well, after a couple of dwinks, I know I will feel more mellow!!!

    Bottomz Up! Titz Up!

    Kathy

  • AStorm
    AStorm Posts: 1,393
    edited July 2011

    I'll post a picture after I get the grout done... assuming I'm still happy about it. My bathroom has those little tiles with the tiny grout lines. I've been able to maintain it pretty well since I am the only one who uses this bathroom but the grout along the bottom of the shower is starting to make me nervous. I'm thinking about just replacing that grout but the whole bathroom would be too much work -- you're probably right about the labor cost. I just paid someone $1000 in labor to tile a larger bathroom floor but he had to take out the toilet and replace some subfloor, etc.

    Stanzie - I haven't heard of that story but I'll look for Kindle version to read on vacation. What is an ugly dachshund? We are new to the dachshund world... lots of corgi books, especially for the kids. When we were thinking about getting our first corgi DD2 was about 3 years old. She loved Tasha Tudor (great children's author/ artist who lived with multiple corgis and included them in her stories). Anyway, we went to a corgi "fun run" to see some corgis in action to decide if this was the right kind of dog for us, and to meet some breeders. We met a nice older lady with a corgi puppy named "Tasha" and the woman was SO impressed when my 3 YO DD knelt down to corgi eye-level and declared to the puppy, "I love you Tasha Tudor!"

    Pau Hana time indeed! Imuna hafa nuther glash of dat shardonnay for DH gets too it... for tomorra I'll be sore fer shore ederway...

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Posts: 1,611
    edited July 2011

    The old movie was with Suzanne Pleshette ( not sure how you spell her name) anyway she has 5 or 6 little dachsunds which are her pride and joy and I think the husband brings into the marriage a puppy Greaddane  so all these dogs grow up together but the great dane thinks it is a dachsund too. So you can imagine the trouble the poor large dog gets into. As a child we went to see the movie and apparently my Mom said I cried as I felt so bad for the larger dog while all the kids and parents were all killing themselves laughing. But still I did like the movie even though it wasn't funny to me. Anyway, this book, by G. B. Stern if from the dogs point of view and they call their owners Master legs and Supreme Legs and then Relative legs. It isn't like the movie at all but just how these little dogs view their world. It says "unlike classic dog stories, this one is entirely unsentimental indeed is a parody of sentiment. It is incredidible in a delightful manner , as it should be, and while I do know know griffons or Great Danes or movie poodles, I can certify that the sachshund nature is one hundred percent correct." Anyway, I enjoyed it very much.

  • Huskerkkc
    Huskerkkc Posts: 471
    edited July 2011

    Gals, late greetings. Have finished day 2 of rada, driving 90 minutes one way. They had a masseuse today; evidently the RO hires her to come weekly for his patients. It was the chair version, shoulders/back area but oh so nice! 

    Wahine...can relate to crappy instructors. went last week for a 4-day computer training (Smartboards!) and I left at 11:15 of day 2 after the instructor was going so fast, saying he wasn't slowing down for anyone, and to keep up! Normally I am pretty computer savvy, but I do not have a Smartboard because I go from class to class; I don't have my own classroom, just an office. The first day there were not enough laptops so we were 3 on a computer. Ridiculous. The 2nd day I brought my own and had him download the software so I could have my own, but then was so behind because I didn't have all the setup from the first day. Anyway, by mid-morning I had had it with his attitude and teaching approach. I wasn't feeling well, was nervous about the whole 2nd opinion, jerky RO situation and was in no mood for this. So I started packing up. He says "where you going?" I said, "I'm done; I'm leaving". No, no, no, you're fine. You'll get it. And he puts his hand on my shoulder. And I said, "I'm leaving. Get OUT OF MY WAY". And I left the room in tears, and went to the bathroom. I was so mortified and embarrassed. To leave that way in front of all the other teachers (and I'm the counselor, for heaven's sake!) Another teacher told him he was going WAY too fast; I was just the only one who reached the breaking point. Another teacher came in and I told her I was leaving. I don't have time for this crap and I don't need to waste my time. So we'll see if I get any flack from the superintendent. It wasn't required, but you know how that goes. Anyway, I have since been kind of proud of myself for leaving (would never have done that pre-BC; would have stayed and endured it) and yelling at him.

    Newest thing on my to-do list: I want to get a puppy, specifically a Yorkie. I already have a Golden Retriever. Since this group is so dog-crazy (although a few cat lovers too; I'm just highly allergic so not so fond of them!) Husband is leaning towards agreement. So, may go this weekend to two breeders in the area. Or one. I'll probably walk out with one at the first one!  

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Posts: 5,005
    edited July 2011

    Hi girls and happy Fried-dey. I have been trying to read up.  Kathy, you are in my prayers, sorry to hear your Mom is failing.

    I have been so busy at work but the days there are winding down. Next Friday is my last work day then surgery the folllowing Wed.

     I have my pre-op appointment this morning so figured I'd come in for a drink. 

    I had to fire Stella, yes, she drank everything in the house and left me nothing. Oh well...

    Have a great day you wonderful gals!!

    pEACE!

  • goldie0827
    goldie0827 Posts: 6,826
    edited July 2011

    Kathy, if your classes are free or you've already paid for them, why not go? Especially if it's something you would like to do. Don't let it frustrate you, you are not getting graded, you won't pass or fail. So go and try to enjoy it. Gosh, so sorry to hear about your mom. Just sounds like maybe there is a little more going on? Obviously she is not happy if she is wanting to come to you a.s.a.p. Perhaps dad isn't being very supportive towards her? I hope you can work it out. Oh good, just read that you got her flt. Can you use some kind of a drumel (sp) to get the grout out? Ask someone at one of your home improvement stores, perhaps they have an idea.

    Beans, all I can say is IT'S YOUR LIFE, not theirs. The job thing happened to my son as well. My dad got him into Sheet Metal trade. Well he didn't like it. My dad to this day doesn't talk to my son. Heck, he doesn't talk to my daughter either! Oh well.....HIS LOSS! You need to find something to take your mind somewhere else when you are feeling bullied, so it doesn't bring you down. You know, something like the foil balls. You could throw them all for a loop and say "but I have foil balls to play with here, and they are SOOOO much fun, and I can't do that anywhere else".

    Claire, the Bastille Day celebration sounds like a great time, and so much fun and entertainment.

    Stanzie, I am the oldest and the only girl. I have 3 brothers, 2 of which are gay. And we all love one another unconditionally, no one is bullied. In fact the youngest one was spoiled rotten! I think you are the one with the real life, not them. You friends visit sounds like it was exactly what you needed. I hope she can come back soon and the two of you can whoop it up again! And such sweet perfect words for Kathy about her mom. Gosh, I'm so glad we have one another!

    Karen, so glad you got the picture. From facebook you should be able to just copy and paste. Don't even need to use that little green tree thingy. That was how I got my pictures up from when I was younger. Copied and pasted them from my brothers page.

    NM, you ALWAYS have the best advice and sometimes it's just the most obvious, but not thought of by us. You must never leave! Pants, Jocks get some shackles please!

    Gail, I'm thinking she wasn't thinking, except for herself. I'm sure it never dawned on her that we could get in trouble. Oh well, not my problem! Oh dear, what a horrifying experience for your daughter. You must have felt just awful. Awwww, my heart is breaking, poor baby looking for a potty in the woods. Hopefully you all can laugh about it now. Funny about your kitty licking WD's face, need a pic of that one! .....and your tile! I did the tile in our house, spare bath, foyer, utility room and in the greenhouse. I like doing it, but find it hard on my back. Forgive my stupidity, but I thought a dachshund was a WD......no?

    Stanzie, LMAO at one of your typos - "will have to just keep trying to keep my heard above water"

    Kristy, a masseuse? Now how nice is that!

    Oh DorK, so sorry you had to fire Stella. I thought fer shure she was gonna fit right in with us. Good luck this morning, glad you were able to get a few drinks in before your appt. Glad you are at least keeping up with us, I thought I saw you over on the hammock reading away. Too bad we couldn't get our posts on a kindle...ha ha ha! You will have to remind us again when your surgery is, so we can load up da bus!

    Off to town! !ZrEehC
  • nativemainer
    nativemainer Posts: 8,104
    edited July 2011

    Wahine--YW for the reminder, and it's something I need to do too, before I go on vacation this fall. Actually, I probably should do it now. Good thing you put your info in the car, that's a really good idea. And stained glass classes will be around in the future, your Mom may not be, so go ahead and spend the time with her. It isn't worth the stress when you're doing something optional, just for fun.


    Astorm--What a cute corgi story! That must have been so sweet and such a precious memory.

    Stanzie--That sounds like a funny book, I may have to find that one, too! I always wondered what my dogs are thinking, maybe I can get an idea between Racing in the Rain and Ugly Dachsound (or however you spell it).

    Husker-- That massage must have been sooooo nice! When I was getting rads the place was packing up to move to a new location and I was lucky not to trip over boxes of files and stuff between the waiting room and treatment room. I'm always jealous when I hear about people getting treated well while getting rads. AND: Good for you for leaving that class AND saying why! WTG, Husker! And getting a Yorkie, so fun! I'm like you, when I start looking for a new dog I know I'll walk out with one from the first place I stop at. No resistance whatsoever! Don't forget to post a pic of the new addition.

    DorK--Please, you didn't really fire Stella did you? I was so hoping to get a good reference from you for her! Sigh. Guess I just have to manage my own social calendar still. Sadie's typing is only at about 1 word per day. She can type 60 letters per minute, but they don't line up into words and sentences. She claims her nails are too long. I suppose I'll have to get her a manicure and try again.

    Im recommending this as the DOTD:

    ThE MANICURE

    1 shot Boulard Grand Solage calvados
    1 shot Johnnie Walker Scotch Whisky
    1 shot Drambuie

    Method: STIR all ingredients with ice and fine strain into chilled glass.

    Garnish: Apple wedge