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oh my, I think I heard Pants is mooning in Las Vegas with NM? Soooo jeolous. ooops, it was moonlighting I heard. But Hunk is in da house, yay.
Gail, I am here just starting my happy hour and it is after ten peee em here, yikes! Why is it sad hour for you? Hunk has em lined up for you, just what the good doc ordered, come on in, I am heading for the chapel for a minute, brb. Happy to hear about your "finds" today, nice. Hope you get back to feeling well soon. And wishing your DH all the best in getting that poy-fect yob, cheers to a great interview!!
Scuby doo, (Lisa), have a great time with your bff, so nice that she is coming in from London to see you. I hope you gals have fun, relax and laugh often. Glad you are feeling better.
Karen, nice to see you, I am heading to the spa for a bit then having a visit from DH.
I just got home from a 7pm dr appointment for my DD. We are both feeling better. I was stressing over the long drive but coming home was easy breezy. Starting to see the light and improvement for my girl. Thanks all for the prayers and loving thoughts.
Kathy, gosh, where do I start? So much to catch up on. I just read your PM and really appreciatee your feedback. May I call you Dr. Raquell? Is the doctor in the house? I saw something today about your town being named money magazines best place to retire, how awesome is that? My town got the honor in 2004 but lost it when they discovered I live here. It must feel great to live in such a wonderful piece of America! I know I am blessed living here in NJ. Who knew? Well I knew but others think we have houses piled on houses, no yards and no open space.
Need to pop on the Chrissy B thread and see wat up wit her.
Missing Lori too, hoping all is going great. I know it is hard to find time to log in here when with family from afar. Maybe she will just pop in for a drink. I left one on the bar for her next to my stool. Hope to be back a little later, depends on if I take on drink #2. It is late and time to get happy yet I am tired. DH is between limo gigs and will be stopping in til midnight. He says to tell you girls hi.
Ok then. Kymn, glad you checked in, I am worried about you, baby sis. Please feel free to take me up on my offer, any time and I mean any. I will be there for you in a heartbeat even if I have to stand at the airport and wait to grab da plane. Sending you more hugs, hope the tears cease. Think about it, is he worth making your sweet nose red? NOT. I understand your pain though, I have been where you are and it hurts so bad. I was nearly left at the alter once, long story but the pain is vivid when I think about it.
Alot of girls MIA here, was it sumting me sed? Is it me dwunken smelling, I mean spelling/grammar or what? Where is Stanzie, where is Claire, where is my favorite bean in da world? K, gotta run (well walk) HA.
Cheerz ma ladies, tiddy up, me gotz to giddy up!
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LOL DorK, your posts always leave me with a smile at the end (or a chuckle!). Even when you have a hard day, you manage to be lots of fun. Glad things are going better for your lovely DD, and that you got home safely! Yup, thought you had no green space in NJ! So nice you are able to enlighten those of us that have not seen your bee-yoo-tea-ful state. My DH's late cousin lived there, but he died yrs ago, and we only see his son and wife when they visit in AL. His wife still lives in the apt they had before he died maybe 20 yrs ago or so. BUT his son is nice looking and has his own PT practice there! Our city wasn't quite #1, but was among the top spots chosen.OMG you were nearly left at the altar??? How stressful! I just heard from a classmate and her DD just cancelled her wedding a couple of days before it was to be. So many friends and family flew to HI from the mainland, and were so very understanding to them. Most of them flew home yesterday. I applauded her DD, as I should not have gone thru with my 1st marriage, as I did have a lot of doubts, and of course we divorced (thankfully without kids). But you know how everything is already done, and by then you feel you HAVE to go through with it.
Kymn, dear baby girl, hope you are doing better. I liked how DorK said he is not worth making your nose red. But do get the tears out, and try not to hold all that sadness inside. I forget how old your kids are, but seem to think they are sorta young? How are they handling seeing you so sad? I imagine this is sad for them too, so sending out prayers for all of you. Hang in there, and keep your head held high, you are one special gal.
Well, DH pd handyman in cash, thinking he would give us a receipt when he comes to our house to work, tomorrow. BUT his family (sister, etc) had a car accident in Atlanta, so he just called, and is hoping to be back at work here on Sunday. Hope they are okay! He did such good work with the tile, etc, I was able to add a picture of that to our listing tonight. I repainted the porch swing that I had painted blue the other day! But I like the sage green better...have a park bench that color too that I did a big black chinese design on, so might try similar on this one. See why my housework does NOT get done???
Cheers Deers!
RRW
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Glad I gave you a chuckle Kathy. That is what I do when I am down and crack my dernself upz. Humor keeps me strong even on bad days. Jack helps tI am still at the top of the first drink and just send DH outta here angry. He just stresses me out sometimes and he came in like a whirlwind and repeated the same behaviors that I dislike. That dog, the wires I have run due to no outdoor electric, had to say something smart ass about my DD, out he went. I feel bad as I love the man so much but told him this. Also told him that I will not change nor get rid of my dog and he will not stop hating her, stop moving things and stop digging at me. Chrissy told me that she thinks I should keep him. She sees the same thing in him that I do. He is a great guy, just too hyper and does things without thinking. He drives me nuts. I pissed him off by asking for my key. Ughhh. 'scuze me while I gulp.....ahhh, jd, how are you tonight? "good" says JD, I am here for you". I am feeling tortured over so much but just can't get into it too much here. I need my shrink, Chrissy but can not burden her while she is having fun. So for now, I will drink and wait patiently for her return to Australia.
Kymn/Kathy, the alter story, it was a blessing in disguise. He actually married another girl before I kicked his ass to the curb and I did not find out for quite some time. I threw my engagement ring at him. He gave it to "her". Funny thing, we ended up becoming friends after she threw him out too. He was smooooooth and knew how to wheel in the ladies. But not smooth enough, I knew something was not right and when I confronted him on a night that he showed up two hours late for a great dinner I had prepared, he told me he was having second thoughts (mind you he was already married to the other woman). So he told me his second thoughts which had nothing to do with her presence, I went to my room, put the ring in the box and threw it at him. Valuable lesson, should have kept it since he proposed on Valentines day. So much more to the story and it is actually humorous to me today but at the time I could not eat, sleep and often had trouble breathing. I was humiliated. Soooo Kymn, I can really relate. Would love to talk to you and I can try very hard to allow you to do the talking first. If you need me, I can book a flight, looks like Monday is not a work day and I say wtf. My ex could care for our darling Jessa and her man can take care of her through return to school on monday. Let me know, I have free miles!! And could use a break. Sort of kidding but would really do it if you felt I could help you.
Oh a ramblin, oooooops. Sorry but I am sincere and pouring me guts out. Time to get a dwink poured instead and drink this one down.
DorK, Down and out.
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Wow, you get a little kidney stone action,get drugged and stay out of the lounge for a less then a day....
Good Morning to all! Feeling sooooo much better now that I am only worrying about BC related healing (sad but true). I actually slept 7 hours straight with no drugs for first time since lumpectomy (oops, forgot, alcohol is sort of considered a drug in some circles).
Hymn, hugs and prayers continue.
DorK, above all, glad things with DD went well, she is the priority over DH right now. I can't imagine a guy being stupid and/or brave enough to leave you at the altar, is he buried near Jimmy Hoffa in north Jersey somewhere, hope so!0 -
Kymn, like I said, you come up as Hymn every time. Will leave as is, or can switch to your stripper alias, for now leaving as is.
It is a sunny day here in Philly, hope that holds true for all of you, regardless of the weather.
Cheers,
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he is having an affair , who does that to someone going through treatment , my kids dont know yet but I know they sense something is up even though I havent cried in front of them mommy is spending a bit too much time in her room. I am broken, I dont understand the human soul , I could never do this to someone I dont know how a man who has claimed to love me for so long could break me like this but I will find a way, right now I just need to hurt
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Missing our MIA morning posters, NM and Lori! Hope you both are having a wonderful time on your vacations!
Oh Kymn, I can SO relate....thats what my 2nd SOB (definately NOT a DH) did to me. It totally kills you inside, and your trust of anyone just disappears for awhile. Apparently the woman was after him (told some aquaintances) when I was pg w/ 2nd child...and he was a willing (duh) a$$hole. Was months till I was found out, so I left when I had an 11 mo old and a 3+yr old. Now I know he is DEFINATELY not worth crying over....although I do know that is a necessary process to go through. My bff's mom had stage4 cancer, and her DH (bff's stepdad) ran around, which is esp sad as she just lived a short time...he was never there and since my bff lived in another state I was the one helping her thru hair loss, chemo appt, etc. It wasn't long after she passed that he married his gf, who was younger than my bff! SO she had a new stepmom that was much younger than she was, but big-hearted as she is, she became very close to her. ANYWAY, sorry to go on about others, as that would fill pages and pages. What I hope to convey is that you can go on...even though there are a lot of SOB's out there, there are also very good men too, and I know you will find a good partner again some day. Just take care of yourself and your kids. I know it will be very hard telling them, but then you can lean on each other. My DD was so helpful to me when we lost my DH, her dad....I hated leaning on her so much, but just had to. Your kids might be a source of strength to you. I don't know...I am rambling, I just woke up, and thats what happens....I just don't stop typing. JUST WANT TO GIVE YOU BIG HUGS....(((HUGS))) and please remember we are ALL here for you. WIsh I could help the pain and hurt go away, but unfortunately no one can do that for you...it all needs to come out...then you can heal and be whole again. Believe me, you WILL be happy again!!!!
Love and Hugs,
Kathy
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Good morning.
Kathy, what great words to our Kymn. I was typing a post but ended up losing it. I will try to start again but you said alot of things that I would say to her. Her first question is how could he....??? He is a man, that is how. Men can be so insensitive. I really wish I was there, this would be my plan. I would hunt him down, I am a good little investigator when I want to be. My guess is that he is probably not being truthfull to himself and also to the whore beotch that he is sleeping with. She may be a nice woman (such as the other woman that my ex fiance' was sleeping with). He may not be honest about even having children and perhaps does not even know that the woman he left had the most tramatic year of her life. Men are like that, they go into denial and let their penis do the thinking for them. My guess is that he is guilt ridden. How could he not be? You have children together and he must love them too. But for now, he is escaping and living a fantasy which I presume will come to a rapid end. I would hunt her down and make sure she knows the truth. When I met at the kitchen table with the gal that I thought stole my man, I was shocked of the lies he had told her about me. She had no idea we were engaged and that the wedding was planned and paid for. She had no idea that I was a nice person. He told her that his gf was a bitch and he quickly grabbed her heart too. Funny how things work out but, he ended up being the one fucked over in the end as he was exposes by both of us. What fun. I was already in a rebound relationship with a younger HOT guy when he tried crawling back to me. Kymn, this is not about me, I am just trying to tell you that This too shall pass. You will hurt for a long time but if he is as big of an ass as he is acting, he is not for you. I think that he is feeling guilty and I think that the other woman needs to hear from you. That is just my suggestion to you. For now, you need to grieve as you are entitled. Try to utilize any good friends and family members that you can lean on. And lean on US girls here. Many of us have had heartaches over men during our BC journey. Some fixed, some not. But for now, focus on you. Find something to do that makes you happy. When the time is right, grab your kids, get them in the car and take them somewhere fun. Or have a picnic somewhere and tell them how much you love them. They are probably very curious as to what is going on with Mommy and Daddy. If you need help, take them with you to a professional. I would seek professional counseling right away. Not sure how you feel about that but it has saved my life many times. I was having thoughts of not living when I was jolted and again when I separated from my ex husband. These are hard times for you but if you reach out, it will get better. My heart is broken for you. We all care about each other so much. I have tears in my eyes writing this while reflecting back on those lowest times in my life. Simply suggestions here. I am a rambler when I write, I do not edit nor spell check. Like it or not, that is how I roll. I am not wriitng a business letter, just spilling my heart out. I hope that you will allow your breast friends to help you. I would be there to listen to you sob and probably cry with you and for you. You deserve love now more than ever and it is here, in my heart waiting for you when the tijme is right.
Life is not easy and I think every family has crud happening. The more I open up to people, the more I find out about them. I have always looked at my neighbors as having the perfect lives. well yesterday, one of my neighbors caught me at a bad time. She called my name as I was in my yard. I thought that she was going to have a word with me about my barking dogs. But she came to tell me that I should not put my hot ride (car) in my drive way as they are having a large tree removed today. Boring, yawn~~ my point, when she approached, I was nasty to her. She asked if she caught me at a bad time and I said yes, this is not the time. Of course I felt like a shit after being nasty to her then opened up a bit about the day I had. I touched briefly on my Jessica's health issues. come to find out, she has the same disease and has suffered for many years. She was able to give me kind words and a hug. We talked for a half hour on my back step. she told me about caring for her very ill father and dropping him and having him stuck on the ground and no help around. She opened up about her MIL who lives with them. I had no idea they had crap in their lives, I just knew what I saw and that was a happy family who loves to travel and fish and go to the mountains for extended vacations. Anyway, her DH called her in for dinnner but as she walked away, I saw tears in her eyes. Whether they were for me, my DD or her reflecting on her own misery, they were appreciated and I felt loved.
As Kathy said, you WILL be happy again and I pray it is sooner rather than later.
This page is dedicated by DorK to our dear Hymn Kymn. I just had a thought, Kymn, stay tuned. I have got to check on my baby girl but will be back. I am on a mission.....
Kathy and Scuba, will catch up with you gals in a bit. I think it is a good time to call my parents, am feeling so much bitter sweet love right now. Will check on my baby then call the folks then be back at the lounge. So much to say and my free time is slowing leaving me. wahhhhh wahhhh.
CheersZ, no fearZ. Drink up. I will have what the other girls are having. DorK, over and out!
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Very good, sweet, touching, heart-rending post, DorK! Could feel the love, as well as the pain. I also was thinking it would be good if our Kymnie could take the kids out and just have a nice, fun day. Sometimes it helps a LOT to remove yourself from the situation, and be in a different environment, for a bit. When you are at home you are reminded of your life together, and the sadness is all around you. IF you go out to a park, or go on a long drive, whatever, your surroundings will be different, and you won't have all that sadness around you. You still will feel sad inside but at least could have a different view of the world. As for me, I would not have wanted to confront the gal he is having the affair with, as in my case she KNEW he was married and I was pg, but went after him anyway. I just do not like confrontations, and would rather leave them alone and start my life anew. But that is me, and we all grieve differently, and handle problems differently. I love that we all have slightly different backgrounds and outlooks, and can share our different viewpoints. I even prayed for my (soon-to-be) ex and his gf....wanted the best for them, and wanted him OUT of my life! It did help me to pray for them, as it helped get the hurt and anger out, and I had a much better outlook for the future. We are all here for you Kymn, as you can see, by all your PM's, and all the posts here, dedicated to you. I love how DorK dedicated the page to you....don't we have the bestest breast friends here!!!
Lisa, so glad you are doing better! And DorK, so glad your neighbor opened up to you...who knew? Hope your DD is doing much better, and I forget (was it LIsa?) who said she is much more important for you to worry about, than your DH. So true!!!
Everyone, take care today. Hope the hurts will start going away, and things will start looking brighter. Anyone have a "brighter day" dwink? Maybe orange juice with vodka and grenadine....like a SUNRISE or something???? Peace, Hugs, Love....
Kathy
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OK, my memory finally kicked in (from the coffee???), and it is a TEQUILA SUNRISE....OJ and Tequila, add the Grenadine slowly and see the "sun rise".......
I think I will ask Jock (remember Pants is mooning NM in Vegas!) to make up tons of Tequila Sunrises today and line the bar with them. We can all use a bit of sunshine today! Hugs
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Oh Kymn- I am so sorry. I agree with DorK. I think she has some very wise and loving advice even though some of it you may not be ready to hear. I do not think really it is about you. It is about his selfishness and all he sees is how this affected his life. He is not seeing you or his beautiful kids. That is truely sad as he is the one ruining his life. He will lose you and his children and it will be his fault entirely. Anyone who could do this to his sweet lovely beautiful wife and amazing precious kids is really not worth anything.
I know you may love him and you are most likely totally terrified of what will happen to you and to your kids. So first please go get a lawyer!!! Tell him to talk to you through emails - paper trail - it is admissible in court. Get him to document his affair and anything ugly he has to say - it will just put you in a better position. Try hard and put away the tears and loss and get mad to save yourself and the children. Don't be the victim - I was and I was stupid and have learned a lot. I also had a crooked lawyer who I was scared of but blindly trusted. So try your best and get strong - do get a wonderful counselor as they can keep you focused. One thing mine sweet wonderful therapist told me - trust yourself and your instincts - they are correct.
I know it is hard and you just want to crawl under the covers and cry and wake up to find it is all a horrible nightmare but unfortunately it won't happen like that. Focus on yourself and the kids - he sees you as sick and weak and you will prove him wrong. He thinks he will be able to get whatever he wants cause you will be too heartbroken to fight him - prove him wrong. You have to. You have to do what you can for your kids and he isn't thinking about them (no matter if he actually loves them) he is NOT thinking about them so you have to! They need you and they need you to come through this strong and in a strong position financially. Do not leave the house even for a getaway vacation which I'm sure you need but that can be abandoning the house and then you will lose any rights to your home. Do not leave the kids with other people other than a regular babysitter or family as that can go against you. Sorry I'm sure I'm coming across very cynical and dreadful I just want you to protect yourself as I got burned cause I just didn't know and didn't understand how even my own lawyer was taking advantage of me as he was working with my ex's lawyer and the mediator so they would all come out grand. It was awful. Please fell free to PM if you want.
Kymn - I am so truly sorry for you and hate for you to have to go through all this but I do want you to not end up a victim. Be angry now and grieve later when you have the help of a good strong lawyer and therapist. Take care of yourself first and then your kids. Try and get some written documentation of his affair. Believe me courts will be on your side and he will be shown for being the low life that he is even if you do happen to still love this man which makes it all the harder for you.
Gosh, hope this hasn't come off too harsh and mean - I know words can come across differently than conversations in person. I have had other friends go through things like this and it is a heartwrenching and draining process. I hope you have your family near or can come to be with you. I know Canada laws may be different but don't take chances till you have talked with a lawyer. Most cases both sides will say not to leave the house which becomes a powder keg of emotions and is very hard on children so if you can get family members or friends to come and be with you and outnumber him that would be great and give you support and help with the kids and time for you to go in your room and just sleep and escape and cry. This will be hard but you will get through this and you will be fine! We are all here for you and when you can get away - bring your kids and come stay with me! I mean it. I have the garage apt and would love to have you! We can play and entertain your kids and you can rest and gain strenght. Hang in there!!!!! Take care of yourself.
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Stanzie, great tips for Kymn.
Well Scuba gave me the idea to play Kymn a Hymn. This is a youtube video I put up last year just before being diagnosed with BC. I wanted to play this for you girls. I posted a song before and trust me, my music is and was very rusty but I put my heart into it regardless of the rust. It is a very enjoyable past time. Matter of fact, I might go and play now as my DD just went out to lunch with her Dad. So enjoy. Note, the second chorus does not have the melody as I like dubbing over with flute, the third chorus has only harmony which I dub again with piano. So yes, I play with myself hahah.
I hope you like this Kymn, from my house to yours. Love you, hang tough, your are a warrior!
http
/www.youtube.com/watch?v=ny9vO-m_VoU&feature=related dRink up girls and allow me to entertain you (or make you wanna scream) lol. Love you all. Peace out :-)
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and here are the lyrics for ya kymn:
1.
I come to the garden alone
While the dew is still on the roses
And the voice I hear falling on my ear
The Son of God discloses.
Chorus
And He walks with me, and He talks with me,
And He tells me I am His own;
And the joy we share as we tarry there,
None other has ever known.
2.
He speaks, and the sound of His voice,
Is so sweet the birds hush their singing,
And the melody that He gave to me
Within my heart is ringing.
Chorus
3.
I'd stay in the garden with Him
Though the night around me be falling,
But He bids me go; through the voice of woe
His voice to me is calling.
Chorus
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Oh DorK, sooooo beautiful! I think I heard that last time you shared it with us, and just love,love, love your music! Love the end when you turn to the camera to shut it off, too, you are very beautiful. What does the name "mandiddidit" (I may have remembered it wrong), or something like that, mean? I cheated and saw the song your daughter sang to Cleopatra, OMG she not only is beautiful but can sing beautifully!!!! SO nice of you to share that, esp for Kymn!
Stanzie,Good to tell her to be angry and stand up for her rights! I think everyone's advice to her is heartfelt, and hopefully will be helpful to her, if only to show how much we care about her!!
See Kymnie, we are ALL here for you, and will help in any way we can! Love and Hugs to you, Kathy
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Hiya Loungettes, Verrrrry quiet in da lounge tue-nite....just got home meself, and NOW having Pau Hana (8:30)....so will be followed by an even later dinner....or maybe just popcorn...lol. Just thought...I will ask the Wenches to make up some yummy food...for dinner or pupus, etc. Dig in, girls!! OH maybe I will dwink several of the Tequila Sunrises as Jock just keeps making them and lining them up on the bar. Thinking of all who are hurting right now, and hoping and praying for better times for our gang from the HTL. Had a message from Kymn, and poor dear is hurting so much, but thought of all of us here, and asked me to pass this along....
"Please thank all the girls for me, I am just not ready to be on but I think of you all everyday".
Kymn, Our thoughts and prayers remain with you, and please let us know if there is anything we can do.
Luv y'all, Kathy
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Kathy, I am here.I took my DD out to pick up a script. It is very nice having her home and hanging out again. I took your advise Kathy and said the things that I wish I had said to her years ago. I thank both you and Lisa for helping us get through this terrible time. A cute story -- I take her into the pharmacy where they of course know me. This young man there was outside as I was walking in and gave me a warm greeting. Well he started talking to my daughter and before i knew it, he was trying to get a date with her. She was sweet and kind in telling him that she is dating someone. I did end up getting a box of duraflame logs though and the young man carried them to my car too. Yippee. It was a short outing but we stopped and got soup and sandwiches and only got home an hour ago.Thanks for the update on Kymn. I hope I did not overwhelm her with so much to say. Ya see, I do talk alot.
So it is just you and me, Risque Racquell Whiskey. Guess what I am drinking today? Yummy raspberry vodka, lemonaid and iced tea (thanks Chrissy
!! I did not feel like drinking but thought I would have one then head to bed shortly.Glad you liked my song again. As for the happy birthday song, I had my daughter record that for a friend who turned 50. I call her Cleopatra as he were in a school play and she played Cleatatra. My friend was touched. Thanks for your kind words, you are a sweeeety. No wonder Jocks likes you best. I see him over there flirting with you. Kymn, will not stop praying for you and hope you start feeling better. You have been through too much already and this is not fair to you. As Kathy said, we are all here for you when you feel like talking. God bless you girl! Love you.
Where are the other loungettes? It is quiet. All good though.
Teka, thanks for stopping in the lounge to support our Kymn. I believe she is the only TNS here but would love you to join us for a drink.
Cheerz and as Karen would say, sweet dreams zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Hi..... My turn to lose a post
So sorry that our Kymn is enduring basic guy stupidity. Just not fair. I really don't know what to say other than I will be thinking about you and praying for you Kymn.
If it's any consolation, I think I would have died if I had still been married to my ex husband. No, he wouldn't have left me, but he would have expected me to take care of HIS needs while I was dragging through chemo.
Then he would have told the world how well he was taking care of me, and a lot of other stuff I didn't want to share.
My 35 mile ride was actually 43 miles, but my friend and I had a great time. Amazingly, we did not get soaked, just muddy. I am doing something really easy tomorrow. Will stop for eggs and veggies on the way back.
Almost have my bicycle light ready to reattach. Have to glue a screw nut back into the thingy, as it came apart back in the spring. Miraculously, I have all the pieces. This is no joke as lights are major expensive.
I am having dinner + wine + blueberry clafoutis that I just made. You are welcome to join me DorK. Couldn't believe your story either.
I am off to an early night and early church. Lots to pray for, and lots of Thanksgiving to offer up. I think I understand the importance of good wine....... - Claire
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Hi DorK and Claire, I am HERE dwinking wid ya both! OK, Claire do I really have to google what "clafoutis" is, or are ya gonna let us in on that??? Someone else asked earlier, and I was waiting while holding my breath...now I am turning blue....help......! LOL.
Well...duh...Dork....your DD is beautiful, of course he would be hitting on her! Major DUH! OK, now a questiong for DorK or Teka....what the heck is "TNS"???? Do I need to google that too? I am sure I should know that, but I don't.
OK, DH heated up a Biggest Loser entree, and added steamed broccoli, and it really does taste good! Sooooo late, and maybe tomorrow night we can grill those amazing fillets he bought! Gotta do my special marinade tonight.and then....yummmmmm
Raquelle Risque Wisque
Missing Lori and NM and Beans right now!
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tns_ triple negative sisters - i think. i am in bed with the mini so forgive typoes.kathy, no clue on the word.ckaire likes big words , i hate en cuz i nisues them lol. claire,w ill be right over,sounds good. time to close myeyes, church for mee too in the early am....hugs!
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Clafoutis is a French dessert. Sort of a huge fruit pancake, traditionally made with cherries, but absolutely fab with blueberries. So you put the blueberries in a baking dish and pour the batter over. Then bake.
Recipe.....incredibly easy. I think the cooking time is more like 35 minutes, but done when cooked on top. You can use frozen fruit for this too, and equally yummy.
- 2 cups cherries, or blueberries
- 1 ¼ cups whole milk
- ½ cup sugar
- 1 tsp vanilla extract
- 3 free range eggs
- 1 cup flour
- Confectioners sugar to dust
Oven 350.Use a 4 cup heatproof dish (grease with butter). Mix ingredients together other than fruit. This will make a nice batter. Put fruit in baking dish, then top with liquid mixture.
Bake until puffed and golden, about 25 minutes.
Dust with confectioners sugar.
Serve warm with heavy cream, ice cream, or vanilla whipped
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LOL DorK, you need more practice on the teeny weeny mini! I use mine 95% of the time, and it DOES get easier. Many tanks foah dah "splaination"....I had no clue. NIght, night, get up early, and pray for us all! Hugs back atcha!
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Morning ladies! Kymn - thoughts and prayers, hope we see you soon. Know you got a lot of support.
. Cheers!
DorK you play beautifully, the hidden talents of friends sometimes amaze me.
I am opening the lounge early - Jock may be a bit upset but will get over it. Have been advised to drink cranberry juice to prevent more kidney stones (yes, would prefer not to repeat that scene!), and since the Pratt brats are out, can sit in my hot tub up to my belly. So Jock, how about something in a cranberry juice, club soda and a splash of vodka for medicinal purposes.
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Good Morning girls, thank you all for the posts and pms I truly feel your love and concern,Teka thank you for coming over to the lounge to check on me so very thoughtful. I am still realing , I wish there was an off button for all the hurt. So much to figure out and I just dont know where to start. Stanzie yes I will go and talk to a lawyer next week to see what my options are I just cant beleive I am there.
Just wanted to say hi and let you all know I am reading just have a hard time concentrating enough to post .love you all
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Fresh from Jock's services in my hot tub, by the way, did I mention, that ihave to sit on a bucket to keep the foobs out of the water? Will post a pic once I figure that out from my iPad. Spent some time communing with my higher power. Hope all is well.
Kymn seeing a lawyer is not the final step, but per my sister, an attorney, it is all about taking care of business. Just got finished with Jock's cocktails in the hottub. Told DorK that in order to sit in my hot tub, and keep the foobs dry, I have to sit on a bucket, not just any bucket, but an empty bucket of upside down cat litter. So there I sit, will post picture.
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Absolutely gorgeous day in Denver.....beautiful blue sky, light breeze and sun shining....just came back from a walk......
Kymn....you're in my thoughts...so sorry that you are going through such a hard time....wish I could do something to ease the pain....
Another shopping day with DD...she needs clothes....shoes....she has outgrown most everything from last winter....she wants jeans, but is in between sizes......the jrs are too long, but the kids don't always have a size 16.....now I know why I don't wear jeans...so hard to find some that fit...so we are off to Kohls after lunch.....
Have a good Sunday
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Happy Sunday funday girls,
Not so much fun here yet. I am trying to get so much done today. I did make a major accomplishment in emailing my manager, VP and HR to state that I will NOT be reporting to work tomorrow. Since they can not receive a simple fax, I have been stressing over what to do, to prepare or not to prepare....i have two am appointments, once with hand doctor and another with dentist and they were already aware of this. I refuse to sit in limbo. I am proud that this stress if off my mind, I told them! Go me!
Kymn, so nice to see you post but feel just terrible for you. I hope you find some smiles todaye today somehow, someway. I prayed very hard for you today and asked God to grant you some kind of peace in your heart and find the ability to find love through your children's love. Please try to get out of your room, if only for a small amount of time and portend that you are happy. You may find that you have a few smiles. I was once told by a very wise person "fake it till you make it" and that concept has gotten me through so much. I love ya girl and wish I could just hug you. Hang tough, little sis.
Scuba, you are a riot, I can not wait to see this photo.I can just picture you sitting on this bucket protecting your foobies while sipping a doc approved cranberry/vodka cocktail. You are funny! I am so glad you found us here, you add a great touch to this thread. And now I know why we clicked so well, I thought it was other things but we are both Scorpios, yes, children of the water! How cool is that.
Kathy, I do not take the time to get used to the mini. It took me awhile to get used to this PC. And funny, when I popped into work last week, I signed on and that keyboard felt very foreign again. It will only take a day to get used to it. I have only used the mini when traveling to SC so I have never had a chance to get used to the teeny keyboard. I have a real hard time with texting and do not do that often. I hope you have a nice day. Would love to see a photo of your paint job on the bench, it sounds so pretty. I used to do so much of that sort of thing when I worked a 9-5 job but those days are long over. I admire that you have so much energy.
Claire, that dessert sounds delish, something I could make with stuff i have here. I am not a cook but am willing to give that one a shot. I can run up the road and get the fresh fruit from a roadside stand then have everything to make it. But what are "free range eggs"? I have egg eggs, just plain eggs, please tell me now, don't make me begs. Ha, I am portending to be Dr. Suess! hahahah. I used to love the great doctor's poems, Yertle the Turtle is my all time fav. My DD used to make me read that over and over and over and I can practically recite them all. Darn, I crack my dern self up.
Ok, off to work on my chores, not finding something to wear to work, that will wait until tomorreee, nah nah nah nah naaaah na!!
ps, Scuba, I just made myself a yummy dwinky, having raspberry vodka n half lemonaide and half iced tea, yummmmmy (thanks again Chrissy B, this one is for you, cheerz)!
pss, Scubie, your doctor is vert smart allowing you to dwink anytime on sunday and make it a sunday funday despite the work to be done, i am a follower you know! CHeerZ and titz up!
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Karen, sorry I bumped ya dear. Glad to see you are able to enjoy a beautiful day in Denver, yippy for you. Good luck in finding nice shoes and garments for your DD. I do not miss those days one bit. And I can so relate to the pants being long, my DD is barely 5 ft tall at almost 20 years old.
Enjoy the beautiful of the breeze, blue sky and poyfect day. I hope you are feeling better, seems you are? I prayed for you too, my dear friend.
No more bumps please as Dork must do house chores (jk, looking for an excuse not to head back to da chores). She is not allowed back to the PC until the kitchen is done and the dishwasher emptied. Cheers girls and God bless you all!!
ps....missing Lori and Beanie and Kitty Kat too, what should I do oh what should I do, from Dr. Suess-wannab-whew whew whew!
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Kymn - Apparently it is not rare for men to have affairs while their wives are in treatment. Just ask the widower across the street from us. He has a whole new family, including a wife with a newborn, and his wife was failing for 2 years but passed away only 5 months ago. Apparently he has also moved on from being a parent... his 20 YO daughter says she hasn't spoken to him since October and he won't return her calls. She is obviously grieving and he does not want to go there (although he has absorbed a considerable amount of sympathy from friends up until they discovered that his girlfriend moved in before the memorial service for his wife). My own husband would not have an affair, but he was angry with me for 2 years which made me feel awful. If I didn't have my 2 DDs, I would have been pretty dispassionate about my own survival. We stayed together because he does not believe in divorce (unless there is violence or an affair, which he also does not believe in) and... well... I love him even when he is being mean (unless there is violence or an affair, which I don't believe in either). My first husband had an affair with someone very close to me - before and during our marriage. Then I lived with a boyfriend who had a wandering eye and probably cheated. The breakup with the boyfriend was especially hard, but you do survive! I think the worst thing a man has done to men, even worse than the affairs, is something my ex-husband said to me. He told me that I was unlovable and that I should be happy to have whatever percent of his time and affection he offered me because no one else would ever love me. I think I believed that I was unworthy of receiving love and I let that affect my life for many years. Please don't do that to yourself! You deserve to be happy and you will be. And you know what? I often envy single women!
Good advice from Stanzie about the kids... I know a woman who had her son taken away (by the father) because while she was in treatment because he was spending time with "strangers" (women from a bc support group) while she was having chemo or recovering from it. Then the father remarried and she spent a lot of time and money trying to get her kid back until finally the new wife had a child of her own and didn't need him anymore. We were just shocked because her prognosis was so good and she has always been such a wonderful mother.
Duchess - a bucket! What a great idea. Yah know... I think women are so resourceful... yesterday DH decided to move all the furniture before the dinner party. Even tho I have been working up some muscle with my hand weights I still have weak pecs and he wanted to move this huge, heavy TV from our bedroom to the garage (so he can sell it in the garage sale he has been threatening me with!). My 16 YO DD and I were thrilled to get rid of a TV because the plan was to move the TV from the living room to our bedroom and we hate having TV in the living room... anyway, his idea was to pick up monster TV off a tall cabinet, turn it sideways (!) and put it on a hand truck. Just looking at the shape of the thing, I knew the hand-truck wouldn't be easy, nor would flipping it and lowering it by about 4 feet without dropping it.... I was imagining us holding the behemoth and trying to place its wedge shape onto the truck and just dropping it... so DD and I left the room to talk about it... not what should be done (there were several solutions) but how to get him to SEE the obvious problems with his approach. First she moved a nightstand close to the cabinet and suggested that we try shifting it just a feet lower to make it easier to handle... then he got the idea to move it onto a trunk from there... and so on until he realized we could just carry the thing out to the garage without the hand-truck. I don't think men always come up with alternatives like women do.
Well the dinner party was a success - I made poached salmon with fresh hearbs, an heirloom tomato salad, Bibb lettuce with homeade dressing, wild rice salad (all easy to make ahead so I had time to move the furniture) and apple pie... almost all the produce came from my little garden. And the guests were delightful -- they had never met but found connections and were just so fun... There has been some turn-over in our neighborhood so I'm hoping to get enough people together to plan a progressive dinner soon (one of those with many couples who see each other only once during the evening so my neighbors can meet each other).
JOTD: You know you're getting old when your friend tells you she's having an affair and you want to know if it's catered.
Wow! My fat cat just leaped from my reading chair onto my well-waxed desk and went sliding into my lap, disrupting everything in his path! AHHHH!
Pawty on cats!
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Dork...my DD#1 is just over 4'11"'....DD"2 is about 4'10" right now, but still have more growing to do...but DS is 5'10 or 5'11"...he looks tall...all legs!!! .Nope, I'm not doing better, have a big knot in my stomach today......but I go through the motions.....have to play mom...have to go to work....don't do a very good job of playing wife, but DH deals with it....he's so sex deprived.....hoping one day that I'll find the old me and begin enjoying life instead of just going through the motions.....I'm so tired of this whole sh**...wish I could just get some resolution....BC was damn hard, but right now this is harder!!!
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DorK - just reading backwards... I think of Happy Hour as "Happy Hour/ Sad Hour" because some of us are drinking because we are happy bue some of us are drinking because we are sad. Funny thing is, it works either way!
Off to book club meeting... book was sad and this is the book club where everyone always hated the book... ah, well, at least we are meeting at the bakery (the one where DD used to work so I'll pick up a treat to slip in her care package which I still haven't mailed).
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Pawty on cats!