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Yippee Happppy Humptity Humpty Hump Day! Expecting more rain today....has not rained a ton, but just almost constant drizzle, light rain. SO the workers worked here Sunday all day and have not been able to return yet. Still haven't received that gals application, and 2 others want to see it...what a quandry.
DorK, You are sure going through a lot (literally!)....going thru lots of clothes...going back to work...going to throw out DH (wait...you did that already)! I know its so hard on you, as you do love him, but soooooo hard living with him. I think ideally we shold all have duplexes, or houses side-by-side to our DH's. Sounds ideal to me! That joke I posted was appropriate, wasn't it,with all the DH probs many of us are having. Aarrrgggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Hang in there!
Kymn, How are you doing, sweetie? Don't worry about trying to post until you are ready to, but we will keep you in our thoughs and prayers, you can count on that.
Karen dear, how are you doing? Thinking of you too, and hoping things start looking up!
Trying to get a jolt from my cuppa joe this morn, but so far still feel sleepy! Hoping for a better day for everyone. Think I'll have a Rum Sunrise (or two), otherwise known as....
Rump Rise!
Raquelle
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Dang, just realized the entire paragraph I wrote to LIsa disappeared when I hit the wrong key. If I had noticed in time, I could have used Lori's tip to hit the blue arrow, but it had posted already. OK, will try to remember.... ScubyDoo, I am glad you slept past the dreaded 3 am! Regarding flying, I did not have LAT, but had bilat mast and flew to OZ about 3 mo after that. I also flew to OZ the next yr after exch surg (about 1 mo later). Those are horrendously long flts, and although I worried about maybe needing compression sleeves, etc., my BS and PS think I will never get lymphedema. They even say to have B/P and IV's on the side nodes were taken, but I don't do that, from reading on bc.org. I try to watch things on that side. After the initial core biopsy where they left the metal marker in, I asked my dr for a note saying that, in case it set off the TSA scanners at the airport. It didn't, but I had reassurance with my little note...LOL. Well, that is all I can remember that I wrote, might have been more though. Hope you have a good day! RRW
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Thanks. Think with the short flight and it being 12 weeks post surgery should be okay. Really want to be flying to see Chrissy in Australia as she will just be back, but my trip to the great Barrier Reef will wait til 2012!
PT was a killer this morning but I am seeing improvements, the LAT surgery really does a number on your back!
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Hi girls, been your reading your posts, thank you, nothing has changed he still hasnt spoken to me. I told my 15 year old son last night and we had a big cry together then wathced the roast of charlie sheen to cheer us up. He had a break down at school to day and phoned Al. All Al said to me was why did you tell him now and send him to school with that info, wtf....I just told him cause he was asking and I ran out of lies to tell him, not my job to protect you anymore. My DD still doesnt know but when they havent seen him in a week they figure things out.
Well I have had a realter give me an appraisel, have been to the lawyer he seems to think I will be able to keep the house, he really felt for me I could tell I am sure he will be good to have on my side. Am going to a financial advisor today after work so am trying to get all my ducks in a row.Still so very sad but even if he wanted back now its way too late, you just dont do this to another human being.
One positive to report, I am done....ofiicially done all treatment very bitter sweet last radiaiton was this morning, after they removed the machine and I sat up I started bawling, so much inside me right now, made all the people there cry too as they have a real fondness for me and know my situation.
thank you for all your love and support
Just
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Sheryllynn - good point about the estrogen. Maybe that's why I don't get into cat fights... lack thereof?
A good night's sleep does wonders ... slept through WD waking up DD 4 times, as well as a romantic advance from DH. There seems to be a critter in our backyard that he (WD not DH) is wanting to party wif... I think it's a rat but could be a gopher. Anyway we are trying to keep him awake today so he'll sleep tonight.
Client rescheduled today (yay) so I am "working" at home... Writing some custom reports and data manipulation... fun stuff. Anyway, I am enjoying my office. Still have a little paint touchup and need to hang the closet doors after painting them. I took some pictures...
This is the tall wall that required a 12' ladder to paint...the bulletin board I made is on the right.
My desk and the thrift store deco lamp,,,
and a close up of the bulletin board. the pins are little bees0 -
Kymn......so glad you are moving forward. How unfair. I agree that your son would have figured it out anyway. Congrats on final radiation. You did it!!!!
Gail....love your office. Very professional, and also your personal space. Love it. Sorry about the delayed reaction to your hot outfit from DH. Hmmmmm.
I am fine. Two years ago this week was my surgery and the Global Virtual Wine Party celebrating the extirpation of the beast from my body. Think I will have a glass of champagne at the wine bar tomorrow.
Back to the networking. Have two meetings lined up, but man this stuff is hard. Excited though about the future, as know it will lead some place great. - Claire
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Oh, Kymn. Happy for you that you are finished with treatment. Just come here to the lounge for all the hugs that you deserve! At least you know how strong you are and that you can handle what life is throwing at you. It sounds like you are being smart and doing all the right things - including telling your son (duh!). Good for you. I try not to lie to my kids because I don't want them to lie to me. DH left us once and I wasn't sure if he was coming back or not... I tried to keep it to myself but a couple of days after he left I was crying in the middle of the night, silently I thought, and DD1 came and crawled in bed with me and held me. She had broken up with her first boyfriend just before that and that is exactly what I did when she was crying in the middle of the night so I'm sure she knew. I think it is important for your kids to know what is going on and that it is going to be ok... otherwise they will feel insecure at a time when you really want to bond with them. I just wish you all the best and hope you can find a little sunshine in every day as you go through this.
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Kymn- I agree with Gail. It is just delaying the hurt for them and then they are worried and wondering and usually come up with things that are worse, like something with your health so Yes you did need to tell them and no he no longer does get a say so. Glad it sounds like you will be able to keep the house - obviously best for you and the kids! What a horrid man to then come back at you for telling your son. I know you are hurting and will be for some time but no he is Not the man you want in your life or your future and you have to be an example for your kids that you will not be treated that way. Kids really watch their parents. You sound stronger and that is important. Glad you are done with treatment and a good cry must have been what you needed.
Gail - beautiful lovely professional office - very pretty too! Sorry about the critter.... doesn't look like a rat..... hmm? Guess that critter game! Why do I think NM would know??
Congrats Claire - yum champagne! I'm surprised you dislike networking you seems so amazing at it!
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ooo champagne sounds so good... and I still have some chillin cuz I didn't feel like drinkin after the heiny hoo...
So ggod to see you Stanzie.
Ya know, Kymn, I'm thinking that since men tend to compartmentalize and not think about the difficult bits... maybe he was hoping the kids would not be affected? Maybe he doesn't want to think about the fact that he is disrupting their lives for his selfish motives? I think some men live in a warped reality where only what is right in front of them is processed... they seem to imagine that everything else is suspended in time while they do whatever they want/need to do and I think that is why it is so much easier for men to have affairs than for women.
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Hi Drinkin' Buds~
I know I keep saying I am going to keep up with this thread, but I just can't seem to do it, so guess I'll resign to saying I'll just pop in once in a while instead of being a liar and saying I'm going to keep up. :-p
I've scanned a few pages....
Kymn: first - my heart goes out to you. You are a beautiful, strong woman (even if you don't feel that way right now - you are.) Sending prayers and positive vibes your way. And CONGRATS on finishing treatment! I remember my last rad session and was so relieved it was all over.
Meeting a friend after work at the Bonefish Grill for bang-bang shrimp and one of their fab martini's made with Raine's organic vodka and huge blue cheese stuffed olives. YUM!
HUGS to all the loungettes. Hope everyone has a great evening.
Cheers,
Donna (aka Heidi Glitter Thong) I noticed Junie and I almost have the same name, just exchange her Leather for my Glitter lol
Lori - glad you had a good time visiting family in MI. I saw a great pic on FB.
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Hi Donna....so nice seeing you back here! We have a Bonefish Grill here,but haven't been to it yet...sounds like it might be a good place to go? I took DH to a small Puerto Rican restaurant for lunch today...food tasted good, but sooooo salty...prob won't go back. Just pop in and say hi whenever you can, don't try to ketchup!
Kymn, yay, you are really moving forward, taking care of business. Good for you! And I can imagine how hard it was to tell your DS, but what a touching moment to have a good cry with each other. I bet he wouldn't mind you leaning on him, when you need to. Hope it goes ok when you tell your DD. Shame on Al for chewing you out about that....sheesh...doesn't he realize it is all HIS doing, and you all are suffering for it? I know you are still hurting, but glad to see that you are taking care of things. Hang in there!!!!
Gail, Thanks for posting your office pics...looks gorgeous! I love your printer "stand"...mine is an old chest, but not as elegant as yours (well 1 of mine, I use three!). Really really nice! Esp that you have no clutter in there, makes it a pleasant place to work in (or relax in). I need to declutter mine, but other things have priority right now.
Missing Junie. I had shared the travelng pants link with her DD, and she was happy to get it, and will look at it when she can handle it. Still hurting a lot, though, which is totally understandable.
Ohhhhhh, just noticed it is Pau Hana time!!!! Yippee!!! We ran a lot of errands today, and had business at the courthouse, so am ready to R-E-L-A-X! Jumping up on my barstool as I type....
Cheers! Rump Rise! Titz Up!
Raquelle Risque Wisque
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My work week is over....Tomorrow I have appt with psych then psychiatrist...sure hoping she changes my meds....actually I'm going to demand it.....can't stand the way I feel on this dose or prozac...don 't know what the right med is, but I know its not what I'm on....
Friday I am doing a Komen table at a small health fair...need to pick up the materials tomorrow...hope I don't forget....Our Denver RFTC is on 10/2, but I haven't rec'd our T-shirts yet....registered 2 weeks ago...need to ask about that tomorrow.
Going to visit my folks the end of Oct...told mom that I would take the shuttle from/to the airport....and she called me today to say the times I was coming in was not so bad with traffic and she would pick me up as the shuttle is expensive....at that point couldn't argue with mom...but her driving makes me nervous.....they are about an hour from the Ft. Lauderdale airport and its a lot of driving for my mom, but maybe she;ll let me drive.....
Hope all is well with everyone....Hugs, Karen
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Hi Karen, Good luck with your dr appts tomorrow, and hoping for some meds that will work for you! So glad you will be seeing your parents next month; bet they're so excited. If you truly do not want her to drive, and not sure she'll let you drive, could you buy a shuttle ticket and then let her know it is prepaid and you can't cancel and get a refund? Just a thought...then she could pick you up at a dropoff point? Sometimes you can reserve them online and it is a bit less. My mom would rather have me or DH drive, so we don't have that prob when they are here. Cannot believe they will be here in less than a week!
Well, gal that wanted condo changed mind AGAIN tonight...after we waited all day for her application, even w/ other prospective tenants calling, we were giving her 1st choice. Aarrrrggghhhh....she has a funny 1st name, an animal, and DH told me not to show it to any more animals...lol. She said she couldn't get out of her lease this soon, so sounds like a good reason. Verrrrrrry stressful!
Hoping all our MIA gals are doing well....NM and Lori on trips, Beans having fun somewhere, and Heather where oh where are you?
Okole Maluna!
Kathy
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lol Kathy - no animals.
Karen, wishing u all the best. I feel your pain, trust me. Sending prayers up for you and hope that you find serenity.
me, ughhhhh.....have already called out of work tomorrow as I will be dealing with DD issues. i think i broke my middle finger giving dh a big high five with my bum hand. big dorK error, was trying to not use my sore muscle side. i will not give up, I am strong.
missing my chrissy b. hurting but WE SHALL pre-vail.
me will be strong as my dd has had a set back and is home. i must put one foot in front of the other, just like our kymnie is doing. Go Kymn, proud of ya!!!
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4 aye em. sleep is mia tooo night; time to give up likkkkker , ya tink??? too much, must give up me demons.....cheers
(sunglasses to hide my sad eyes.....fake it till i feel it, its how i roll.....willl try again for zzzzzzzzzzz..... go REM.....it is a split that I believe in, without beliefs, what is left??????? 0 -
Oh dear DorK, So , many problems all at once, and seems like you are up in the middle of the night too. I couldn't sleep either, so am here to keep you company. My heart breaks for you and your DD. I just hate hearing that she has had a setback, poor baby. She is so sweet, and so pretty, and it just isn't fair. She is lucky to have such a dedicated, caring mom, such as you, and I know you will do your very best to help her. OMG, and now to deal with a broken finger! You do know how weird that will be to have your MIDDLE finger all bandaged up, right? I had that when I was almost 30, single parent, going to nursing school and working at night as a dinner waitress. Had to have my fingernail removed, so middle finger was all bandaged up....oh the looks I got! Plus it was hard carrying heavy dinner plates to customers! I can also imagine how hard that will be for you to use the computer for awhile. Oh dear DorK, you need BIG hugs (((DorK)))! You and your DD are definately in my prayers, and I do hope today that things will go much better.
Love ya,
Kathy
OOPS I was responding to your previous post, didn't see this one till after I posted. Yeah, I figured you were up in the middle of da night....hope you were able to go back to sleep!!! Zzzz
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thanks wahine. i was up until 5:30 am and was forced out of bed just after 9:30am by my doggies. I have a pounding headache, my f'r finger is soooo swollen. The iron of my middle finger is that i used my "numb" hand instead of my bc surgery side to protect myself from further pain. not sure if I told ya ladies, other than Lisa that I am so overwhelmed and to top off matters, found out that the surgery i need to bix me left hand will leave me with that hand immobilized for up to FIVE weeks. that is set for 10/20. and i still need to have the exchange on my right booooobie this calendar year too. I am on overload. but i will move onward and upward and take care of my DD first and foremost.
having diet pepsi for breakfast, that often cures the headache. am not thinking about work, well I am and will email my boss in a few. thanks for being there for me Katrina da drinka !! haha!!
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Shoot, hope those 4 hrs between 5:30 and 9:30 will get you thru the day. I wasn't able to get back to sleep, but am not facing what you are. Dang it girl, you might need to learn to do things with your feet/toes, with your hands out of order. Yikes....5 wks for the hand to be immobile, and now the broken finger on your other hand. WIsh I were there to help you! Hope things will look up for your DD today, and your headache will go bye-bye. Thining of you with my sleep-deprived brain, and sending prayers your way. Hugs!
Katrina da drinka (I need to add up all my aliases!)
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thanks Katrinka da drina, you are kind. done feeling sorry for myself, i did drink too much last night after dd went to bed which prolly added to the insomnia. i have a call into my doc as i am not able to just walk in for an xray. and this is actually my bum hand so not I have two numb fingers and one very swollen finger. my right hand is good. took something strong for the headache and will find nappy time later. for now waiting for dd to wake up then run her over to philly area to see doctor. thanks for caring, you are a dear. now enough about me. so behind in reading.
Karen, dear, sorry you are feeling so bad, my heart aches when my bwest fwends are hurting. I pray for all you gals but will send special prayers up for you. I am sorry that i got excited for you when you talked about the beautiful day, I assumed that you were feeling better. I admire you for going through the motions. Do as I do and put one foot in front of the other, smile when you do not feel like it and fake it till ya feel it (happy). You are dilligent with getting the right cocktail of drugs and it does take time. This i know. I am still mourning over losing my BFF Zac aka prozac and also looking for the right meds to calm my anxiety. you are a sweet gal and do not deserve this crap. lean on us please as it is good for us also to help other friends, that is what this sisterhood is about.
Kymn, so proud of you. You are prolly still numb and going through the motions but you are doing a great job in doing everything right. my heart feels your pain as well. makes my crud look much less with exception of my DD and her medical issues. i hope you are able to talk to your DD. do not let anyone tell you that you have done anything wrong in handling speaking to your children about DH's rapid departure, you are a strong girl. I heard there is a parTAY in the works to celebrate that you are DONE, so happy for you, ya see, we all knew you would get through that. We are here for you and most of us care deeply for you and wish you nothing but happiness. You are doing way better than I did when separated from my ex DH and this DorK is so very proud of you. you are another loungette that had me at hello, i remember your first post well and look how you have grown. You may not see that but what does not kill ya makes you stronger.
Chrissy B, missing you so much and following your journey. I still have the pic of the two of us as my desktop photo and love seeing us, it is like you never left. You left but your heart is still in my home. Happy trails, stay cool and take care of your feet. drink loads of water. your adivse to me is embedded in my brain and I am taking steps in eating regularly and still taking that new drug we talked about. it is working but the time is not right for me but will be in a few weeks.
Gail, love your office, can you come and help me here? Jersey is pretty cool, have you ever been? I can't believe how talented you are. Love the glass table. And is that a pair of "traveling pants" I see on the board you made? Want to say more but was very entertained by your posts yesterday.
Scuba, will PM you. Hope your day is going well and that you are not too tired. and oops, flyers did play, wow did not realize it is that time again. my boss was there last night too. did you see her, i think she saw you. lol.
well just got a call back from the doc and they are making an appt to get the finger xrayed and have a follow up at 4:30. so need to get moving and maybe wake up my little girl to get her to a doctor in between. feeling a bit of serenity, must be God! OOPS, GOING NOW FOR XRAY, NEED TO ADVISE MY DD.
Going to make another round of calls then read the posts i have missed.
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edited to remove dup post, naughty fingers, you shall be punished....oops, they are already under punishment hehehehehe.
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Hi to all, sorry that not tot much good news in the last few bits. Kathy, the right tenter will come. DorK, you know DD has been in my thoughts and prayers and continues. Kymn, stay strong, you and your kids are the priority here! Been thru this once with by big sis and it was tough, glad you are taking care of business!
For me, after 3 1/2 days back full time, feel like it is already Friday. Just bailed on baseball game tonight, phillies last home regular game. Fortunately, friend will go with DH so not a waste. Frustrating as heck that I can't operate at the pace I am used to. Gotta keep working the PT!
That being said, perhaps a cocktail this evening in lieu of the ball game will be a good idea. Am thinking of a lemon grass martini might work (plus I will order all the sushi stuff DH doesn't like to go on the way home)!
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Thanks, DorK... I think I like my office because it is full of things that have sentimental value for me that I have not been able to use for quite awhile... the glass table was my coffee table when I was single but got packed away when we had kids... the table that I use for a desk was given to me by my mom -- she bought it at a cheap-o import store. After the 1989 earthquake, DH and I slept under it for about a week just in case the aftershocks caused the ceiling to collapse... I hung a watercolor that DH doesn't like and there is also a big leather chair and ottoman in the corner that my cats love to curl up in. The room has a small loft where I put a couple of bookcases full of books (also have floor-to-ceiling shelves in the living room)... things I appreciate but DH doesn't. i have refused to get rid of them and somehow using all these things again reminds me that I am the same person ... that marriage, parenthood, aging and cancer have not completely obliterated my real self.
Duchess - lemongrass martini! That sounds yummy... lets make that the DOTD!
Lemongrass Martini
Ingredients
1 750 ml bottle vodka (use a clean, pure tasting vodka, such as Rain)
3 stalks lemongrass, coarsely chopped
2 to 3 whole cloves
Rose's Sweetened Lime JuicePreparation
Place the coarsely chopped lemongrass and cloves into the vodka. Allow to infuse overnight.
Fill a cocktail shaker with ice. Pour equal parts of infused vodka and sweetened lime juice over the ice. Taste. Adjust flavors by adding more vodka or lime juice. Shake. Pour cocktail into a chilled martini glass. Serve.
... and a bar JOTD to go with it:
A drunk walks into a biker bar, sits down at the bar and orders a draft beer.
Looking around, he sees five men sitting at a corner table. He gets up, staggers to the table, leans over, looks the biggest, meanest, biker in the face and says: 'I went by your grandma's house today and she was wearing a tight sweater. Man, she has big boobs!'
The biker looks at him and doesn't say anything. His buddies are confused, because he is one bad biker dude and would fight anyone.
The drunk leans on the table again and says: 'I got it on with your grandma and she is good, the best I ever had!'
The biker's buddies are starting to get really mad but the biker still doesn't say a word.
The drunk leans on the table one more time and says, 'I'll tell you something else, boy, your grandma loved it!'
At this point the biker gets up, takes the drunk by the back of his coat, looks him square in the eyes and says...
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just popping in for an iced tea and heading to see DH. DD is out with her bf and feeling better today. thanks all for your kind words. will be back in the lounge. already called out of work fried-dey as it has been fried-dey all week for the dorK. the finger is sprained and not broken, have it in a splint, typinbg takses long.... love you all!
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Thank God it is sprained and not broken DorK! Yay for that!!! GLAD your DD is feeling better today....hope she continues to improve!
Gail, I gotta pass on the DOTD, cannot have lemongrass. Even when we went to Thailand, I couldn't eat things with that in it. But it is a pwetty dwink, and I know everyone else will love it! SO sweet of you to do a DOTD and a JOTD....love it!
Workers were here till 7 pm....long day...then they wanted full payment, (in cash!) but did not finish the job...DH did not hold enough out, so HOPE they come back and finish tomorrow. Not real happy with their carpentry work, and they got paint on the bricks, plus spilled a BIG area of paint in our driveway. YIKES>....hoping they can get i all out tomorrow. Thats why I like to do the repairs that I can do...much neater job! And neighbors on both sides had them estimate jobs for them when they first got here on Sunday...guess they figured they would do good work since we hired them! Might have to clue them in that they can pressure wash and paint, but not so good on woodwork!
Really missing our weekend parties here...so many sad things happening, maybe we can partay like there is no tomorrow....how bout Saturday night????? Having Pau Hana but it is already 8 pm, didn't get to go to the concert I had hoped to go to, cause the guys were working here. ANd will be a LATE dinner tonight!!!
Rump Rise! Titz Up! BARMEN!!!!
Kathy (RRW)
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Has anyone in the HTL had experience in the BCorg chat rooms? The last time I visited a chat room was in the late 1990's. They were AOL, ADD-related discussions. Enjoying a glass (or four) of shiraz, and empathizing with DorK on children related angst, and with Kathy over landlord related angst. If any of the Loungettes are experiencing feeble-minded inlaw-related angst, I can empathize with you, too!0
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Sheryl, I haven't been in the chat rooms, but Junie did a few times, and maybe some of the loungettes here have joined in too. Glad you are enjoying some nice Shiraz! Sorry (oops, not allowed to say that) that you might be having in-law issues.....I haven't had inlaws in years....my DH's parents passed many many yrs ago, and late DH's dad had passed b4 I met him, and his mom passed in the 1st yr we were married. I TRY to be a good MIA to my son-in-laws, and am hoping they think so, but who knows? Well, I guess son-in-laws are inlaws, but I *think* you meant the parent type.
Anyone planning our big blow-out partay tomorrow night??? If we just tell the Tattie Tenders what we want, it will magically appear.....
Okole Maluna!
Kathy
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Oops!! I meant the parent type of in-laws. I LOVE my DIL. There isn't anything I couldn't say to her. Unlike my husband and his parents, or even my sons.
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Yeah, I thought that is what you meant! Too bad you have problems though. I am SO glad that my mom is an excellent MIL and my DH as well as late DH adored her to pieces. Can't believe they will be here on Wed! But my Dad says my mom is just getting sooooo much more forgetful. I hate that.
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DH and I have only been married for a little over a year. That puts me in an awkard position of being DIL #2. FIL has advanced Parkinson's. His mental capacity is compromised from the disease and from the medications. MIL is on oxygen 24/7 for COPD and has advanced kidney disease, and these issues combined with her caregiver status have depleted her energy. They aren't capable of making sound decisions. DH's dad illegally drove his truck into a ditch this last weekend. Neither are my husband and his brother want to make those hard decisionns when it comes to their parents. My mom says this wouldnt be a problem if my DH had sisters, lol!
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Wow Sheryl, thats a lot to have to deal with! So sad.
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