how about drinking?

damn, just wrote a long post and lost it. quick summary....scuby, so nice hanging with you. next time, I will try to keep my bra on or just not wear one. i hope you feel better and get some rest tonight.

NM, so nice to have you back, loved your post. And it is me who knows people. I would send them Kymn's way but I fear I will get caught if I do what I'd like to do to that SOB for hurting my girl. Glad you had an easy weekend.

Kymn, i agree with Lori that you should not even speak with that scumbag SOB. One suggestion is to buy a cheap wireless alarm system and give him the impression it is monitored by police (that is if you do speak to him). I worry about your safety and your kids too. I don't want to be a downer but you must take his threats seriously.  He is NOT the man you thought he was. Also, I think you can buy fake alarm stickers and even fake looking boxes to make it look like you have an alarm system. I think the wireless alarms are less than 300.00 and come with an outside horn that will deafen any intruders.  I wish there was more I could do for you other than prayer and tell you how much we love you. Please keep us updated, even if a word or two to tell us you are breathing. 

Kathy, wow, so sorry you went through all that with your ex-SOB-DH. I can understand how this chat touched a rough spot for you. My finger is feeling better - I left my split at DH's place but made one using an emery board. I have not talked to my DD yet today but messaged her. She is to contact me daily. Thanks for asking, you are sweet and a dear friend.  thanks for the update on our Beanie, missing her so much here. 

Gail, loved your post and pics. I still have donuts left if you want a few more. Don't make me eat them all!  Sad to think of your BIL and what your family went through. Hoping that there are nothing but happy days ahead for you.

Lori, your pics are awesome, I thought your son was your brother and am not bs'ing you. You do not look your age.

Juliet, welcome to the lounge, so nice to see you. Thanks for keeping Scuba company from work. That is the beauty of our lounge, there is usually someone around when one of us reaches out. Come on back now, ya hear? I told the tenders all about you and they have beers lined up for ya and we are saving you a seat!

Stanize, thinking of you and your BIL, keep us posted.  Miss you here.

To all others, sorry do not have much time here, I just took a percocet and half of a valium and going to have a nap. This fill today was the most wicked one yet. I am now scheduled for surgery on my hand on 11/20 and exchange surgery on 12/20. Joy joy joy.  Praying that this will be the end of my reconstruction.

Love you all.  Keep the faith and God bless each of you bweast fwends!! 

good evening, just thought I would sit my sorry ass down for one drink with you ladies, still no resolution,still he wont talk I just wish I had some answers how I went from being the love of his life one day to his enemy the next. I guess i will never get these answers. My one g/f says I have been in an abusive relationship for a long time, gave me a bunch of info on it and it made me cry as I guess I have been. He coudl be so darn charming though at times but that is the pattern of abuse, give a crumb to the one who is already so hungry for attention. Its really very crushing. Having a seat in the hot tub with you just looking at the stars, some things never change thank goodness.

Martini for Kymn

... extra olives

Kymn



Plenty of room in the hot tub, Pants will stay on call. Although I live in the city, it's a nice view, will post a photo. Christ Church is nearby and the steeple is straight in front. Will sit and say some extra prayers every time. There is always room, whether you need a bucket or not...



Hope all are going to have a good day. I wasn't in the Lounge for the first time overnight in a while - DorK you must have some healing powers we didn't know about!



Cheers to all!

Ms Scuby....speaking of throne, we are still waiting for that. You mean DorK did NOT expose? I am surprised and you are lucky! You too are another one going through some tough time right now with surgeries.

Yip Yip Roo Hay.....we got the condo rented and mom and dad are coming. Life is good!

Thanks Dork on the comment, funny thing is, when talking about my son to other family, I sometimes call him by my youngest brothers name. Glad to hear your DD is doing better and can't wait for you to get all these dag gum surgeries behind you, but right before Xmas? Glad you could FIT THEM ALL in before years end.

Kymn, we are glad you are popping in, please continue to do so. But I'm glad to hear you have a real live GF to help you out. Sounds like this has been going on for awhile, as your GF put it, and you were just blind to it. You know, your SOB could have had a GF before you were diagnosed and is just using that has his excuse. I know it hurts, but you must move on hon. I am sending you some Big Girl Panties! And please, quit trying to talk to him, he does not deserve to even breathe the same air as you.

Gail that martini looks good, so do the olives! Kymn, wanna share. Oh never mind.....PANTS dear, can you bring us a few more please, and I'll have some extra olives too.

Sugar LustyHeat

Ha ha Kathy.............I rotate my night time drugs. Some nights 10 mg valium, some 20 mg Melatonin, and then other nights 1 or 2 of the night time pain relievers. If I take 2 of those, they really knock me out!

Tuesday should be Twosday, two drinks, one for each hand.

Ok, here are the most recent photos of the Shady Lady.

Sorry, was having trouble................duh! How could that happen!

Lori, Those pics are AWESOME!!!! You FIT all the things you love....flowers....grill...and is there a beer fridge? Really looks beautiful, and so restful and inviting. Hope to get to see it for real some day....*sigh*.   I forgot you take 20mg melatonin! I just take 5mg, but was taking it every night.

Kymn, Soooo hard when someone we love so much can just be so heartless and cruel. I have been in your situation, and yes it is hard to believe that they can be like that. Like DorK said, it is not for us to question "why", as there isn't always logic.  Someday he will wake up and realize what a gem he lost by losing you, but by then it will be too late as you will have moved on. I am glad you are posting here, even though you are hurting so much, as we care a lot about you! Keep your head held high, hitch up those Big Girl Panties, and hang in there!!!

Yes Lori, I like your "Twosday", or "Twosdey" as Dork would prolly write! I am ready for my two dwinks, thats for sure!! Thanks again for posting those pictures!!!! Just awesome!!!

Hugsssssss, (taken from Junie's sign-off sig)

Kathy

Lori - nice photos of your place. Thanks for sharing! Wish we had more space... the house they built right up against our back fence is still empty but I fell boxed in. Is that a live carpet?

Men! I once went to a counselor because ex-bf and I were contemplating marriage and I wanted to get some things ironed out first. He lied to the counselor about his family and pretty much tried to hide his baggage & you know you can't lie to a counselor or a priest and expect them to be able to help you... anyway, for the 2nd session he was supposed to meet me there so I show up and of course he doesn't (duh). The counselor suggested I continue meeting with him to help me transition out of the relationship. It felt like a cold slap! But he was right and clearly saw the big picture that I was unwilling or unable to accept at that time. He explained exactly why the relationship would not work under the present circumstances and reminded me that relationships are bi-directional -- you can't make it work on your own so no need to feel guilty or torture myself further. So, Kymn, I hope you are getting this type of support. There are times in life when we need the bigger picture and someone to help us transition. I think every woman who goes through this should have at least one visit with a therapist... even if you just end up crying for an hour (that is what I did).

JOTD:

The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing (and then they marry him.)

Oh Lori, Of course you would FIT in a fridge!! Nice to have icy cold beer handy.

Gail, Again good words of wisdom! Don't you hate it that we all have these crappy relationships to draw on.....arrrggghhhh...but we have survived them and moved on, so that is the important thing. Love your JOTD!!!!!!

Ok....workers didn;t show up; didn't call; am I surprised, since DH pd them in cash, in full.....NOPE! Guess he'll call them tomorrow just to see if they ever plan to finish. Busy day but I gotta keep checkin in to see how all you chicas are doing!

Raquelle Leather Rock

Note: There was an armed robbery and hi-speed chase about 2mi away from our house, yesterday. We went by that area several times and always saw cop cars there and it seemed like there was a new accident every time we drove by...amazing we weren't  in the middle of it! The 3 guys are arrested....yay...but while cops were chasing them they kept throwing stuff out of their car to try to get the cops to wreck. FINALLY saw what happened, on the news!

Scooby Du, you can make as much noise as you want here.....and have as many margarita's as you like. Why stop at 2?

I got this from a FB friend and had to share, since Gail got us going on JOTD. It so fits us!

deeHi chickadees,

Lori, love the pics of the shady lady, she sure is coming along and looks so inviting. I envy you and your DH's creativity. Thanks for sharing the pics.

Kymn, thanks for stopping in, I can tell you are getting stronger as each day passes, sort of like how you handled the chemo and rads which you did not think you could possibly get through, you did it and i believe that with time, you will be happy again soon. Please, do not try to contact him. He obviously does not care much for your children else he would not have done something as low as walking out on you after all you have endured. 

Gail, I believe that every living person could use a therapist in their lives. Loved your JOTD and it just might be easy enough for me to tell it without messing up.

Kathy, so sorry to hear that those contractors are giving you a hard time. That just sucks that someone would do something so low. Did you at least t hae a written contract. I know it is common in the south to make what we call a "gentelmen's agreement' which is only "signed with a hand shake". Let me know if you need help, I am no longer afraid to have my people come after the peep's who seem to think they will get away with ripping you off. If I get caught, I have access to the Htl legal staff (thanks Lisa)!

I am feeling very solumn and down today.  I found out this morning that my PS lost his fight with cancer and died last night. Yet another great human taken down by the fn rat bastard. It is so unfair.  If you will all pray for him, his family and his Jefferson University Hospital  family, I would be most grateful. He was sufh a cool doc and a great man. It pains me to think that he is gone; I am angry today at cancer. I have stopped asking why it only strikes good people as this is one of those things that will remain a question until i get to the other side.

Giving a shout out to our own Scuba for picking up her phone from work and allowing me to begin grieving over the loss of my doctor. The entire staff there is very saddened.  I am so grateful that we found each other here at the htl. I just had to talk to someone who would understand and LISA was there for me. Thank you again!

RIP Dr. John Moore, i love you for making me whole again. Along with many others, I will be sure to hold a spot for you in my heart for life. If anyone cares to see a photo of my hero, it can be found on their website, jeffersonplasticsurgery.com 

Well it is nap time for this tired and sore Dorkydoo. Will pray for all of you...peace and buckets full of love to each of you. CheerZ! 

Oh DorK, I had tears come to my eyes when I read about your dr passing. My that is so sad, and like Lori said, so fast. I just had a horrible feeling of sadness come over me when I read that. I am so sorry, and what a loss to the medical community, all his patients, family, friends. Yes, will pray for him and his family, and for comfort for you too, in your sadness and loss.

And yes, DorK, hardly get contracts here, just an agreement. Although with certain things, we do get those long unreadable pieces of paper.

Lori, OMG you KNOW I knew you COULD fit in a fridge...even a small dorm fridge, you are so slim! LOL at that error...did not write it that way, but it sure could be read that way. At least I didn't say you COULDN'T fit in a fridge...that would be an insult.

Again, so sorry Dorothy, I know you are feeling awfully sad right now. (((HUGS)))

Thanks Kathy and Lori.

Kathy, I am here with you and I raise my glass back atcha... here is a toast to the life of a truly wonderful man *clink clink *.I am thinking alot about his family and his wonderful staff as many of them have worked together for over twenty years. I know that Lisa feels the pain as does my PT. The office staff were very close and our PT was one of my docs best friends. Today is a good reason to celebrate life. No matter what kind of crap we face each day, at least we are breathing which is THE most important gift we each have. 

Thinking alot about Kymn and Karen too. HOpe you girls find the strenght you need to find happiness in life. Each day is a gift indeed. 

I am going to DH's tonight for a visit and will have wodka n iced tea to drink. Trying to be healthier (or less UNhealthy) in drinking wodka instead of Jack. He betrayed me but it is Chrissy's fault for leaving me that bottle, had no idea wodka was so yummy!

Let's drink and celebrate the good doctor's life, CheeRz and much much love to all. My cup runneth over....... ♥

The saddest part (or most poignant) is that the man worked right up til the very end. Was still seeing patients 2 weeks ago. Think he felt his best contribution was to continue to help patients until he couldn't do it any more.



So cheers all, definitely in the lounge, as we Irish say, Slainte! Cheers to a man who did so much.



DorK. Hope you got some relief from the fill, am guessing the pain of loss kind of overrode the rest of it.



More after dinner and a drink in the hot tub.



Scuby