how about drinking?

Thanks NM, for the advice for my dad.  I was quite worried, but they did rest and sleep during the day. By Pau Hana time, he was alert, feeling good, and of course I still put my hand on his back (lol), and happily did not feel anything! Did not know to advise him to drink fluids, but he did have his 2 bourbon drinks! OF course my mom's meds are still a mess. Thought she had gotten them all refilled. but 2 are missing. She has enough for a few days, so will have to have her dr call some in, locally. They both looked good last night, so I was happy about that!

Scuby, Glad the dinner went well, and you were able to last through it! And had FUN! I did write last night, but you might have missed it. SO sorry you lost your dad in '99. I just can't believe my parents are still here, and realize I am fortunate. I looked at my mom while we were sitting having happy hour in their sunroom and asked her if she just turned 71 on her birthday (she is 91). SHe got a kick out of that! She just doesn't look her age, and yesterday seemed alert and happy.

Lori, Have a safe and FUN trip, and enjoy the concert!!! Also hope you win some money if you end up gambling a bit....hope the GAMBLING GODS are good to you.

NM, When I first read your post, I thought you meant you might start your hearing test and sinus CT and finish later. Then I realized you were talking about finishing your POST later...LOL. I wondered how you could split up your appt!  Hope it all goes well. OMG that is just horrible about your cousin being shot and killed by her then husband. You just never know when they will totally "snap" and she thought she was leaving in time. I don't know how I escaped with my life, really. My mom thought when I moved here (from near Lake MI), that it wasn't far enough away. She actually thought I should leave the country to escape him....might have been Kymn's neighbor! My oldest DD was just 3 1/2 at the time, and of course witnessed his anger and abuse towards me (once he tossed me and I landed at her feet...that was the last straw for me, cause I realized it was affecting my kids)....but she would have nightmares about him finding us and killing her. I had to support us (the cad never pd child support), and was away at army training when she was having the nightmares and living with a babysitter. Boy did that break my heart, and I couldn't be there for them till I finished my field medic training. I just feel so sorry for your cousins kids....losing both their parents like that, and hope they have been okay.

Well, I have my dr appt (PC) to go to today, and find out my blood work results. Just routine blood work, but still need good numbers, so he won't put me on meds (some numbers were too high last time). Kymn, Hoping you are doing a little better day by day. You have gotten some amazing advice from the gals here, and loving support from all of us, so please stop in whenever you can. Karen, Hope you got all that cooking done, and will have a good holiday!

Cheerio! Slainte! Okole Maluna! Rump Rise! Titz Up! ChEARS Big Ears!

Kath

good morning wow that is a scary story. very scary. Things havent changed much here. He still refusing to sit down with me or even talk to me on the phone.He has never asked about the kids or how they are doing nothing. He started to text yesterday and I thought for a moment that he was going to actaully be a man and try to fiugre things out with me but nope no go. I even phoned my lawyer and told them to hold off on the letter until I spoke with him so now I have to call them back and tell them to proceed. God I am such a moron. Very frustrating how a bad boy can make a smart girl stupid. Then pain isnt all day everyday anymore but still there, guess cause I am just focused on getting what is mine and the kids I dont have time right now to wallow. I am sure I will probably to more mourning when this is all over and done. Hope you are all well. I am taking it day by day am so busy trying to round up all the paper work I need and going to appt . I am so thankful for all of you and your words of wisdom and encouragment.

Hugs Kymn

Claire - Thanks for the welcome back. Best of luck on your interviews! Yeah, I didn't know Tanqueray made vodka. Will have to grab a jug. Weather NE of cascades is beautiful, but getting chilly at night, it's already freezing. Super nice days though, blue sky and gorgeous. Hope your weather is good there too.

AStorm - So glad your DH loved the dinner you made, does sound so wonderful. I had to laugh about what he was living on when you met. Love the Mimosas by the pool and I'll drink to that.

Scuba - Sounds like your party was fun fun fun! I'm sorry you lost your dad in '99...it's just awful. I lost my mom in '96 and dad in '09...just had a nightmare about mom last night, that she was alive and sick with cancer and I was kicking myself about why I hadn't called her recently and wondering why she hadn't called me. I was going to send her some flowers and call her. I was so afraid she would pass away before I got to speak to her again. Gosh, it's been 15 + years and I still miss her every day so much. Geeawwd that Bloody Mary sounds good!

NM - Best of luck to you today at that hearing. I like that you wrote, "I'lls tart" good idea to slam some of Goldie's mojitos before you go. That is awful about your cousin being shot and killed, that would be such a shock that her husband would do that and tragic for her family. I can imagine it would be hard to deal with abusive situations in your work.

Wahine - how is your dad doing? I hope both your parents are doing okay!! Your story of your ex sounds so scary, I'm so glad you got to safety and away from his anger and abuse. You are so strong to have gotten yourself and your kids out of that! Sure hope your dr apt and bloodwork are good, keep us posted pweese.

Goldie - so sounds like you are out having fun, hope you have a great time and win some $$$.

Kymn - I have been away, but sounds like you are going through a tough time. I will be praying for you. I agree with AStorm, Sheesh! Good idea to step over him.

Well I'm off to look at a cabin on 20 ac in the mountains. So will sign off now. Hope everyone is doing okay. I'm doing well and have good energy mostly. 9 months post tx and I'm okay, still feel a bit like I got hit in the head with a sledge hammer, but mostly okay. Awesome. Hope to see you all at Pau Hana for mimosas, Tanqueray vodka and horse radish bloody mary's! Cheers! ~Racey Lacy

OMG Gail, I hope it is a minor fix, but sure doesn't sound like it. VERY GLAD you got home safely! That was scary!!! Iam going to report a trucker with a load of propane gas that was weaving in and out of traffic, even on the interstate, and was way over the speed limit on the local roads. I stayed as far away as I could, but seemed dangerous with a truckload of propane tanks!

Beannie, Jeannie, Racey Lacy, SOOOO glad to have you back here! I know you've been swamped with being busy, and internet is iffy, but we sure need you here too. Yes, my dad is fine, thanks for asking. Didn't get over to see them today, but talked on the phone. So sorry you have lost both your parents. Cannot imagine how hard that is, and sure not looking forward to when that day comes, for me. What a sad nightmare you had. I can imagine how much you miss her, and wish she was still here. Yes, lets have bunches of mimosas! We can all use a good Happy Hour!

Well, my bloodwork was ok, but you all will get a kick out of this. You know how I always tout taking sublingual VitB12? Well, my levels are tooooo high...over double the highest level they reccommend! So now I have to cut back on it. CHO and LDL were borderline high, but my HDL was so high, that it compensated for that. I have started "moving", like dancing or just standing up and moving around, at night when my shows are on. Realized I was being a couch potato at night, and that is NOT good. Wondered how the Zumba is going??? But I think it was Kymn that had bought that DVD, so she prolly has not had time to do it yet. Sounded interesting.

Did I win the bet? The contractor has not shown back up...DUH....DH had paid him in full...even though he wasn't finished. He said he would come yesterday...nada....DH called him last night...said he would come today...nada..now doesn't answer our calls. I told DH to try to reach him and let him know if he doesn't come tomorrow to finish up we will "report" him. Now, this could mean report him to our association, or to BBB, or to the cops, or????? I am wondering if he is illegal, and then he would think it is another type of "report".  I doubt he is paying taxes either, as he doesn't have a bank acct,  and demands cash AFTER he starts working (not when he gives the estimate). Aaaaaarrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhh!

Yummmmmm these mimosas are good! DorK where are ya? Lori, are you having fun????

Luv y'all,

Kathy

my desk is covered with  cat

... hey! I only have TWO cats!  and mine won't even answer the phone

Gail, Good idea about having them sign a lien release form. If you can share the verbiage with me, could you send me a PM?

Scuby, Enjoy your hot tubbing! And good luck to your ball team....

Hi DorK......I have perfected the "fashionista on the cheap". Resale and eBay.  Was in Nordstrom today after my interview looking at how to recombine my stuff to be on trend.  Have most of the basics.

For example, I have the hat, cape, and boots to do one of the hot fall outfits.  Just need to add the right skirt and I am good to go.  Plus a different shade of plum lipstick.  Test drove one of those.

I am wearing a megabux pair of trousers that I got on eBay for about $20 plus a T from a resale shop in NY.  Threw on an old $20 tweed jacket to complete the look for my interview.  (No, not the right fit job-wise, as I would be bored out of my skull in less than a month.  But my contact will set me up with others in her firm.)

Dinner is remaining lamb shank, malabar spinach, sweet potato, bulgher wheat and wine.  Got free crumpets at the wine bar, plus a deal on veggies at the Market.  It was the end of the day, so got an extra spinach and rainbow carrots for free.  Have pea vines for tomorrow evening.  Noticed an extra bok choy too.

Why do I think that good likker will impress your friends more than your attire???

Have more work for tomorrow.  Will be an interesting end of the week.   Tons to celebrate, and need to get my sorry hide exercised.  But walked over 5 miles today.

Saving the Sterling for my friends....had good wine at the wine bar, but cheaper for dinner.

A good Friday to all. CheerZ!!!! - Claire

just back from dinner with friends... I recommended the restaurant and the food was great but I couldn't believe the puny portions! We like to try a lot of things so even when it is just the 2 of us we order a couple of starters, salad, etc. which we split, and then our entrees. The salad was so small we each literally had 2 bites or arugula. It had pear slices... exactly 2 and you could see through them! I love interesting salads and I make a lot of creative salads at home -- the basic formula is something-crunchy-something-salty-something-juicy/sweet. This salad was in need of shaved Parmesan. Everyone ordered pasta dishes (I had gnochi) and they brought out these huge bowls with 2 bites of pasta in them! Fortunately there is an artisinal ice creamery across the street where we were able to supplement our meal... I had celery & raisin (and I don't even like celery); DH had Santa Cruz Mountain Brewery Stout ice cream which I did not try.

Anyone having a night cap? 

hi girls, asking for prayers for my friend Cindy who was the former coworker who took my hand and moved me over the river to my new ps. I told you girls that I found out in approx. june or july that she had mets to the bones. I just got an update that she is in ICU with pneumonia, her bf will not tell where she is and they want no company. Please pray for her to pull through.

I am just so sad, too much negativity to deal with. I need to go out and have a good weekend with my girl friends and count my blessings. HOpe you girls count yours too, love you all.

Good morning, Loungettes! Sorry I didn't get back on the boards yesterday, but by the time I got home, between scanxiety and scheduling more surgery and Xanax I was pooped and fell asleep in the recliner listening to an audiobook. BUT, much better this am! Just got back from a nice brisk walk with Sadie, in the nice brisk fall air. Just cool enough to make walking comfortable. Now to get caught up-OH, before everyone freaks out, I will be having sinus surgery Nov 28th, opening up sinuses that haven't drained for years, reducing the size of the turbinates that are blocking the airflow, and having the back part of my palate trimmed , again so enough air can move through my nose so that I can sleep better at night without snoring. I'm not crazy about this, but it's a day surgery procedure, maybe overnight where I've had anesthesia problems in the past, BUT there is a good probability this will stop the chronic sinus infections, decrease the bouts of asthma and bronchitis, and possibly help lower my blood pressure and help me lose weight more easily. So, I'm thinking it's worth it, can't be anything compared to the mastectomy or recon, and I have a month to change my mind. . . The CT wasn't as bad as I was afraid it would be. The Radiation dept nurse stayed with me, talked to me, explained everything, they didn't strap me down, and I got through it. Thought I was going to pass out for a minute afterward, but, thank You, God, I didn't. I did find out that the CT dept thinks the docs office gives detailed info about the test (like you can eat, no IV, etc) so that's why they don't send out any info. Well, the doc's office only said it took 15 minutes (it took 5) and you lay on your stomach (haven't done it that way in years). I talked to both the CT nurse and the office person about that, and am considering writing a letter to hospital, too. If I had known there would not be an IV and that I could eat, I could have taken a Xanax before and it would have been a lot easier for me. At least they are able to set me up with a pre-op appointment with the anesthesiologist that will be doing my anesthesia, and that makes me feel a lot better about the whole thing.

DorK-I don't want to be the cause of you getting into trouble at work! The pics will be there when you get home, I promise! Sorry you had to go through the problem with the moderators, glad it got cleared up.

Wahine-I'm one of those people who just can't relax until I unpack, too. Gotta make sure the important stuff didn't disappear or get broken, and that is usually stuff in a bottle. . .

Kittycat-Good words for Kymn! And I like your DH, sight unseen!

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DorK-One Sunday many years ago, working in the hospital, I tried to convince 2 little old ladies that the day was Saturday. They laughed at me and told me to look at the TV-it was showing live mass from the chapel (Catholic hospital) and had "Sunday" and the date in large print at the bottom of the screen. I never heard the end of that one!

BEANIE!! Glad you got past the internet connection gremlin, even if only for a minute!

AStorm-you may have to go back a few pages, I was doing a catch up post. Of course, I could have gotten something mixed up with something else, it would be unlikely, but "I thought I was wrong once but I was mistaken" (hee hee) Happy DH B-day!

Great nickname, Beanie, but how on earth am I going to get all that out right after my second or third dwinky poo?

Claire-Momentum is a GOOD thing! Ooh, lamb, I haven't had lamb in a long time. Gotta look for a farm or a sale in one of the stores. And yes, the job move has made me happier. It is so much better to be doing direct patient care, seeing the results of my interventions (good and bad) and working with people who are truly grateful for my presence (patients AND staff). Praying fro you during the interviews!

AStorm-what a great memory! Starving students, good food, and nice comments seem to go together.

Scuby-what holiday? Am I missing something?

Maple pecan oatmeal-sounds delish! I picked up some 7 grain oatmeal cereal at the health food store yesterday, got to make a batch for breakfasts. Never thought of putting nuts in it. . .

Wahine-Glad your Dad is better! Air travel is hard on some people with the dry air and pressure changes, but usually people recover quickly like your Dad. Obviously he didn't need the extra fluids, which is a good thing! Sorry you Mom's meds are mixed up again, but it sounds like you know just how to get them back under control. Have you asked her doc to send an prescription for everything your mom takes to a local pharmacy? You don't have to fill them but having them on file will make life easier in the future if she needs more while she's visiting. It's the kids that suffer a lot from domestic abuse. My cousin's 3 kids are OK now, but they had a lot of trouble finishing high school and getting their acts together. The oldest was 16, she's had 2 kids out of wedlock, is living in an apartment provided by the state welfare dept with the current boyfriend. She is trying to find work, but with no car it's hard for her. The middle was 14, wound up in a group home for boys with emotional and behavioral problems, took him several years but got himself straightened out, is now working as a chef, married with 2 or 3 kids of his own. The youngest was 12, had some issues, moved in with his grandparents instead of staying with his siblings, is now in a technical school learning commercial cooking. So they're doing OK now, but it's been a bit of a long and difficult road for all of them. The about to be ex hubby was the kid's stepfather (and my cousin's 3rd or 4th husband); he had 2 small children of his own who were also traumatized by the whole thing. My cousin's kids were next door at their grandmother's and heard the gunshots. His kids were at a babysitters. It must have been so hard for you to be away while your little one was so upset. I can't imagine how much stress that caused you. I'm glad you were all able to get past it and continue with a good life.

Kymn-PLEASE stop trying to communicate with that jerk. Change the locks on your door, change your phone number, get new cell phone numbers, and cut off all contact with him. Notify your children's schools that he has made threats and is not to take the kids out of school or pick them up after school. Notify your work place about the situation and that he is not to be allowed in the building. Talk to the police about a Protection from Abuse Order (or Restraining Order, or whatever it's called in your state). PLEASE do these things NOW. As long as he thinks he has a hold on you he will continue to string you along. You are his property, and self centered men do not like to lose property, even when it doesn't have any real value to them anymore, and he may reach a place where if he can't have you he'll make sure no one ever can, and that is when it gets violent and deadly. Yes, this is a painful process. There is help out there, please get in touch with an abused women's organization or group. They can help you with specific safety precautions-the location of safe houses, help with the legal process, etc. One more thing-DO NOT EVER MEET WITH HIM ALONE. That is the one most dangerous thing you can do, and was my cousin's mistake. The kids being present doesn't count as having someone with you. You must have another adult with you IF you meet with him. A lawyer, a police officer, someone from an abused women's group are the best choices. A witness often prevents violence, and is a witness to verbal or threatened violence and abuse.

http://www.womenshelters.org/sta/utah 

Beanie-The hearing test went well, my hearing is better with the tubes so my eardrum can do what it's supposed to do. Not perfect, but not hearing aid level . Working with abusive situations at work IS difficulty for me, but at least I know who to call and what to recommend to the victim. And I know that families CAN get through safely and go on to have happy lives. There are a handful of families I kind of keep an eye on and they are doing well for themselves, mostly. A cabin in the mountains? Sounds like a wonderful vacation spot! Let us know all about it when you get back! That was a weird nightmare you had. Sounds like you really miss your mom and dad. I miss my dad and will be devastated when that time comes for my Mom.

AStorm-YIKES! Glad you got to the client's ok, and got home OK, and hope the fix isn't anything too expensive. Sounds like DD is doing great with the driving and ready for her own license. That will be a big change for her and you! LOL at the JOTD!

Wahine-I bought the Zumba thing for my Wii, and hated it. The "tutorial" for the dance steps went through the steps 3 times, once very slowly, once a little faster, then at full speed and that was it. I couldn't learn the steps that way, so I gave the thing to a friend who had dance training and loves it! Your contractor sounds awfully fishy to me-he "demands" cash payment? I think you should report him to the BBB, local Chamber of Commerce, your association, AND the police. At the very least you have a civil suit to recover your money.

MMMEEEOOOWWW to AStorm! LOL

Move over, Scuba, I want tub time, too. Don't care about the game, but I do want one of those drinks!

DorK-end-of-month stuff is always a pain, isn't it? About clothing and fashion and stuff-there is a lady who calls her fashion blog/website/etc Missus Smarty Pants. She discusses how to pick clothing based on your body type, how to manage your wardrobe to get the most for your $$, etc. I found a lot of help there, and you might find it interesting to. Her website is http://www.missussmartypants.com/ but it's currently under construction. She also posts on Facebook as Leslie Rouch Gonzales and you can pick up lots of tips there, too.

Dear Heavenly Father, I am praying today for DorK's friend Cindy. I don't know all the details, and don't need to because I know that YOU do. I would like for he to get well, and to be cured, but I know YOU have a plan and are in control of the situation. Please give YOUR grace and peace to her and to her family, give them the strength and insight to handle any decisions that may have to be made, give the doctors and nurses compassion and skill to take care of Cindy and her family. Please, also give YOUR grace and peace to her friends, especially DorK. YOU know how much death affects all of us here, please give us strength to deal if that is YOUR will, and join us in our celebration if recovery is YOUR plan.

Wahine-I have Xanax, and it is a life saver at times. My prescription says 1 tablet (0.5 mg) every 8 hours as needed. It takes about an hour to kick in well for me. Lately, with less going on and less to worry about, I have used half tablets with pretty good results. Did that yesterday for the CT- ½ tablet 90 minutes before, another ½ tablet 60 minutes before, and another 30 minutes before. No panic attacks, no total freak outs, and still could drive myself home. Got a nice nap once I got home, but that was ok. Also great for nights when I can't get to sleep. Better Living Through Chemistry!

DOTD-to celebrate the open of the apple orchards here in Maine-The Apple Cider Toddy

 
3 oz Sugar
1 Cinnamon stick
1 qt Apple Cider
(Add To Taste) Clove

Directions
Combine all ingredients in a crock pot or slow cooker, heat on high for 6 to 8 hours, serve hot with cinnamon sticks or orance wedges.

Evening Lounge ladies, NM will definitely try the DOTD tomorrow. Think NM said it right, DorK, will be saying extra prayers, just seems so unfair as of late. Hope you can just relax and enjoy being with old friends, forget the crud of who wears what, who owns what, etc., these are women you have known a long time.



Kymn, please heed NM's advice, sounds solid on all fronts. You are number one priority.





Met with onco today, as expected, starting tamoxifen ASAP. Hopefully SE won't be what my older sister had, have to wait and see. Am doing via mail in to save $, so won't actually start til they deliver. Know there is a tamoxifen thread where I can get details. For now, heading for 103 degree hot tub, temps in Philly getting autumnal (sweatshirt weather)! Great weekend to all. Cheers, Scuba.

I just got really PO'd at my DH and tried to flip him a royal finger.  However, my right hand fingers (and I'm right-handed, didn't cooperate with my brain. Seriously.... my fingers wouldn't do what my brain was telling them to do, and I couldn't form the appropriate royal finger. My left hand fingers could do it....no problems. After trying it over and over, my right hand fingers finally got on board.  WTH is going on??  I can type with no issues. I can do lots of other things with my hand...no problems.  It's been awhile since I tried to flip off someone, but I have NEVER not been able to do it until tonight.  Whose hands don't connect with their brain???

Some of you joined this site so that you wouldn't have to read Debbie Downer posts.  I just don't know where else to post that my hand isn't connecting with my brain, and that I'm thinking about brain mets as the problem.

I just got really PO'd at my DH and tried to flip him a royal finger.  However, my right hand fingers (and I'm right-handed, didn't cooperate with my brain. Seriously.... my fingers wouldn't do what my brain was telling them to do, and I couldn't form the appropriate royal finger. My left hand fingers could do it....no problems. After trying it over and over, my right hand fingers finally got on board.  WTH is going on??  I can type with no issues. I can do lots of other things with my hand...no problems.  It's been awhile since I tried to flip off someone, but I have NEVER not been able to do it until tonight.  Whose hands don't connect with their brain???

Some of you joined this site so that you wouldn't have to read Debbie Downer posts.  I just don't know where else to post that my hand isn't connecting with my brain, and that I'm thinking about brain mets as the problem.

Whoever told you that you were 100% cancer free was either your publicist or a really stupid doctor. No BC survivor is EVER 100% free from this disease.  We arent cured, we aren't in remission.     

Gooooooooooood Morning Loungettes!! Had to get up super early for this big yard sale here. Not sure if anyone on my street is doing it and didn't have a chance to get all the signs down from garage attic, so HOPE people drive down my street too! Have tables of new stuff, but not going to satisfy the early birds this year, as it really bugs me when they are looking when you are trying to get everything out. Wish me luck!!!

Sorry for the hand probs Sheryl; don't have any idea about that. One thing you could do is start a new thread, with that in your title. Then if anyone on the boards knows something about it, they will comment there. Best way to get a lot of answers!

Wonder what the DOTD or the JOTD will be?? I can use a wake-up drink with a jolt, and don't think the coffee is going to do it. Lori and DorK, Hope you are both having a ball with your trips this weekend! Karen, Hope your holiday is going well....bet your food is soooooo good. Gail, any estimate yet? My DD called, and I didn't even know she had a bad wreck on Monday....her van may be totalled. BUT no one got hurt, and all 3 of her kids were in the car, so am very thankful for that. She had such a hard week after that happened, she didn't have time to call any of us.

Well dear goils, do have a good weekend and I'll check in with you chicas latah!

Hugsssssss,

Kath