Illinois ladies facing bc
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Beata44 I too am a very strong person. The beginning of this journey scared the shit out of me. It's the unknown that gets all of us.0
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I really thought I was tough growing up. I would get into fights, get kicked out of bars and so on, hell I can even pop my own shoulder back in when it dislocates! But bc has scarred the crap out of me.
Beata you are not alone. This diagnosis just makes us look at ourselves as vulnerable. I hate that.
On a lighter note - all this new boobie talking has me thinking - I want new and improved boobies, instead of 1 and a 1/2!0 -
Hi Ladies!
I saw the surgeon and MO and my Breast Advocate and the genetics lady & then went on a 2 day bender. Because my tumor is biggish and my breasts are tiny they recommend the M word...
I have no idea how you ladies have made it through all of this and still seem so positive. I may not post much, but I plan to lurk and use your humor and wisdom to get through this.
Heidi K
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Heidi: Lurk away. This is a great group! Hugs to you!
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Hey HeidiK Iknow how devestating this diagnosis is. I was diagnosed in Feb. 2010 and had my sugery in Mar. 2010. I made it through the BMX and chemo-- you will make it through whatever they recommend for you. You can do it!! I also do not post much but get so much out of what everyone else says. Don't be afraid to ask questions- someone here can give you suggestions or whatever else you need.To those of you who have been enjoying the art fairs- I am ENVIOUS!!! There isn't any major events in my area and my kids schedules are so busy I can't get away when I would like to.
Take care everyone,
Kelly
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So a quick question about chemopause. Does anyone else go from cold to sweating in an instant? Is it normal to be achy all over?
I am three days after my 4th TCH, feel ok so far. Just weird aches and pains in strange areas.0 -
Heidi I had the big tumor with little boobs. I knew before I even got my biopsy path back that MX was going to happen. I wanted it. I mean if my tumor had to get that big in my small breast and I had to go into the mammogram with a blood nipple for them to spot it then I didn't want to go through this again. I had very dense tissue. Ended up doing both because of some stuff in the other too (ended up being LCIS). I'm so happy with my decision. I went from a perky 34 barely B to a full 34D. (Trust me that sounds bigger than it really is. I don't think I'll ever have to worry about my stomach sticking out further than my boobs.
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Roula, Kelly, Heidi and anyone else.......believe me.........everyone who has gone through this was nearly paralysed with fear and foreboding. We all always knew that cancer happens to other people...not us. I think if we knew much about cancer beforehand......for the most part it was pretty negative, but even then we didn't worry......because of course, it wouldn't happen to us. Then you find a lump, or you have a mammo and then an ultra-sound, and then a biopsy.......and then you hear that awful three word sentence.
Well, no rug could ever be pulled our from underneath you faster. My immediate thought --- I'm probably going to die soon. That was back in September 2007.......and my diagnosis was actually very mild then. But I was still terrified and sure the end was near. I would have an lumpectomy and maybe ( she wasn't sure then ) a week of radiation. That turned into lumpectomy, 6 mos. of chemo and 7 full weeks of radiation.
Fast forward to July 2012. Naive' was removed from my personal dictionary along with innocence. I lost those items quite quickly but I don't miss them much now. No doubt about it........there were some rough times and a few times I wondered if I could hang in and keep fighting for my life. Many here have heard this part of my speech, but I learned to get through the rough days ten minutes at a time. I knew no matter how rough anything got I could hang on for ten minutes at least. That is how I got through those days.
It is much easier if you lean on those of us who have been on this journey. There are so many women here with answers for you, comfort for you, and who will care very much for you. I am not good on the knowledge end of things....Lago, Bj, Smerf and several others are excellent sources for you.......and do know ( there may even be a quote for this ) there are no silly questions. Time Out.....thank you so much Lisa for your validation of me.
I try to bring out something daily that is up-lifting, spiritual, or just something that helps point you in a more positive direction to start your day. So, everyday I find a quote and leave it here for all to enjoy......or to use in any way they would like. I know I had a few days when basically nothing helped.........but if you keep pushing forward, one day you will begin to feel a tiny positive sensation. It will get stronger and stronger until you begin to call it hope, and then you will start seeing some light at the end of the tunnel. We all started at the same place more or less......and I am continuously amazed at how far I have come.
Just know that we all got here and we will get you here too.
Hugs, Jackie
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Jackie Thank you so much for wisdom!
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Jackie, I agree there were days when I felt as if I wasn't going to make it but somehow I did. I only wish I would have known about all of you when I needed to talk to someone when I was going through treatment.
Thanks to all of you who are willing to help others.
Kelly
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A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities.
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Hey --- it's Monday. Going to be a mite cooler today --- not more than a 100 and could be a few degrees less. Maybe a little shower, but probably not enough to do more than make the humidity come up......the part of heat I dread. Oh well........at least it is a 'treasure' to feel almost normal temps for a short while. Rest of the week still in triple digits.
Kelly - I wish you had found us a little sooner as well, but you are here now.
Karen....wisdom. Well, I aim for some of that. I tend to just let whatever words come take their place on the page. To some it may end up rather meaningless --- but if someone can feel better, or be a little less nervous or frightened....that is a good thing.
Don't know as yet -- no announcements made if we will have fireworks on the 4th. or not. Dh has been in South Dakota for a week and will be returning tomorrow....just in time for the 4th. A cook-out planned, but if the heat holds.....most of the eating will take place indoors. I plan on taking cold foods.....and some dessert.
Hope you all have a fantastic Monday.
Hugs, Jackie
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Good morning ladies - just wanted to say hello to my fellow women, and thank you for all of your posts. I truly feel blessed to have found all of you, you have helped in ways that no one else can or has. And for that I am greatfull to all of you.
Have a wonderful day - stay cool. And I hope for everyone having treatments this week - minimal SEs!0 -
Jackie.... Love your message today. So true. Where is SD does your DH go? My DH and I are both from there. My DH is actually flying back there today again to work on what remains of his family farm. We kept 200 acres of timberland along the Missouri River because my DH could not part with his childhood playground.
Heidi.... I think the crazy "humor" is something that develops after the shock wears off and we succumb to what lies ahead. We share that humor with others who are in this adventure as it is a good stress reliever and a way to keep our sanity!0 -
Joan I was the odd one that had the crazy humor from the start. Was going around saying "good thing I don't believe in god or I'd be pretty pissed at her right now."*
*Not meant to offend. I'm just not a believer. Have no issues with those that do.
Hey Roula {{{ waves}}}
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Hope the job is going well today Lisa!
Reminder--if anyone would like in for dinner with other BCO ladies from out of town, please IM me. Its July 21 evening.
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Wish I could join you on the 21st. Anyone up for lunch/dinner next Tuesday or Wednesday in the NW burbs? I'd be happy to coordinate.
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Hey all you Southern IL. belles-
I went to our local farmers market this weekend and there was someone selling "Illinois Corn". Now am I just cornie to think it is way to early for corn in our state? We all grew up with the knee high by the fourth of july adage. I know we had an early start this year because of the warm winter but we have also had drought. So what is the farm report downstate?
Anyone who wants to get together in the western burbs let me know. I am in Naperville. Send me a PM. I walk a lot at the Riverwalk or Arboretum and bike the great trails around here if anyone wants to join me.
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Corinne: Wish I could join you! Maybe after radiation...
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Lago --- its the differences most of the time that make us so appreciative of each other. Yes....I am spiritual, and hey..... we are created in the image of God....so there is a FEMALE God too.........you were right and did not know it. But.....I know you don't hold it against me.....and I would never hold it against you --- I'm all for whatever helps you get through this world up too and including active Atheists.
Joan.....Denny's adult children and grandchildren, ( all steps to me ) were born and raised in Sioux Falls....just like Denny and their mother. They live in some of the small surrounding towns.....I think one is in or near Brandon and one is in Tea. I've never been there myself.....keep saying one of these days. I'd probably love it since I think alot of it is similar to the small communities and farming towns around here barely in southern Illinois where I was born and raised.
Hmmm,,,,,, that corn. Must be last yr's.....the old adage is true. I have seen corn way, way higher than knee high by the 4th. Not sure it was ready to pick though. I think it was a different variety....fast growing etc. So, I'd be very surprised. Most is not knee high yet and in this drought......probably won't make it. I'm definitely praying for rain.
Change of plans......Denny will be rolling in late tonight. I'm glad.......all this hot work by myself. Time for me to have my helper back. See you all later.
Hugs, Jackie
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Jackie I am new to all of this and I so appreciate your words of encouragement..Thanks to all of you for all of your support..Terry
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Jackie it does state in the bible that "we are created in god's image." God created Adam… first prototype. Not quite right except for the rib. So she took the rib and created Eve. Now that's more like it 0
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Lago...love it. You are too funny. I do appreciate your sense of humor.......we wouldn't get far is this world without one.
Hearing thunder ( at least it sounds like it and well could be ) outside and hoping we will get some of that much needed moisture.....lots of it please -- not something you usually hear me say. I easily get depressed with to many gray, rainy days.....something I'm sure will not be happening now.
Terry....you are very welcome. This is not a good journey to take alone.
Hugs, Jackie
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Thanks to everyone for the welcomes. This is such a bizarre place to be. People look at me with a mixture of horror and admiration. And I'm not sure what is better/worse.
Anyway, Happy Thoughts: 1) My nephew who went off to college in California and rarely comes home should be in town next weekend! W00T!! 2) With the chemo, I'm finally going to get to stop bleaching the moustache for a bit (let's just not mention the chin hairs) 3) I haven't got a 3) yet, but I will keep trying...
Have a good night all!
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Hi Lago,
Love your posts! I am currently in the midst of TE expansion from my unilateral mx. I was a small 34B cup and want to be a C cup. My question is, will I look like a B cup if my implants fit a C cup bra? Does your D cup look smaller than it is and why is that?0 -
HeidiK: I haven't had to pluck those nasty chin hairs in about 2 1/2 months. It's been kind of nice. (I have had electrolysis/laser removal, etc). and they still come back. I give it another month. Those little buggers are persistant. Just sayin..
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Angelluch it depends on the implant profile your PS uses. Since my PS used a midrange profile (not low profile but not high either) my implants don't project as much but are still wide enough to fit the pocket. So I say I look like a 34C. How wide your implants are depends on your body size (band size) and how your PS creates the pocket.
On the left a few of us at lunch last March or April. I'm the one in the tight red shirt. I look bigger when my shirt is tight of course.
On the right is summer before my BMX. I'm pretty sure that bra had some padding or push up. My current bras have almost none… just a little thickness to hide the nips.
I did go bigger and fuller.
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There are nine requisites for contented living:
HEALTH enough to make work a pleasure;
WEALTH enough to support your needs;
STRENGTH enough to battle with difficulties and forsake them;
GRACE enough to confess your sins and overcome them;
PATIENCE enough to toil until some good is accomplished;
CHARITY enough to see some good in your neighbor;
LOVE enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others;
FAITH enough to make real the things of God;
HOPE enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future.
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Alright ladies - just need to vent. Pigged out yesterday, feel really disgusting today. Started with Corner Bakeries Chicken Carbornarra (the entree, for lunch), and finished with chicken fajitas for dinner. I don't know what to do, I crave the weirdest things, all the time!
Does this ever end? I use to be in control of everything I would put in my mouth. Now if it is there, I will eat it, regardless of whether I am hungry or not. So disappointed in myself right now.
Just wanted to vent! Happy 4th everyone!0 -
Roula.....don't be too hard on yourself. When I did chemo.....I couldn't keep anything down for days on end....usually five or six.....then I would crave tuna fish on toast......which I would make and eat it all day long and sometimes the next day as well. You will work out of this......but your body is busy killing cells and making new ones --- fresh, healthy ones. Your body will "find" its way again and so will you. As is said.....it is what it is, so this too will pass and you will see it phase itself out. Hang in there.
Hugs, Jackie
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