Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other person and then for ourselves. -Helen Keller
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Good Morning,
We had sun ( though cool ) all day and no rain. Don't know where I got that from -- I must have been thinking of the forecast for two days ago. Today should be fine as well. I think the cooler weather is going to hang around for a bit. That is ok. With the sun I don't notice much in actual adverse conditions -- though if there is enough breeze it is easy to 'feel' it a bit.
As to the quote today --- this a.m. Dh and I were talking about Bruce Jenner and his recent transgender news. He is quite brave but then how often we hear that the only way OUT of something is right through the middle. By facing this now --- it is going to be 'stale' un-exciting news I would think ( if people behave as usual ) since something bigger will show up -- and by discussing things -- being open and honest he is taking the drama and mystery away. That leaves us or his critics with deciding how they feel and then you move on to the next titillating issue. I hope things go well for him/her. I can't imagine having to live for as long as he has feeling YOU were not right within your own body --- but felt forced to do what society expected. People don't choose these life-styles -- or I should say why would anyone willingly put themselves in such a position.
Truly goes along with my thinking that challenges - you might say tests - are set up for us for the purpose of growing our soul above and beyond, as without these things, life would be perfect and we wouldn't need to be here. Facing challenges ( though often painful or incredibly difficult ) is what helps us grow, find solutions and enhance our inner, rather than our outer ambiance. If we are here to grow -- only challenges will do that. We learn very little from the hum-drum everyday world. Put a rock in the road and suddenly we have to discover how to climb it or successfully move around it.
Much of our life is the inside of us -- not the outside. Helen Keller knew what she was talking about and wanted to help others see what she saw.
Blessings
Jackie
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Jackie,
Wonderful thoughts for those facing many challenges in our group!
Jo
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We had a stormy day. DH even rolled down the hurricane shutters. I had to cancel two appointments, dentist and dermatologist. This afternoon after the weather calmed down, I got started sewing my patchwork placemats. First, I had to reacquaint myself with my little Kenmore sewing machine. It seems to be working well. I guess sewing is like riding a bicycle. You don't forget how to do it!
I saw an interesting report recently on a transgender child who was born a girl with two sisters but wanted to be a boy from the time he/she was 2 or 3 years old. The parents didn't know how to deal with the situation so sought help from a child psychiatrist. They ended up letting the child assume the boy identity. He wore boy clothes and had a boy haircut and was a happy kid. Funny how you never hear about a subject like transgender. Then all of a sudden the subject is under discussion. I'm glad I didn't have to deal with gender identity issues.
Wishing everyone a good evening.
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Good morning, everyone. It's not raining this morning. The power is out in some New Orleans areas but we have electricity here on the north shore. DH and I are off to the gym this morning.
Thinking of mommarch, Blondie, Cammi, Sandra and Mike.
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You are a child of the universe, “fearfully and wonderfully made.” In
the history of creation, there has never been anyone like you. Accept
this reality about yourself— that you are a special, unique human being who has
a place on this earth that no one else can fill. Acknowledge yourself as
a glorious expression of your loving Creator. This healthy self-love will
form the foundation of a joyful and satisfying life. Then, as you love
and accept yourself, your inner light will shine outward to bless and heal your
fellow human beings.
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Carole, So glad that you weathered the stormy weather. The sun is shining here right now and our Tuesday night golf league starts this afternoon. It is a match-play type of league and we only play 9 holes but it's fun. It will still be a bit cool today but it will be good to get back and see everyone.
I am going to head out for a walk and try to get back into my walking routine. I always feel so much better when I walk everyday but I am quick to talk myself out of it! :-)
Thinking of all of you who are facing challenges today and sending good vibes your way!
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Good Morning,
There is sun this a.m. and it will hang around to make the otherwise cool day seem/feel much warmer.
Just glad it is not dreary or rainy. The sun can perk me up very easily. I'll go check in at work today though I won't stay. My lady has a daughter-in-law who wanted to spend some time --- I will get paid though. I am fortunate that my employers guarantee me a certain amt. of pay --- even on occasions when I don't work. I'm sure in part so I would not seek work anywhere else. My availability is important to them --- and lastly they can afford to do things this way. 
Works for me though I would likely behave just the same if they didn't do it. I'm so easy sometimes and so predictable. I am appreciative of this blessing --- but it works both ways. I will go the extra mile and them some for someone who is doing likewise for me. Made a yummy -- nearly plain pizza last night. I get the Boboli crusts and then make up whatever we feel like. It's easy and fast and we always start out with a nice hot pizza though the ones you have delivered are too.
Glad your weather has "straightened" up for now Carole. I was feeling for you. Me and rainy days ( I know we have to have some though ) are not the best of friends. This past yr. so many of our rain storms were through the night.
Hope you all have a fantastic day.
Blessings
Jackie
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hi MagicalBean, I just turned 64 so it's TP right now so we shall see.
Went to my second yoga class last night.......really helps get a good night's sleep even if I can't do the cross legged, both arms outstretched, forehead on floor move. Gosh, I couldn't do that before surgery so can't complain!
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Hello from Eastern NC where it is a sunny spring like day. Did a little gardening yesterday and it felt good, to have some energy and be out in the fresh air. Today I might tackle scrubbing the kitchen floor .....then again i might not. Ah, choices!
Jackie, your pizza sounds delicious. Wish my hubby could cook.
Can't wait for my Oncotype result, to get on with next stage oftreatment.
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Carole, I think it is my age..... I just can't, or don't want to wrap my head around this trans-gender talk. Gay is one thing, but then at 65, deciding you should be a woman, after that many years of being a man, is just mind-boggling. He isn't even a good looking MAN, much LESS a woman... Sheesh!
Not to even mention the wives, the kids, and the reality show that is just NUTS, I guess that is all he can do. Yes, he is going to have his own show.... because "so many people are interested" in all this crap. He says he has a "life-long struggle" with his gender? A little LATE cowboy.... Just live the rest of your life..... and be a good Father to all your kids, a nice Grandfather..... a normal man ...... WTH????
Everything that family does, is for publicity, for the camera's. They're whole life is geared for television camera's, and every stupid thing they do is filmed, and people buy into this! Like it's "normal!" They can't even breathe normal, much less have a life without it being filmed.
It's all about money, and publicity and papparazzi and what stupid thing can they do NEXT.
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Hey.....whatever floats your boat.............
They all need serious help.................
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No rain today! Yay! DH is gone this afternoon in my new Prius. He went to the dentist for stage one of a crown procedure. I gave him a couple of errands to do afterwards since the appointment is in Hammond, about 30 min. away. There is a good produce store there with a good seafood market next door to it. I suggested he shop at both of them and buy some fresh veggies and some lump crabmeat. The latter is very pricey but makes wonderful crab cakes.
I signed up with the Mayo Clinic Diet for 7 days free. I was curious. After looking over the web site, the diet looks very much like WW. I'll check out some of the recipes on the site and cancel before the 7 days are up. I haven't managed to get down to my WW goal weight since returning from MN last Oct. There's a new WW meeting at the YMCA on Mon. nights at 6 pm. It's hard for me to make myself go anywhere at that hour but I probably should start going to the meetings.
After going to the gym and then having breakfast here at home afterwards, I spent several hours sewing. Now I'm taking a break.
Jackie, it's good that you have employers who appreciate you. Good for them that they have someone reliable and experienced in elder care. It's a win win.
Rita, it's so wet from all the rain that our Wed. women's golf is cancelled tomorrow. 2015 has not been great for golf.
Hope you all are having a good day.
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Chevyboy: the problem is, celebs like the Kardashians have set the bar low and of course the perennially simpering Diane Sawyer is getting more cred by doing the interview.
They have scads of money but apparently lack the good taste to understand what is not appropriate. That is sad
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NCDi,
I pretty much feel the same way. The Kardashians are really had to take. You likely might recall ( so many people I think tuned into that daily ) when the OJ Simpson trial was put on t.v. If memory serves one of the men on the Simpson side was Robert Kardashian. He was a good friend of OJ's. Mr. Kardashian passed on and the rest as they say is history. It always amazes me that anyone, anyone --- would want to live their life on t.v.
Although Bruce Jenner is far from un-known, I feel almost sorry for him having gotten ensconced into that family. The daughter, Kim said on t.v. that the whole family was in therapy -- I don't doubt that --- they should be. I still though find myself feeling sorrow for a man who lived so many years not as himself. Despite some of the current thinking --- transgender or gay or lesbian people are that way from birth. It is NOT a choice. It is a long story and the person I have in mind ( a family member is now deceased ) but I recall what had to be gone through to be who you really, really were. It was painful for everyone. I just very happy that love and acceptance prevailed.
Just growing up normal can have so much pain and distresses in the mix that it is hard for me to imagine those who have the added huge burden of gender identities. I guess we all have some sort of issue.
Jackie
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I know, but I just think the whole thing is beyond bizarre. If you want to be something that you weren't born to be, then go ahead and just DO it.... But don't try and tell us all that you need to do it, because it will help the world.... that this is a public service.... WE DON'T CARE!
Yes, Robert Kardashian was OJ's friend.... and something like a lawyer.... and HE is the one that helped hide O.J.s clothes. Kris Kardashian had known both Nicolle and O.J. for years.... That whole trial was another joke.
Yes NCDi.... It IS all sad.... It's even more sad that their whole family is making money, by living in front of the camera.... they love it! They do things just to have a show..... And people watch this stuff.... Their whole life is a publicity stunt.
Okay.... it would be nice if they would all grow up, try living a normal life, without having camera's tail you around every living minute. And do something useful.... like get a job.
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Yesterday it was 90 in San Antonio. Today it is 60. My goodness, it's almost May which should be 31 days of summer weather, not 60!Our usual "Spring" is about a day and a half and we get about an inch of rain a month at this time of year This year Spring has been long and lovely...lots of low 70's. It's normal for us to hit 100 in March so no 90's until late April is strange. We've had 7.5 inches of rain in April. Everything is so pretty and green. Although bluebonnet season was delayed because of unusual waves of cold weather until late March (a month late) it's still going in some places but most have gone to seed. The roads are still quite pretty with other flowers.
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Beautiful wild flowers!
I would never waste my time watching a so-called "reality" show. There's nothing "real" about having cameras in one's house. There must be a audience if the tv show stays on the air.
There was a woman who lived in my neighborhood when I was a kid who dressed like a man and had masculine mannerisms and spoke roughly. She was unmarried as far as I know and she lived back in the woods in a house by herself with lots of dogs. We kids knew her as Miss Mae. I always thought of her as eccentric but the transgender discussion makes me wonder if she wanted to be male.
We had a gay man among our neighbors, too, but I didn't know he was gay until I had grown up and didn't live in that neighborhood any more. He went to prison. I don't know what laws he broke but nothing violent. I got to know him in later years and he talked openly about being gay. He said he was always gay. As a boy he was attracted to boys, never girls. His parents were ordinary country folks and I think he was an only child.
I hadn't realized Bruce Jenners was related to the Kardashians.
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Only by marriage.... Isn't it amazing he was known as the top athlete? The best-ever? He had it all.... Fame, money, notoriety, anything he could possible want!
Being gay is one thing.... I would love my Grand-sons, or anyone in our family if they were gay.... I think its different, when you know someone from birth, and watch them grow up, and there HAVE to be "signs"......
But at 65???????? The on-line comments are not flattering either.... You know if he didn't have the money, he couldn't afford to go through all the surgeries to become a woman.... Eeeeeeeeeeeeeks!
He should have done it when he was younger... before he had wives, and kids, and those little insignificant things....
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At the Hope House relaxing. I was at the hospital for pet scan from 1:00 - 4:00. I think DH thought they had taken me to the morge. When they took my blood sugar it was only 79. Tech said that was very good for a good scan. I had had anything to eat in almost 24 hours so we went to Texas Road house and splurged on prime rib. Did I tell you that my onc told me to stop taking the tomoxifen. My muscles and joints do not hurt anything like they were. See my onc tommorow at 1:45. Going to do a little shopping in the morning. We left the house at 7:00 am this morning to get dgd to school. We heard from our neighbor that it started snowing at 7:30. Did not stick. Will let you know what is going on soon. Thank you all for your support.
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Why did he tell you to quit taking the Tamoxifen?
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Glad to hear from you, Mommarch. Hugs from all of us.
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People for I think a variety of reasons feel they can't really be who they are inside. Whatever circumstances come about they are one way inside while presenting what the "world's" idea says they should be on the outside. I can't hold it against anyone no matter how long it takes. The person I was speaking of had four children nearly grown. So that is mainly why I feel like thank goodness if you can GET to a place and a time ( no matter your age or what people say about you -- and who are they to pass judgment anyway ) where the real you can finally be free.
I'm pretty into trying hard not to judge too much -- can't ever know all the circumstances unless you are that person. We all have different hurdles to handle in our life and I feel blessed that being a Kardasian or a Jenner was not one of my hurdles. I'm not sure they would have wanted some of mine either. Sometimes all we can do is do the best we can with what we are given and try to understand how much worse it could be.
Mommarch -- glad you got something substantial to eat finally. You just have to woozy with such low sugar readings. I will be thinking of you tomorrow with you Oncology appt.
Prayers and lots of positive energies coming your way.
Jackie
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Evening ladies, winter is gone here and spring has returned! Snow last week, almost 70 today!
Went to the Pulmonologist today, remember I had an embolism in December. He spoke to me about discontinuing my Coumadin. Some question apparently since Im on Arimidex. Apparently Arimidex can make you prone to bleeding.Wud test me before taking me off the Coumadin. Also Momarch, mentioning the aching joints reminded me when I started Arimidex I almost went off due to the increase in my arthritis. Today also saw an orthopedist for my foot and knee which were injured when i was tripped on our vacation, plus shoulder bursitis. He says all are due to arthritis and the knees and foot being aggravated by the fall. Wondering if the Arimidex has made the arthritis worse? Have my mammo on Friday, praying all is OK.
Seems aside from the riots in Baltimore all we hear on the news lately is trans gender and gay marriage.
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If seeds in the black earth can turn into such beautiful roses, what might not the heart of the human become in its long journey toward the stars?
Gilbert Keith Chesterson
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He saw how I hurt. Ihave been on it almost four yea
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Bonnets,
Glad Spring has made it back your way. I always feel just a little timid through the 'iffy' part of Spring where you are never quite too sure what you will get. Our weather will get into the low 70's and stay that way for a few days which I'm looking forward to very much. The 60's are not bad but you do need a jacket handy in case a good breeze decided to show up.
Seems like you can learn something new all the time about these drugs. I probably read it at one time but I had no idea that Arimidex could make you prone to bleeding. I would have to say though, I don't think anything is really cut and dried with cancer txs. Everyone's response is slightly different. Well everything in my spiritual literature says that no two of us are alike -- we ALL are unique in that way. This disease seems to 'prove' that quite well.
More sun today. I will stay blooming for sure.
As far as Baltimore ( and many other cities ) and it is must my opinion, but I'm thinking a whole lot needs to change with our police departments. These men ( like firemen ) all my life I was taught to look up to as someone who would protect you. So often they do --- but the last couple of yrs. it comes out that some minorities are subjected to things up to losing their lives that shouldn't happen. It is a difficult thing. Police have to be trained in very aggressive measures but so many incidents just don't call for the level of aggression that is used. No easy answers here.
I hope Wednesday is wonderful for all of you.
Blessings
Jackie
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Bonnets, I really think that Arimidex and other similar drugs aggravate arthritis and cause more inflammaton. I'm not really sure why this happens but too many of us have suffered with increased arthritis symptoms and pains while on those drugs. Maybe it's because our immune system is compromised by the time we get to the "pill" portion of our journeys and it can't fight off the inflammation.
II have really mixed emotions on the gay/lesbian/trans-gender issue. During my 33 years of teaching, I came across a few students at the middle school level that I thought were gay or had those tendencies. Most of my instincts were correct and I don't think that they could help it. Then I have seen cases where somebody was just fine for years and all of a sudden was "gay." One of my son's friends was certainly not gay during his high school years. He and his girlfriend were "hot and heavy" and waited only a few weeks after graduation to marry. They had children and were devoted to one another. Then he got a job in another town and only made it home on the weekends. Shortly after, he was living with a guy and wanted a divorce because he was gay. I had a hard time trying to figure this out. And the celebrities.....I think many of them become that way to "shock" others into focussing on them. Just my thoughts, which I really don't understand!
The sun is shining and we are going to play golf this afternoon. YAY!
mommarch...Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! Glad you splurged on the prime rib! You needed that! Please keep us informed.
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Illinoislady:
You are quite right about some keeping up an appearance for fear of non acceptance. I grew up In a small town where everyone knew everyone else and behavior against "the norm" meant a person was an outcast. People should be able to be who they are.
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Yeah, they can be who they want to be I guess, just don't know why they feel the need to become someone entirely different at 65! It is just like you said..... for money, and notoriety, and to feel popular, not to mention stark raving mad.
Sorry.... like I said before.... At 65, we have a good idea of who we are, and no need looking around to change your and everyone else that KNOWS you.... THEIR lives!
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